My "Sad Gay Story"-- And Why I Tell It

Contents:

• HEARTBREAKG GAY ROMANCE
• MY "SAD GAY STORY"-- AND WHY I TELL IT
• A SAD STORY OM MY GAY LIFE
• ARCHIVE OF OUR OWN BETA(FUNCTN(){FOR(VAR G="FUNCTN"==TYPEOF FEPROPERTI?FEPROPERTY:FUNCTN(B,C,A){IF(||)THROW NEW TYPEERROR("ES3 DO NOT SUPPORT GETTERS AND SETTERS.");B!=ARRAY.PROTOTYPE&&B!=OBJECT.PROTOTYPE&&(B[C])},H="UNFED"!=TYPEOF WDOW&&WDOW===THIS?THIS:"UNFED"!=TYPEOF GLOBAL&&NULL!=GLOBAL?GLOBAL:THIS,K=["STRG","PROTOTYPE","REPEAT"],L=0;LB||1342177279>>=1)C+=C;RETURN A};Q!=P&&NULL!=Q&&G(H,N,{NFIGURABLE:!0,WRABLE:!0,VALUE:Q});VAR T=THIS;FUNCTN U(B,C){VAR ("."),D=T;A[0] D||!D.EXECSCRIPT||D.EXECSCRIPT("VAR "+A[0]);FOR(VAR E;(());)||VOID 0===C?D[E]?D=D[E]:D=D[E]={}:D[E]=C};FUNCTN V(B){VAR ;IF(0=C.OFFSETWIDTH&&0>=C.OFFSETHEIGHT)A=!1;ELSE{D=C.GETBOUNDGCLIENTRECT();VAR ;("PAGEYOFFSET" WDOW?WDOW.PAGEYOFFSET:(DOCUMENT.DOCUMENTELEMENT||F.PARENTNO||F).SCROLLTOP);("PAGEXOFFSET" WDOW?WDOW.PAGEXOFFSET:(DOCUMENT.DOCUMENTELEMENT||F.PARENTNO||F).SCROLLLEFT);F=A.TOSTRG()+","+D;B.B.HASOWNPROPERTY(F)?A=!1:(B.B[F]=!0,A=(A+=E)}B.I&&(E="&RD="+ENURICOMPONENT(JSON.STRGIFY(B())),131072>(A+=E),C=!0);C=A;IF(C){D=B.H;B=B.J;VAR F;IF(WDOW.XMLHTTPREQUT)F=NEW XMLHTTPREQUT;ELSE IF(WDOW.ACTIVEXOBJECT)TRY{F=NEW ACTIVEXOBJECT("MSXML2.XMLHTTP")}TCH(R){TRY{F=NEW ACTIVEXOBJECT("MICROSOFT.XMLHTTP")}TCH(D){}}F&&(("POST",D+(-1==XOF("?")?"?":"&")+"URL="+ENURICOMPONENT(B)),F.SETREQUTHEAR("CONTENT-TYPE","APPLITN/X-WWW-FORM-URLEND"),(A))}}}FUNCTN B(){VAR B={},C;C=DOCUMENT.GETELEMENTSBYTAGNAME("IMG");IF(!)RETURN{};VAR A=C[0];IF(!("NATURALWIDTH" A&&"NATURALHEIGHT" A))RETURN{};FOR(VAR D=0;A=C[D];++D){VAR E=A.GETATTRIBUTE("DATA-PAGPEED-URL-HASH");E&&(!(E B)&&0=B[E].O&&>=B[E].M)&&(B[E]={,,OW:A.NATURALWIDTH,OH:A.NATURALHEIGHT})}RETURN B}VAR C="";U("PAGPEED.CRILIMAG.GETBEANDATA",FUNCTN(){RETURN C});U("",FUNCTN(B,C,A,D,E,F){VAR R=NEW Y(B,C,A,E,F);X=R;D&&W(FUNCTN(){WDOW.SETTIMEOUT(FUNCTN(){A(R)},0)})});})();('/NGX_PAGPEED_BEAN','','EVFAZEUQGZ',TE,FALSE,'2_RQ_UDN5LU');
• A SAD GAY LOVE STORY
• SADGAY STORI
• NOT ANOTHER TRAGIC GAY LOVE STORY
• FEATURED STORI

HEARTBREAKG GAY ROMANCE

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The Homo Sapiens Agenda and The Mistn of Cameron Post have been turned to blockbter films, and jt about every YA agent out there has “own-voic LGBTQ+ stori” on their mancript wish list. My "Sad Gay Story"-- And Why I Tell It. LOG IN WITH FACEBOOKHome›Polics and Activism›My "Sad Gay Story"-- And Why I Tell It›The text of this op-ed was origally given as a speech to Unterweg’s Cafe English Tübgen, Germany on June 8, 2016.

If you’ve seen "Wt Si Story, " you probably know about the much giggled-at le om Maria’s song “I Feel Pretty” where she sgs: “I feel pretty, oh so pretty, oh so pretty and wty and gay! ” I still remember my mic teacher tellg the class that gay, this ntext, meant happy or joyful.

MY "SAD GAY STORY"-- AND WHY I TELL IT

It did not mean homosexual. This was the first time I remember hearg the word homosexual my life, and though I had no clue what meant, I uld feel the nnotatn held among my me tell another story: I have one younger brother, and he’s always been a b of a joker.

My father’s face immediately darkened, and he stantly said, “Stop that, you sound like a homosexual! It’s a choice we’d prefer you wouldn’t are some of my earlit memori of homosexualy beg discsed at my home or at school.

As a child, I knew no gay people. Gayns was a thoroughly abstract ncept, somethg that I knew existed the world, but was never part of my immediate surroundgs.

A SAD STORY OM MY GAY LIFE

I n still rell, middle school, the first time one of my iend exclaimed “that’s so gay! I had never my life heard gayns or gay people discsed a posive-- or even ntral-- light.

He would go on about how “the gays” were filtratg the tn system, beg teachers and rptg nocent, imprsnable children. He’d talk about gay marriage g fay valu and stroyg everythg Ameri stood I was 12 years old, I met my first non-straight person. I was aware of their attus towards gay people and gay rights, and I genuely felt that they would hate me if I told them I wasn’t straight.

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I feared that they would kick me out of the hoe or cut me off fancially or sent me to some gay-away program like I had read about. Even though I was fortunate enough to know a lot of kd and lovg people growg up, much of the culture of people my age was still walkg around the school hallways sayg, “that’s so gay!

” or “no homo. ” Boys mocked each other by llg each other gay.

Thgs like this were so pervasive while I was growg up, and even though I didn’t grow up the ep south or among a particularly relig or tensely nservative environment, homophobia of this nature still ran rampant, and was very much a part of how I saw gay people picted and heard gay people talked about my this pot, you’re probably wonrg what the pot of the stori are.

A SAD GAY LOVE STORY

It’s jt another sad gay person story! The story of beg gay the US tends to go like this: om a young age you realize you feel different om other kids, then you realize you’re gay, maybe through reprsed romantic and/or sexual feelgs for a same-sex iend, then you hate yourself for a while, then you e out dramatilly to everyone your life at once, and some people are supportive and is touchg and tears are shed, but some people are not and they cut you out of their liv while yellg about how you’re a sner or a pervert or will never give them grandchildren, then you are prsed, then you try to kill yourself, and fally you reach some dramatic turng pot where you learn to pletely accept and unrstand yourself and your sexualy and then you ri off to the sunset wh your same-sex partner and adopted children.

Gay marriage is beg legalized around the world, adoptn rights for same-sex upl are progrsg, and more and more people are embolned to e out and live as their te selv.

Children today are more able to see gay people film and on TV, and acts of vlent homophobia are beg more and more nmned by the mastream public. The downsi of this is that for lots of people (pecially straight people), homophobia is an abstract ncept. If straight people aren’t seeg overt, “ser” homophobia, gets dismissed as somethg that’s no longer a problem today’s world.

SADGAY STORI

But even if vlent acts of outright hatred are creasg, they still exist and are a paful realy for many gay people, pecially gay youth, the world. Not to mentn that microaggrsns and other, ls overt acts of homophobia still lor the experience of young gay people g out today. We need to make the world a lovg space for queer youth, and elimate all homophobia, regardls of perceived “serns” or “importance.

F's son returns when his fiancé is btally asslted by a street gang which prov to be the latt crime a seri of hate crim agast gay men.

NOT ANOTHER TRAGIC GAY LOVE STORY

While workg a se wh Benson volvg the murr of two gay men at a circ party, F learns that his son Ken is gay and has difficulty acceptg . I wasn't gay. Later on, he told me he wasn't gay.

that’s a pretty sad gay story. I never wanted to tell you bee I thought you'd hate me for beg gay.

But surprise that you are gay.

FEATURED STORI

I thought you weren't gay.