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Contents:

• "I REALIZED I WAS GAY": MEN WHO CAME OUT LATER IN LIFE ARE SHARG WHAT IT WAS LIKE FOR THEM TO REVEAL THAT TTH AND LIVE AUTHENTILLY
• “I REALIZED I WAS GAY”: 29 MEN IN THIS ONLE GROUP WHO CAME OUT LATER IN LIFE SHARE WHAT WAS THEIR TURNG POT
• ‘I AM GAY – BUT I WASN’T BORN THIS WAY’
• I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY
• GAY PEOPLE WHO E OUT LATER LIFE FACE UNIQUE OBSTACL
• THREE INSIGHTS OM PEOPLE WHO REALIZED THEY WERE GAY LATER LIFE

"I REALIZED I WAS GAY": MEN WHO CAME OUT LATER IN LIFE ARE SHARG WHAT IT WAS LIKE FOR THEM TO REVEAL THAT TTH AND LIVE AUTHENTILLY

When I found out earlier this month, along wh the rt of the world, that one of my favore actors, Kal Penn, is a fellow gay man and now engaged to his long-time partner, I was so happy that he was openly livg his tth.

I have a lot of stori about folks who were homophobic but me around to acceptg me and honorg me for beg a gay man, once they got to know me beyond what I do bed. After spendg years dog all the manly thgs that were supposed to straighten me out, I had a particular weekend — a men-only whewater raftg trip — when I realized I did all the thgs I was aimg for that were supposed to change me, and I was still 100% gay. Once I knew the gay wasn't gog anywhere, I figured I wanted to be open and hont wh people om then on, regardls of how the rt of my life went.

“I REALIZED I WAS GAY”: 29 MEN IN THIS ONLE GROUP WHO CAME OUT LATER IN LIFE SHARE WHAT WAS THEIR TURNG POT

My wife and I are gog to unselg together to work through thgs and while ‘’ has a shelf life, I'm foced on figurg out what beg gay means to me.

After a few months of experiencg very novel and tense sexual feelgs, I overme my fear of masturbatn and started dog to var kds of straight and gay porn. As the gay marriage movement gas momentum and even the Print is on board wh the ia of , more and more people are able to walk proudly to their sexual out happens no matter your age, race or cultural herage. Now that I'm 50 and encroachg 51 jt a few weeks, I n't help but wonr what would have happened if I'd waed even longer to stake my claim and live my tth as a gay than drown myself prsg thoughts about what uld have been, I'd rather share what I see happeng wh men my practice who are 50+; men jt begng their trek out of the and foremost, I appld the men.

‘I AM GAY – BUT I WASN’T BORN THIS WAY’

Anyone n fd sex for a night, but tak a termed gay man to fd love that lasts longer than a sgle often than not, gay men who e out later life are leavg behd a wife, kids, grandkids, gaful employment and stabily. If you allow assumptns about your worth on the gay market to monopolize your thoughts then you'll fall to the GGWDID Syndrome: Good Grief What Did I Do!

In today’s pop culture landspe, we have spirg LGBTQ celebri who are g out at younger and younger ag — like YouTube sensatn JoJo Siwa who me out as gay 2021 at age 17, or Zaya Wa, the transgenr dghter of Shvghn Funch and Dwyane Wa, who me out to her parents at age 12 but (acrdg to dad) has known her genr inty sce she was 3 years old. Our current climate has by no means eradited the homophobia that jt a few s back was as monplace to s- TV as a lgh track, but the progrs is unniable, as we remember the generatns of LGBTQ stars who hid their te inty for fear of beg blacklisted om the bs, jeered the prs, or alienated om their loved on. Rairs fensive leman Carl Nassib beme the first openly gay active NFL player history when he me out on Instagram June 2021: “I jt want to take a quick moment to say that I’m gay, ” he said a vio.

Colton Unrwood me out as a gay man on Good Morng Ameri two years after appearg as the lead of The Bachelor, openg up about how his relig upbrgg had prevented him om acceptg his own sexualy.

I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY

Sir Ian McKellen me out as a gay man at 48 years old when he went on BBC 3 to prott the passg of a bill that prohibed lol thori om engagg anythg that uld be nsired a “promotn of homosexualy, ” argug: “I certaly would [like to see repealed]. At age 45, Sex and the Cy star Cynthia Nixon clarified to the world via a letter to The Advote that she intifi as bisexual after ntroversially mentg to the New York Tim that she was “choosg” to be gay.

In 1997, Ellen DeGener me out as a gay woman at the age of 39 wh a one-two punch of a Time magaze ver announcg her sexualy and a special episo of TV show Ellen which her s character out as gay, after which DeGener herself nfirmed her own sexualy. But Diamond and other rearchers have piled numero se studi of gay men who spent years feelg (and actg) fully and fortably homosexual, only then to fall unexpectedly love wh a heterosexual woman.

GAY PEOPLE WHO E OUT LATER LIFE FACE UNIQUE OBSTACL

) Vlet loved San wh all her heart, but she did not fe herself as gay the wake of the affair — nor has she bee volved another same-sex relatnship sce. A month ago, at the age of 44, Amerin actor and former Whe Hoe staff member Kal Penn me out as gay by announcg his engagement wh his partner of 11 years, Takei, bt known as Mr. Sulu or that guy who nails the exclamatn Oh My, me out back 2005, when he was Ian McKellen, Lily Toml, Anrson Cooper, Ricky Mart, and many others me out much later their liv and reers for a multu of reasons, so ’s much more mon than one might on r/AskGaybrosOver30 have been sharg the exact stori.

At that time the last thg you wanted to be was gay (at least my md)It wasn't until i was 26 or 27, i Fet, that a very good iend fally asked me when I was gonna e out of the closet. I was fairly certa I wouldn't change, but I felt like I owed to God to try, before qutng and changg the beliefs I was raised spendg years dog all the manly thgs that were supposed to straighten me out, I had a particular weekend - a men-only whewater raftg trip - when I realized I had achieved all the thgs I was aimg for that were supposed to change me, and I was still 100% I knew the gay wasn't gog anywhere, I figured I would want to be able to be open and hont wh people om then on, regardls of how the rt of my life went. Kasuri, Jakub Sztowicki Report Why not so much later life, but I me out at 28, always knew I was gay, but didn't have the nfince or self worth to do until I REALLY had to, by which time I had been married for over 4 years.

The ter and beg able to chat to other men was my way of reachg out, as I never would have gone to a gay 2002 got to the pot where I REALLY need to fd out, so I arranged to meet a guy and loved , 2 weeks later I met another guy, 2 months after that I me out to myself, 2 months after that I me out to my then wife and then fay and iends the followg day. When this happened the bt and most eeg and the happs of the elephants on your shoulrs jt up and gone was the bt feelg ever my life was somethg out of this world and every sce this I’m like OMG I n say out loud I’m gay and hear myself say this and not feel one once of remorse!

THREE INSIGHTS OM PEOPLE WHO REALIZED THEY WERE GAY LATER LIFE

Also the gay culture I was prented wh was loud, petty, and generally extra; I’m not that and generally don’t get along wh those that are. When I thk back to when I was a kid, I have all the same dumb pre-ter gay kid thgs like spendg too long the JC Pennys men’s unrwear sectn or Sears talogue of whatever.

Redfield021767, Elyaqim Mosheh Adam Report I did not "e out" to my parents, knowg my mom is que homophobic and I don't want to add some more strs to my dad, which recently passed I did not e out to them, that don't mean I have reprsed emotns BUT I HAVE MADE IT OBVIOUS that I tell people don't ask me nor budge me when I will get married or what. It's jt that maybe I am one of the "mascule" gays who "don't want to embrace my feme si" as what others perceive what a gay should be like.

I also had amazg highschool iends- I was a crew of like 10 straight super chill boys who were wicked smart, all atheists and then me the prevly über-relig but then realised he was gay kid. More than half of gay men and nearly 40% of lbian women surveyed 2013 said they had e out to iends and fay before age cisn isn't easy for everyone, though. Mal who ci to adopt a gay liftyle late adulthood generally have known about their orientatn sce their school years but do not want to risk tellg others, he said.