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• THEY SAY THE ABE DON’T MAKE YOU GAY, BUT...
• THEY SAY THE ABE DON’T MAKE YOU GAY, BUT...
• LET’S SET THE RERD STRAIGHT—ABE DON’T MAKE YOU GAY
• AM I GAY BEE OF THE ABE?

THEY SAY THE ABE DON’T MAKE YOU GAY, BUT...

Adam* said was dangero to e out as gay his home untry and feared beg forced to an arranged marriage wh a said he was "so lucky" to wed his soulmate, Ray, Manchter and wish everyone uld marry who they love. There are more than 60 untri wh laws that crimalise same-sex sexual acts acrdg to the Internatnal Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Associatn, cludg Sdi Arabia.

'Authentilly myself'Ray said he had also stggled growg up gay the 1970s and 80s England, which was "tough" said his relig school "dmmed to you, 'you are gog to hell'" Adam returned home to Sdi Arabia, spe beg more than 3, 000 apart and later rtricted by the Covid-19 panmic, they kept touch daily and the romance years ago, Ray proposed on a vio ll and after succsfully applyg for a UK fiancé visa, Adam moved to Manchter December 2022. Adam said he had been aaid to even wear lours his home untry so the first thg he did when he moved was start to "grow my mullet, got my ears pierced and booked appotments for tattoos" relled how, ntrast, one of his gay iends Sdi had been forced to marry a woman, addg: "It has ed not only his life but the life of his wife. The uple, who live London, said a "really betiful memory" was on the way home when one of their sons shouted out of the black b wdow to Trafalgar Square, "My dads jt got married" and cheered "Yay, gay marriage".

DUNEDIN, New Zealand, July 26, 2010 ()—A recent Otago Universy study has found that homosexual or bisexual dividuals are more likely to have unrgone a variety of of trmas childhood, cludg sexual asslt, rape, vlence, and wnsg vlence the home. “People who eher intify themselv as homosexual or bisexual, or have had a same-sex enunter or relatnship, tend to e om more disturbed backgrounds, ” said Rearch Associate Profsor Elisabeth Wells.

THEY SAY THE ABE DON’T MAKE YOU GAY, BUT...

8% intified as homosexual; 0.

Of people who reported certa trmatic childhood events, 15% were not heterosexual; of those whout such experienc, only 5% were not heterosexual, suggtg that such experienc tripled the chance of later profsg homosexual or bisexual clatns. Some homosexualist lears took issue wh the study’s fdgs: Tony Simpson, chairman of the natnal homosexualist group Rabow Wellgton, said that the rearch should not be taken to mean that homosexuals are not born that way.

“I have no doubt that the relig right will leap to the ncln that this go to show nclively that homosexuals are ma rather than born, ” he said. “I spect there might be some gay and lbian people who will be dignant, but is not my tentn to anger them, ” she said. “You uld say that if someone was sexually abed as a child, choos to live as a homosexual and liv life well, then that is not a bad thg.

LET’S SET THE RERD STRAIGHT—ABE DON’T MAKE YOU GAY

But if they are livg a homosexual life and regrettg , that is another matter. Although sexual or physil abe childhood was associated wh adult homosexualy, other trmatic experienc, such as the sudn ath of a loved one or ser childhood illns or accint, were only slightly associated wh non-heterosexual inty or behavur. Of femal who self-intified as homosexual, more than 40% had been married and had children, whereas 13% of male homosexuals had done so.

The associatn between child abe and later homosexual intifitn is not young. One 1992 study found that 37% of homosexual and bisexual men attendg sexually transmted disease clics had been enuraged or forced to have sexual ntact before age 19 wh an olr or more powerful partner. They are all out and proud gay men, and they were all sexually abed as unrage mors.

Sadly, this is an extremely mon occurrence, as there is equently a nnectn between childhood sexual abe and adult say such a thg, of urse, is to ve a hailstorm of fierce cricism and ridicule: “You bigoted homophobe!

AM I GAY BEE OF THE ABE?

The men were born gay, not ma gay, and their sexualy is a gift om God, not the rult of sexual abe. Pl, there are plenty of gay men who were never abed and plenty of straight men who were abed as boys and never turned gay. ”Puttg the name-llg asi, there is some tth to the all gay men were molted as boys (sce there are multiple for homosexualy) and not all boys who are molted turn out gay (probably bee they were ls predisposed towards homosexualy).

Still, nnot be nied that a disproportnately high number of gay men were abed as boys, and that certaly ntributed to their sexual and emotnal ’s why was no surprise when Dr. Robert Epste, the pro-gay edor--chief of Psychology Today, noted that gay rears who were upset wh an ad that ran his publitn 2002 sent him letters assertg “that gays have a right to be or abive bee they themselv have been abed” (this obvly clud beg sexually abed). (For other studi focg specifilly on the nnectn between childhood sexual abe and homosexualy, see here.

)As for the notn that people are born gay, not only would that suggt that fants n relate to the ncepts of sexual and romantic attractn (which they obvly nnot), but would also ignore the fact that our upbrgg and environment have profound effects on .