Savage Love: Why Are Whe Gay Guys So Racist Toward Asian Men? - Coachella Valley Inpennt

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• SAVAGE LOVE: WHY ARE WHE GAY GUYS SO RACIST TOWARD ASIAN MEN?
• WHE GAY PRIVILEGE EXISTS ALL YEAR, BUT IS PARTICULARLY HURTFUL DURG PRI
• WHE GAY MEN ARE HRG OUR PROGRS AS A QUEER COMMUNY
• WONKY WEDNDAY: RACISM GAY ONLE DATG
• US WHE SUPREMACISTS FOUND GUILTY OF GAY PRI RT PLOT
• HERE'S ONE BTAL TTH EVERY WHE GAY MAN NEEDS TO HEAR
• THE TTH ABOUT RACISM THE GAY MUNY IS THAT 'S VERY TE
• OPN | WHE GAY CULTURE’S TOXICY REMBL RACISM

SAVAGE LOVE: WHY ARE WHE GAY GUYS SO RACIST TOWARD ASIAN MEN?

As a queer man of lor—I’m Asian—I feel wound whenever I am exposed to gay men New York Cy, Toronto or any cy where whe gay men domate.

Gay men, mostly wh and Asians, reject me bee of my race, and no one adms to their sexual racism. But is unfair for a gay Asian like myself to be nstantly margalized and rejected.

I fight for gay rights, too. I had the same pa of beg gay high school and the same fears when g out, too. Why is there no acceptance, no space, no wele for me this whe-pated gay muny?

WHE GAY PRIVILEGE EXISTS ALL YEAR, BUT IS PARTICULARLY HURTFUL DURG PRI

“The double-edged sword of livg a cy wh a large gay muny is that the muny gets so large that we fally have the opportuny to margalize people wh . Jeff Chu, a wrer who also liv Brooklyn, n relate: “Racism still thriv the gay muny, jt as broar society, ” said Chu. Many tim, I’d go to a gay bar and see guys playg out some gross terracial porno their heads—wh me playg the part of their Che pocket gay.

“It’s the gay media, ” said Chu. Booster and Chu are right: Racism is a problem the gay muny; some people wh are unfairly and celly margalized; and we all need to nont our own prejudic. “On paper, this is the gay ial!

Booster, who somehow manag to have plenty of sex New York’s “whe-pated gay muny, ” had some practil tips for you. Jo a gay volleyball league—tly where gay Asian men thrive—or fd one of the many gay Asian nights at one of the gay bars around the cy. A quick word to gay whe men: It’s fe to have “preferenc.

WHE GAY MEN ARE HRG OUR PROGRS AS A QUEER COMMUNY

And while preferenc are allowed (and gay men of lor have them, too), there’s no exce for lterg Grdr or Tr or Ren—or your nversatns bars—wh humanizg garbage like “no Asians, ” “no Blacks, ” “no femm, ” “no fatti, ” etc. : A Gay Christian’s Pilgrimage Search of God Ameri; follow him on Twter @jeffchu. Ugh, “jt my preference” gays.

And while you n fd exampl of whe gays their 30s and 40s (and olr) dog this kd of crap, sometim seems to be more prevalent among younger gay whe men. Other gay men … reformed JMPGs or never-ever-were JMPGs … start to get their fac about how unacceptable and harmful this sh is. Decent gay men of all ag and rac spair over this “jt my preference” crap, bee never seems to stop.

After gay people who know better (and are better) get the face of a JMPG, his latent moral imagatn n kick to gear.

WONKY WEDNDAY: RACISM GAY ONLE DATG

On gay datg apps like Grdr, many ers have profil that nta phras like “I don’t date Black men, ” or that claim they are “not attracted to Latos.

Sce 2015 I’ve been studyg LGBTQ culture and gay life, and much of that time has been spent tryg to untangle and unrstand the tensns and prejudic wh gay culture. I’m seekg to move beyond simply scribg the problem and to better unrstand why some gay men behave this way. From 2015 to 2019 I terviewed gay men om the Midwt and Wt Coast regns of the Uned Stat.

A slice of that project – which was recently published the journal Deviant Behavr – explor the way gay men ratnalize their sexual racism and discrimatn on Grdr. The gay men I nnected wh tend to make one of two jtifitns. The other way that I observed some gay men jtifyg their discrimatn was by amg a way that put the emphasis back on the app.

US WHE SUPREMACISTS FOUND GUILTY OF GAY PRI RT PLOT

While social media apps have dramatilly altered the landspe of gay culture, the benefs om the technologil tools n sometim be difficult to see.

Scff, another gay datg app, requir ers to reveal more of who they are.

This whe gay privilege exists year-round, but is particularly tratg durg archects and elrs of the movement have been all but erased.

HERE'S ONE BTAL TTH EVERY WHE GAY MAN NEEDS TO HEAR

This whe gay privilege exists year-round, but is particularly tratg durg muni stggle some way wh race, and the LGBTQ muny is no different. Jt as the movement for LGBTQ rights has been whewashed, so has Pri month often felt like a whe, gay-centered event — far removed om the lears of the Stonewall a recent article for BET, I discs how the Stonewall rts should be nsired an important part of Black history.

THE TTH ABOUT RACISM THE GAY MUNY IS THAT 'S VERY TE

And yet Roland Emmerlich’s 2015 movie "Stonewall" shamelsly downplayed the role Black queer people played leadg the rts — gog so far as havg a whe gay man throw the first brick, stead of Marsha P. Unfortunately, when HIV stopped beg known as a primarily whe gay epimic, began to feel more and more like an more articl like this? This actn was met wh anger om whe gay men who felt the flag reprented uny spe sk lor — a particularly tone-af fense given that Philalphia's gay bars had recently bee a hotbed for racism.

”It isn’t a cince that that same summer of 2017, 11 owners of queer spac Philalphia went through mandatory anti-discrimatn trag after several cints at var gay bars — cludg the disvery of a YouTube vio showg bar owner Darryl DePiano g racial slurs 2016, and other alleged cints volvg racial discrimatn. Gay bar Number 9 D.

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OPN | WHE GAY CULTURE’S TOXICY REMBL RACISM

We have long been burned wh the work of removg homophobia om Black munal spac while also takg up the fight agast racism all spac. We have seen a whe gay man named Ed Buck pe acuntabily for the aths of two Black gay men found his home — a jarrg realy that shows jt how much power whe queers wield over queers of lor.

”No Jtice, No Pri and Black Liv Matter–affiliated groups reprised the prott ci across the untry throughout the Capal Pri nontatn and others like have laid bare a growg chasm wh the LGBTQ+ muny between olr activists and younger; between gay whe cisgenr men who feel like they n celebrate post-marriage equaly and those who fear for their liv unr a Tmp admistratn; between those whose biggt stumblg block life is beg gay and those who feel their eedom is ntgent not only on LGBTQ+ rights but also on issu like police reform, reproductive rights, and enomic equaly. ”But as dtups ed by groups like No Jtice, No Pri show — as well as other velopments, like the addn of a brown stripe to Philalphia’s LGBTQ pri flag; and scuffl over the cln of Israeli flags at monstratns — that not everyone is happy wh the LGBTQ+ movement’s foc on tersectnaly, which has foreground discsns of privilege, police btaly, sexism, racism, and anti-trans BeckSome gay whe cisgenr men are startg to tune out. “You have gay whe men who are no longer volved activism or muny work bee they jt get shouted down by mory activists who want to racialize everythg, ” said Jamie Kirchick, a right-leang journalist and visg fellow at the Brookgs Instutn.

“Whe gay man has bee an ephet, ” he the amic fn of tersectnaly may be narrow, s meang has broaned as s age has spread across var social jtice movements. Not only is ed as shorthand to talk about work between alns, has also e to embody the ia that, as wh the experience of inty, the sourc of opprsn — sexism, homophobia, transphobia, racism — are ternnected.