For most kids, the social prsur of middle school are tough enough. But an creasg number of young teenagers, some as young 10 or 11, are g out as gay or lbian middle school. Beno Denizet-Lewis, who wrote about the trend the New York Tim Magaze, discs what social factors uld be leadg young people to e out earlier.
Contents:
- 4 RIDICULO QUTNS PEOPLE ASKED ME WHEN MY 11 YEAR-OLD CAME OUT AS GAY
- AT WHAT AGE DO KIDS INTIFY AS GAY?
- GAY TT FOR AG 11 TO 18
- WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"
- KAL PENN OUT AS GAY, SHAR HOW HIS 11-YEAR RELATNSHIP STARTED WH NASCAR
- GAY KIDS COMG OUT YOUNGER, BUT PARENTS ASK "HOW DO YOU KNOW?"
- GAY YOUTH COMG OUT IN MIDDLE SCHOOL
- HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOUR CHILD IS GAY, LBIAN OR BISEXUAL
4 RIDICULO QUTNS PEOPLE ASKED ME WHEN MY 11 YEAR-OLD CAME OUT AS GAY
One of the ma issu wh trackg when kids intify as gay is that most people assume that all kids start out straight. * gay 11 years *
When my son was 11, he me out to me and my hband as gay. In fact, some of the people askg the qutns are gay or queer themselv. Instead, ’s to expla why some of the mon qutns people may ask are homophobic or heterosexist and/or have a pletely flawed premise to beg wh.
AT WHAT AGE DO KIDS INTIFY AS GAY?
Kal Penn, most known for his role as Kumar Patel alongsi John Cho’s Harold Lee the h “Harold and Kumar” film anchise, has e out as gay and announced his recent engagement. It started wh NASCAR: In an terview wh People, Penn, 44, teased some tails about his new book “You Can’t Be Ser,” where he talks about his sexualy, fay and his first date wh his partner Josh, whom he met while workg the Whe Hoe unr the Obama Admistratn. “I'm really exced to share our relatnship wh rears,” Penn said. * gay 11 years *
“Do you thk he’s gay? ), their first qutn was whether I thought he was gay.
My hband and I were not surprised the least that our son is gay. ” And he also had said and done thgs the past that my our gaydar picked up on.
GAY TT FOR AG 11 TO 18
Gay kids are g out earlier — sometim middle school — and many are fdg acceptance. But some parents and teachers wonr if the kids are too young to really know their sexual orientatn. * gay 11 years *
So, if we lived a society that really rporated the ia of sexual fluidy to s unrstandg of what labels like “gay” mean, and also crilly reflected on the difference between inty and behavr, this uld almost be a legimate qutn. It’s basilly sayg his gayns is not “real, ” which is not okay wh me. Maybe he will intify as gay his whole life, and then one day fall love wh a woman while ntug to intify as gay.
Even if he do start to intify as straight a few years, that don’t necsarily make him ls gay now. “Don’t you thk he’s too young to know if he’s gay? Assumptns about gayns have an experiential element to them that those about straightns don’t.
By this I mean that straight people will ask gay people qutns like, “If you never had sex, how do you know you’re gay? “Do you thk he me out bee you guys glorify gayns your hoe? There is no straight “basele” om which gayns viat.
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"
* gay 11 years *
In terms of glorifyg gayns, we are generally too by glorifyg oby to glorify gayns, but I gus we n spare the time.
KAL PENN OUT AS GAY, SHAR HOW HIS 11-YEAR RELATNSHIP STARTED WH NASCAR
As a parent, you probably want what's bt for your child no matter what. But if your child out as gay, lbian, or bisexual, might e as a shock—many parents feel unprepared, upset, or even a ltle nfed. By learng a... * gay 11 years *
Serly though, even if we put a huge premium on gayns (which we don’t — fact, neher my hband nor I are gay), would be a small weight on the sle pared to society’s premium on straightns and heteronormativy. In fact, he probably se more sual homophobia than most adults. Do you know how many tim they e “gay” as a slur, or even say “fag”?
If anyone has every centive to not intify as gay, is a sixth-gra boy. ” Rather, I believe the are mon qutns most folks would have when an 11 year-old out as gay.
When did you first know that you were gay?
GAY KIDS COMG OUT YOUNGER, BUT PARENTS ASK "HOW DO YOU KNOW?"
Lolo is an openly gay 11-year-old boy tryg to fally nvce Max, his first love, to go public wh their relatnship at the school party. * gay 11 years *
Some kids know they are gay high school but don’t tell anyone until years later. One of the ma issu wh trackg when kids start to intify as gay is that most people assume that all kids start out straight. The realy is that many kids know they are gay at a younger age than you might expect – even elementary school.
They found that one percent of kids ag 9-10 intify as gay, bisexual, or transgenr. 48% of College Stunts Knew They Were Gay High School. While a portn of kids intify as gay elementary school, what is the age when most kids e out as gay?
That beg said, some rearchers om the Sexualy Informatn and Edutn Council of the Uned Stat talked wh llege stunts who intify as gay and bisexual to learn when they were aware of their sexual preferenc.
GAY YOUTH COMG OUT IN MIDDLE SCHOOL
48% of gay and bisexual llege stunts knew their sexual preferenc high school.
20% of gay and bisexual men knew junr high school pared to six percent of women.
HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOUR CHILD IS GAY, LBIAN OR BISEXUAL
17% of gay and bisexual men knew gra school pared wh 11% of women. This data prov the vast majory of LGBTQ+ kids intify as gay before they leave for llege – or intify their sexual preferenc shortly after.