I'm gay and don't want to patronize bigots. Thanks, Supreme Court - Los Angel Tim

Contents:

• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
• AM I GAY?
• COMG OUT GAY STEP-BY-STEP
• I THK I MIGHT BE GAY OR BI OR TRANS OR QUEER. WHAT DO I DO?
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
• GAY AND CAN'T FD A PARTNER?
• ‘I AM GAY – BUT I WASN’T BORN THIS WAY’
• I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?
• QT MARSHALL SAYS HE PCHED ANTHONY BOWENS’ ‘I’M GAY’ SEGMENT
• THE SOLUTN TO "GAY" INSULTS: FREEDOM OF SPEECH
• LETTERS TO THE EDOR: I’M GAY AND DON’T WANT TO PATRONIZE BIGOTS. THANKS, SUPREME COURT
• JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ASSISTANT KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH MAJOR U.S. PRO LEAGUE TO E OUT AS GAY

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY

Part of realizg you're gay, or bi, or trans, or non-bary, or anythg other than cisgenr and heterosexual is acceptg you’re different—and somewhat separated—om the majory. At the time, there were no real gay role mols except for Graham Norton and Jack om Dawson's Creek—and I certaly didn't intify wh him bee I wasn't a football player. I felt like I was pletely on my rried on until I was 16, when I started gog out to gay bars my hometown.

For the first time I've been able to form a good group of gay iends and create my own support work. I now know there were other kids at my school who were gay, but they didn't e out till much later.

AM I GAY?

Gay - While this adjective has historilly scribed men who are attracted to other men, the term now is ed to refer to anyone who experienc romantic, emotnal, or physil attractn to people of the same genr. Sce genr inty and sexual orientatn are separate, transgenr people n intify as straight, gay, lbian, bisexual, etc.

There are many gay men who say "I'm not part of the scene" -- men who hate gay bars and, prumably, crowds of queer people general. Internalized homophobia -- self-shamg, self-hatred -- leads many gay men, and many queer people general, to recreate their closets long after they're "out" by shunng others, particularly those they nsir "flamboyant. But you mt spend time wh others, whether that means havg a group of gay movie iends or queer gamers or playg on a gay sports team.

COMG OUT GAY STEP-BY-STEP

This parable piece by lbian wrer Sarah Prager go through the lp of great gays who changed the world -- om ventor Alan Turg to Tchaikovsky, the poser, to the Renaissance pater and ventor Leonardo da Vci. Read the numbers: In four years, more than 5, 596 people the Uned Stat had died of AIDS, many of them gay men and transgenr women.

Fd a gay elr who's been where you are and r for your well-beg, someone who unrstands you and never pass judgment, someone who lets you make the mistak you need to make. Tmp has repeatedly attacked transgenr servicemembers, and gay men are still beg hunted and murred Chechnya.

There would be no ternalized self-hatred if no one had ever told you that beg gay is wrong, or that gay sex is disgtg, or that gay men n't feel real love, or that beg transgenr is fake, or that beg nonbary is a mental illns or a ll for attentn. If you thk a word like "gay" or "queer" works for you right now (aga, don't have to work for you forever -- labels do not e wh lifetime ntracts) and you're not ready to tell everyone, simply say out loud to yourself.

I THK I MIGHT BE GAY OR BI OR TRANS OR QUEER. WHAT DO I DO?

Comg out gay refers to the procs of acceptg one's own sexualy and embracg , followed by disclosg to fay, iends and -workers.

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY

Due to different amounts of social and fay prsur that surround each dividual, g out gay is different each stance. The dividual do not have to pletely alter their personaly, they are still who they are, but when you e out gay, do provi an opportuny to:.

GAY AND CAN'T FD A PARTNER?

Oftentim when a person out gay, they feel isolated and different regardls of where they live and who they surround themselv wh.

The clu gay muny centers and gay onle muni, where one n fd others alg wh siar issu who n offer some support. Any person who has e out gay has alt wh a certa amount of strs alg wh the reactn of his or her loved on.

If a person's fay do not take kdly to the news, they should try to te their fay regardg their liftyle and maybe seek out a support program at a lol gay muny center. The one mon theme that seems to be prent amongst all dividuals who e out gay is the liberatn of no longer havg to lie or hi the tth.

‘I AM GAY – BUT I WASN’T BORN THIS WAY’

A gay person is someone who is attracted to people of their same genr, and the term is often ed to scribe men who are attracted to other men. Choose a iend or fay member you know you n tst, who don't have any homophobic tennci and will have your bt tert md. ” Believe Out Loud has a great map for fdg a church near you, and Gay Church also has a search functn.

I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

Unls your spoe shar their sexual orientatn wh you, there is no way to know for sure if they are gay. Among the upl, when the gay, lbian, or bisexual partner out, a third of the upl break up immediately; another third stay together for one to two years and then spl; the remag third try to make their marriag work.

QT MARSHALL SAYS HE PCHED ANTHONY BOWENS’ ‘I’M GAY’ SEGMENT

There's no qutn that learng your partner is gay when you believed them to be straight n be extremely difficult. People do not choose who they are attracted to, so make sure to not direct homophobic backlash towards your partner.

THE SOLUTN TO "GAY" INSULTS: FREEDOM OF SPEECH

OK, so, you’re gay, and you want to fd a partner and eventually a hband; someone wh whom to share your life. As an openly gay man wh over 30 years of experience as a therapist, I have seen sr of sgle gay men sabotage their efforts to fd a partner, placg obstacl their own path—whout havg the slightt ia as to what they are dog and why.

LETTERS TO THE EDOR: I’M GAY AND DON’T WANT TO PATRONIZE BIGOTS. THANKS, SUPREME COURT

Fortunately, I have also learned how to intify and name the self-featg and often hidn hurdl—and have disvered that they are beliefs that too many gay men repeat to themselv, often whout even knowg . In my experience, this ternalized belief is the poison that prevents some gay men om buildg a healthy relatnship, and also why many ms up the on they already have. Some of have been bullied as children; physilly, verbally, and emotnally abed at tenr ag by our peers and fay members for beg gay before we even regnized and unrstood our same-sex attractns.

Sadly, the wounds are difficult to heal, and as a rult, n leave gay men wh the sense that we are unlovable and th unworthy of love, affectn, and happs.

JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ASSISTANT KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH MAJOR U.S. PRO LEAGUE TO E OUT AS GAY

For sure, so much of the gay male world is way too foced on looks, youth, the gym, partyg, and fast hookups; so searchg for Mr.