Is There Such A Thg As Gay (or Straight) Porn? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• IS THERE SUCH A THG AS GAY (OR STRAIGHT) PORN?
• I LIKE GAY MALE PORN, BUT GAY MEN REAL LIFE EAK ME OUT.
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• STUDY: YOU WILL BE SHOCKED TO KNOW THE NUMBER OF STRAIGHT MEN WHO WATCH GAY PORN!
• MY BOYIEND LIK SHEMAL DO THAT MAKE HIM GAY?
• HOMOPHOBIC MEN ARE AROED BY GAY MALE PORN
• HOW DO I STOP WATCHG GAY PORN
• AM I GAY IF I HAVE SAME SEX FANTASI?
• MY BOYIEND LOOKS AT GAY PORN. IS HE…?
• 25 BT GAY LIVE CAMS: GAY CAM S TO VIS INCLUDG 100 PERCENT FREE GAY CAMS
• DO HAVG GAY FANTASI OR WATCHG GAY PORN MEAN THAT I’M GAY?

IS THERE SUCH A THG AS GAY (OR STRAIGHT) PORN?

A new study published the Archiv of Sexual Behavur, which examed the porn-viewg habs of 821 gay, straight, and bisexual men om around the untry, found a number of unexpected rults. Among them: that 55 percent of gay men watch straight porn, and 21 percent of straight men watch gay what giv?

But when one out of five self-intified straight men reports watchg gay porn, prompts the further qutn: Are the men really straight, or are they down-low/straight-intified bisexual men? When his team looked at the data, they nfirmed that the straight men didn't report havg sex wh men, and the gay men (outsi of a very small actn) didn't report havg sex wh women.

Meanwhile, bisexual men displayed porn-viewg habs that were que distct om those of their homo and hetero peers. Bi men reported watchg guy-on-guy porn jt as much as gay men do, and they nsumed heterosexual porn (one male/one female) almost as much as heterosexual men.

I LIKE GAY MALE PORN, BUT GAY MEN REAL LIFE EAK ME OUT.

" "[Bisexual men] are more like heterosexual men some thgs, and more like gay men other thgs, but that's a reflectn of their own unique attractns.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

"For stance, both bi and heterosexual men reported viewg solo masturbatn material (the report did not dite the sex of the person picted) at about the same rate -- around 60 percent -- while ls than 50 percent of gay men did. 9 percent) peers -- unls that kk volved fistg, felchg, or water sports, all activi gay men were far more likely to report 's unfortunately que rare for studi examg porn nsumptn men to get this level of group parison -- heterosexual, gay, and bisexual men, and enough participants to look at each group separately.

The heterosexual porn lerature tends to be really specific to vlence agast women, wh the rt foced on the risks of ntractg HIV, ually lumpg gay and bisexual men together as "men who have sex wh men.

There are a few takeaways om this study: Our porn nsumptn is more eclectic than prevly spected, and bisexual men are distct om their straight and gay brothers their pornographic habs and clatns. Though not the study's foc, this further suggts that bisexualy isn't simply a way statn on the road to beg gay; bisexuals are bisexual. "Sexually Explic Media Use by Sexual Inty: A Comparative Analysis of Gay, Bisexual, and Heterosexual Men the Uned Stat" By Mart J.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

If you want to know if someone’s gay, straight, or bisexual, ask them who they have sex wh (and who they want to have sex wh real life), not what webs they like to watch. That’s why I disurage my straight patients om g the exprsn “gay fantasy, ” and disurage my gay patients om sayg “straight fantasy” (unls they’re fantasi ABOUT beg gay or straight, which is a different matter).

Regardls, some straight people like porn that isn't straight (like some gay people like porn that isn't gay), and what we like fantasy or media isn't a sound way to try and figure out what our orientatn is or a place to look for a match wh what we like or want real life, even though for some folks, is some ways.

STUDY: YOU WILL BE SHOCKED TO KNOW THE NUMBER OF STRAIGHT MEN WHO WATCH GAY PORN!

It uld be g om homophobia your upbrgg, muny, om iends or fay, or jt out and about the world: there's a lot of , so 's mighty hard to miss. That reactn uld be about genr: 's hard sometim to untangle homophobia om fears or securi about genr or genr inty.

It uld e om a fear that you're gay or bisexual yourself, or that likg men sexually or romantilly, even fantasy, mak you ls of a man, fears that might be irratnal, but might also be ratnal. In se the term homophobia trips you up, UC Davis' Department of Psychology says: "The Amerin Herage Dictnary f homophobia as "aversn to gay or homosexual people or their liftyle or culture" and "behavr or an act based on this aversn. " AVERT gets more pth wh their fn: "Homophobia is generally fed as hostily towards or fear of gay people, but n also refer to social iologi which stigmatise homosexualy.

MY BOYIEND LIK SHEMAL DO THAT MAKE HIM GAY?

Negative feelgs or attus towards non-heterosexual behavur, inty, relatnships and muny, n lead to homophobic behavur and is the root of the discrimatn experienced by many lbian, gay, bisexual and transgenr (LGBT) people. Homophobia manifts self different forms, for example homophobic jok, physil attacks, discrimatn the workplace and media reprentatn.

HOMOPHOBIC MEN ARE AROED BY GAY MALE PORN

Some studi, like one done at the Universy of Geia, reported the Journal of Abnormal Psychology (Augt, 1996) have lked greater sexual aroal to homosexual material to homophobia. In other words, 's entirely possible that your feelg so aroed by this might be bee of, or amplified by, homophobic feelgs or attus. Homophobia is somethg that is very often seen people who may be homosexual or bisexual themselv and are very aaid of those feelgs, or feel there is somethg terribly wrong wh them (even though there isn't).

I don't know if you've been payg attentn to the news lately, but if you have, I don't have to tell you that we've had a lot of tragedi lately that stemmed om homophobia. That's nothg new, as this has long been a very ser problem, but 's a major and horrible wake-up ll for anyone who had the ia homophobia wasn't still a big al. But homophobia has been very much associated wh some kds of vlence and aggrsn, as well as wh the high suici and prsn rat of queer people.

This is important for everyone to know whether they might be the person who hurts someone else wh their own homophobia, and/or who might be hurt themselv by someone else's.

HOW DO I STOP WATCHG GAY PORN

One example of stutnalized homophobia (and heterosexism and transphobia), for stance, is that very few people grow up a world or a culture which prents same-sex or same or siar-genr romantic and/or sexual relatnships as as normal, as acceptable, and as potentially wonrful as oppose-sex or genr relatnships.

A lot of lbian, gay, bisexual or other not-heterosexual folks have a hard time picturg themselv anythg but oppose-sex relatnships not bee they aren't really queer, but bee 's the only, or the most pervasive, picture they've seen, or the only way they have seen relatnships or fai prented posively. A Gui for Women Concerned About Their Men, but simply put, some men have no sire to be nnected wh gay culture, and scerely nsir themselv to not be gay or bisexual.

AM I GAY IF I HAVE SAME SEX FANTASI?

It is te that some gay men thk at first that they are bisexual, but this is largely due to the cultural taboo agast beg gay. This would be like sayg that gay men who don’t like anal sex are really straight but don’t know yet, and their butt will have to tell them at some pot. In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializ Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relatnship Therapy, often treatg men who are qutng their sexual orientatn.

Number one is the high cince of male-female upl enterg my office bee the woman thks her man might be gay. He’s actually straight, but for whatever reason, he’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been havg sex wh men.

A lot of the time the men e on their own and they’re holdg my book about g out as gay, and they want to know, “Is this me?

MY BOYIEND LOOKS AT GAY PORN. IS HE…?

And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay.

That’s unual, bee most gay men, even most gay therapists, believe that if a guy is havg gay sex, he’s gay. ” I always joke wh clients that for me, as a gay man, when I’m walkg on the beach and checkg people out, the women are the way. Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women.

When a man is a long-term relatnship wh a woman but beg sexual wh men, eher lookg at porn or havg actual sex, he eher will or won’t be homophobic. The straight men have no homophobia at all—to the pot where they’re willg to seek unselg om me, an openly gay therapist. A lot of tim the gay men never even make to me (whout promptg om their wife, anyway) bee they’re riddled wh homophobia and I’m too gay for them.

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A gay guy wants to do all of that wh a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be wh a woman that way.

So this is a way of bondg wh men—ironilly, through sex—and happens not bee the man is gay but bee he don’t know any other way to get this need met.

Eher they’re worried that their man will eventually ci he’s gay and end the relatnship, or they want monogamy, and his cheatg is a threat to the marriage regardls of who he’s dog wh. And I should pot out here that the men when they’re engagg this behavr (regardls of whether they’re gay, straight or bi) nearly always tell themselv that what they’re dog is not cheatg bee they’re dog wh a guy. Keep md that even if you have a sexual experience wh someone of the same genr or another genr, that don’t necsarily mean that you’re gay.

DO HAVG GAY FANTASI OR WATCHG GAY PORN MEAN THAT I’M GAY?

Thgs would be so simple if you uld jt label yourself as gay and be done wh , but may not be that easy.

That means, for example, that you n be transgenr but also straight (for stance, you might intify as a woman and feel attracted to men) or gay (e. Article SummaryXIf you’re not sure how to know if you are gay, thk about any past romantic experienc you have had. If you have had romantic experienc or fantasi volvg people who are the same genr as you, then there is a good chance you are gay or bisexual, but 's okay if you're a ltle nfed.