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BEG AGAST GAY MARRIAGE DON'T MAKE YOU A HOMOPHOBE

On Friday, Brandon Ambroso penned a thoughtful say the Atlantic ntendg that opposn to gay marriage don’t necsarily signify... * being against gay marriage doesn t make you a homophobe *

What to make of Cardal Timothy Dolan's claim that the Catholic Church has been unfairly ritured as anti-gay? (Stefano Rellandi/Rters)Do beg agast gay marriage make someone anti-gay?

The qutn rurfaced last week when Cardal Timothy Dolan, Archbishop of New York, claimed on Meet the Prs that the Catholic Church is unfairly “ritured” as anti-gay. The Huffgton Post’s Pl Rshenbh quickly wrote up a rponse, sayg that “The hard realy that Cardal Dolan and all Christians need to face up to is that the Catholic Church along wh every other church whether Orthodox, Prottant or Catholic has been horrifilly, persistently and vehemently anti-gay for almost all of s history. ”Then Rshenbh hled out a faiar argument: “Let's jt be very clear here —if you are agast marriage equaly you are anti-gay.

”As a gay man, I found myself disappoted wh this fn—that anyone wh any sort of moral rervatns about gay marriage is by fn anti-gay.

Y, OPPOSG GAY MARRIAGE MAK YOU A HOMOPHOBE

If Rshenbh is right, then that means my parents are anti-gay, many of my relig iends (of all fahs) are anti-gay, the Pope is anti-gay, and—y, we’ll go here—first-century, Jewish theologian J is anti-gay. That’s spe the fact that while some relig people don’t support gay marriage a sacramental sense, many of them are favor of same-sex civil unns and full rights for the parti volved.

To be sure, most gay people, myself clud, won’t be satisfied until our lovg, monogamo relatnships are graced wh the word “marriage. ” But ’s important to rell that many relig dividuals do support strong civil rights for the gay members of their muni.

Remend ReadgWhat exactly do we mean when we say “anti-gay, ” or “homophobic”? Often when I try to unrstand where my nservative opponents are g om, my gay iends acce me of beg homophobic.

BEN CARSON SAYS BEG AGAST GAY MARRIAGE DON'T MAKE YOU HOMOPHOBIC

It isn’t homophobic of me to try to unrstand why someone might be opposed to marriage equaly. Homophobic?

BEG AGAST GAY MARRIAGE DON’T MAKE YOU A HOMOPHOBE

I wre says about beg gay, and then I publish them, and everyone go, “Oh yeah, he’s gay. ” I have no rervatns about my sexualy, so as far as the accatn of homophobia go: that gay ship has already sailed to Disneyland, wh a speedo-clad Tom Daley rved to the ’s “anti-gay” to qutn the arguments of marriage-equaly advot, and if the word “homophobic” is exhsted on me or on pole dissenters, then what should we ll someone who beats up gay people, or prefers not to hire them?

I would argue that an sential feature of the term “homophobia” mt clu personal anim or malice toward the gay muny. Simply havg rervatns about gay marriage might be anti-gay marriage, but if the rervatns are articulated a rpectful way, I see no reason to dismiss the person holdg those rervatns as anti-gay people.

When we hastily label our opposn wh terms like “anti-gay, ” we make an unwarranted leap om the first scriptn to the me, regnizg the distctn between opposg gay marriage and opposg gay people is a natural outgrowth of an ternal distctn: When to my inty, I take re not to rce myself to my sexual orientatn. Sure, ’s a huge part of who I am, but I see myself to be larger than my sexual exprsn: I nta my gayns; don’t nta me.

OPPOSN TO GAY MARRIAGE EQUAT TO “ANTI-GAY”?

If ’s te that my gayns is not the most fundamental aspect of my inty as Brandon, then seems to me that someone uld iologilly disapprove of my sexual exprsn while simultaneoly lovg and affirmg my larger inty. This is what Pope Francis was gettg at when he asked, “When God looks at a gay person, do he endorse the existence of this person wh love, or reject and nmn this person? ” The Pope probably won’t be officiatg gay marriag any time soon.

Maybe his distctn between Brandon and Gay Brandon is misguid, but isn’t necsarily malic, and that’s the Schenck, current chairman of the Evangelil Church Alliance, told me that while he believ that marriage is between one man and one woman, this belief is a “source of ternal nflict” and “nsternatn” for him. How, he ndidly asks, is nyg marriage to gay people “nsistent wh lovg your neighbor?

” Schenck has no plans to change his social stance on this issue, but he serv as a good remr that not all gay-marriage opponents are unthkg and bigoted.

*BEAR-MAGAZINE.COM* BEING AGAINST GAY MARRIAGE DOESN T MAKE YOU A HOMOPHOBE

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