Sgle is the New Gay

Contents:

• SGLE FOREVER: STORI AND INSIGHTS OM GAY MEN
• GAY AND SGLE...FOREVER?
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
• GAY AND SGLE-- FOREVER? : 10 THGS EVERY GAY GUY LOOKG FOR LOVE (AND NOT FDG ) NEEDS TO KNOW
• GAY AND SGLE...FOREVER?: 10 THGS EVERY GAY GUY LOOKG FOR LOVE (AND NOT FDG IT) NEEDS TO KNOW
• GAY AND SGLE...FOREVER?: 10 THGS EVERY GAY GUY LOOKG FOR LOVE (AND NOT FDG IT) NEEDS TO KNOW
• GAY AND SGLE... FOREVER?
• GAY AND SGLE ... FOREVER?: 10 THGS EVERY GAY GUY LOOKG FOR LOVE (AND NOT FDG IT) NEEDS TO KNOW

SGLE FOREVER: STORI AND INSIGHTS OM GAY MEN

Jt days ago, a ment ntributed to one of my posts alerted me to Steven Bereznai's book, Gay and sgle... It strik me as ftg that Gay and sgle was published the same year that Sgled Out first appeared prt.

Another is that my book clus no gay sex.

GAY AND SGLE...FOREVER?

What I loved about Gay and sgle were the many observatns, valu, and attus Bereznai and I did share. Sgle gay men, I learned, are targets of some of the same kds of stereotyp that other sgl are - and they, too, are at risk for takg those charg a b too serly. His mom is OK wh him beg gay but worri that as a sgle person, he may grow old alone.

"Beg gay and sgle is the new smokg. Once upon a time, the gay muny, sgle was good.

"The gay movement of the 70s, " the thor explas,. "regnized that the stigma of homos and sgl were tw opprsns om a sgle source - heterosexual uplehood - and so took aim at many of the assumptns of marriage and other forms of tradnal pair bonds.

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY

"In the shadow of gay and more sgle gay men are buffeted by a variety of ternal and external forc to buddy up, oftentim wh nsequenc not unlike those of the closet: a sense of shame, failure, and a quiet (or not so quiet) speratn. The tle of the book ends wh a qutn mark: Gay and sgle...

Do need sgle role mols, if only to know that 's possible to be gay and sgle and happy and dignified.

For Bereznai, ntemplatg a life-long sglehood meant "lookg at how, stead of g out of the closet to be myself, I have spent more than a nstctg the faça of the person I thought gay guys would want to date.

GAY AND SGLE-- FOREVER? : 10 THGS EVERY GAY GUY LOOKG FOR LOVE (AND NOT FDG ) NEEDS TO KNOW

"Instead, I pursued my own terts, put more time to fay and iends, foced on my wrg, slowly settlg to the quiet lm and fort of beg a sgle gay man. Now Gay and Sgle...

Forever?, Bereznai vtigat the basic qutn of whether there n be acceptance for him and other sgle gay men—as sgle men—where the ph to partner wh a man has replaced the prsure to marry a woman. Brgg together a perfect mix of personal narrative, historil rearch, terviews wh dozens of gay men — cludg Andrew Holleran, Michael Bronski, and Wayson Choy — and tensely peratg social and psychologil sight, Gay and Sgle...

Will ronate eply among gay men —many of whom, even today, spend most of their liv not a relatnship. As a gay man, how do I accept the possibily that I will be sgle forever? Part of realizg you're gay, or bi, or trans, or non-bary, or anythg other than cisgenr and heterosexual is acceptg you’re different—and somewhat separated—om the majory.

GAY AND SGLE...FOREVER?: 10 THGS EVERY GAY GUY LOOKG FOR LOVE (AND NOT FDG IT) NEEDS TO KNOW

Here he shar his journey to overe the sense of isolatn he felt growg up gay a small U. At the time, there were no real gay role mols except for Graham Norton and Jack om Dawson's Creek—and I certaly didn't intify wh him bee I wasn't a football player.

I felt like I was pletely on my rried on until I was 16, when I started gog out to gay bars my hometown.

I ma one gay iend, who I'm actually close to now. For the first time I've been able to form a good group of gay iends and create my own support work.

GAY AND SGLE...FOREVER?: 10 THGS EVERY GAY GUY LOOKG FOR LOVE (AND NOT FDG IT) NEEDS TO KNOW

I'd go on gay chatrooms but that was jt a facels nversatn wh someone who uld have been anyone. I thk if I'd had iends who were gay when I was growg up, my life would have been so different. I now know there were other kids at my school who were gay, but they didn't e out till much later.

Here, Bereznai vtigat the basic qutn of whether there is room for him, and other sgle gay men, a post-Stonewall era where the ph to partner wh a man has replaced the prsure to marry a woman.

GAY AND SGLE... FOREVER?

Through a mix of personal narrative, terviews wh dozens of gay men, cludg Andrew Holleran and Michael Bronski, and social and psychologil mentary, Bereznai has wrten a book that will ronate among gay men, the majory of whom, even today, spend most of their liv unattached.

"--From source other than the Library of CongrsGay is good: beg gay and sgle ed to be, too -- There is a nspiracy -- Love is not a hierarchy, even if gay progrs means pretendg is -- Hbands and boyiends don't guarantee happs -- The happit gay sgl are "sgle by choice" -- Wantg to be wh someone is natural: not wantg to stay wh him is, too -- You n fd timacy and emotnal growth whout a boyiend -- Fuck buddi and tricks are relatnships -- Boyiends n be like prostut: prostut n be like boyiends -- Boyiends and hbands don't protect agast AIDS.

Forever?, Bereznai vtigat the basic qutn of whether there n be acceptance for him and other sgle gay men--as sgle men--where the ph to partner wh a man has replaced the prsure to marry a woman. Brgg together a perfect mix of personal narrative, historil rearch, terviews wh dozens of gay men -- cludg Andrew Holleran, Michael Bronski, and Wayson Choy -- and tensely peratg social and psychologil sight, Gay and Sgle...

GAY AND SGLE ... FOREVER?: 10 THGS EVERY GAY GUY LOOKG FOR LOVE (AND NOT FDG IT) NEEDS TO KNOW

Will ronate eply among gay men --many of whom, even today, spend most of their liv not a relatnship. Gay and Sgle... : 10 Thgs Every Gay Guy Lookg for Love (and Not Fdg It) Needs to KnowJournalist Steven Bereznai — prentable, acplished, well ted, succsful, and his early 30s — has never had a boyiend.