You’re Not Gay: Homosexualy Anxiety OCD - OCD Rource Center

Contents:

• HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
• AM I GAY?
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• 17 SIGNS YOU'RE ACTUALLY GAY (AND JT DON'T KNOW IT)
• HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY
• I’VE INTIFIED AS GAY FOR YEARS. NOT ANYMORE.
• ASK POLLY: WHY DO PEOPLE ALWAYS THK I’M GAY?
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
• YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD
• PEOPLE THK I'M GAY... BUT I'M NOT
• I’M MALE AND I AM AAID THAT I MIGHT BE GAY
• I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?

In orr to have doubts about one’s sexual inty, a sufferer need not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all. If the sufferer is heterosexual, then the thought may be that they are homosexual.

If on the other hand they happen to be homosexual they may obss about the possibily that they might really be straight. ” Some people’s doubts are further plited by havg such experienc as hearg other people talkg or lookg their directn and thkg that the people mt be analyzg their behavr or appearance and talkg about them – discsg how they mt be gay (or straight).

For those wh thoughts of beg homosexual, part of the distrs mt surely be social orig.

AM I GAY?

Let’s face , gay people have always been an opprsed mory wh our culture, and to sudnly thk of beg this posn, and to be stigmatized this way, n be ighteng.

I have sometim wonred if those who experience the most distrs om such thoughts as the do so bee they were raised wh more strongly homophobic or anti-gay attus to beg wh, or if is simply bee one’s sexualy n be such a basic doubt. Lookg at attractive men or women, or pictur of them, or readg sexually oriented lerature or pornography (hetero- or homosexual), to see if they are sexually excg.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

Observg themselv for evince of “lookg, ” talkg, walkg, drsg, or gturg like someone who is eher gay or straight. Compulsively reviewg and analyzg past teractns wh other men or women to see if they have acted like a gay or straight person.

Readg articl on the ter about how an dividual n tell if they are gay or straight to see which group they might be most siar to.

17 SIGNS YOU'RE ACTUALLY GAY (AND JT DON'T KNOW IT)

Do you thk I uld be gay (or straight)? How n I tell if I’m really gay (or straight)?

HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY

Can you sudnly turn to a homosexual (or heterosexual) even if you have never felt or acted that that way?

Do I look (or act) gay (or straight) to you?

I’VE INTIFIED AS GAY FOR YEARS. NOT ANYMORE.

If I get sexual sensatns when viewg sexual material of an oppose orientatn do mean I am gay (or straight)? A typil example would be a heterosexual man who experienc an erectn while lookg at gay eroti. This reactn is strengthened by the rrect belief that homosexual cu never stimulate heterosexuals.

ASK POLLY: WHY DO PEOPLE ALWAYS THK I’M GAY?

Avoidg standg close to, touchg or bshg agast members of the same sex (or oppose sex if the sufferer is gay).

HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

Not readg or lookg at vios news reports books or articl havg anythg to do wh gay people or other sexual subjects. Never sayg the words “gay, ” “homosexual, ” (or “straight”) or any other related term. Tryg to not look or act effemately (if a man), or a mascule way (if a woman), (or vice versa if the sufferer is gay).

Not drsg ways that would make one look effemate (if a man), or mascule (if a woman), (aga vice versa if the sufferer is gay).

Avoidg associatg wh anyone who may be gay or who seems to lean that directn (if the sufferer is heterosexual). The flip si of this is when they look at thgs havg to do wh sex of an oppose orientatn and then feel aroed some way, which they then nclu to mean that they liked , which means that they are gay (or straight).

YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD

Readg books by or about gay persons. Watchg vios on gay them or about gay characters.

PEOPLE THK I'M GAY... BUT I'M NOT

Visg gay meetgs shops, browsg gay bookstor, or visg areas of town that are more predomantly gay.

Wearg a T-shirt at home wh the word ‘gay’ on . Dog a seri of wrg assignments of a uple of pag each that suggt more and more that you actually are gay or wish to be. Makg a seri of three-mute tap that based on the wrgs gradually suggt more and more that you are gay, and listeng to them several tim a day changg them when they no longer bother you).

Avoid observg yourself to see if you behaved a way you image a homosexual or member of the oppose sex would.

I’M MALE AND I AM AAID THAT I MIGHT BE GAY

Gay - While this adjective has historilly scribed men who are attracted to other men, the term now is ed to refer to anyone who experienc romantic, emotnal, or physil attractn to people of the same genr. Sce genr inty and sexual orientatn are separate, transgenr people n intify as straight, gay, lbian, bisexual, etc. |Intifyg as Gay.

Gay dividuals are romantilly or sexually attracted to people who are the same genr as them. If you’re more aroed by people who are the same genr as you, you might be gay.

Keep md that experienc of sexual aroal are extremely nuanced, and aren’t ncrete proof that you’re gay.

I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

For stance, you n be aroed by gay adult media whout necsarily beg gay yourself. If you tend to velop csh on people who are the same genr as you, uld be a sign that you’re gay.

You n be gay even if you’ve had straight relatnships the past. If you felt unfortable wh physil ntact wh each girl, you may be gay.