The guys on the TLC special My Hband’s Not Gay, which aired Sunday night, don’t intify as gay. Sure, they read as gay, they acknowledge that they...
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- WTF? TLC'S NEW SPECIAL MY HBAND'S NOT GAY IS EVEN WEIRR THAN IT SOUNDS: WATCH NOW
- WHY TLC’S ‘MY HBAND’S NOT GAY’ IS WORTH WATCHG
- MY HBAND'S NOT GAY IS FELY NOT WORTH THE UPROAR
- THE PROFOUND LACK OF EMPATHY MY HBAND'S NOT GAY
- TLC'S “MY HBAND'S NOT GAY” STARS A PROMENT “EX-GAY” ACTIVIST
- MY HBAND’S NOT GAY MISUNRSTANDS WHAT IT MEANS TO BE GAY
- EP 19. MY HBAND'S NOT GAY
- ‘MY HBAND’S NOT GAY’: MEET THE CAST OF TLC SPECIAL ABOUT 3 MORMON COUPL
- THOANDS CLAIM TLC'S "MY HBAND'S NOT GAY" IS DANGERO PROGRAMMG IN {FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}NEWSBY MATTHEW THARRETTJANUARY 7, 2015/3:26 PMBY MATTHEW THARRETTJANUARY 7, 2015 / 3:26 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"THOANDS CLAIM TLC'S \"MY HBAND'S NOT GAY\" IS DANGERO PROGRAMMG IN PETN","DATEPUBLISHED":"2015-01-07T20:26:25.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2015-01-07T20:26:25.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"MATTHEW THARRETT","ARTICLESECTN":"NEWS"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}A PETN LLG FOR THE NCELLATN OF TLC'S "MY HBAND'S NOT GAY" HAS LLECTED MORE THAN 91,000 SIGNATUR OM VIEWERS NCERNED ABOUT THE SHOW'S ST, FOUR GAY MEN WHO CHOOSE TO LIVE STRAIGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THOUGH THE SHOW'S FOUR HBANDS (ONE IS SGLE) DON'T ALL INTIFY AS GAY MEN, THEY DO ADM FEELG SAME-SEX ATTRACTNS. THE SHOW FOLLOWS THEM THROUGH THEIR DAILY LIV AND EXPLOR THEIR CISN TO "LIVE AN ALTERNATIVE TO AN ALTERNATIVE LIFTYLE."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ACRDG TO JOSH SANRS, FOUNR OF THE PETN, THE SHOW "PROMOT THE FALSE AND DANGERO IA THAT GAY PEOPLE N AND SHOULD CHOOSE TO BE STRAIGHT ORR TO BE PART OF THEIR FAH MUNI."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“I STARTED THIS PETN BEE THE MEN SERVE PASSN AND ACCEPTANCE," SANRS TOLD THE HUFFGTON POST A STATEMENT. INTIFYG HIMSELF AS A CHRISTIAN ONCE SUBJECTED TO EX-GAY THERAPY, HE SAID "INSTEAD, TLC IS PRENTG THEIR LIV AS ENTERTAMENT, AND SENDG THE DANGERO MSAGE THAT BEG GAY IS SOMETHG THAT N AND OUGHT TO BE CHANGED."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GLAAD PRINT & CEO SARAH KATE ELLIS LLED THE SHOW "DOWNRIGHT IRRPONSIBLE" A STATEMENT, ADDG THAT “NO ONE N CHANGE WHO THEY LOVE, AND, MORE IMPORTANTLY, NO ONE SHOULD HAVE TO. BY VTG THIS DANGERO PROGRAMMG, TLC IS PUTTG UNTLS YOUNG LGBT PEOPLE HARM’S WAY.”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}RPONDG TO THE NTROVERSY TUDAY, TLC ISSUED THE THE FOLLOWG STATEMENT TO VARIETY:{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TLC HAS LONG SHARED PELLG STORI ABOUT REAL PEOPLE AND DIFFERENT WAYS OF LIFE, WHOUT JUDGMENT. THE DIVIDUALS FEATURED THIS ONE-HOUR SPECIAL REVEAL THE CISNS THEY HAVE MA, AND SPEAK ONLY FOR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE PETN JT ONE MONTH AFTER A SIAR PETN TO NCEL TLC'S "19 KIDS AND COUNTG" BEE THE SHOW'S STAR, MICHELLE DUGGAR, SHOWED ANTI-GAY ACTIVY ON {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MY HBAND’S NOT GAY AIRS JANUARY 11 AT 10PM ON TLC. YOU N CHECK OUT THE SHOW'S ST THE FIRST OFFICIAL TRAILER BELOW:{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;} .TWTER-TWEET-RENRED, {M-WIDTH:65%;WIDTH:TO !IMPORTANT;} {WIDTH:100%;} {MARG-LEFT:TO !IMPORTANT;MARG-RIGHT:TO !IMPORTANT;} IMG{MAX-WIDTH:100%;WIDTH:100%;} > IAME{BORR:NONE;MAX-WIDTH:100%;} > *{MAX-WIDTH:NONE !IMPORTANT;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS
- 6 THGS ABOUT TLC’S ‘MY HBAND’S NOT GAY’
- TLC'S "MY HBAND'S NOT GAY"- NO PETN {FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}TVBY NEWNOWNEXT STAFFJANUARY 9, 2015/9:37 AMBY NEWNOWNEXT STAFFJANUARY 9, 2015 / 9:37 AM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"TLC'S \"MY HBAND'S NOT GAY\"- NO PETN NEED","DATEPUBLISHED":"2015-01-09T14:37:10.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2015-01-09T14:37:10.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"NEWNOWNEXT STAFF","KEYWORDS":"THE BACKLOT","ARTICLESECTN":"TV"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT'S A WORK'S EE PUBLICY DREAM! NEARLY 100,000 PEOPLE HAVE SIGNED AN ONLE PETN OUTRAGE OVER A TV SHOW-- A DOCUMENTARY SPECIAL LLED MY HBAND'S NOT GAY! ABOUT MORMON MEN WHO EELY ADM THEY ARE ATTRACTED TO OTHER MEN - BUT WHO ARE NOHELS MARRIED AND LIVG HETEROSEXUAL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE PEOPLE UP ARMS OVER THE SHOW ARE NCERNED THAT "PROMOT THE FALSE AND DANGERO IA THAT GAY PEOPLE N AND SHOULD CHOOSE TO BE STRAIGHT ORR TO BE PART OF THEIR FAH MUNI."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PERSONALLY, I GET A LTLE SPIC WHENEVER PEOPLE SCRIBE AN IA AS "DANGERO." I FIGURE 'S BETTER TO LET AS MUCH SUNLIGHT AS POSSIBLE OUR CIVIC DISURSE-- AND AFTER A FULL AIRG LET THE URT OF PUBLIC OPN FIGURE OUT WHICH IAS HAVE MER AND WHICH ON ARE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}COMG AT OM THAT PERSPECTIVE, I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM WH TLC'S MY HBAND'S NOT GAY. SEE, I THK THE GAY/SAME-SEX ATTRACTED/HOMOSEXUAL (TAKE YOUR ADJECTIVE PICK) MORMON HBANDS ARE MISGUID, BUT IF THAT'S THE LIFE THEY WANT TO LEAD THEN MORE POWER TO 'EM. THEY'RE NO CRAZIER THAN CIVIL WAR RE-ENACTERS MY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PHOTOS: {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I ALSO THK THE PEOPLE SIGNG THE PETN MIGHT JT HAVE BACKWARDS. TLC'S SHOW MIGHT ACTUALLY DISPEL "THE FALSE AND DANGERO IA THAT GAY PEOPLE N AND SHOULD CHOOSE TO BE STRAIGHT ORR TO BE PART OF THEIR FAH MUNI." WHY DO I THK THIS? WELL JT CHECK OUT THIS PREVIEW CLIP, EXCLIVELY FOR THEBACKLOT REARS, WHICH SHOWS THE MORMON HBANDS ENGAGED A IENDLY DISCSN WH SOME OPENLY GAY MEN. EACH SI POLELY QUTNS THE OTHER'S LIFE CHOIC AND... 'S PRETTY CLEAR WHICH SI WS THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SEE, NO PETN NEED. EVEN ON TLC'S MY HBAND'S NOT GAY THERE ARE POSIVE GAY ROLE MOLS TO BE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MY HBAND'S NOT GAY AIRS ON TLC THIS SUNDAY AT 10/9C ON {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS
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WTF? TLC'S NEW SPECIAL MY HBAND'S NOT GAY IS EVEN WEIRR THAN IT SOUNDS: WATCH NOW
Gay activists are up arms about the TLC show, which follows Mormon men who have ‘same-sex attractn’ but don’t act on the impulse. They’ve got wrong * my husband's not gay full episode tlc *
TLC"I get a ltle fensive when somebody lls my hband gay, " one of the wiv not before she is told a spirual meetg that "the whole act is agast the teachgs of the gospel. When TLC announced would air a one-hour special lled My Hband’s Not Gay about Mormon men wh same-sex attractns who pursue relatnships wh women, the LGBT muny was unrstandably upset. Over 75, 000 signed a petn llg on the work to ncel the show bee “promot the false and dangero ia that gay people n and should choose to be straight orr to be part of their fah muni.
But My Hband’s Not Gay is not a puff piece profile or some one-sid documentary wh propaganda tents; ’s a realy TV show, and so rarely are the subjects of realy shown a flatterg light.
WHY TLC’S ‘MY HBAND’S NOT GAY’ IS WORTH WATCHG
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” The upl scribe the word “gay” as a “liftyle choice” and “not real accurate” to scribe the men, bee they believe means havg relatnships wh other men. They check out the guys they play basketball wh (who they sist be “sks” stead of “shirts”); they check out the waer at the rtrant; they check out other gay guys they know at the fashn boutique. From the moment they wake up the morng until the moment they kiss their wiv goodnight, they see the world through a homosexual lens that impacts how they teract wh every person they enunter.
” But several of the men talk about their past work wh the SSA muny, and sure enough, that work actually clus open advocy for ex-gay therapy. In fact, as Media Matters disvered, both Pret Dahlgren and Jeff Bennn have openly spoken on behalf of North Star Internatnal, a mistry for SSA Mormons that promot ex-gay therapy.
MY HBAND'S NOT GAY IS FELY NOT WORTH THE UPROAR
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Dahlgren is actually the former chairman of Evergreen Internatnal, a Mormon ex-gay anizatn that shut down and was fold to North Star last year. In 2013, he wrote an op-ed the New York Post fendg JONAH, a Jewish ex-gay mistry that had been sued by several patients unr nsumer-d laws.
THE PROFOUND LACK OF EMPATHY MY HBAND'S NOT GAY
"My Hband’s Not Gay,” which airs Jan. 11, follows the stori of married men wh "same-sex attractn." * my husband's not gay full episode tlc *
) Bennn ld sexual orientatn change efforts (SOCE) as part of his own therapy, “all aimed at helpg me better manage my homosexual attractns wh the ntext of my value system. ” When the state of Utah was fightg marriage equaly the urts, specifilly highlighted Voic of Hope as evince that “some gays and lbians have chosen to exercise their fundamental right to marry a person of the oppose sex, ” th jtifyg limg the tegory of marriage to man-woman relatnships.
That TLC ma no mentn of the fact that all three of the married upl have nnectns to pro-ex-gay therapy anizatn certaly adds to any crique of the work’s handlg of this subject, but at the same time, this knowledge adds to the show’s backfire. Bennn’s scriptn of how SOCE helped him marry a woman uld easily be paraphrased as such: SOCE helped him bury all the anguish he was tght to feel about beg gay so that he uld endure a forced relatnship wh a woman — while still havg sleepovers and takg mpg trips wh men. One n simultaneoly plore the msag they’re promotg about how gay people should live their liv and py them for livg their liv as such.
Even the absence of explic ex-gay therapy, those who are gay are enuraged to marry and start a fay specifilly as a way to overe their attractns. Mch Mayne, who formerly served as Executive Secretary for the Bishopric of the Bay Ward San Francis, has received untls letters om fellow gay Mormons who suffer for years bee of their self-nial, and whose fai have been vastated when they n ny their sexualy no longer.
TLC'S “MY HBAND'S NOT GAY” STARS A PROMENT “EX-GAY” ACTIVIST
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Mayne rejects My Hband’s Not Gay as dangero, implorg his fellow Mormons to stop “livg nial” and stop teachg “that LGBT Mormons need to change who they are to be clud our muny, our fai, or our Savr’s kgdom. It tak a lot for the Gay and Lbian Alliance Agast Defamatn (GLAAD) to get really mad at someone, but when happens, man, really happens. This week GLAAD let loose their ire on TLC’s upg special My Hband’s Not Gay, which premier on Sunday 11 January at 10pm EST – directly oppose the Goln Glob, ensurg that nary a gay man will actually see .
MY HBAND’S NOT GAY MISUNRSTANDS WHAT IT MEANS TO BE GAY
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” GLAAD isn’t the only one tryg to get TLC to pull the plug: nearly 100, 000 people have signed a petn at askg for the work, the former home of Here Com Honey Boo Boo, to ncel the first blh, I would agree wh GLAAD that is irrponsible to poe the doctre of reparative therapy, where relig groups believe that gay men and lbians n pray the gay away and live heterosexual liv. It’s dangero to tell people that they n somehow stop beg gay if God wav a magic wand and mak them really thk there is somethg credibly sexy about Megan Fox wearg a belly ’s not really what this show is about though. Jt as I hope they all rpect my right to live as an openly gay man, I gus I have to give them the same rpect to choose not to act on their are a gay man and a former member of the SSA muny who get to give their views durg the 60-mute special.
They don’t expand upon , but I image a bunch of middle-aged dus the rec room of a fished basement a half-naked scm wh that magic Mormon unrwear ltered all over the wall-to-wall thg about My Hband’s Not Gay is that is not gog to nvce anyone at eher end of the iologil spectm.
It has started a ntroversy—one that reveals a lot about cultural tensns brilliance of the televisn special My Hband's Not Gay begs wh s name. And prompts the pable, skg feelg that the lady doth prott too much: If she has to expla that her hband's not gay, she's already admted that his attractn to her is ls than, many people are angry about My Hband's Not Gay, which is s send stroke of brilliance.
EP 19. MY HBAND'S NOT GAY
TLC is expandg s ever boundary-phg lp wh plans for a "My Hband's Not Gay" special, about married Mormon men who are attracted to men * my husband's not gay full episode tlc *
The TLC show, which aired on Sunday night, follows four men who all experience "same-sex attractn, " or "SSA, " but who don't want to live "the gay liftyle" bee of their Mormon relig beliefs.
" In the lead-up to the special's premiere, more than 100, 000 people signed a petn to get ncelled, claimg promot "'reparative therapy, ' a discreded and dangero practice that falsely claims to turn gay people straight. This approach to programmg succeeds, wildly, bee 's a pure distillatn of the appeal of realy televisn: self-righteo problem, though, wh makg realy televisn about gay men who don't want to be gay is that will variably lack empathy for the pa that likely f those men's liv.
The failure of My Hband's Not Gay is one of style, not substance; but the fact that has been protted for s substance says a lot about the cultural tensns surroundg homosexualy Ameri. The openg of My Hband's Not Gay is a straight llback to the the openg sequence of the fictnal HBO seri Big Love, about a polygamo fay of fundamentalist Mormons. It's a bound performance of sexualy: They've stctured their relatnships so that they n exprs their feelgs of attractn and even toy wh gay inty while still settg firm lims on their behavr.
‘MY HBAND’S NOT GAY’: MEET THE CAST OF TLC SPECIAL ABOUT 3 MORMON COUPL
My Hband's Not Gay (TV Seri 2015) st and crew creds, cludg actors, actrs, directors, wrers and more. * my husband's not gay full episode tlc *
Watchg My Hband's Not Gay is like the passive emotnal experience of wanrg through a low-budget rnival, gawkg at the sishow eaks for a short moment before losg attentn and movg on. All three of the upl featured have worked wh an anizatn lled Voic of Hope, sharg their experienc on tape and speakg publicly support of "non-gay liftyl" for people who experience "same-sex attractn. " While uld fairly be lled propaganda, 's not exactly "prayg away the gay": Voic of Hope is part of the Mormon anizatn North Star Internatnal, which says on s webse that "whether or not dividuals choose to make efforts to dimish or elimate homosexual feelgs, and whether or not those efforts succeed, is ls important to North Star’s purpos.
THOANDS CLAIM TLC'S "MY HBAND'S NOT GAY" IS DANGERO PROGRAMMG IN {FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}NEWSBY MATTHEW THARRETTJANUARY 7, 2015/3:26 PMBY MATTHEW THARRETTJANUARY 7, 2015 / 3:26 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"THOANDS CLAIM TLC'S \"MY HBAND'S NOT GAY\" IS DANGERO PROGRAMMG IN PETN","DATEPUBLISHED":"2015-01-07T20:26:25.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2015-01-07T20:26:25.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"MATTHEW THARRETT","ARTICLESECTN":"NEWS"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}A PETN LLG FOR THE NCELLATN OF TLC'S "MY HBAND'S NOT GAY" HAS LLECTED MORE THAN 91,000 SIGNATUR OM VIEWERS NCERNED ABOUT THE SHOW'S ST, FOUR GAY MEN WHO CHOOSE TO LIVE STRAIGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THOUGH THE SHOW'S FOUR HBANDS (ONE IS SGLE) DON'T ALL INTIFY AS GAY MEN, THEY DO ADM FEELG SAME-SEX ATTRACTNS. THE SHOW FOLLOWS THEM THROUGH THEIR DAILY LIV AND EXPLOR THEIR CISN TO "LIVE AN ALTERNATIVE TO AN ALTERNATIVE LIFTYLE."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ACRDG TO JOSH SANRS, FOUNR OF THE PETN, THE SHOW "PROMOT THE FALSE AND DANGERO IA THAT GAY PEOPLE N AND SHOULD CHOOSE TO BE STRAIGHT ORR TO BE PART OF THEIR FAH MUNI."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“I STARTED THIS PETN BEE THE MEN SERVE PASSN AND ACCEPTANCE," SANRS TOLD THE HUFFGTON POST A STATEMENT. INTIFYG HIMSELF AS A CHRISTIAN ONCE SUBJECTED TO EX-GAY THERAPY, HE SAID "INSTEAD, TLC IS PRENTG THEIR LIV AS ENTERTAMENT, AND SENDG THE DANGERO MSAGE THAT BEG GAY IS SOMETHG THAT N AND OUGHT TO BE CHANGED."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GLAAD PRINT & CEO SARAH KATE ELLIS LLED THE SHOW "DOWNRIGHT IRRPONSIBLE" A STATEMENT, ADDG THAT “NO ONE N CHANGE WHO THEY LOVE, AND, MORE IMPORTANTLY, NO ONE SHOULD HAVE TO. BY VTG THIS DANGERO PROGRAMMG, TLC IS PUTTG UNTLS YOUNG LGBT PEOPLE HARM’S WAY.”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}RPONDG TO THE NTROVERSY TUDAY, TLC ISSUED THE THE FOLLOWG STATEMENT TO VARIETY:{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TLC HAS LONG SHARED PELLG STORI ABOUT REAL PEOPLE AND DIFFERENT WAYS OF LIFE, WHOUT JUDGMENT. THE DIVIDUALS FEATURED THIS ONE-HOUR SPECIAL REVEAL THE CISNS THEY HAVE MA, AND SPEAK ONLY FOR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE PETN JT ONE MONTH AFTER A SIAR PETN TO NCEL TLC'S "19 KIDS AND COUNTG" BEE THE SHOW'S STAR, MICHELLE DUGGAR, SHOWED ANTI-GAY ACTIVY ON {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MY HBAND’S NOT GAY AIRS JANUARY 11 AT 10PM ON TLC. YOU N CHECK OUT THE SHOW'S ST THE FIRST OFFICIAL TRAILER BELOW:{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;} .TWTER-TWEET-RENRED, {M-WIDTH:65%;WIDTH:TO !IMPORTANT;} {WIDTH:100%;} {MARG-LEFT:TO !IMPORTANT;MARG-RIGHT:TO !IMPORTANT;} IMG{MAX-WIDTH:100%;WIDTH:100%;} > IAME{BORR:NONE;MAX-WIDTH:100%;} > *{MAX-WIDTH:NONE !IMPORTANT;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS
TLC is facg growg cricism over the cisn to air "My Hband's Not Gay," a one-hour special slated to air on Jan. 11, which follows a group of Mormon men who, acrdg to the work's scriptn, "are happily married and attracted to their wiv, but they are also attracted to other men. * my husband's not gay full episode tlc *
Sendg the msage that beg gay is somethg that n and ought to be changed, or that you should reject your sexual orientatn by marryg someone of the oppose sex, " the petn says. By airg a televisn special about this worldview, objectors say, TLC is implicly endorsg —which is a form of will be the next great nflict surroundg gayns Ameri: between those who mand acceptance of homosexualy and those who fd morally unacceptable. It's a sign of jt how far gay rights have e Ameri that TLC would be lled out for even acknowledgg a worldview that isn't fully acceptg of gayns.
The objectns aren't about wng legal rights, or enanchisement, or even civily; they're about wng total cultural acceptance of homosexualy.
The upl My Hband's Not Gay have created liv they say they want, liv that are tolerant of homosexualy every way except choosg, themselv, to have gay sex. Of urse, that's not what happened My Hband's Not Gay, but that probably uldn't be helped; nuance don't tend to be the tramark of realy televisn.
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But if possible, My Hband's Not Gay should be treated as a varsy-level exercise fdg empathy; even for those who disagree wh the choic the upl have ma, they may still regnize the stggle.
TLC's new show, which follows a group of men who adm to beg attracted to other men but have chosen to date and marry women, has been wily cricized by members of the LGBT muny for promotg the wily discreded practice of “ex-gay” or “reparative” therapy. ” Tth Ws Out, a group dited to stoppg “ex-gay” therapy, has poted out that many of the shows stars are closely affiliated wh North Star, a ge Mormon “ex-gay” group. But one of the stars of TLC's show - Prton “Pret” Dahlgren - has a history of speakg on behalf of “ex-gay” mistri, repeatedly g his ttimony to promote anizatns that promote reparative therapy.
TLC'S "MY HBAND'S NOT GAY"- NO PETN {FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}TVBY NEWNOWNEXT STAFFJANUARY 9, 2015/9:37 AMBY NEWNOWNEXT STAFFJANUARY 9, 2015 / 9:37 AM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"TLC'S \"MY HBAND'S NOT GAY\"- NO PETN NEED","DATEPUBLISHED":"2015-01-09T14:37:10.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2015-01-09T14:37:10.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"NEWNOWNEXT STAFF","KEYWORDS":"THE BACKLOT","ARTICLESECTN":"TV"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT'S A WORK'S EE PUBLICY DREAM! NEARLY 100,000 PEOPLE HAVE SIGNED AN ONLE PETN OUTRAGE OVER A TV SHOW-- A DOCUMENTARY SPECIAL LLED MY HBAND'S NOT GAY! ABOUT MORMON MEN WHO EELY ADM THEY ARE ATTRACTED TO OTHER MEN - BUT WHO ARE NOHELS MARRIED AND LIVG HETEROSEXUAL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE PEOPLE UP ARMS OVER THE SHOW ARE NCERNED THAT "PROMOT THE FALSE AND DANGERO IA THAT GAY PEOPLE N AND SHOULD CHOOSE TO BE STRAIGHT ORR TO BE PART OF THEIR FAH MUNI."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PERSONALLY, I GET A LTLE SPIC WHENEVER PEOPLE SCRIBE AN IA AS "DANGERO." I FIGURE 'S BETTER TO LET AS MUCH SUNLIGHT AS POSSIBLE OUR CIVIC DISURSE-- AND AFTER A FULL AIRG LET THE URT OF PUBLIC OPN FIGURE OUT WHICH IAS HAVE MER AND WHICH ON ARE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}COMG AT OM THAT PERSPECTIVE, I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM WH TLC'S MY HBAND'S NOT GAY. SEE, I THK THE GAY/SAME-SEX ATTRACTED/HOMOSEXUAL (TAKE YOUR ADJECTIVE PICK) MORMON HBANDS ARE MISGUID, BUT IF THAT'S THE LIFE THEY WANT TO LEAD THEN MORE POWER TO 'EM. THEY'RE NO CRAZIER THAN CIVIL WAR RE-ENACTERS MY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PHOTOS: {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I ALSO THK THE PEOPLE SIGNG THE PETN MIGHT JT HAVE BACKWARDS. TLC'S SHOW MIGHT ACTUALLY DISPEL "THE FALSE AND DANGERO IA THAT GAY PEOPLE N AND SHOULD CHOOSE TO BE STRAIGHT ORR TO BE PART OF THEIR FAH MUNI." WHY DO I THK THIS? WELL JT CHECK OUT THIS PREVIEW CLIP, EXCLIVELY FOR THEBACKLOT REARS, WHICH SHOWS THE MORMON HBANDS ENGAGED A IENDLY DISCSN WH SOME OPENLY GAY MEN. EACH SI POLELY QUTNS THE OTHER'S LIFE CHOIC AND... 'S PRETTY CLEAR WHICH SI WS THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SEE, NO PETN NEED. EVEN ON TLC'S MY HBAND'S NOT GAY THERE ARE POSIVE GAY ROLE MOLS TO BE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MY HBAND'S NOT GAY AIRS ON TLC THIS SUNDAY AT 10/9C ON {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS
Same-genr attractns and overe homosexual behavr, ” largely relyg on the work of the notor Natnal Associatn for Rearch and Therapy of Homosexualy (NARTH).
Dahlgren ma siar ments a vio for the 2013 Rencilg Fah & Feelgs Conference, an event that promot “ex-gay” therapy and believ that 's possible to dimish a person's same-sex attractns:. Dahlgren's wife, Megan, is also actively volved promotg “ex-gay” therapy, havg worked wh Evergreen, North Star, and People Can Change, another anizatn that promot “ex-gay” therapy. TLC's “My Hband's Not Gay” won't air s first episo until January 11, but 's worth notg that at least one of s stars has a real profsnal centive to e his new, natnal platform to promote a kd of “treatment” that all major profsnal medil anizatns agree is effective and n do ser harm to LGBT people.
MY HBAND'S NOT GAY
Sure, they read as gay, they acknowledge that they are attracted to guys, and they go out together to check out other men, but they also repeatedly emphasize the ways they differ om people livg a so-lled “gay liftyle” bee of nsc choic they have ma. Dpe the work’s assertns that the show “solely reprents the views of the dividuals featured, ” there are repeated suggtns that gay men n be attracted to women and that homosexual orientatns are not fixed and unchangg but fluid and negotiable. This ex-gay mdset is what mak the show so od, and s foc on orientatn change ought to be distguished om other, ls harmful efforts to rencile tradnal fah backgrounds wh LGBTQ inti.
Although My Hband’s Not Gay attempts to stick to the personal experienc of s subjects, a group of Mormons who live around Salt Lake Cy, the iology of orientatn change slips around the edg, particularly when the show’s subjects fe what means to be gay.
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The reful distctns they make between “experiencg same-sex attractns”—or SSA—and beg gay would be enough to imprs the most arnt votee of polilly rrect lguistic parsg.
” Clearly, the are people who believe that if they had ma different choic, they would be gay men, not people who believe that beg gay is tegorilly distct om their experience of same-sex attractn. There are ways that a gay orientatn uld be renciled wh heterosexual marriage that wouldn’t rely on the belief that changg one’s sexual orientatn is possible.
” He thereby suggts that sexual fluidy is universally experienced, implyg that a gay orientatn n be waed out, as if were a bad se of the measl.
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It is, however, referenced briefly by a guy intified as Shn, who spends a few sends actg as a pro-gay foil for the show’s protagonists. In that moment, when a gay man’s assertn that he is not and uld not be attracted to women is challenged, the pretense that the show als only wh the particular men’s dividual experience evaporat. They do not believe that they are different om gay men bee they are also attracted to women; they believe that is possible for gay men to bee attracted to women, and they explicly say so.
However, I believe that there’s an important distctn to be ma between approach that irrponsibly promote orientatn change ( spe of all the evince agast ), as opposed to those that affirm the existence of persistent, unchangg sexual orientatns most gay men and many lbians.
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The iendlit of the renciliatn strategi is a belief that same-sex marriag are valid and should be blsed by tradnal church, and gay and lbian people of fah should chew sex outsi such unns exactly the same way that heterosexual men and women are expected to. Still, even the more hardle posn that gays and lbians are lled to be celibate if they are unable to participate a heterosexual marriage is an improvement on the nial and ercn of ex-gay mistri, which promote nversn “therapy” leadg to eventual orientatn change.
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The expectatn that gays should fo sexual and romantic timacy altogether is a tough one—I certaly would never want to live that way—but at least don’t ny the existence of certa people whose orientatn is fixed the directn of same-sex relatnships, and regniz that such people are beg asked to do somethg unique and difficult. The dacy of the expectatn that gays and lbians mt go whout romantic love means that celibate gay Christians such tradns n unter wh their own mands for spirual support and nourishment and hold their church acuntable if their special needs are not met. While imperfect, this at least allows space for gays and lbians to speak the tth about themselv while remag wh a fah tradn that they see as too central to their inti to let go of—or too important to let go of all at once, s where celibacy serv as a way statn on the way to a Christiany that is more affirmg of the need to form romantic partnerships.
However, by ignorg the possibily that most gay men will never feel enough attractn to a woman to have the sort of timate, romantic bond people expect out of a marriage, the men are dog far more than sharg their personal experience—they’re suggtg that orientatn change is a viable alternative for gay men and lbians more generally.
While those of who do not share a tradnal sexual ethic may fd hard to make distctns between two equally alien approach to homosexualy wh tradnal religns, behoov to give some cred to those strategi that validate LGBTQ people’s inti, ntrast to those that actively enurage self-ceptn and raise false hop of one day experiencg heterosexual attractn.