Gay Conversn: I Slept Wh Over 200 Men, Now I'm a Happily Married Heterosexual Dad

Contents:

• GAY CONVERSN: I SLEPT WH OVER 200 MEN, NOW I'M A HAPPILY MARRIED HETEROSEXUAL DAD
• LEGIMACY OF ‘CTOMER’ SUPREME COURT GAY RIGHTS SE RAIS ETHIL AND LEGAL FLAGS
• FEATURED STORI

GAY CONVERSN: I SLEPT WH OVER 200 MEN, NOW I'M A HAPPILY MARRIED HETEROSEXUAL DAD

"Navratilova, a trailblazer for gay rights, tweeted a one-word rponse: "Yik... Was she accg me of turng her hband gay? Like the time he told me he had gone on a porn se to see how gay men “do .

I’ve known upl, gay and straight, who were open relatnships. The steam room and sna at my lol Y served as a kd of after-work social club for men who were gay ― and for those who had wiv and kids.

I knew a gay imprar when I lived San Francis the 1980s.

LEGIMACY OF ‘CTOMER’ SUPREME COURT GAY RIGHTS SE RAIS ETHIL AND LEGAL FLAGS

One night he threw a dner party for his gay circle of iends at Trar Vic’s. In this example, you happened to see him naked a settg that n be sexually arog for a lot of gay man. Jt as you didn’t choose to be gay and have the feelgs you have.

Jam Parker abandoned his gay liftyle and now has a fay. In an effort to prent both sis of the gay nversn bate, IBT ved a man whose sexualy changed through therapy to tell his story.

But that's what happened – fact I changed had hundreds of homosexual partners, I eventually married a woman and had a child. I knew I was gay at about 10 or 11. I was fely a number six on the Ksey Sle – an exclively homosexual male wh no heterosexual sir whatsoever.

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I often thought of suici, ocsnally self-harmed and had a growg problem wh alhol and gay porn. But mum and dad were amazg; they said they had known I was gay and then affirmed their unndnal love for me. The 'g out' procs wasn't tortuo or 18 I moved to London om the north of England and fully embraced my gay inty.

I beme the first person to live openly as a gay man the sectn of the universy I attend, and even tablished an LGBT group for other stunts, actively preachg agast those who suggted that beg gay was somehow a choice, or even wrong. I was born gay, was all I'd ever known – end of.

Even though I'd been raised a Christian and attend an LGBT Christian Movement London, I reveled the pal's gay scene and led a very promiscuo liftyle. I reveled the gay liftyle - beg gay was all I'd ever knownJam ParkerI realised I had some issu, centrg on mment.

I had an nate fear of men – not of their homophobia, but the real thg: a chasm between me and the normal heterosexual male (Ksey's so-lled number on). There was nothg btal or harrowg about the help I received; the horror stori you hear om some of those gay-straight 'nversn' documentari don't apply here.

It was simply a mixture of gnive therapy, to challenge my re beliefs and root out one-sid thkg; behavural therapy, to change problematic actns traed through years of rercement; and EMDR, which rhythmic eye movements to dampen the power of trmatic therapist and I never foced solely on my beg sexually attracted to men, but my "beg gay" had to be part of the dialogue, otherwise I'd have been leavg a part of my life at the door. At the age of 46, I've never felt better my own ParkerI began to see that maybe, jt maybe, I was never tly gay and that there was a man as real and as noble as the men I had often admired, worshipped and yearned for hidn ep wh me, wag to be eed and released.

Jam Parker ed to be a regular London's gay bars, and revelled the gay scene. I don't miss the gay liftyle I left behd –when I vised my ex-boyiend, five years after therapy, brought to home to me the drawbacks of that life.