My aterny years as an out gay man |

Contents:

• THE FRAT HOE IS THE LAST GAY BAR STANDG GARN GROVE
• THE SECRET GAY HISTORY OF AN AMERIN FRATERNY
• THE FRAT HOE IS THE LAST GAY BAR STANDG GARN GROVE
• MY ATERNY YEARS AS AN OUT GAY MAN
• TOWN, DC’S LARGT GAY BAR, IS CLOSG. WHAT DO  MEAN?

THE FRAT HOE IS THE LAST GAY BAR STANDG GARN GROVE

M., but Shelly Heier and Cris McKnight — “two straight chicks nng a gay bar, ” they quip — are bit the afternoons, gettg the place clean, stocked and ready for historilly nservative Garn Grove — as recently as last Tuday the Cy Council rejected a motn to fly a rabow flag at Cy Hall, but agreed to light up a clock tower the same lors for Pri Month — don’t have the welg reputatn of, say, Laguna Beach, Long Beach or Santa Ana, once boasted as many as 15 gay bars, acrdg to a recent had nam like the Mug, the Happy Hour, DOK Wt, the Upbeat, Rumour Hazz and the Knotty Keg.

“Everybody knows when you’re gog to Garn Grove and you’re gay [that] you’re gog to the Frat Hoe bee that’s the only thg open, gay, Garn Grove, ” said Monique Chantel Dupre, a drag performer featured the “Frat Hoe” documentary, which bowed at the recent Newport Beach Film Ftival. “I’d known for a while that there was a gay bar a few blocks om my hoe, and I thought was jt so bizarre that there was a church next to , ” she said. But, eventually they stopped g at all after she kept rejectg their promised her father that she’d “keep open and keep gay.

THE SECRET GAY HISTORY OF AN AMERIN FRATERNY

“Back the day, [LGBTQ people] didn’t have nowhere to go, so this was a safe place and a safe haven for the gay people to e, ” Heier said. ”The days, their ctomers tend to be majory Lato men, and while they ed to be open 365 days of the year, they’re now closed Tudays bee there isn’t enough apps, social media, latg real tate sts sparked by gentrifitn, and creasg acceptance of the gay muny are leadg to ls patronage of tradnal gay bars, which mt also pete wh the predomantly straight bars’ gay night said that if wasn’t for the fact that she owns the buildg, the Frat Hoe might not still be bs. “We stay open maly bee of our longevy and the history that we have, ” Heier few tradnal gay bars around the unty that rema have bee, many ways, isolated pockets of the LGBTQ muny, acrdg to Lus Hilrbrand, a film and media studi profsor at UC Irve.

’s gay bar scene, told matchbooks »Sarah Nguyen, who was named Ms. Orange County Gay Pri last year, said she didn’t know her lol history until she began workg across the unty le — at the LGBTQ Center Long Beach.

Orange County Gay Pri last year and is popularly known as “Johnny Wt Street, ” after Laguna Beach’s famoly gay beach — said he didn’t learn about this queer history until he was olr.

THE FRAT HOE IS THE LAST GAY BAR STANDG GARN GROVE

“It’s kd of sad bee you hear the legendary stori of Garn Grove beg as gay as Long Beach and...

Jonathan Alexanr, a UCI English profsor, said that historilly bars were one of the few plac that gay and lbian people uld meet public spac. Bee cross-drsg and dancg wh same-sex partners was illegal much of the untry before the gay civil rights movement took hold, the bars often had to disguise themselv, explaed Alexanr.

MY ATERNY YEARS AS AN OUT GAY MAN

But I soon cid I was too gay, too ol, and too “progrsive” for that keg-soaked scene and, as soon as I uld, moved to New York Cy (along wh everybody else gay, ol, and progrsive), where when people talk about “Greek life, ” they ually mean their trip to Mykonos.

WE ARE an all-male clothg optnal bed and breakfast retreat terg to gay, bi, and straight men 21 years or olr. A world which homosexualy is taboo but cross-drsg and semi-naked wrtlg are acceptable and paradg your penis and tticl is almost rigur.

This is not a gay g of age story.

TOWN, DC’S LARGT GAY BAR, IS CLOSG. WHAT DO  MEAN?

No, this is a story about thgs I saw and heard and experienced, but don’t end wh me steppg bravely forward and proudly clarg my homosexualy to the world and fdg my place . Some of the iends did turn out to be gay, though I had no ia at the time, as they, I thk, had srcely any ia about me. Afterward, my broad-shoulred stoner iend sually told Jason that “What we did was okay, bee I heard you have to do three tim wh a guy to make you gay.

In the aterny which I belonged, a small subset of iends began referrg to the annual fall visatn of alumni as “Homog Weekend. ) he was homosexual.