Megan Rapoe: Straight women need to stop claimg they'd ‘go gay’ for her | The Inpennt

Contents:

• BEG GAY FOR SOMEONE
• STRAIGHT WOMEN NEED TO STOP CLAIMG THEY'D ‘GO GAY’ FOR MEGAN RAPOE IF THEY REALLY WANT TO BE LGBT+ ALLI
• CALL ME BY MY PRONOUNS: WHY GAY MEN CALL EACH OTHER "GIRL"
• GO AHEAD. ‘GO GAY’ FOR RUBY ROSE.
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
• WHY DO WOMEN PREFER GAY MEN AS FRIENDS?
• MARCIA GAY HARN

BEG GAY FOR SOMEONE

Gay - attractn to the same genr. If she's not part of LGBT+ (lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr) muny then don't imprs her, chanc are she's not to women.

"Friend 2: "du, you're gay for him.

STRAIGHT WOMEN NEED TO STOP CLAIMG THEY'D ‘GO GAY’ FOR MEGAN RAPOE IF THEY REALLY WANT TO BE LGBT+ ALLI

I'm not gay! "Friend 2: "Well you're beg gay for someone right now... That's a gay relatnship"Friend 1: "Are you sayg I'm gay for her??

CALL ME BY MY PRONOUNS: WHY GAY MEN CALL EACH OTHER "GIRL"

I'm not beg gay for someone! "Friend 2: "du that's gay. It’s impossible to navigate the ter whout stumblg across some versn of the “I’m straight but…”, or “I would turn gay for…” proclamatns that were rife when Ruby Rose joed h TV show Orange Is The New Black three years ago, or pretty much any time Kristen Stewart do anythg.

For many people, sexualy is fluid and exists on a spectm that n’t necsarily be fed by labels, and though LGBT+ visibily is improvg, many of still live muni and fai which homophobia and vlence are monplace. Lbian Visibily Day: Most fluential lbian women of 2019Show all 10Women qualifyg their admiratn for Megan Rapoe wh statements like “I’m not gay” may not be malevolent, but is important to explore why we feel the need to praise acplished or attractive women this way, and what kd of harm might be dog. Jokg that you would “go gay” for certa celebri uch the same kd of subtle homophobia behd now regnisably ridiculo statements such as “no homo”.

GO AHEAD. ‘GO GAY’ FOR RUBY ROSE.

It trivialis sexualy and rerc the harmful stereotype that beg gay is a choice. It’s not unual for queer women to grow up feelg nfed about their sexualy – Megan Rapoe herself says she didn’t realise she was gay until llege – but I’m sure none would say they “turned gay”. Bisexual and pansexual women do not swch between beg “straight” or “gay” wh every new relatnship they pursue.

HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

The trivialisatn of female sexualy, and specifilly queerns, allows to ntually erase the existence of gay women and suggt that one queer female celebry llg another queer female celebry “hot” is jt a “girl csh”, or two female historil figur who wrote tensely affectnate letters and lived together to old age were nothg more than “good iends”.

In a world of “girl csh” and “turng gay”, beg attracted to women is somethg that n be ed to draw an dience, and turned off when the nsequenc get too high. Girl csh and “no homo” pliments imply that the language of love and admiratn should be rerved for romantic enunters.

While those who say they would “turn gay” for Megan Rapoe might feel like they are aligng themselv wh queer women, they may actually be harmg them.

WHY DO WOMEN PREFER GAY MEN AS FRIENDS?

Admtg to a girl csh might seem like a pliment, but advertently unrl the unattractivens of actually beg gay. A mpg trip turns to a ral gay fantasy Yuma X's new mic vio, "Secret Lover. The e of she/her pronouns by cisgenr gay men, along wh words such as "girl" or "honey, " is a long-standg and creasgly visible practice.

MARCIA GAY HARN

For many gay men, g the words wh their iends is a way of embracg femy and showg vulnerabily or affectn to others who share their inti. Creatg a shared culture — cludg language — around femy n be a way of reclaimg the bas for opprsn many gay men have experienced, as well as disptg the harmful genr few if any lguistic practic are all one thg, all the time. It may be time to reevaluate cis gay men’s e of words like "she" and "girl" to make sure they align wh ongog efforts to rpect nonbary genr inti, and avoid makg assumptns about people’s pronouns.

Lguists, social scientists, and crics have observed and studied cis gay men’s e of “she, ” and their asssments pot to the multiple and often nflictg dimensns of the practice. So for even to make sense for gay men to e ‘she, ’ we have to have some kd of associatn wh ‘she, ’ and ually that associatn is femy, whatever that might mean to or our culture.

“Men g women’s pronouns, and women g men’s pronouns, has got an enormo time pth Amerin lbian-gay English. It’s not a recent formatn at all, ” explas William Leap, an emer profsor of anthropology at Amerin Universy and pneerg expert on queer men llg each other "she" or "girl" was historilly a way of protectg themselv as well as buildg muny the ntext of homophobic and vlent mastream culture.