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Contents:

• AM I GAY ENOUGH? WHAT TO KNOW ABOUT QUEER INTY
• AM I GAY ENOUGH?
• AM I GAY ENOUGH?
• NOT GAY ENOUGH
• 'NOT GAY ENOUGH': DUTCH THORI CHALLENGE ASYLUM-SEEKERS TO PROVE THEIR SEXUALY
• HERE'S MY REVIEW: NOT GAY ENOUGH
• NOT GAY ENOUGH, NOT JEWISH ENOUGH? RUBY ROSE IS STILL AN TERTG CHOICE TO PLAY BATWOMAN
• HALSEY RPONDS TO BUZZFEED ARTICLE, SAYS "SORRY I'M NOT GAY ENOUGH FOR YOU."
• ETERNALS REVIEW: NOT GAY ENOUGH
• THE INSANY OF DEMOCRATS ATTACKG BUTTIGIEG—FOR NOT BEG GAY ENOUGHOPPRESSION OLYMPICSMY MUNY HAS NEVER HAD A PRINTIAL NDIDATE TAKEN SERLY, AND ’S NOT SOMETHG I IMAGED HAPPENG MY LIFETIME.JOHN ARAVOSISUPDATED MAR. 31, 2019 2:29AM EDT / PUBLISHED MAR. 30, 2019 10:58PM EDT OPNYURI GRIPAS/RTERSAFTER WEEKS OF GLOWG PRS VERAGE OF PETE BUTTIGIEG AS HE’S SHOT UP THE DEMOCRATIC 2020 FIELD, THE “PETE’S NOT PERFECT” POSSE HAS KICKED TO HIGH GEAR WH AN UNUALLY PERSONAL CRICISM: BUTTIGIEG, THEY SAY, ISN’T GAY ENOUGH.“IS PETE BUTTIGIEG JT ANOTHER WHE MALE NDIDATE, OR DO HIS GAYNS UNT AS DIVERSY?” SLATE ASKED THE HEADLE (SCE CHANGED) OF A MUCH DISCSED PIECE THIS WEEK BY STAFF WRER CHRISTA CTECCI. THE FACT THAT THE PRS AND POLIL CLASS ARE EVEN TAKG BUTTIGIEG’S NDIDACY SERLY IS A HISTORIC FIRST. AN OPENLY GAY NDIDATE HAS NEVER QUALIFIED FOR A PRINTIAL BATE, LET ALONE BEE PRINT (THE JURY IS STILL OUT ON JAM BUCHANAN, BUT WHATEVER HIS ORIENTATN, HE WASN’T LEADG ANY PRI PARAS 1857).YET SOME LIBERAL VOIC ARE NOW DISUNTG BUTTIGIEG’S SEXUAL ORIENTATN (“STILL A WHE MAN”), OR AT LEAST DIMISHG THE HISTORIC DISCRIMATN GAYS HAVE FACED AS PARED WH WOMEN AND PEOPLE OF LOR (“MOST OF THE TIME GENR AND RACE ARE WAY HEAVIER BURNS THAN SEXUAL ORIENTATN THE PROFSNAL AND POLIL ENVIRONMENT,” AND “THERE WAS A TIME WHEN WAS ILLEGAL FOR TO MARRY TERRACIALLY, WOMEN AND POC ULD NOT EVEN OWN PROPERTY BUT A GAY WHE MAN ULD”). FOR THOSE CRICS, HIS RACE AND GENR NEGATE THE LTLE CRED THEY ACRD HIM FOR BEG GAY. ALL OF THIS SEEMS LIKE AN ATTEMPT TO WRE BUTTIGIEG OFF AS “JT ANOTHER WHE GUY,” STANDG THE WAY OF MORE DIVERSE NDIDAT. IT’S THE OPPRSN OLYMPICS AT S WORST: IN A BATTLE TO PROVE THAT ONE MUNY IS MORE DISCRIMATED AGAST THAN ANOTHER, WE TEAR EACH OTHER APART RATHER THAN UNE MON E. THE ARGUMENTS AGAST BUTTIGIEG FALL ROUGHLY TO FOUR TEGORI. THE FIRST IS THAT BUTTIGIEG ACTS TOO STRAIGHT TO HAVE ANY GAY CRED. CTECCI CLAIMED THAT SCE BUTTIGIEG APPEARS STRAIGHT (HE REGISTERS ON MY GAYDAR JT FE) HE MT NOT HAVE SUFFERED THE SAME DISCRIMATN THAT MORE OBVLY GAY OR TRANSGENR PEOPLE (OR PEOPLE OF LOR) FACE ON A DAILY BASIS: “A GAY MAN WHO NFORMS TO A CRIL MASS OF GENRED EXPECTATNS N MOVE THROUGH LIFE WHOUT HIS SEXUALY ATTENDG EVERY TERACTN, EVEN AFTER HE OUT. BUTTIGIEG, FOR STANCE, WOULD REGISTER ON ONLY THE MOST FELY TUNED GAYDAR…. HE MIGHT NOT BE UP AGAST QUE THE SAME HURDL THAT A GAY NDIDATE WHOUT SUCH STURDY TI TO STRAIGHT CULTURE WOULD BE.”I WAS RAISED AN UPPER-MIDDLE-CLASS FAY THE CHIGO SUBURBS. NO ONE KNEW I WAS GAY. I WAS LONELY, AND SPENT EVERY WAKG MUTE AAID SOMEONE WOULD UNVER MY SECRET. MY TEEN MD WAS SURE I WOULD END MY LIFE BEFORE I H 30 BEE EVERYONE WOULD FIGURE OUT THAT I WAS GAY, AND I’D LOSE MY FAY AND MY JOB. FORTUNATELY, THAT WAS WRONG, BUT GROWG UP LGBT ISN’T EASY. BEYOND THE QUTN OF WHETHER BUTTIGIEG PRENTS AS GAY ENOUGH—WHATEVER THAT MEANS—IS THE UGLY NOTN THAT GAYS HAVEN’T FACED THE SAME LEVEL OF HISTORIC DISCRIMATN AS OTHERS. WE WERE TARGETED THE HOLOT, SUBJECTED TO ICE-PICK LOBOTOMY “CUR” THE 1950S, FALL VICTIM TO HORRIFIC HATE CRIM, AND ONLY RECENTLY WON THE RIGHT TO MARRY OR ADOPT. WE’VE SUFFERED ENOUGH TO EARN OUR SEAT AT THE TABLE. BUTTIGIEG’S CRICS ALSO ALLEGE THAT BEG GAY ISN’T IMPORTANT TO HIM. TEN DAYS BEFORE SAME-SEX MARRIAGE WAS LEGALIZED 2015— THE MIDDLE OF HIS RE-ELECTN MPAIGN FOR MAYOR—BUTTIGIEG ME OUT TO HIS NSTUENTS AN SAY THE SOUTH BEND TRIBUNE. HE WROTE ABOUT NOT KNOWG ANYONE GAY HIGH SCHOOL, AND HOW “FOR A LOL STUNT STGGLG WH HER SEXUALY, MIGHT BE HELPFUL FOR AN OPENLY GAY MAYOR TO SEND THE MSAGE THAT HER MUNY WILL ALWAYS HAVE A PLACE FOR HER.” BUTTIGIEG HAS SCE MARRIED, AND REGULARLY MENTNS HIS HBAND CHASTEN MPAIGN SPEECH AND TERVIEWS AS PART OF A BROAR DISCSN OF THE IMPORTANCE OF EEDOM FOR LGBT AMERINS. IN A UNTRY WHICH SAME-SEX MARRIAGE HAS BEEN LEGAL FOR LS THAN FOUR YEARS, THAT IS NO SMALL ACT. ESPECIALLY FOR A SMALL-TOWN MAYOR EP-RED INDIANA, WHERE LGBT ARCH-NEMIS MIKE PENCE ONCE PRID AS ERNOR.THERE’S ALSO THE SUGGTN THAT BEG WHE AND MALE TMPS THE FACT THAT BUTTIGIEG IS GAY. WHE MEN HAVE ALREADY HAD THEIR SHOT AT THE PRINCY, THE ARGUMENT GO, AND ’S TIME FOR A WOMAN TO HAVE HERS. IT’S PELLG LOGIC. WE’VE HAD WHE MALE PRINTS FOR 224 OF THE LAST 230 YEARS. AND WHILE WE FALLY HAD A BLACK PRINT WH BARACK OBAMA, WE’VE STILL NEVER ELECTED A WOMAN. BUT WE’VE ALSO NEVER HAD A LATO PRINT, OR AN ASIAN-AMERIN PRINT, OR A JEWISH PRINT, OR A MLIM PRINT OR AN OPENLY LGBT PRINT. MAYOR PETE HAS TOUCHED A CHORD WH MANY DEMOCRATS BEE HE’S AN AMAZG NDIDATE WH A PELLG PERSONAL STORY. HE’S A LENNIAL WAR VETERAN (WHO SERVED AFGHANISTAN UNR THE “DON’T ASK, DON’T TELL” POLICY), SPEAKS SEVEN LANGUAG, IS A RHOS SCHOLAR, AND HAS AN ALMOST MR. ROGERS-LIKE MEANOR THAT’S AS LMG AS IS PTIVATG. MAYBE HE’S SO POPULAR BEE HE’S JT THAT GOOD. DEMOCRATS HAVE BEEN BLSED WH AN EMBARRASSMENT OF RICH HEADG TO 2020. WE’VE GOT OUR MOST DIVERSE SLATE OF NDIDAT EVER, AND ALSO OUR MOST APPEALG. LIKE MANY ON THE LEFT, I HAVE A FAVORE, BUT I’D BE HAPPY WH MOST ANYONE CURRENTLY NNG. STILL, AS A GAY MAN, BUTTIGIEG’S NDIDACY HAS STCK A PERSONAL CHORD. MY MUNY HAS NEVER HAD A PRINTIAL NDIDATE TAKEN SERLY, AND ’S NOT SOMETHG I IMAGED HAPPENG MY LIFETIME. THAT DON’T MEAN I’LL VOTE FOR MAYOR PETE SIMPLY BEE HE’S GAY, BUT HIS SEXUAL ORIENTATN MATTERS, AND SHOULDN’T BE THE SUBJECT OF RISN OM OUR ALLI. AS 538’S NATE SILVER PUT , “’S A BIG AL THAT AN OPENLY GAY MAN IS A SER NTENR FOR A MAJOR PARTY’S PRINTIAL NOMATN, AND IF YOU’RE A LIBERAL WHO WANTS TO EQUIVOTE ABOUT THAT TOO MUCH, YOU N PRETTY MUCH FUCK RIGHT OFF.” JOHN ARAVOSIS
• HER MY REVIEW NOT GAY ENOUGH MEME GENERATOR
• SYNONYMS FOR NOT GAY
• AND HER MY REVIEW - NOT GAY ENOUGH

AM I GAY ENOUGH? WHAT TO KNOW ABOUT QUEER INTY

)Sce I started acceptg that I was queer and havg queer enunters, I have been told numero tim that, as a super femme cis woman, I'm "not gay enough. —Devan, 26It sounds like you already know this, but let me say loud and clear: There is no such thg as not beg “gay enough. ” Many people the LGBTQ muny feel the same way you do, whether they’re fellow femm who don’t “appear” gay, bisexual people hetero relatnships, gay men who don’t f stereotypil standards, and so many others.

In fact, gay people who don’t exprs their gayns wh an explicly “queer athetic” often experience what some psychologists ll “queer imposter syndrome. A uple of lumns ago, Kira, a “femme-prentg queer, ” told me about her “extremely awkward ‘look, I'm gay! What do you do if you don’t want to bee a Profsnal Femme Gay Woman?

AM I GAY ENOUGH?

Reachg beyond your lol muny and fillg your social feeds wh queer folks who look all kds of ways n serve as a daily affirmatn that you are gay enough, exactly the way you are. By now, you may have heard that some queer people thk that Pete Buttigieg, the former mayor of South Bend, Indiana, and a current ntenr for the Democratic Printial nomatn, is not gay enough. ” I am here to notn that some of thk Buttigieg is not gay enough has an intifiable relatnship to the facts, which are that, for the purpos of this discsn, people who grew up queer this untry fall to two distct tegori of experience.

And then there is the other experience, the life of blendg , only to surprise your classmat—or, more likely, former classmat who follow you on social media—wh the revelatn that you are gay. Recently, a iend mentned that, after thirty years of teachg, she had mentned her wife class for the first time, surprisg her stunts wh the revelatn that she was gay—and I found myself momentarily marvellg at havg the optn to e out to one’s stunts or part of his mpaign, and velopg his polil persona, Buttigieg has repeatedly told a pellg story about his g out.

AM I GAY ENOUGH?

He also waed until after attus toward homosexualy had changed and same-sex marriage had bee legal more than half the stat and was regnized by the feral ernment—all thanks to the urage and work of people who me out before Buttigieg did. Buttigieg embodi the send kd of gay experience and the send kd of gay polics. It’s offerg the promise that our first gay first fay might actually be a straight one.

”What mak Buttigieg an easy and reassurg choice for the olr, whe, straight people, and a disturbg possibily for the queer people who seem to be cricizg him for not beg gay enough?

He is an old polician a young man’s body, a straight polician a gay man’s body. For me, the rponse of feelg like a d right after I wonr if I’m gay enough to do this work. It tak me lisends to get om receivg that well-tentned feedback to me not feelg that I’m [gay/smart/relatable/f/whatever] enough.

NOT GAY ENOUGH

Why I don’t feel gay enoughI’m 45-years-old and am new to the whole livg-life-as-a-gay-man thg. In Augt 2019, while we were livg Wellgton (New Zealand) on her diplomatic postg, my then wife and I cid to separate, and I me out of the closet to live as a gay man.

I spected that I was gay when I was 14-years-old. Wh that short synopsis of my life, I feel that there’s evince to say that I’m not gay enough. That evince clus: I'm a mted monogamo relatnship (and open/polyamoro relatnships feel more mon)I me out my 40s, not my teens or 20sWe have childrenAddnally:I've never taken party dgsI've never been to a circu partyI don’t really re for gay/queer pop culture ins We live the suburbs, not the gay area of Canberra.

The evince that says that I am gay is:I enjoy gay sex I've always enjoyed gay pornI say I am.

'NOT GAY ENOUGH': DUTCH THORI CHALLENGE ASYLUM-SEEKERS TO PROVE THEIR SEXUALY

I often engage some good, old-fashned parative gayns. I’m not even a real gay’ => ‘It’s bt that you stop dog this work’. I didn’t feel that I was gay enough.

When to feelg gay enough, I’m still tryg to fd the thory who mak the l. I thought that surely there mt be a central thory who term the agreed global standards for what is sufficiently gay.

No one is makg the l of gayns that I’m applyg myself to.

HERE'S MY REVIEW: NOT GAY ENOUGH

I may or may not be gay enough to do this work, but I certaly am me enough. In , I shared my experience and I asked them to share their experience of not feelg gay enough wh me for this post.

NOT GAY ENOUGH, NOT JEWISH ENOUGH? RUBY ROSE IS STILL AN TERTG CHOICE TO PLAY BATWOMAN

Sentiments like:not feelg wele gay spac bee they don’t f the mouldbeg a gay Christian, but not feelg that they belong eher the gay muny or their fah muny. Feelg not gay enough bee they don’t own a hoe Provcetown or Fire Island at their stage of life. Feelg a growg tratn that gay seems synonymo wh ripped whe men that exclus all others.

Feelg not gay enough for preferrg potluck dners wh iends to gog to gay clubs.

HALSEY RPONDS TO BUZZFEED ARTICLE, SAYS "SORRY I'M NOT GAY ENOUGH FOR YOU."

Feelg too gay bee they don’t feel mascule upsets me to hear that others do not feel that they belong a muny which po visibily, tolerance and acceptance of all bee they feel that they don’t feel gay enough or feel too gay to be those are a lot of reasons for this. An obv and easy target is the media – social and tradnal – we nsume pictg and idolisg narrow fns of gayns.

Qutns for you:Do you feel that you’re not gay enough too?

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Conversely, do you feel too gay?

How do feelg not gay enough/too gay starve your nnectn and feed your lonels? Please, jo me om Thursday 1 December 2022 for Am I gay enough?

JOIN THE MAILING LISTBUY ME A COFFEE TO SAY THANKSREAD ANOTHER BLOGLISTEN TO THE PODCASTGET IN CONTACTHOMEImportant notice: All views exprsed above are my own/the thors and are tend to support, challenge and spire gay men to nsir the issue of lonels and crease awarens of the need for thentic nnectn wh themselv, wh others and their muni as an antidote to chronic lonels. After the story of the young boy askg Buttigieg about g out Colorado, and the latt story of the Bernie staffer fired for makg sexist homophobic jok, seems like now is the time. What's stck me this electn is the gree to which anti-gay rhetoric has e om all sis.

THE INSANY OF DEMOCRATS ATTACKG BUTTIGIEG—FOR NOT BEG GAY ENOUGHOPPRESSION OLYMPICSMY MUNY HAS NEVER HAD A PRINTIAL NDIDATE TAKEN SERLY, AND ’S NOT SOMETHG I IMAGED HAPPENG MY LIFETIME.JOHN ARAVOSISUPDATED MAR. 31, 2019 2:29AM EDT / PUBLISHED MAR. 30, 2019 10:58PM EDT OPNYURI GRIPAS/RTERSAFTER WEEKS OF GLOWG PRS VERAGE OF PETE BUTTIGIEG AS HE’S SHOT UP THE DEMOCRATIC 2020 FIELD, THE “PETE’S NOT PERFECT” POSSE HAS KICKED TO HIGH GEAR WH AN UNUALLY PERSONAL CRICISM: BUTTIGIEG, THEY SAY, ISN’T GAY ENOUGH.“IS PETE BUTTIGIEG JT ANOTHER WHE MALE NDIDATE, OR DO HIS GAYNS UNT AS DIVERSY?” SLATE ASKED THE HEADLE (SCE CHANGED) OF A MUCH DISCSED PIECE THIS WEEK BY STAFF WRER CHRISTA CTECCI. THE FACT THAT THE PRS AND POLIL CLASS ARE EVEN TAKG BUTTIGIEG’S NDIDACY SERLY IS A HISTORIC FIRST. AN OPENLY GAY NDIDATE HAS NEVER QUALIFIED FOR A PRINTIAL BATE, LET ALONE BEE PRINT (THE JURY IS STILL OUT ON JAM BUCHANAN, BUT WHATEVER HIS ORIENTATN, HE WASN’T LEADG ANY PRI PARAS 1857).YET SOME LIBERAL VOIC ARE NOW DISUNTG BUTTIGIEG’S SEXUAL ORIENTATN (“STILL A WHE MAN”), OR AT LEAST DIMISHG THE HISTORIC DISCRIMATN GAYS HAVE FACED AS PARED WH WOMEN AND PEOPLE OF LOR (“MOST OF THE TIME GENR AND RACE ARE WAY HEAVIER BURNS THAN SEXUAL ORIENTATN THE PROFSNAL AND POLIL ENVIRONMENT,” AND “THERE WAS A TIME WHEN WAS ILLEGAL FOR TO MARRY TERRACIALLY, WOMEN AND POC ULD NOT EVEN OWN PROPERTY BUT A GAY WHE MAN ULD”). FOR THOSE CRICS, HIS RACE AND GENR NEGATE THE LTLE CRED THEY ACRD HIM FOR BEG GAY. ALL OF THIS SEEMS LIKE AN ATTEMPT TO WRE BUTTIGIEG OFF AS “JT ANOTHER WHE GUY,” STANDG THE WAY OF MORE DIVERSE NDIDAT. IT’S THE OPPRSN OLYMPICS AT S WORST: IN A BATTLE TO PROVE THAT ONE MUNY IS MORE DISCRIMATED AGAST THAN ANOTHER, WE TEAR EACH OTHER APART RATHER THAN UNE MON E. THE ARGUMENTS AGAST BUTTIGIEG FALL ROUGHLY TO FOUR TEGORI. THE FIRST IS THAT BUTTIGIEG ACTS TOO STRAIGHT TO HAVE ANY GAY CRED. CTECCI CLAIMED THAT SCE BUTTIGIEG APPEARS STRAIGHT (HE REGISTERS ON MY GAYDAR JT FE) HE MT NOT HAVE SUFFERED THE SAME DISCRIMATN THAT MORE OBVLY GAY OR TRANSGENR PEOPLE (OR PEOPLE OF LOR) FACE ON A DAILY BASIS: “A GAY MAN WHO NFORMS TO A CRIL MASS OF GENRED EXPECTATNS N MOVE THROUGH LIFE WHOUT HIS SEXUALY ATTENDG EVERY TERACTN, EVEN AFTER HE OUT. BUTTIGIEG, FOR STANCE, WOULD REGISTER ON ONLY THE MOST FELY TUNED GAYDAR…. HE MIGHT NOT BE UP AGAST QUE THE SAME HURDL THAT A GAY NDIDATE WHOUT SUCH STURDY TI TO STRAIGHT CULTURE WOULD BE.”I WAS RAISED AN UPPER-MIDDLE-CLASS FAY THE CHIGO SUBURBS. NO ONE KNEW I WAS GAY. I WAS LONELY, AND SPENT EVERY WAKG MUTE AAID SOMEONE WOULD UNVER MY SECRET. MY TEEN MD WAS SURE I WOULD END MY LIFE BEFORE I H 30 BEE EVERYONE WOULD FIGURE OUT THAT I WAS GAY, AND I’D LOSE MY FAY AND MY JOB. FORTUNATELY, THAT WAS WRONG, BUT GROWG UP LGBT ISN’T EASY. BEYOND THE QUTN OF WHETHER BUTTIGIEG PRENTS AS GAY ENOUGH—WHATEVER THAT MEANS—IS THE UGLY NOTN THAT GAYS HAVEN’T FACED THE SAME LEVEL OF HISTORIC DISCRIMATN AS OTHERS. WE WERE TARGETED THE HOLOT, SUBJECTED TO ICE-PICK LOBOTOMY “CUR” THE 1950S, FALL VICTIM TO HORRIFIC HATE CRIM, AND ONLY RECENTLY WON THE RIGHT TO MARRY OR ADOPT. WE’VE SUFFERED ENOUGH TO EARN OUR SEAT AT THE TABLE. BUTTIGIEG’S CRICS ALSO ALLEGE THAT BEG GAY ISN’T IMPORTANT TO HIM. TEN DAYS BEFORE SAME-SEX MARRIAGE WAS LEGALIZED 2015— THE MIDDLE OF HIS RE-ELECTN MPAIGN FOR MAYOR—BUTTIGIEG ME OUT TO HIS NSTUENTS AN SAY THE SOUTH BEND TRIBUNE. HE WROTE ABOUT NOT KNOWG ANYONE GAY HIGH SCHOOL, AND HOW “FOR A LOL STUNT STGGLG WH HER SEXUALY, MIGHT BE HELPFUL FOR AN OPENLY GAY MAYOR TO SEND THE MSAGE THAT HER MUNY WILL ALWAYS HAVE A PLACE FOR HER.” BUTTIGIEG HAS SCE MARRIED, AND REGULARLY MENTNS HIS HBAND CHASTEN MPAIGN SPEECH AND TERVIEWS AS PART OF A BROAR DISCSN OF THE IMPORTANCE OF EEDOM FOR LGBT AMERINS. IN A UNTRY WHICH SAME-SEX MARRIAGE HAS BEEN LEGAL FOR LS THAN FOUR YEARS, THAT IS NO SMALL ACT. ESPECIALLY FOR A SMALL-TOWN MAYOR EP-RED INDIANA, WHERE LGBT ARCH-NEMIS MIKE PENCE ONCE PRID AS ERNOR.THERE’S ALSO THE SUGGTN THAT BEG WHE AND MALE TMPS THE FACT THAT BUTTIGIEG IS GAY. WHE MEN HAVE ALREADY HAD THEIR SHOT AT THE PRINCY, THE ARGUMENT GO, AND ’S TIME FOR A WOMAN TO HAVE HERS. IT’S PELLG LOGIC. WE’VE HAD WHE MALE PRINTS FOR 224 OF THE LAST 230 YEARS. AND WHILE WE FALLY HAD A BLACK PRINT WH BARACK OBAMA, WE’VE STILL NEVER ELECTED A WOMAN. BUT WE’VE ALSO NEVER HAD A LATO PRINT, OR AN ASIAN-AMERIN PRINT, OR A JEWISH PRINT, OR A MLIM PRINT OR AN OPENLY LGBT PRINT. MAYOR PETE HAS TOUCHED A CHORD WH MANY DEMOCRATS BEE HE’S AN AMAZG NDIDATE WH A PELLG PERSONAL STORY. HE’S A LENNIAL WAR VETERAN (WHO SERVED AFGHANISTAN UNR THE “DON’T ASK, DON’T TELL” POLICY), SPEAKS SEVEN LANGUAG, IS A RHOS SCHOLAR, AND HAS AN ALMOST MR. ROGERS-LIKE MEANOR THAT’S AS LMG AS IS PTIVATG. MAYBE HE’S SO POPULAR BEE HE’S JT THAT GOOD. DEMOCRATS HAVE BEEN BLSED WH AN EMBARRASSMENT OF RICH HEADG TO 2020. WE’VE GOT OUR MOST DIVERSE SLATE OF NDIDAT EVER, AND ALSO OUR MOST APPEALG. LIKE MANY ON THE LEFT, I HAVE A FAVORE, BUT I’D BE HAPPY WH MOST ANYONE CURRENTLY NNG. STILL, AS A GAY MAN, BUTTIGIEG’S NDIDACY HAS STCK A PERSONAL CHORD. MY MUNY HAS NEVER HAD A PRINTIAL NDIDATE TAKEN SERLY, AND ’S NOT SOMETHG I IMAGED HAPPENG MY LIFETIME. THAT DON’T MEAN I’LL VOTE FOR MAYOR PETE SIMPLY BEE HE’S GAY, BUT HIS SEXUAL ORIENTATN MATTERS, AND SHOULDN’T BE THE SUBJECT OF RISN OM OUR ALLI. AS 538’S NATE SILVER PUT , “’S A BIG AL THAT AN OPENLY GAY MAN IS A SER NTENR FOR A MAJOR PARTY’S PRINTIAL NOMATN, AND IF YOU’RE A LIBERAL WHO WANTS TO EQUIVOTE ABOUT THAT TOO MUCH, YOU N PRETTY MUCH FUCK RIGHT OFF.” JOHN ARAVOSIS

But that don't erase my growg unease to fd that homophobic rhetoric is creasgly beg ployed om the left, and most tragilly 's g om our own muny. Can you even ll homophobia when om another queer person?

The sexual rape jok that Washgton Post lumnist Dave Weigel had to apologize for, the doxxg and threateng of a Nigerian supporter of Pete (who may very well have been gay), the harassg of Queer Eye star Jonathan Van Ns' HIV stat: all of the are bad.

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What I want to cricize stead is the tellectual foundatns of the "not gay enough" arguments g om mastream sourc like LA Review of Books and The New Yorker.

The disturbg twist her argument, however, om sayg that one of the Buttigieg's mpaign "fg featur is s heterosexualy, " that he is "offerg the promise that our first gay first fay might actually be a straight one. "If straight people n be queer — as so many of them seem so impatient to expla to me — n’t gay people also be straight?

The words eply disturb me as a gay man. How disappotg, then, that queer theory signed to empower the muny has begun to be ed agast gay men. Greta LaFlr herself intifi as homosexual acrdg to Twter.

SYNONYMS FOR NOT GAY

So seems very odd to ll her language homophobic.

Gay people have been attacked by jt about everyone for our inty. Now our own muny n turn on for the very fact of our gayns, that we stand next to someone of the same sex?

I was livg a right-wg evangelil home, and forced to see an ex-gay therapist who h on me. Especially when someone om parts of the untry where persecutn agast gays was strong. The notn that some of thk Buttigieg is not gay enough has an intifiable relatnship to the facts, which are that, for the purpos of this discsn, people who grew up queer this untry fall to two distct tegori of experience.

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I've very equently had people exprs surprise to fd I was gay.

That's plaly te: om the Mattache Society of the 1950s to Stonewall to gay marriage. While they acknowledge there are diverse experienc, they pivots to erase this diversy by claimg that Buttigieg is a "straight polician a gay man's body.

Furthermore, on a more personal note, I've seen a iend om llege jo Queers Agast Pete and make posts that voked me anonymoly Twter threads where "gay men" bee the villas. Gay men gettg criqued as cliquey, amoral, and materialistic. " How weird is to see the posts scribg gay men as the villas, g om wh the LGBTQ muny?