Si Guys: Thkg Beyond Gay Male "Tops" and "Bottoms" | Psychology Today

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• GAY MEN'S PREFERENC FOR "TOP" VS. "BOTTOM" CAN BE JUDGED BY THEIR FACE
• BEYOND TOP AND BOTTOM: STRAIGHT PEOPLE AND MISUNRSTOOD QUEER RELATNSHIPSMOVG BEYOND STEREOTYP, ’S TIME TO STOP PIGEONHOLG LGBTQ+ RELATNSHIPS TO HETERONORMATIVE ROL. LET’S TAKE A EPER DIVE.NATHAN CHEN·FOLLOW5 M READ·MAY 26--SHAREPHOTO BY CHRISTIAN BUEHNER ON UNSPLASHWE NEED TO TALK ABOUT THE TOP AND BOTTOM CONVERSATNONE OF THE MOST CRGEWORTHY AND REOCCURRG NVERSATNS THE LGBTQ+ MUNY IS WHEN STRAIGHT DIVIDUALS POSE THE UNAVOIDABLE QUTN TO GAY UPL, “SO, WHO’S THE TOP AND WHO’S THE BOTTOM?” IT SEEMS LIKE AN NOCENT QUTN TO THE QUIRER, BUT THIS QUIRY BELTL AND OVERSIMPLIFI THE PLEXY OF QUEER RELATNSHIPS. THE MISRMED PRUMPTN THAT GAY RELATNSHIPS MIRROR THE STCTURE OF HETEROSEXUAL RELATNSHIPS NECSAT A PARADIGM SHIFT UNRSTANDG.THE PROBLEM WH PIGEONHOLGBEFORE WE LVE EPER, LET’S CLARIFY THE ‘TOP’ AND ‘BOTTOM’ TERMOLOGY. WH THE NTEXT OF SAME-SEX RELATNSHIPS, ‘TOP’ REFERS TO THE PARTNER WHO, DURG A SEXUAL ENUNTER, TYPILLY ASSUM THE PERATG ROLE, WHILE ‘BOTTOM’ REFERS TO THE RECEPTIVE PARTNER. HOWEVER, AMG RELATNSHIPS THIS WAY IS A GROSS OVERSIMPLIFITN. IT NF PLEX HUMAN RELATNSHIPS TO THE NF OF SEXUAL POSNS AND PROMOT THE FALSE NOTN THAT GAY RELATNSHIPS MT MIMIC HETERONORMATIVE ROL.WHEN WE RCE LGBTQ+ RELATNSHIPS TO ROL OF ‘TOP’ AND ‘BOTTOM,’ WE ADVERTENTLY RERCE HARMFUL STEREOTYP. REMEMBER THE TIME WHEN ELLEN DEGENER AND PORTIA ROSSI WERE ASKED WHO WEARS THE PANTS THE RELATNSHIP? THE QUTN WAS NOT ONLY APPROPRIATE BUT FUNDAMENTALLY FLAWED, RERCG THE IA THAT THERE NEEDS TO BE A ‘MAN’ AND A ‘WOMAN’ A RELATNSHIP. THIS TYPE OF THKG SUPPORTS HETERONORMATIVY – THE BELIEF THAT HETEROSEXUALY IS THE NORM – WHICH UNRM THE DIVERSE NATURE OF HUMAN RELATNSHIPS.THE HETERONORMATIVY TRAP
• REGNN AND CONSTCTN OF TOP, BOTTOM, AND VERSATILE ORIENTATNS GAY/BISEXUAL MEN
• SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"
• TOP/BOTTOM SEXUAL SELF-LABELS AND EMPATHIZG-SYSTEMIZG COGNIVE STYL AMONG GAY MEN CHA

GAY MEN'S PREFERENC FOR "TOP" VS. "BOTTOM" CAN BE JUDGED BY THEIR FACE

Legend would have you believe that once you’ve earned your gay rd, a Harry Potter–like ceremony occurs where, stead of the Sortg Hat, a giant magil butt plug divis all gay men to two ho: tops or is clearly not the se, pecially for those people who nsir themselv versatile (HIYA).

The two subdivisns have their own l, stereotyp, and -jok, and n sometim seem as if they’re at war wh each other, rather than both workg together for mutual sexual of this n make tryg different thgs dntg, pecially if you’re a baby gay venturg to this world for the first time. ”Miller argu that gay men should exame their relatnship wh power. But I believe that many gay men pick one si, stick to , and that some of those dividuals choose toppg—you’ll have seen their profil markg them as “masc dom tops” on the apps—bee of s ti to tradnal Miller explas, there are outsi forc that, datg back to the ancient Greeks, have prevented gay men om tly diggg to what sexual behavrs we might actually enjoy.

BEYOND TOP AND BOTTOM: STRAIGHT PEOPLE AND MISUNRSTOOD QUEER RELATNSHIPSMOVG BEYOND STEREOTYP, ’S TIME TO STOP PIGEONHOLG LGBTQ+ RELATNSHIPS TO HETERONORMATIVE ROL. LET’S TAKE A EPER DIVE.NATHAN CHEN·FOLLOW5 M READ·MAY 26--SHAREPHOTO BY CHRISTIAN BUEHNER ON UNSPLASHWE NEED TO TALK ABOUT THE TOP AND BOTTOM CONVERSATNONE OF THE MOST CRGEWORTHY AND REOCCURRG NVERSATNS THE LGBTQ+ MUNY IS WHEN STRAIGHT DIVIDUALS POSE THE UNAVOIDABLE QUTN TO GAY UPL, “SO, WHO’S THE TOP AND WHO’S THE BOTTOM?” IT SEEMS LIKE AN NOCENT QUTN TO THE QUIRER, BUT THIS QUIRY BELTL AND OVERSIMPLIFI THE PLEXY OF QUEER RELATNSHIPS. THE MISRMED PRUMPTN THAT GAY RELATNSHIPS MIRROR THE STCTURE OF HETEROSEXUAL RELATNSHIPS NECSAT A PARADIGM SHIFT UNRSTANDG.THE PROBLEM WH PIGEONHOLGBEFORE WE LVE EPER, LET’S CLARIFY THE ‘TOP’ AND ‘BOTTOM’ TERMOLOGY. WH THE NTEXT OF SAME-SEX RELATNSHIPS, ‘TOP’ REFERS TO THE PARTNER WHO, DURG A SEXUAL ENUNTER, TYPILLY ASSUM THE PERATG ROLE, WHILE ‘BOTTOM’ REFERS TO THE RECEPTIVE PARTNER. HOWEVER, AMG RELATNSHIPS THIS WAY IS A GROSS OVERSIMPLIFITN. IT NF PLEX HUMAN RELATNSHIPS TO THE NF OF SEXUAL POSNS AND PROMOT THE FALSE NOTN THAT GAY RELATNSHIPS MT MIMIC HETERONORMATIVE ROL.WHEN WE RCE LGBTQ+ RELATNSHIPS TO ROL OF ‘TOP’ AND ‘BOTTOM,’ WE ADVERTENTLY RERCE HARMFUL STEREOTYP. REMEMBER THE TIME WHEN ELLEN DEGENER AND PORTIA ROSSI WERE ASKED WHO WEARS THE PANTS THE RELATNSHIP? THE QUTN WAS NOT ONLY APPROPRIATE BUT FUNDAMENTALLY FLAWED, RERCG THE IA THAT THERE NEEDS TO BE A ‘MAN’ AND A ‘WOMAN’ A RELATNSHIP. THIS TYPE OF THKG SUPPORTS HETERONORMATIVY – THE BELIEF THAT HETEROSEXUALY IS THE NORM – WHICH UNRM THE DIVERSE NATURE OF HUMAN RELATNSHIPS.THE HETERONORMATIVY TRAP

“What I mean by that, ” he says, “is that cultural forc wh the gay muny prize toppg over bottomg. “Wh bottomg there is the perceptn that you're givg up your masculy bee receivg a penis is somethg that women do, ” Miller Chris Whe, an expert health promotn and the director and prcipal vtigator of the Safe and Supportive Schools Project at the Gay-Straight Alliance Network San Francis, tak this one step further.

”To be (fucked) or not to be (fucked) shouldn’t always be the qutnAcrdg to a 2011 study by The Journal of Sexual Medice that surveyed 25, 000 gay men Ameri about their last sexual enunters, only 36 percent said they had bottomed and 34 percent said they had, realy, we’re not actually fuckg all that much. In any sexual enunter, gay, straight, or otherwise, one person typilly assum the domant role while the other tak on a submissive role the bedroom. But while tops and bottoms are equal, their differg rol do e wh different health issu and rponsibili that every gay and bisexual man should be well rmed about, regardls of sexual posn.

In terms of foc and clary, this discsn will sgularly foc on TopDefn: The sertive partner anal sex between cisgenr gay men (blogil men who intify as men), or transgenr gay men, or ontal, vagal sex wh transgenr gay men. For a top who is HIV-posive, matag an untectable viral load through nsistent e of meditn and re is the bt method of protectg himself om transmtg the BottomDefn: The receptive partner same-sex anal sex for cisgenr gay men or transgenr gay men, or ontal, vagal sex wh transgenr gay men. Popular myth: If an HIV-posive guy is always the bottom, he will never transm the Simply put, a gay man who bottoms is more at risk for HIV.

REGNN AND CONSTCTN OF TOP, BOTTOM, AND VERSATILE ORIENTATNS GAY/BISEXUAL MEN

Once aga, a bottom who is HIV-posive n protect himself om transmtg by nsistently takg their HIV meditn and stayg Perfect Top-Bottom DynamicIf you are a gay man, you may have a posn preference, but chanc are you will change up every now and then.

Partner preferenc of gay men and lbians. Sexual risk behavrs and acceptabily of HIV pre-exposure prophylaxis among HIV-negative gay and bisexual men serodisrdant relatnships: A mixed methods study.

SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"

Lookg for a tall, dark, macho man… sexual-role behavur variatns Lato gay and bisexual men.

Intimacy and sexualy gay male upl. A narrative exploratn of gay men’s sexual practic as a dialectil dialogue.

TOP/BOTTOM SEXUAL SELF-LABELS AND EMPATHIZG-SYSTEMIZG COGNIVE STYL AMONG GAY MEN CHA

Circus of power, circus of pleasure: Sexual scriptg gay men’s bottom narrativ. Sexual posng, sexual cisn makg, and genr rol among young gay men. Differenc between gay and lbian habg upl.