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GAY BEAR VIOS: THE BT OF THE BT
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I’m wrg this lumn bee as fat gay men, our experienc are so different than most others the LGBTQ+ muny. Perhaps we should start when I was 11 and I had jt got my chubby ltle fgers on a lol queer magaze and was flippg through, raveno for any glimmer of the unknown gay world outsi of my very nservative hoehold ral Arizona. Feelg worse than before I picked up the magaze, I attempted to hi the thg my sock drawer, only to disver the next day had been replaced wh a Jehovah’s Wns pamphlet on the dangers of homosexualy.
Fast forward a few years and some gay sex scen on MTV’s The Real World, and I was jt as baffled as to where my fat self was gog to f to all of the gay shenanigans. It wasn’t until my hman year of high school when I got a crash urse on gay subcultur om my bt iend Ryan, who had accs to the ter and an fatuatn wh AOL chatrooms.
Anythg more than an average dad-bod or slightly chubby figure seems to stir up a sense of disda om the majory of this is certaly not the posn of all gay men, the experienc seem to be very mon for those of who don’t f this image of perfectn. Even to this day, much more battle-worn than I once was, I’m always so shocked and repulsed by the posn of most gay men to be so unacceptg of fat dividuals, knowg how unkd the outsi world is to those who are different. For eight glor days and nights, the Cape Cod rort be bigger, furrier, and iendlier than ual when the burly, hairy gay dus known as bears enjoy a week of summer fun.
BIG GAY PALS
For a group of people bond over a shared stigma, the gay muny do an awful lot of stigmatizg self. All those maxims about pri and... * fat gay bears *
Adam* said was dangero to e out as gay his home untry and feared beg forced to an arranged marriage wh a said he was "so lucky" to wed his soulmate, Ray, Manchter and wish everyone uld marry who they love. There are more than 60 untri wh laws that crimalise same-sex sexual acts acrdg to the Internatnal Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Associatn, cludg Sdi Arabia. 'Authentilly myself'Ray said he had also stggled growg up gay the 1970s and 80s England, which was "tough" said his relig school "dmmed to you, 'you are gog to hell'" Adam returned home to Sdi Arabia, spe beg more than 3, 000 apart and later rtricted by the Covid-19 panmic, they kept touch daily and the romance years ago, Ray proposed on a vio ll and after succsfully applyg for a UK fiancé visa, Adam moved to Manchter December 2022.
Adam said he had been aaid to even wear lours his home untry so the first thg he did when he moved was start to "grow my mullet, got my ears pierced and booked appotments for tattoos" relled how, ntrast, one of his gay iends Sdi had been forced to marry a woman, addg: "It has ed not only his life but the life of his wife. The uple, who live London, said a "really betiful memory" was on the way home when one of their sons shouted out of the black b wdow to Trafalgar Square, "My dads jt got married" and cheered "Yay, gay marriage".
FAT GAY MEN
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Big Gay Pals. The troubl and triumphs of fat gay men. For a group of people bond over a shared stigma, the gay muny do an awful lot of stigmatizg self.
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All those maxims about pri and self-acceptance n obscure the fact that the world of gay men is a celly stratified place. Then, at the bottom of the ladr, li the rt—those gays wh too much fat to cut at the top, and not enough furry virily to make the middle.
Behold: the fat gay men. In his lively (and fabuloly tled) Fat Gay Men: Girth, Mirth, and the Polics of Stigma, Jason Whel, a genr studi profsor at Pace Universy, attempts to rcue the guys om the bottom of the homosexual heap, to cidly mixed rults. Billed as an ethnographic study, Fat Gay Men is as much a semi-ic romp as is an amic treatise.
The fat gay men scribed Fat Gay Men are tired of beg ostracized by their muni—so they ci to ostracize themselv stead. In an attempt to pe the stigma of rpulence, fat gay men wear as a badge of honor.
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Whel’s book foc primarily on Girth and Mirth, a natnwi social club of fat men who hang out wh each other to dodge the strsful expectatns of the larger gay muny. Then the fat gay men go home—and the troubl start aga. At gay pri paras, Girth and Mirthers draw an equal amount of cheers and jeers.
So the fat gay men ghettoize themselv further, stickg to their own clubs and bars, remag largely visible, rdoned off om the gay muny at large. Some big men grow bter om their social secln and traduce their more toned brethren; Whel scrib one glum meetg where a Girth and Mirther sourly nmns th gay men as hollow, ke-snortg party animals. For some fat gay men, self-acceptance is a zero-sum game.
Not all fat gay men are rentful of f on, and not all f gay men are nscendg toward fat on.