I thought I was gay but now I'm qutng my orientatn | Srleteen

Contents:

• I THOUGHT I WAS GAY BUT NOW I'M QUTNG MY ORIENTATN
• I’VE INTIFIED AS GAY FOR YEARS. NOT ANYMORE.
• WHAT IF YOU ONLY THOUGHT YOU WERE GAY?
• AM I GAY?
• HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY

I THOUGHT I WAS GAY BUT NOW I'M QUTNG MY ORIENTATN

Jt as if you were qutng your orientatn and thkg you might be gay, I n offer some background basics and thgs to thk about.

However, along the l of sexualy beg fluid, I feel that while there are certaly people who are jt attracted to people of the same genr or a different genr (or asexual), most people fall somewhere on a broad spectm between gay and straight (and beyond!

Unfortunately, more often than not, 's not easy beg gay. Not bee beg gay self is hard, but bee of societal prsure and judgement. As you said yourself, beg gay is, or has bee, a major part of your inty.

I’VE INTIFIED AS GAY FOR YEARS. NOT ANYMORE.

You're out and proud and feelg at home your lol and the greater gay muny.

Likewise, we don't want or need people who re about but do not re for our sexual orientatn, such as a well-tentned parent, to tell they are relieved that we, fact, not gay. Our two ma articl on this very topic, The Be Be: A Homosexualy and Bisexualy Primer and Bi the Dozen: A Bisexualy Quiz addrs this que extensively.

Speakg of articl, I'd also suggt readg The Makgs of a Homo on a young guy intifyg as gay (I realize you are beyond this step your personal journey, but you still might fd tertg) and well as Makg Sense of Sexual Media. Gay, straight, bi or beyond, the articl Supermol: Creatg & Nurturg Your Own Bt Relatnship Mols and Pothol & Dead Ends: Relatnship Roadblocks to Look Out For brg up important relatnship nsiratns. As I allud to a b the first part of my rponse, when you're queer, n be hard to claim that inty, form that muny and more; beg gay be a huge part of who you are.

WHAT IF YOU ONLY THOUGHT YOU WERE GAY?

The gay muny tends to be close kn, but jt bee you're not datg a guy don't mean you have to be ostracized om ! In fact, when you thk about , the gay muny tends to be a very open and acceptg group. Bulli teased me for beg gay when I was younger, but when a six-year-old boy lls another six-year-old boy gay, he means “weird” or “gross, ” not “has sex wh men.

AM I GAY?

Kids are not gay or straight, they’re jt kids. I wasn’t gay or straight.

Why, then, do adults who knew me as a child sist that I was gay all along? I felt prsured to pick a label and stick wh , and for a long time “gay” worked bee I didn’t thk about much. But the last year or two, I’ve started to rethk my relatnship to the label “gay.

HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY

I hooked up wh trans and nonbary people and stopped scribg myself as gay, preferrg to e the more clive tchall “queer. Often when I tell some people that I’m distancg myself om gay, they immediately suggt I intify as bisexual, or pansexual. I need somethg that means “mostly gay but not fully mted and open to other possibili, ” but, alas, such a niche label has yet to be imaged.