Im gay and Im attracted to my father.. : Sexual Disorr NOS Fom - Psych foms

Contents:

• IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?
• MY DAD COMG OUT AS GAY CHANGED OUR LIV — AND GAVE ME THE COURAGE TO BE MYSELF
• HOW TO TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU ARE GAY
• HOW I ACCINTALLY FOUND OUT MY DAD IS GAY
• IM GAY AND IM ATTRACTED TO MY FATHER..
• DAD, YOU'RE GAY? I AM, TOO
• GROWG UP WH A GAY FATHER – CONFSNS OM A STRAIGHT SON
• THE GAY FATHER I NEVER KNEW
• I'M 57 YEARS OLD AND MY FATHER JT DISOWNED ME FOR BEG GAY

IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?

Are you a dghter whose dad is gay?

Or are you a gay dad?

gay: 1. Most children whose dads are gay were born while their blogil mom and blogil dad were married and livg together. If you have a gay dad or a lbian mom, after they separate, which of them is most likely to remarry or to remarry and then divorce?

MY DAD COMG OUT AS GAY CHANGED OUR LIV — AND GAVE ME THE COURAGE TO BE MYSELF

Lbian moms are more likely than gay dads to marry their same-sex partner. But gay dads are ls likely to get divorced om their hbands than lbian moms are to get divorced om their wiv. Gay men may experience more discrimatn than lbians, pecially if they are parents.

Our society is still ls acceptg of gay men beg fathers than of lbians beg mothers.

But perhaps the most important rearch fdg is that gay dads and their dghters have closer relatnships when dads tell the tth—and the dads are ls clilly prsed than dads who hi this important rmatn om their children (Tornello, 2018). Sadly, gay fathers are more aaid than lbian mothers to tell their children the tth, regardls of their age. So if you as a dghter or as a gay dad are still tiptoeg around the topic, ’s time to give yourselv a gift by gettg this skeleton out of the closet.

HOW TO TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU ARE GAY

(2018) Adult children of gay fathers. Journal of Homosexualy, 65, 1152-1166.

Livg wh homophobic parents n be a paful and difficult suatn. Whether you are gay yourself, have a close loved one or iend who is, or jt support the LGBT movement general, alg wh tolerance is tough.

HOW I ACCINTALLY FOUND OUT MY DAD IS GAY

If your parents have said or done homophobic thgs the past, you might try to ga an unrstandg of their viewpots and work to change them. You may have heard your parents make homophobic ments before, but maybe you don't really unrstand why they feel the way they do.

Start a dialogue wh them about their feelgs about gay people and e active listeng skills to tly hear their si of thgs. Your parents may try to shg off when you ask "Why are you agast gay people? In some s, this might perta to their relig beliefs, but you might also unver a eper, or more personal reason that they are agast gay people.

If your parents are relig, they may have learned that homosexual relatnships, beg transgenr, or beg nonbary are wrong. They may stggle to accept that homosexualy is natural and part of who you are.

IM GAY AND IM ATTRACTED TO MY FATHER..

They may even have a change of heart and stop beg so homophobic. Even if your parents rema homophobic to some gree, they may soften up over time to mata a relatnship wh you.

Also, if your parents are extremely homophobic, you may need to take preutns to protect your own emotnal well-beg and ensure you will still have a home and fancial support spe their beliefs. Article SummaryXDealg wh homophobic parents n be a challenge but try to listen to their views whout argug so you n unrstand their posn.

If you’re gay yourself, make clear that you’re not askg for your parents’ permissn, sce you didn’t choose your sexualy. "I'm an openly gay teen who has stggled wh prsn and suicidal thoughts. I'm gay.

DAD, YOU'RE GAY? I AM, TOO

I n't remember exactly what I unrstood of the word "gay" at that pot my life, but whether me om hearg my classmat e to disparage our peers or the nate unrstandg that s existence our life meant plete and utter change to our fay dynamic, I stantly registered the word as synonymo wh "bad. The word "gay" was not a taboo word our hoe. I never hated to pull asi even the tought bulli after hearg them make fun of our gay classmat to give them a piece of my md, and I preached csantly about why the f-word should be dropped om everyone's vobulari anytime was uttered my prence.

GROWG UP WH A GAY FATHER – CONFSNS OM A STRAIGHT SON

We would se together as adults and share stori om our childhoods about our gay parents that others wouldn't unrstand.

It's te that children of gay adults tend to grow up quicker than most bee we e to know a different world at an early age that some adults are not yet able to fully prehend. You might be feelg nervo, sad, or even aaid to tell your parents that you are gay.

THE GAY FATHER I NEVER KNEW

Have your parents exprsed negative views about gay people the past? Be sure to be selective about the environment which you tell your parents that you’re gay.

Avoid beg alone wh them when you tell them if they are homophobic or vlent.

I’m gay. Your parents will likely have an entire range of qutns to ask you, pecially if they did not spect that you were gay before now. Some might experience nial, but you should reaffirm to them that you are gay, and tell them ’s not their flt and you don’t need unselg, if they suggt that.

I'M 57 YEARS OLD AND MY FATHER JT DISOWNED ME FOR BEG GAY

Your parents may not know many, if any, gay people and may be stgglg wh this news. Collect some pamphlets or articl for parents of gay children and give them to them to look over.

Fd out if there is an anizatn or lol group for parents and fai of gay children, like PFLAG, the area. If you grew up a home wh homophobic parents, know that their reactn might not be ial. You may have never heard them even make a homophobic ment.

If you thk they will be nfed, you might want to be prepared to talk to them about when you first thought that you might be gay. If you are pletely fancially pennt on your fay and you know that they are homophobic, is likely unwise to e out at this time. 3Evaluate their views on gay people.