Fat Gay Men: Girth, Mirth, and the Polics of Stigma on JSTOR

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"Bears" sger Tom Goss giv the skny on fatphobia gay and mastream culture.

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I’M FAT AND GAY. HERE’S WHAT I’VE LEARNED.

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This article isn’t about beg fat or th as an dividual, ’s about how our muny se weight and body warng, this is not a pretty overweight as a gay man thsts a person to unique suatns.

I’M A FAT GAY MAN. I KNOW. PLEASE STOP TELLG ME

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Queer popular culture, filled almost exclively wh geo people, is inty-affirmg and soul-stroyg equal prevailg bety standards the gay muny are outpaced for sheer toxicy only by the women’s fashn dtry.

What is or is not ‘acceptable’ my own experience, two distct groups of young gay men are generally seen as attractive and wily reprented media and culture. The imag I saw of gay men were no better.

There was the effortlsly mascule Jack McPhee on Dawson’s Creek, the h teen show of my generatn, and the tall, sexy Brian and prec blond twk Jt on Queer as was before Alex Newell or Daniel Franze or Ady Del Valle provid any pl-size role mols for young gay boys.

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BEG FAT & GAY!

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SUPER CHUBBY GAY MEN

If, like me, you’re a fat gay man, remember that there is no right or wrong way to be gay. But I digrs, as is my right as homosexual on my first day of Pri of the stori we told on Big Calf was about growg up fat and queer — more specifilly, how my experience as a fat kid ultimately terred me om really diggg to the Gay Thoughts™ until adulthood.

Image beg this gay and not knowg . All of that nsired, ’s no surprise that I didn’t figure out that I was gay until I was 33.

BEG OVERWEIGHT THE GAY COMMUNY: WHY IT’S NOT A BAD THG

My pulsory heterosexualy wasn’t bee I grew up an overly nservative environment or was too aaid to be gay — I simply had zero bandwidth to navigate anythg other than fatns, and my abject terror at the thought of beg lled somethg even worse than fat ma me n as fast as I uld om the very sence of who I was.

The queerns I unknowgly fought for so long to grd to a fe dt has been llected, rehydrated, and rtored to somethg of a homosexual ncrete, galvanizg my very spir and givg me a solid foundatn om which to build.

Everythg I ed to be aaid of — beg fat, beg gay, beg myself — are now the unequivol superpowers I try to tap when I’m feelg uncerta and small.

FAT AND GAY: A FATE WORST THAN ATH CHORDS

Gay Thoughts™In honor of June and the Gay Thoughts™:Read this geo say om Chala June Con Nast Traveler, all about fdg chosen fay on a trip to Costa Ri. Let Emma Specter’s Vogue review of The Ultimatum: Queer Love wash over you a gentle wave of gay chaos. Buy the Timberland sandals (I have them black) which are, to me, aggrsively homosexual but also by far the fit sandals I’ve ever worn.

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class><div class="available-ntent"><div dir="to" class="body markup"><p><span>Durg the panmic, I created a podst lled </span><em><a href=" rel>Big Calf</a><span>. </span></em><span>The ia of the show was to tell stori about what ’s like to grow up when you’re a fat kid. Stori about life as a young fat person are plited, funny, trmatizg, bizarre, tenr and unexpected — other words, they expand far beyond the stereotyp associated wh youth and fatns and attempt to remd people that, actually, beg fat is not the worst thg you n possibly be, even when you’re young and feels like is. </span></p><p><span>Siar to many creative enavors throughout the urse of my life, I stopped makg the podst when I started workg too much, then didn’t pick back up aga bee my prsn started lyg to me about the value of my ias. After reachg a crilly low pot sometime the last year, I’ve started to climb out of that hole and slowly ch away om the lyg sack of sh-chemils that swirl around my juicy pk bra. I haven’t picked the podst back up (yet), but maybe I’ll get there — until then, check out the </span><a href=" rel>Big Calf season preview</a><span> if you’re cur. </span></p><p>But I digrs, as is my right as homosexual on my first day of Pri month.</p><p><span>One of the stori we told on </span><em>Big Calf </em><span>was about </span><a href=" rel>growg up fat and queer</a><span> — more specifilly, how my experience as a fat kid ultimately terred me om really diggg to the Gay Thoughts™ until adulthood. My entire childhood, adolcence, and even some of my adulthood was fed by fendg myself for beg fat. I was mercilsly bullied as a child for my weight — walkg to school every day felt like a ty, anxiety-ducg war the larger battle to remd me that me and my body were different.</span></p><div class="ptned-image-ntaer"><figure><a class="image-lk is-viewable-img image2" target="_blank" href=" data-ponent-name="Image2ToDOM" rel><div class="image2-set"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset=" 424w, 848w, 1272w, 1456w" siz="100vw" /><img src=" width="1456" height="1096" data-attrs="{"src":"" class="sizg-normal" alt srcset=" 424w, 848w, 1272w, 1456w" siz="100vw" fetchprry="high" /></picture><div class="image-lk-expand"><svg xmlns=" width="16" height="16" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="#FFFFFF" stroke-width="2" stroke-lep="round" stroke-lejo="round" class="luci luci-maximize2"><polyle pots="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyle><polyle pots="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyle><le x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></le><le x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></le></svg></div></div></a></figure></div><h6>Image beg this gay and not knowg . </h6><p><br /><span>Like many fat kids who experience this kd of socially acceptable trma (certa monstro adults my life signed the sentiments of their children or stunts, not to mentn the endls surge of anti-fat sentiment I absorbed om televisn and movi), I rpond by tryg to make myself as small as possible, a behavr I rried wh me to adulthood. I’m not talkg about losg weight, eher: I’m talkg about a s-long ncerted effort to remove any trac of my personhood om public view, lt anyone notice me and pot out that I was, fact, fat. I thk of the procs like a pper oxidatn of the soul — the shy, strange penny of a person I was bed wh the air around me until I was dull and dirty and no one uld really make out what I actually looked like. </span></p><p><span>All of that nsired, ’s no surprise that I didn’t figure out that I was gay until I was 33. It wasn’t until my late 20s that I started unpackg my relatnship to my body, wrg about until I figured out that maybe,</span><em> jt mayb</em><span>e, beg fat wasn’t the obscene afflictn I’d always believed to be. I started drsg a way that felt exprsive stead of rrective, looked at myself the mirror more and, shockgly, wasn’t as mad at what I saw. </span></p><p><span>In my early 30s, the majory of my ternalized fatphobia had dissipated, and I also created some chang my personal and profsnal life that ma the ia of at least</span><em> tryg</em><span> to be a more expansive versn of myself seem not only possible, but posive. It was only then  I realized that perhaps maybe the “wrong” thg I’d been feelg my life wasn’t jt about my body. It occurred to me that perhaps the reason I’d never taken the time to really explore my sexualy was bee I ed most of my energy to thk about how I’d expla myself for beg fat. </span></p><p><span>My pulsory heterosexualy wasn’t bee I grew up an overly nservative environment or was too aaid to be gay — I simply had zero bandwidth to navigate anythg other than fatns, and my abject terror at the thought of beg lled </span><em>somethg even worse</em><span> than fat ma me n as fast as I uld om the very sence of who I was. Beg lled fat was paful enough — beg lled a fat </span><em>dyke</em><span> (which I sometim was, by bulli who likely have no ia that addn to beg shheads, they were also prophets) was too much to bear. </span></p><p>Blsedly, much of my current life extends far beyond what my child self thought was possible. The fatns others creed would offer me nothg but a life of failure and isolatn has brought me muny and profsnal succs, and has also guid me to cultivate both emotnal telligence, empathy and my voice. The queerns I unknowgly fought for so long to grd to a fe dt has been llected, rehydrated, and rtored to somethg of a homosexual ncrete, galvanizg my very spir and givg me a solid foundatn om which to build. Everythg I ed to be aaid of — beg fat, beg gay, beg myself — are now the unequivol superpowers I try to tap when I’m feelg uncerta and small. The bt thgs about me turned out to be exactly what everyone else nvced me to believe were the worst. If that’s not a reason to say happy fuckg Pri, I don’t know what is. </p><h5><strong>Gay Thoughts™</strong></h5><p>In honor of June and the Gay Thoughts™:</p><ul><li><p><span>Read this </span><a href=" rel>geo say om Chala June</a><span> </span><em>Con Nast Traveler</em><span>, all about fdg chosen fay on a trip to Costa Ri. </span></p></li><li><p><span>Enjoy</span><a href=" rel> this stunng photo say </a><em><a href=" rel>them</a></em><span> about Trans Prom at the Capol. The kids are, fact, alright. </span></p></li><li><p><span>Let </span><a href=" rel>Emma Specter’s </a><em><a href=" rel>Vogue</a></em><a href=" rel> review of </a><em><a href=" rel>The Ultimatum: Queer Love</a></em><span> wash over you a gentle wave of gay chaos. </span></p></li><li><p><a href=" rel>Buy the Timberland sandals</a><span> (I have them black) which are, to me, aggrsively homosexual but also by far the fit sandals I’ve ever worn. </span></p></li></ul><p></p><p></p><div class="subscriptn-widget-wrap"><div class="subscriptn-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p>jo me fat hell:</p></div><div data-ponent-name="SubscribeWidget" class="subscribe-widget"><div class="pencraft ontend-pencraft-Box-module__ret--VfQY8 ontend-pencraft-Box-module__display-flex--ZqeZt ontend-pencraft-Box-module__flex-jtify-center--SQPji"><div class="ontend-ponents-ee_email_form-module__ntaer--OfBh4"><form actn="/api/v1/ee?nojs=te" method="post" noValidate class="form 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As I read this, I wonred how you were tellg my story. The difference is, you are brave and veloped those parts to betiful piec of you. I have yet to do this. I might try now. 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