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Contents:
- HOW TO TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU ARE GAY
- THE CHILDREN OF GAY PARENTS SPEAK FOR THEMSELV
- MOST AMERINS NOW SAY LEARNG THEIR CHILD IS GAY WOULDN’T UPSET THEM
- HOW TO DEAL WH HAVG GAY PARENTS
- TELLG YOUR FAY THAT YOU’RE GAY
- GAY PARENTS AS GOOD AS STRAIGHT ON
- GAY AND LBIAN PARENTG: WHAT TO TELL THE CHILDREN
- TELLG FRIENDS AND RELATIV ABOUT A CHILD WHO SAYS HE’S GAY
- WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"
HOW TO TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU ARE GAY
Comg out to your parents n be a very difficult nversatn. You might be feelg nervo, sad, or even aaid to tell your parents that you are gay. You n have this talk if you prepare for properly and then iate a uful... * gay telling parents *
You might be feelg nervo, sad, or even aaid to tell your parents that you are gay. Have your parents exprsed negative views about gay people the past? Be sure to be selective about the environment which you tell your parents that you’re gay.
Avoid beg alone wh them when you tell them if they are homophobic or vlent. I’m gay. Your parents will likely have an entire range of qutns to ask you, pecially if they did not spect that you were gay before now.
Some might experience nial, but you should reaffirm to them that you are gay, and tell them ’s not their flt and you don’t need unselg, if they suggt that. Your parents may not know many, if any, gay people and may be stgglg wh this news.
THE CHILDREN OF GAY PARENTS SPEAK FOR THEMSELV
Tellg your parents that you're gay, lbian, bisexual, trans, or genrqueer is a major life event. Wrg a letter or email might be the bt optn if you're worried about their reactn or want to avoid gettg tongue-tied. Be... * gay telling parents *
Collect some pamphlets or articl for parents of gay children and give them to them to look over. Fd out if there is an anizatn or lol group for parents and fai of gay children, like PFLAG, the area. If you grew up a home wh homophobic parents, know that their reactn might not be ial.
MOST AMERINS NOW SAY LEARNG THEIR CHILD IS GAY WOULDN’T UPSET THEM
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You may have never heard them even make a homophobic ment.
If you thk they will be nfed, you might want to be prepared to talk to them about when you first thought that you might be gay.
HOW TO DEAL WH HAVG GAY PARENTS
Today nearly six--ten (57%) say they would not be upset if they had a child e out as gay or lbian, acrdg to our survey nducted May. * gay telling parents *
If you are pletely fancially pennt on your fay and you know that they are homophobic, is likely unwise to e out at this time.
3Evaluate their views on gay people. If you regularly heard your parents make disparagg or problematic ments about gay people when you are growg up, know that you will likely not receive a posive reactn when you e out to them.
Article SummaryXTellg your parents that you’re gay n be really difficult, pecially if you’re not sure how they’ll react. “My mom is gay, ” she explaed. ” She had never met another person who was raised by a gay parent.
TELLG YOUR FAY THAT YOU’RE GAY
” Eventually she nnected wh COLAGE (Children of Lbians and Gays Everywhere) and found a muny of people who shared a siar childhood: the jugglg of silence and isolatn, the fendg of parents on the playground. The children of gay parents aren’t “hypothetil”: They’re real and they’re ok.
Allison, raised Connecticut and Vermont by her mom and her mom's partner: “As soon as I found out [my new school] had a gay-straight alliance I jt— was amazg, to know that there are other kids my age—to realize that they were supportive of LGBT people.
I wasn't the only one who knew gay people and wasn't this dark secret that I had to hi. If you look at the vast majory of thgs that fe who my moms are, or who my fay is, 's really no more accurate to say that my moms are gay married, than to say they are Packers-fan married, or work--healthre married.
GAY PARENTS AS GOOD AS STRAIGHT ON
Mark, raised Pennsylvania by his mom and his dad, who me out when he was llege: “My dad is gay.
I had an clatn that my dad was gay om the very begng of time. Elizabeth, raised Boston by her mom and dad who me out when she was llege: “He said, 'It's time for me to nont my inty’ and I asked 'Are you gay? ' And I thk the next words out of my mouth were, 'Dad, I'm pretty sure you're gay.
” At Right: Lren, raised Kansas Cy, Missouri, by her mom and dad, who me out when she was 7: “The fact that my parents were divorced way overshadowed the fact that my dad was gay.
GAY AND LBIAN PARENTG: WHAT TO TELL THE CHILDREN
Lus, raised Gaville, Florida, by his divorced dad and mom, who me out when he was 15: “My mom beg gay was always really easy for me to accept bee I was brought up a way to accept all people. If the suatn was worse for my mom, if was harr to be gay than is for her, then I probably would be more termed to fight for her rights.
TELLG FRIENDS AND RELATIV ABOUT A CHILD WHO SAYS HE’S GAY
Where I grew up, no one was gay, nobody talked about . But here, everyone you meet is gay and everyone talks about and 's a great thg. People who are gay need to be certa of themselv, havg accepted their sexualy, before g out to parents.
Readg this article on how to talk about beg gay may also be helpful.
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"
If your parents ask if you are gay, that may be an appropriate time to speak to them. Some parents may suggt therapy orr to 'cure' you of beg gay. The Amerin Psychologil Associatn do not nsir homosexualy a mental illns and views therapy to change sexual orientatn agast a person's will uhil.
If your parents worry about possible gay stigma and discrimatn issu, assure them you are pable of g good judgment orr to avoid bad suatns. In se your parents may need to talk wh someone, you may want to have a lol PFLAG (Parents, Fai and Friends of Lbians and Gays) number, brochure or webse on hand.