Gay Marriage, Monogamy, and the Lure of Open Relatnships

Contents:

• HBAND GAY BOOKS
• SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND BY DEBRA SUTTON
• THE LBIAN WRER AND HER FLAMBOYANT GAY HBAND
• SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND: INTIFYG CLOSETED GAY HBAND BEHAVRS PAPERBACK – LARGE PRT, MAY 22, 2015
• SHARG MY GAY HBAND: THE COMPLETE 21 BOOK SERI
• SHARG MY GAY HBAND
• THE GAY HBAND CHECKLIST FOR WOMEN WHO WONR
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
• WISNS MIDDLE SCHOOL FEATUR 'THIS BOOK IS GAY' LIBRARY, STIRRG ONLE OUTRAGE

HBAND GAY BOOKS

An excerpt om the book Signs of a Gay Hband-Intfyg Closeted Gay Hband Behavrs.

Forty Signs of a Gay Hband. I was unknowgly married to a gay man for twenty two years.

I have ma a list of mon gay behavrs hop that will help other women who may be gog through the same thg. The gay hband creat a false inty and you to help mata the fa.

SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND BY DEBRA SUTTON

) Gay Porn on the puter.

I found gay porn on the puter. ) My gay ex-hband brought strange men home as if they were drkg together.

) Homophobic or the oppose he uld brg up gay subjects. ) Gay men hate female private body parts they n even make rogatory ments they also hate our smells. My gay ex broke an anniversary dner wh me and plans for New Year tellg me that he knew the guys a lot longer than he knew me.

THE LBIAN WRER AND HER FLAMBOYANT GAY HBAND

) His mother may know or spect that he is gay. My ex mother law asked me if he was gay. ) Hepatis C –I know you don’t have to be gay to have hepatis C.

A lot of traveno dg ers have hepatis C, is also mon gay men. He told me at the time of his diagnosis the doctor told him a lot of gay men have Hepatis C. ) Hidg Behd Relign-Some gay hbands hi behd the church g and twistg scripture as a form of domance, ntrol, and obedience.

SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND: INTIFYG CLOSETED GAY HBAND BEHAVRS PAPERBACK – LARGE PRT, MAY 22, 2015

) Toxic Shame-The closeted gay hband has a lot of shame. He do not like what he is, and do not want to accept him-self as beg gay. ) Endls Fear-The closeted gay hband suffers om endls fears.

) Unsettled-My gay ex-hband was never happy, never settled.

SHARG MY GAY HBAND: THE COMPLETE 21 BOOK SERI

) Self-Dtctive Behavrs-The closeted gay hband engag self-stctive behavrs. The gay men who hi marriag n bee very angry, trated, and abive.

Many of the men will never adm they are gay. Ultimately, their unn end wh his addictn to crack e and not-so-secret homosexualy.

Around the time they met, Hart rells visg a movie theater that he scrib as a “gay cisg space.

SHARG MY GAY HBAND

Early was wildly handsome, gay, wh soulful brown ey and a head full of loose, unly curls. Once, the middle of wter Washgton Square Park, I watched him unbutton his at and drape across the shoulrs of a dnk who had jt lled him a homophobic slur. I was an ex-Christian and newly out lbian fleeg the vlent homophobia of the late 1990s Jamai, still wearg the fury of beg attacked by a dozen boys and sexually asslted Kgston.

Except he wasn’t gay, or a poet.

THE GAY HBAND CHECKLIST FOR WOMEN WHO WONR

We often lled each other to remisce about Peter, to reunt the sorcery of him, to bask the shared memory of his, when I beme antic wh the sire to start a fay — chasg gay men at hoe parti, beggg sperm om strangers on plan — I broke down and wept for what felt like the too-early ath of my hband. I wanted to be the badass lbian wrer, wh the flamboyant gay hband, raisg four children a ramblg old hoe that ed to be a church, two blocks om the beach Far one nversatn wh CJ, he terpted to ask if there was a way he uld stand for Peter, by givg me his sperm.

His brothers, their wiv, Peter’s grandmother, his father, me, my non-monogamo partner and a betiful hort of ordary folks, misfs, artists, preachers, wrers, activists, gay, straight, nonbary. Debra Sutton's book is more or ls a re-workg of Bonnie Kaye's "Gay Hband Checklist" thg, although Ms Sutton tacks on some new-fangled ias, wh a few head-scratchers thrown for good measure.

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY

The reason one might wish to ask her about the particular dat is that there are publicly available mugshots of one Debra Lynn Sutton and/or Debra Olmos Sutton; one of which is a duplite of a photo she on her blog as an example of what livg wh a gay hband did to her, along wh the chapter this book on "Photographs and Memori. Fally, one might be tempted to ask whether she avers that her gay ex-hband is rponsible for g her to be charged wh the vlatns, and if so, how did he manage to pull off?

WISNS MIDDLE SCHOOL FEATUR 'THIS BOOK IS GAY' LIBRARY, STIRRG ONLE OUTRAGE

And if ed they are of the thor, then why did she whhold this rmatn om the rear, and imply the photos were the rult of havg lived wh a gay man? It seems to me a double standard on her part to ask a closeted gay man to be hont and tell the tth about himself while neglectg to do the same that were not disgenuo enough, for women who are re-enterg the datg world and wish to assure themselv of their date's tegry, she suggts that you fagle a way to get a py of his work rume: for stance, you uld make up a story of a job openg you are aware of that might be a good f for him.

I thk 's ironic and hypocril to end one relatnship that was troubled om the start bee of misreprented tentns, only to enter another one the same no particular orr, let's exame a few of the ems on her list that she suggts uld be ditns of homosexualy:40. This is not merely homophobic, but sexist too. "Homophobic or the oppose he uld brg up gay subjects.