Am I Gay Bee of the Abe? |

Contents:

• THE V-SPOT: AM I GAY/QUEER BEE OF SEXUAL TRMA?
• THE IMPACT OF SEXUAL ABE ON SEXUAL INTY FORMATN GAY MEN
• AM I GAY BEE OF THE ABE?
• PREVALENCE OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABE AMONG LBIAN, GAY, AND BISEXUAL PEOPLE: A META-ANALYSIS

THE V-SPOT: AM I GAY/QUEER BEE OF SEXUAL TRMA?

Sadly, this is an extremely mon occurrence, as there is equently a nnectn between childhood sexual abe and adult homosexualy. Pl, there are plenty of gay men who were never abed and plenty of straight men who were abed as boys and never turned gay. Not all gay men were molted as boys (sce there are multiple for homosexualy) and not all boys who are molted turn out gay (probably bee they were ls predisposed towards homosexualy).

THE IMPACT OF SEXUAL ABE ON SEXUAL INTY FORMATN GAY MEN

Still, nnot be nied that a disproportnately high number of gay men were abed as boys, and that certaly ntributed to their sexual and emotnal velopment. Robert Epste, the pro-gay edor--chief of Psychology Today, noted that gay rears who were upset wh an ad that ran his publitn 2002 sent him letters assertg “that gays have a right to be or abive bee they themselv have been abed” (this obvly clud beg sexually abed). As for the notn that people are born gay, not only would that suggt that fants n relate to the ncepts of sexual and romantic attractn (which they obvly nnot), but would also ignore the fact that our upbrgg and environment have profound effects on .

Yet when to homosexualy, is taboo to nnect childhood sexual abe wh subsequent gay inty sce: 1) this would ntradict the “born gay” myth; and 2) would unrsre the fact that homosexual attractns are not natural and posive. As explaed ndidly by the lbian femist and amic Cale Paglia, “Every sgle gay person I know has some sort of drama gog on, back childhood. In keepg wh this, all the profsnal unselors I have spoken wh (cludg traed pastors and psychologists or psychiatrists) have told me that the vast number of gays they have unseled were sexually abed as mors (some told me this was the se every stance they enuntered).

More disturbgly, gay circl, such relatnships are often looked at as posive and nurturg, sce, is surmised, the boy was already aware of his same-sex attractn and the olr man served as a mentor of sorts.

AM I GAY BEE OF THE ABE?

If the parents and iends of gays are tly iends of gays, they would know om their gay kids that the relatnship wh an olr man is precisely what thirteen-, fourteen-, and fifteen-year-old kids need more than anythg else the world. You n be assured that such relatnships would often bee sexual, thereby providg the entry pot to the larger homosexual “liftyle.

In those s where children do have sex wh their homosexual elrs … I subm that often, very often, the child sir the activy, and perhaps even solics , eher bee of a natural cursy … or bee he or she is homosexual and nately knows . … And unlike girls or women forced to rape or trmatized, most gay men have warm memori of their earlit and early sexual enunters; when we share the stori wh each other, they are variably posive on.

PREVALENCE OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABE AMONG LBIAN, GAY, AND BISEXUAL PEOPLE: A META-ANALYSIS

That’s why “man-boy love” has been celebrated homosexual culture through the centuri, that’s why there’s a page listg “Historil perastic upl” on a gay Wikipedia se, and that’s why Gee Takei uld speak glowgly of his first sexual enunter at the age of 13 (wh a 19-year-old male mp unselor), at a time when he adms he didn’t know he was gay. When I was about 14 or 15, I spent an afternoon smokg pot wh a ‘gay’ guy his 20’s who explaed that young people durg puberty have a very fluid sexual inty and how easy had been for him to turn young teen boys to sex partners … A nfirmg study I later saw said 25% of young teens suffer same-sex nfn but most grow out of naturally by the end of adolcence.

It is tly distasteful to speak of such thgs, but speak about them we mt, given the ever-creasg spe of gay activism, pecially our children’s schools.

We n do this by: 1) beg on the lookout for signs that our own children may have been abed; 2) refg to allow our kids to be experimental pawns the culture wars, bee of which we strongly oppose sex-based LGBT curricula the schools; and 3) no longer nyg the mon nnectn between childhood sexual abe and adult homosexualy, thereby providg a path for healg and wholens. Realy: Heterosexual, gay and bisexual men and people who intify as nonbary or trans are equally likely to be sexually abed. I hate the ia that I’m gay bee I was raped, but I don’t know if my intifyg as gay stead of bisexual or pansexual is bee of that.