Fathers and gay sons: A plited, vally important relatnship.
Contents:
- ‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD
- SHOULD I LET MY (MAYBE) GAY TEENAGE SON HAVE SLEEPOVERS WH BOYS?
- 'DON'T SNEAK': DAD'S UNEXPECTED ADVICE TO HIS GAY SON IN THE '50S
- 12-YEAR-OLD BOY ON ‘THE CONNERS:’ 'I'M GLAD I'M GAY!'
- IS YOUR CHILD GAY?
- WHEN DO GAY KIDS START “ACTG GAY”?
- PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR SON IS GAY
- HOW ONE MOTHER’S LOVE FOR HER GAY SON STARTED A REVOLUTN
- MATTHEW GONG, GAY MORMON, REFLECTS ON HIS JOURNEY OM NER WAR TO NER PEACE
- GAY MEN AND THEIR FATHERS: HURT AND HEALG
‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD
Patrick Haggerty didn't know he was gay, but spects that his father did when he told him not to hi his inty. Haggerty was 15, and his dad told him to be proud of himself. * boy gay son *
Fally, they start nudgg a few top-tier characters out of the closet — but are always reful never to send 'em out whout first attachg an all-important asterisk, as a bulwark agast any backlash om homophobic rears (and/or stockholrs): Rob's queer!
SHOULD I LET MY (MAYBE) GAY TEENAGE SON HAVE SLEEPOVERS WH BOYS?
ABC’s The Conners has left hts here and there that Darlene’s (Sara Gilbert) 12-year-old son Mark (Am McNamara) might be gay and om the start of Tuday night’s episo, “A Kiss is Jt a Kiss,” Mark is seen wearg a skirt over legggs. But ’s when the prcipal lls to rm Darlene that Mark is trouble for kissg a boy at school that we fd out there is no longer any doubt that the young boy is gay. * boy gay son *
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'DON'T SNEAK': DAD'S UNEXPECTED ADVICE TO HIS GAY SON IN THE '50S
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Heynen “a lot of cred” for cludg a father like him — a sgle dad his 60s — sce he said there is often a lack of reprentatn of olr gay people art and media, which tends to foc on young, f men.
12-YEAR-OLD BOY ON ‘THE CONNERS:’ 'I'M GLAD I'M GAY!'
Parents of gay children may go through an adjtment perd when they fd out their child is gay, but there is support for parents of gay children. * boy gay son *
I’ve found gay porn on his laptop (y, I snoop; I pay the bill and I’m his dad), he’s shown ZERO tert girls, and he has always been a tad effemate, though I know that’s probably an unfair stereotype.
For stance, if a not-yet-out gay kid is crisis, or if a parent stumbl over evince that a not-yet-out gay kid is dog somethg risky, a parent n and should go the “are you gay or what? In your se, DUD, you already know your son is gay—“Browsers don’t lie, ” says Schwartz—and the fact that your son might be havg sex his room, thereby breakg dad’s hoe l, may rise to the level of “are you gay or what? “There’s ls reliable rmatn about gay sex than there is about straight sex, ” Joseph says, so gay kids turn to the ter—or to porn—for rmatn and, as Joseph pots out, “half of uld be physilly dangero, and the rt is poorly explaed.
ABC’s The Conners has left hts here and there that Darlene’s (Sara Gilbert) 12-year-old son Mark (Am McNamara) might be gay and om the start of Tuday night’s episo, “A Kiss is Jt a Kiss, ” Mark is seen wearg a skirt over legggs.
IS YOUR CHILD GAY?
There's a new Android app out (here's the English versn) lled "Is My Son Gay?" which one n answer an easy seri of qutns ("Are you divorced?") that will tell you if, fact, your son is a gay person. * boy gay son *
Both lbians and gay men often have a history of cross-sex-typed behavrs: ltle boys beg fatuated wh their mother's makp k; ltle girls enamored of field hockey or profsnal wrtlg.
WHEN DO GAY KIDS START “ACTG GAY”?
It is only relatively recently, however, that velopmental scientists have nducted ntrolled studi to intify the earlit and most reliable signs of adult homosexualy.
PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE
So on the basis of some earlier, shakier rearch, along wh a good dose of mon sense, Bailey and Zucker hypothized that homosexuals would show an verted pattern of sex-typed childhood behavrs—ltle boys preferrg girls as playmat and beg fatuated wh their mother's makp k; ltle girls strangely enamored of field hockey or profsnal wrtlg—that sort of thg.
Although only 12 percent of the women grew up to be genr dysphoric (the unfortable sense that your blogil sex do not match your genr), the odds of the women reportg a bisexual or homosexual orientatn were up to 23 tim higher than would occur a general sample of young women.
Bailey and Zucker, who nducted a retrospective study which adults answered qutns about their past, revealed that 89 percent of randomly sampled gay men relled cross-sex-typed childhood behavrs exceedg the heterosexual median. There is also evince of a “dosage effect”: the more genr-nonnformg characteristics there are childhood, the more likely is that a homosexual or bisexual orientatn will be prent adulthood. Cross-cultural data show that prehomosexual boys are more attracted to solary sports such as swimmg, cyclg and tennis than they are to rougher ntact sports such as football and soccer; they are also ls likely to be childhood bulli.
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR SON IS GAY
Bee the data often reveal very early emergg tras prehomosexuals, children who show pronounced sex-atypil behavrs may have more of a geic loadg to their homosexualy, whereas gay adults who were sex-typil as children might trace their homosexualy more directly to particular childhood experienc. Lang, Elton John and Rachel Maddow's close relativ, but I n only image that the straight k are far better off terms of their own reproductive opportuni than they would be whout a homosexual danglg so magnificently on their fay tre.
So cultivate your ltle prehomosexual's native talents, and your ultimate geic payoff uld, strangely enough, be even larger wh one very special gay child than would be if 10 medcre straight offsprg leaped om your los.
HOW ONE MOTHER’S LOVE FOR HER GAY SON STARTED A REVOLUTN
I n say as a once prehomosexual pipsqueak that some preparatn on the part of others would have ma easier on me, rather than nstantly fearg rejectn or worryg about some rels slipup leadg to my “exposure.
MATTHEW GONG, GAY MORMON, REFLECTS ON HIS JOURNEY OM NER WAR TO NER PEACE
And another thg: mt be pretty hard to look to your prehomosexual toddler's limpid ey, bsh away the okie cmbs om her cheek and toss her out on the streets for beg article was origally published wh the tle "Is Your Child Gay? The rrelatn is much weaker the other directn: A disproportnate number of boys who don’t nform to genr stereotyp turn out to be gay men, but lots of gay men played wh G. Gay 3-year-old boys n’t verbalize their sire to be wh a man when they grow up—although many such children exhib cshlike behavr toward adult men—but they may be tryg to learn the behavr that will later attract a male partner.
GAY MEN AND THEIR FATHERS: HURT AND HEALG
Parents of gay children may be shocked when their kids e out of the closet, but once the dt settl, most parents realize that their child is the same one they have loved and red for all their liv, they jt happen to be gay. So, for example, boys that play wh dolls and have primarily girliends or girls who are tomboys and prefer to play wh guns may have an creased likelihood of growg up to be gay. While knowg your child is gay may help you ease the transn to adulthood, 's cril to remember that a gay child is jt a child like any other and a parent of gay child is jt a parent, like any other.
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