I’ve seen asserted - on this board and possibly elsewhere as well - that some gay men do not engage anal sex. I’m wonrg how mon this is. Like are we talkg about somethg like 0.1% - ’s out there but ver…
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- NOT ALL GAY MEN HAVE ANAL SEX
- THE BIGGT MYTH ABOUT GAY SEX
- SAVAGE LOVE LETTER OF THE DAY: DO ALL GAY MEN HAVE ANAL SEX?
- 5 THGS STRAIGHT PEOPLE DON’T KNOW ABOUT GAY SEX
- GAYS WHO DO NOT ENGAGE ANAL SEX
- I'M A GUY TERTED RECEPTIVE ANAL SEX: DO THAT MEAN I'M GAY?
- YOUNG MEN'S ≡ MENUASK USHEALTH GUISQUIZZPARENTSABOUT USDONATEGENERAL HEALTHSEXUAL HEALTHMEDIL CONDNSNUTRN & FNSEMOTNAL HEALTH CAN A GUY LIKE ANAL PLAY AND NOT BE GAY?
NOT ALL GAY MEN HAVE ANAL SEX
I'm a trans guy currently fortably explorg my sexualy. At a gatherg of iends, who all know I'm trans and are mostly queer men themselv, sual nversatn a statement was ma that all gay men like fuckg ass. I'm not sure how I intify right now or the future, but I psed at this bee I might eventually intify as a gay man, and even if I had a dick I happen to... * do all gay guys like anal *
For example, anal sex isn’t a prerequise for beg a gay man. Further, beg a gay man isn’t a mandate for enjoyg anal sex. In fact, oral sex and mutual masturbatn are more monly reported behavrs than anal stimulatn among gay men long-term relatnships.
And while some people stereotypilly view anal stimulatn as an act associated wh gay men, anal sex is a sexual behavr, not tied to a group of people or a specific sexual orientatn.
THE BIGGT MYTH ABOUT GAY SEX
For heterosexuals, gay sex might be somethg of an enigma. There may be many who have no clue as to how gay men actually have sex and the quirks that... * do all gay guys like anal *
For stance, men who have sex wh men (MSM) may or may not intify as gay.
In terms of anal sex specifilly, ’s good to reerate that not all gay men enjoy anal peratn, and many folks who don’t intify as gay men really enjoy anal sex. It’s also worth notg that bee there’s ls accsible rmatn out there about what queer sex looks like, young lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr, and queer (LGBTQ+) people might have trouble imagg what sex might look like for them, outsi of stereotyp, porn, or other media reprentatns. It’s what Wtern culture would have you believe, too; ass-play has long been associated wh gayns, and wh good reason.
Datg back to the ancient Greece, anal sex played a role the exprsn of same-sex sexualy (albe, wh fewer varieti of lube) art of anal sex is the thg that, both posively and negatively, has e to reprent gay men. In other words: There’s more than one way for gays to ’s not all about basMeghan Traor was wrong; ’s not all about that base. That’s bee the ncept of first, send, and third base don’t really apply to gay men bee our endgame is different.
SAVAGE LOVE LETTER OF THE DAY: DO ALL GAY MEN HAVE ANAL SEX?
* do all gay guys like anal *
Rather, gay sex is more like firg up your PlayStatn and playg Fallout 4.
For the non-gaymers the hoe, I’m tryg to say that gay sex is an open world. Of urse, culturally and historilly, gay men have been narrowed down where the act of sex self f .
5 THGS STRAIGHT PEOPLE DON’T KNOW ABOUT GAY SEX
Instead, I’m attemptg to myth-bt prumptns about gay sex.
Beg gay n be hard enough by self whout then also worryg about the prsur om wh our own muny to nform to some sort of standard. Bee if there’s one thg this gay old life that shouldn’t be formulaic ’s sex. Anal sex is normal for some upl — straight or gay — and not for others.
GAYS WHO DO NOT ENGAGE ANAL SEX
At a gatherg of iends, who all know I'm trans and are mostly queer men themselv, sual nversatn a statement was ma that all gay men like fuckg ass.
I'm not sure how I intify right now or the future, but I psed at this bee I might eventually intify as a gay man, and even if I had a dick I happen to have no tert fuckg an asshole. I voiced this aloud ("not all gay men like fuckg ass") and a rponse om one was, "no, all gay men like ass" wh a room full of lghs. What really bothered me is I thk if I had been a cis genr gay guy and said that, the discsn might have ensued wh more folks exprsg their terts that weren't stereotypil.
But bee I'm trans my opn felt lser and was rejected, and I took as a judgement that I was somehow not (possibly) gay by their standards, and hence an outsir even this small queer group. But you were right and they were wrong: not all gay men like to fuck ass and/or have their ass fucked, as a quick web search nfirms.
I'M A GUY TERTED RECEPTIVE ANAL SEX: DO THAT MEAN I'M GAY?
) And ass fuckg isn’t even the most likely sex act to occur when gay men who do like to fuck ass fuck. There's more out there—lots of studi have found that not all gay men fuck ass and/or have their ass fucked, not all gay men who fuck ass fuck ass every time they fuck (ass fuckers enjoy blowjobs, mutual masturbatn, and humpg ottomans too).
So, yeah, empirilly speakg, the gay dus at that gatherg were wrong when they sisted all gay men fuck ass and/or get their ass fucked. But a majory of gay men do fuck ass and/or get their ass fucked — fact, a supermajory of gay men fuck ass and/or get their ass fucked. And people often "round up” s of supermajori orr to make a pot that feels broadly te (all gay men fuck ass, all Tmp supporters are racist shs, all Walmart heirs are spible welfare queens) or to make a joke (like the guy I met this weekend who loudly told me a room full of guys om Mneapolis that all gay men Mneapolis are bottoms — wasn't te, but everyone lghed, bee 's nearly te).
YOUNG MEN'S ≡ MENUASK USHEALTH GUISQUIZZPARENTSABOUT USDONATEGENERAL HEALTHSEXUAL HEALTHMEDIL CONDNSNUTRN & FNSEMOTNAL HEALTH CAN A GUY LIKE ANAL PLAY AND NOT BE GAY?
It was, as you say, a missed opportuny to broan the spe of discsn about gay male sexualy. It’s possible that the cis gay men the room felt they were “schoolg you, ” and ’s possible they believed ( error) that they were beg helpful by clueg you .
It’s also possible they would’ve ma the same joke if you had been cis — aga, gay men like to joke around and take the piss out of each other (sometim lerally), so a way their actns, while annoyg, uld be read as clnary rather than exclnary. Which is what you are — not one of the gay guys, as that's TBD. (Picture: mmuffn for)For heterosexuals, gay sex might be somethg of an enigma.