Gay marriage vs. straight marriage: Who gets married sooner – and why

Contents:

• STRAIGHT UPL GET MARRIED EARLIER THAN GAY UPL. HERE'S A LOOK AT WHY.
• HETEROSEXUAL AND HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAG – ARE STRAIGHT AND GAY MARRIAG INTIL?
• GAY DIVORCE AND STRAIGHT DIVORCE: THE DIFFERENCE
• GAY RELATNSHIPS CAN BE MORE STABLE THAN STRAIGHT ON
• ARE GAY MARRIAG HEALTHIER THAN STRAIGHT MARRIAG?
• ARE GAY & LBIAN COUPL AS VLENT AS STRAIGHT COUPL?
• GAY MARRIAGE VS STRAIGHT MARRIAGE
• GAYS VS. STRAIGHTS: ANY DIFFERENC SEXUAL SATISFACTN?
• DIPLOMATIC TENSN REPORTEDLY RISG BETWEEN UNED STAT AND JAMAI OVER GAY AMERIN DIPLOMAT
• GAY MARRIAGE

STRAIGHT UPL GET MARRIED EARLIER THAN GAY UPL. HERE'S A LOOK AT WHY.

And until 2015 – when the Supreme Court legalized gay marriage – that didn't clu data shows that the average age at first marriage for homosexual upl was olr than heterosexual upl. Although Kerby wrote this article before same-sex marriage was legalized, his asssment of homosexual relatnships has not changed bee the trsilly disorred nature of same-sex relatnships has not changed.

So before we even nsir the impact of homosexualy, same-sex marriage, and other alternative liftyl, we should nsir the benefs of tradnal marriage to society. One headle proclaimed, “Married and Gay Coupl Not All that Different, ” and sentially said they were jt like the uple next door. {15} He shows that “mted” homosexual relatnships are radilly different om married upl at least six ways: relatnship duratn, monogamy vs.

Gay activists often pot to high divorce rat among married upl, suggtg that heterosexuals fare no better than homosexuals. Rearch shows, however, that male homosexual relatnships last only a actn of the length of most marriag. For example, the Gay/Lbian Consumer Onle Cens of nearly 8, 000 homosexuals found that only 15% scribed their “current relatnship” lastg twelve years or longer.

HETEROSEXUAL AND HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAG – ARE STRAIGHT AND GAY MARRIAG INTIL?

{17} A study of homosexual men the Netherlands published the journal AIDS found that the “duratn of steady partnerships” was one and a half years. {18} In a study of male homosexualy reported Wtern Sexualy: Practice and Precept Past and Prent Tim, Pollak found that “few homosexual relatnships last longer than two years, wh many men reportg hundreds of lifetime partners. In the classic study by Bell and Weberg, they found that 43% of whe male homosexuals had sex wh 500 or more partners, wh 28% havg 1, 000 or more sex partners.

{22} And a Dutch study of partnered homosexuals, published the journal AIDS, found that men wh a steady partner neverthels had an average of eight sexual partners per year.

The thors of The Male Couple reported that their study of 156 mal homosexual relatnships lastg om 1 to 37 years, “Only seven upl have a totally exclive sexual relatnship, and the men all have been together for ls than five years. ”{24} They also found that most homosexual men unrstood sexual relatns outsi the relatnship to be the norm, and ually viewed standards of monogamy as an act of opprsn. ” Timothy Dailey argu: “If homosexuals and lbians tly sired the same kd of mment signified by marriage, then one would expect them to take advantage of the opportuny to enter to civil unns or registered partnerships.

GAY DIVORCE AND STRAIGHT DIVORCE: THE DIFFERENCE

However, is clear that few homosexuals and lbians have chosen to take advantage of the var unns (same-sex marriage, civil unns, domtic partnerships), suggtg a difference mment pared wh married upl. The three differenc (along wh others tailed by Timothy Dailey) monstrate a signifint difference between heterosexual and homosexual relatnships.

Gay and lbian upl appear ls likely to m themselv to the type of monogamo relatnship found tradnal marriage. Homosexual sir and temptatns may feel natural to some people, but they are not what God tends for human begs. Although there is a ncerted effort to ph for homosexual marriage wh our society, we have seen this article that there are fundamental differenc between heterosexual marriage and homosexual marriage.

GAY RELATNSHIPS CAN BE MORE STABLE THAN STRAIGHT ON

For more rmatn on this topic, vis the Probe webse and read many of our other articl on homosexualy. Robert Gebeloff and Mary Jo Patterson, “Married and gay upl are not all that different, ” Tim-Piyune, 22 November 2003.

ARE GAY MARRIAG HEALTHIER THAN STRAIGHT MARRIAG?

Al., “The ntributn of steady and sual partnership to the cince of HIV fectn among homosexual men Amsterdam, ” AIDS, 17 (2003): 1031. Weberg, Homosexuali: A Study of Diversy Among Men and Women (New York: Simon and Schter, 1978), 308-309. His new seri wh Harvt Hoe Publishers clus: A Biblil Pot of View on Islam, A Biblil Pot of View on Homosexualy, A Biblil Pot of View on Intelligent Dign and A Biblil Pot of View on Spirual Warfare.

Tara Parker-Pope, a wrer at The New York Tim, says gay marriag “tend to be more egalarian, part bee same-sex upl don’t divi work along tradnal genr l” (Gay Marriage: Same, but Different – The New York Tim).

ARE GAY & LBIAN COUPL AS VLENT AS STRAIGHT COUPL?

On the one hand, there are reports of higher levels of timacy and happs between gay upl, makg the divorce rate lower between same-sex upl than oppose-sex upl. The fdgs seem to nclu that the reason for higher breakups gay upl is due to external reasons such as fay prsure, children, fanc, and societal ndng.

GAY MARRIAGE VS STRAIGHT MARRIAGE

The same study found that “first-wave gay marriag have proved more durable than straight on, that’s not expected to last. On the flipsi for gay marriag, data shows that the rate of divorce is 16% while heterosexual upl have a divorce rate of 19%. Many studi have been done to try to figure out what is g lbian upl to have a 34% divorce rate, and why gay marriag have a lower rate of divorce, but no answer has yet been found.

The novelty of gay marriage has generated different laws each state, laws which are then terpreted dramatilly differently by state polici and mdsets that differ om borrle to state l. Jse Green’s amazg piece, “From ‘I Do’ to ‘I’m Done’” trac several histori of gay upl, and not, “for gay upl, the promise of marriage is still so new and plete that the ia of matrimonial urts, equable settlements, and all the rt barely register. How do you procs the undog of a bond that until a moment ago history you were not allowed to form” (The Gay Divorce: From Marriage Equaly to Divorce …).

GAYS VS. STRAIGHTS: ANY DIFFERENC SEXUAL SATISFACTN?

The urt ed to not regnize the time spent together prr to marriage, but many circumstanc, the urts will now take to acunt the time spent livg together prr to gay marriage beg legalized.

Gay divorce has been legalized California sce 2008 but has been difficult to fe until 2013 when same-sex marriage was fally legalized untrywi. Though gays did state that they alt wh creased strs levels due to societal attus, they were more likely to report beg ntent and livg happy liv. Though they were more likely to have closer ti to parents, they reported spendg ls time wh fay than their gay unterparts.

After beg hont about their sexualy, homosexuals tend to ga a eedom which translat to happs and stabily. The notn that all gays bounce om lover to lover is are many, many mted gays who want nothg more than to live their liv and be wh the love of their liv.

DIPLOMATIC TENSN REPORTEDLY RISG BETWEEN UNED STAT AND JAMAI OVER GAY AMERIN DIPLOMAT

Gay relatnships benef for beg the very thg straight relatnships are not: a unn of two people of the same sex. Now that the Supreme Court has cid that gay marriag serve the same rights as straight on, ’s worth keepg md the fdgs of psychologists John and Julie Gottman, arguably the world’s leadg experts on what mak relatnships work. They are fdg that gay and heterosexual marriag share a lot mon terms of why they thrive or fail, but on one of the biggt termants of maral succs—how upl fight—gay upl have an edge.

For one peer-reviewed study published the Journal of Homosexualy, Gottman and his lleague Robert Levenson at the Universy of Washgton brought straight and gay upl to Gottman’s lab and terviewed each uple separately about an issue they fought about. In this study, the gay and straight upl brought up the same sort of problems, but gay upl were, by a statistilly signifint marg, ls fensive durg fights and more likely to e shared humor to soften the tensn of the nversatn. “The gay and lbian upl, ” Gottman told me, “were much more open and much more direct, particularly when talkg about sex.

He then refully watched how upl—both homosexual and heterosexual—teracted wh each other when discsg pots of nflict, tellg the story of how they met and reflectg on posive and negative memori of their relatnship. When monorg upl as they have a nversatn about relatnship nflicts, Gottman has found that straight upl feel more and more negative moods and emotns, like strs and anger, as a nversatn went on, whereas gay upl did not. Gottman has found that gay upl are far ls likely to rely on one of the horseman—fensivens—durg a fight.

GAY MARRIAGE

It’s jt that gays, general, are better at alg wh nflict, and this appears to buffer them agast trouble.

Beyond beg better at fightg, gay relatnships benef unexpected ways for beg the very thg that straight relatnships are not: a unn of two people of the same sex. As Liza Mundy poted out her Atlantic article, “The Gay Gui to Wedd Bliss, ” gay upl tend to be more egalarian than straight upl—which mak sense.