Christian Blogger Glennon Doyle Melton Com Out As Gay, Reveals She's Datg Soccer Star Abby Wambach

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Nearly two years after marryg retired U.S. soccer star Abby Wambach, followg her divorce om longtime hband Craig Melton, thor Glennon Doyle said society will eventually accept a broar spectm of human sexualy beyond “gay” and “straight.”

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CHRISTIAN BLOGGER GLENNON DOYLE MELTON COM OUT AS GAY, REVEALS SHE'S DATG SOCCER STAR ABBY WAMBACH

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I jt thk that right now, some of the bt thgs I’m learng about gay activism is om Black activism. And I’ve been thkg about all the tersectns there, how the Black muny of activists has always shown up for the gay muny, and how sometim I feel like the bt thg I n do as an activist is listen and follow directns om my most treasured Back activist iends — particular Black trans women.

CHRISTIAN MOM GLENNON DOYLE PREACH SEXUALY BEYOND ‘GAY’ AND ‘STRAIGHT’ AT NSERVATIVE MEGACHURCH

Three years ago, she blogged: "I love gay people and I love Christians. Soccer star Abby Wambach, followg her divorce om longtime hband Craig Melton, thor Glennon Doyle said society will eventually accept a broar spectm of human sexualy beyond “gay” and “straight. We’ve got straight, and we’ve got gay.

I thk everyone is sred gayns is ntag.

WHEN YOUR SPOE OUT AS GAY

I don’t thk gayns is ntag. “You have had an tertg journey your sexualy, your gayns, whatever you want to ll , ” Wambach said.

And now you’re gay. I jt me here tonight to ask, why is everybody so gay all of a sudn? On the podst “We Can Do Hard Thgs wh Glennon Doyle, ” Abby Wambach talked about her experience wh relign and beg gay.

”Wambach rells beg a teenager and tellg her iend om church that she was gay. “If you are part of an anizatn — a fay, a nversatn, a iend, a church that is lettg homophobia live sidly — you have three choic, ” Doyle said.

DISCERNMENT CASE POT: GLENNON DOYLE MELTON OUT AS GAY

"But the way I grew up, jt wasn't an optn to be gay.

So I was totally nial about the fact that I was gay, lerally well until our marriage and until Jsi nonted me about , " Stoddard told TODAY Parents. That teachg was eply engraed Stoddard, and even when — six months to their marriage — Frew found a llectn of gay pornography on Stoddard's puter and asked him about his sexualy, he uldn't say the words out loud.

"And uld not say the words to me at that pot that he was gay. ""And you have to remember, we were part of this relign that tght that even if you were gay, or even if you had feelgs of same-sex attractn, wasn’t somethg you need to act upon, " Stoddard add. Acrdg to the CDC, "some risk factors are lked to beg gay or bisexual a hostile environment and the effects that this has on mental health.

GLENNON DOYLE AND ABBY WAMBACH WANT YOU TO KNOW WE CAN STILL DO HARD THGSTHE UPLE ON THEIR PODST’S ONE-YEAR ANNIVERSARY, TELLG THE TTH, AND TAKG UNTAMED’S QUEER LOVE STORY TO THE SMALL SCREEN.BY ABIGAIL GLASGOWMAY 11, 2022BY MELISSA LYTTLE. SAVE THIS STORYSAVESAVE THIS STORYSAVESTG DOWN WH GLENNON DOYLE AND ABBY WAMBACH FEELS LIKE TAKG A EP BREATH. WHETHER THEY’RE DISCSG THE TENTNAL, POLILLY DRIVEN SIGN OF SEPARATG QUEER EXISTENCE OM FAH OR REFLECTG ON THE “RADIL” ACT OF TRANSPARENCY THAT ALONG WH DISCSG MENTAL HEALTH, THE TWO—BOTH AS A UPLE AND AS DIVIDUALS—ARE VOTED TO NDID, LLECTIVE, AND JT STORYTELLG. WEDNDAY MARKS ONE YEAR SCE THAT VOTN FUELED THE LNCH OF THEIR PODST, WE CAN DO HARD THGS. IN , DOYLE, WAMBACH, AND DOYLE’S SISTER AMANDA (KNOWN AS “SISTER”) BRG ON GUTS LIKE ALOK, CHANEL MILLER, MEGAN RAPOE, GABRIELLE UNN, AND TARANA BURKE TO TACKLE STORI OF INTY, ACTIVISM, SEX, NAVIGATG TRMA, AND EVERYTHG BETWEEN.VANY FAIR CHATTED WH THE DUO ABOUT THE SHOW’S EVOLUTN, VULNERABILY, AND SYSTEMIC OPPRSN. THEY ALSO GIVE A GLIMPSE AT ONE OF THEIR UPG PROJECTS: THE TV ADAPTATN OF DOYLE’S NOVEL UNTAMED.VANY FAIR: IT’S BEEN A YEAR SCE YOU LNCHED YOUR PODST, WE CAN DO HARD THGS. HOW DO YOU FEEL?GLENNON DOYLE: I FEEL REALLY GRATEFUL. I N’T BELIEVE I GET TO DO THIS WH MY SISTER AND MY WIFE, MY TWO FAVORE PEOPLE ON EARTH; OM MY UCH, MY FAVORE PLACE ON EARTH; DOG MY FAVORE THG, EXPLORG IAS AND BEG A BRIDGE BETWEEN TERTG HUMAN BEGS AND MY MUNY. IT’S A LOT OF EAKG WORK AND I TAKE REALLY SERLY, BEE ’S A BIG HONOR AND PRIVILEGE TO TELL THE PEOPLE’S STORI. I’VE NEVER DONE THAT BEFORE. I HAVE ONLY MSED WH MYSELF, SO FEELS HEAVY SOMETIM.ABBY WAMBACH: YOU KNOW, I WAS SO NERVO ABOUT RETIRG OM SOCCER. THERE WAS SO MUCH PURPOSE SI WHAT I WAS DOG. IT WASN’T JT ABOUT ME, WAS ABOUT THAT LTLE GIRL OR BOY THE STANDS. WE WERE ACTIVISTS WHO DIDN’T NECSARILY KNOW ALL THE TIME. WE WERE PLAYG SPORTS, BUT REALLY WHAT WE WERE DOG WAS REVOLUTNARY MANY WAYS. I DIDN’T KNOW IF I WAS EVER GOG TO BE ABLE TO REPLITE THAT FEELG OF PURPOSE FOR THE RT OF MY WORKG LIFE—OBVLY HAVG A FAY AND BEG A WIFE HAS S OWN SENSE OF PURPOSE. THIS YEAR HAS MA ME UNRSTAND THAT WHAT I DID ON THE SOCCER FIELD GAVE ME A PLATFORM TO BE ABLE TO DO THIS WORK.DOYLE: ALSO, WRG A BOOK IS VERY LONELY FOR ME. IT’S DISAPPEARG OM MY LIFE. AND I FALLY LOVE MY LIFE. WRG ANOTHER BOOK DID NOT FEEL LIKE WHAT I WANTED TO DO, AND SOCIAL MEDIA SURE DIDN’T [EHER]. THIS WAS TWO YEARS AGO. IT WAS A SER TIME OUR UNTRY. WE NEED NUANCED, -PTH NVERSATNS. WE NEED ANOTHER MEDIUM WHERE WE ULD HAVE MORE GRAY FIXATNS AND MORE IMMEDIATE NVERSATNS.AND HOW DO YOU CI WHICH STORI TO TELL?DOYLE: IN THE VERY BEGNG, WE ASKED OUR MUNY—WE LL THEM THE POD SQUAD—WHO DO YOU WANT TO HEAR OM? I THK WE HAD 13,000 PEOPLE ON A SPREADSHEET OM 17,000 MENTS. WE HAD A TREASURE TROVE OF PEOPLE—OM PEOPLE WH 10 LN FOLLOWERS TO BRILLIANT MDS WH SIX. IF YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW WE DO , THERE’S A LOT OF WEEPG AND GNASHG OF TEETH. I S WH [EACH TERVIEWEE]. I HAVE DAYS WHERE I’M LIKE, OKAY, TODAY’S THE DAY I GET TO THK ABOUT CHANEL MILLER—READG EVERYTHG SHE’S EVER SAID, GOG FOR A WALK AND ONLY THKG ABOUT HER. I FEEL LIKE I’M SPENDG A WEEK WH EACH PERSON.WAMBACH: I’LL WALK TO THE ROOM AND SHE’LL BE READG SOMEONE’S BOOK AND I’M LIKE, “WHAT ARE YOU DOG?” AND SHE’LL GO, “OH, I’M JT HANGG OUT WH SO-AND-SO.”THE PODST STRIK A BALANCE OF BEG CREDIBLY VULNERABLE, NDID, AND TIMATE ON A VERY PUBLIC PLATFORM. HOW DO YOU EXIST WH THAT FE LE?DOYLE: IT WOULD FEEL DIFFICULT IF THAT’S NOT HOW [OUR PLATFORM] WAS BUILT. BUT I STARTED WRG RIGHT WHEN I GOT SOBER AFTER BEG LOST TO FOOD AND ALHOL ADDICTN FOR A VERY LONG TIME. I FOUND THE MAGIC OF REVERY: WE DON’T HAVE TO BE ASHAMED OF ANYTHG. WE N TALK ABOUT ALL OF OUR HARD THGS. WE LIVE SERVICE OF OTHERS. THAT WAS HOW I BUILT RELATNSHIPS AND A REER.WAMBACH: IT’S ONE OF THE THGS THAT WAS SUCH A DRAW, FOR ME, TO YOU. I ME OM A WORLD OF WOMEN’S SOCCER. I HAD A B OF FAME, BUT I DIDN’T REALLY TELL THE WORLD WHO I WAS, WHICH WAS THE DOWNFALL MY ADDICTN TO ALHOL. WHEN I MET [GLENNON], I LEARNED THAT I ACTUALLY JT NEED TO BE HONT ABOUT SOBRIETY. THAT’S ; THAT’S ALL I NEED TO BE. AND ON THE PODST, ’S STILL A LTLE NERVE-RACKG WHEN YOU’RE ABOUT TO DIVULGE PERSONAL RMATN PUBLICLY.ONE TIME, I WAS GOG TO TALK ABOUT MY EXPERIENCE OF WALKG TO PUBLIC RTROOMS AND GETTG MISTAKEN FOR A MAN—WHICH HAPPENS ABOUT 95% OF THE TIME. I FELT LIKE SHARG WOULD HAVE BEEN EMBARRASSG, BEE ’S EMBARRASSG THE MOMENT. BUT THE RPONSE THAT I GOT OM PEOPLE WHO PRENT LIKE ME, THAT HAVE HAD THIS EXACT EXPERIENCE, HAS MA MY EXPERIENCE WALKG TO PUBLIC RTROOMS PLETELY DIFFERENT.YOU KNOW, I LOST MY FATHER TO SUICI. AND HE WAS ALSO UNFAHFUL MY PARENTS’ MARRIAGE. AND I AM VOL ABOUT , BUT OTHER PEOPLE SORT OF TRIP OVER THEIR WORDS WHEN I BRG UP. BUT TIPTOEG OVER YOUR OWN EXPERIENC, THAT IS MORE TERRIFYG.MOST POPULARAND JT LIKE THAT… PREPAR FOR ITS LAST SUPPERBY CHRIS MURPHYRILEY KEOUGH ON GROWG UP PRLEY, LOSG LISA MARIE, AND INHERG GRACELANDBY BRT HENNEMUTHTHE TV MOVIE IS MAKG A WEIRD, WONRFUL COMEBACKBY DAVID CANFIELDWAMBACH: AND YOU’RE BRGG SOMETHG THAT HAS FELT LIKE ’S BEEN THE SHADOWS TO THE LIGHT BY TALKG ABOUT WH NO SHAME.IN THAT VE, LET’S TALK ABOUT THE CIRCULATN OF UNTAMED. HOW DO FEEL TO HEAR THAT YOUR STORY HAS BEE A WAY FOR FOLKS TO SHARE THEIR OWN STORI?DOYLE: I THK THAT WOULD BE SRY AS HELL IF I DIDN’T TLY KNOW THAT NONE OF THAT IS ACTUALLY ABOUT ME, BUT IS THE POWER THAT HAPPENS WHEN ANYBODY TELLS THE TTH ABOUT THEIR LIFE. WHEN I STARTED REVERY, I WAS PROPOSED THIS THEORY THAT IF YOU JT TELL THE TTH, YOU WILL FD MORE NNECTN WH OTHER HUMAN BEGS, YOU WILL FEEL EER—BEE YOU WON’T BE RRYG SHAME. AND THEN I GOT TO TT THE THEORY SUCH A MAGNIFIED WAY.WHAT I REALLY BELIEVE ABOUT EEDOM—WHICH IS WHY ’S BEG SO HEAVILY OPPOSED RIGHT NOW ON SO MANY LEVELS—IS THAT ’S WILDLY NTAG. WHEN PEOPLE HAND UNTAMED TO EACH OTHER, FEELS TO ME LIKE WHAT THEY’RE SAYG IS, “I’M TRYG TO GIVE YOU A LTLE B OF EEDOM.”AND I KNOW THAT DON’T HAVE TO DO WH ME PERSONALLY BEE THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE PASSG TO EACH OTHER WHO AREN’T QUEER. AND [UNTAMED] IS A QUEER LOVE STORY—NOT JT ROMANTILLY, EHER. IT’S ABOUT QUEER FAH. IT’S ABOUT QUEER GENR. I THK PEOPLE ARE JT TRYG TO PASS THE BATON.SCE ’S THE SEASON OF MOTHER’S DAY, I WANT TO TALK ABOUT WHAT MOTHERHOOD MEANS FOR YOU BOTH.DOYLE: I DON’T EVEN THK OF THE WORD MOTHER AS A NOUN ANYMORE. IT’S A VERB. LIZ GILBERT, TRACEE ELLIS ROSS, OPRAH—THE ARE PEOPLE WHO HAVE CID NOT TO HAVE BLOGIL CHILDREN BUT MOTHER AND THE WORLD BETTER THAN ANYBODY. THE ACTIVISTS OUR LIV ARE PROBABLY THE FIERCT MOTHERS THAT WE KNOW. WHICH IS HOW MOTHER’S DAY STARTED—AS A DAY TO ACTIVATE MUNI. THERE IS A WAY OF THKG ABOUT MOTHERG THAT, SOME WAYS, IS AT THE ROOT OF A LOT OF OUR UNTRY’S CHALLENG. WHICH IS WHAT I WROTE ABOUT UNTAMED. THERE’S THIS IA THAT MY JOB AS A MOTHER IS TO PROTECT MY PARTICULAR CHILD—GIVE THEM SIX IPADS, SEVEN FLAVORS OF CREAM CHEE. BUT WHAT IF WE MAKE OUR MOTHERG LENS A LOT WIR AND NSIR THAT ALL CHILDREN ARE OUR CHILDREN? WHAT WOULD THAT LOOK LIKE?WAMBACH: WE BOTH E AT MOTHERHOOD OM A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE, [GLENNON’S] BEG THE BLOGIL ROUTE AND ME AS A BON PARENT. EARLY ON OUR RELATNSHIP AND MARRIAGE, I WAS NSIRG HAVG A BLOGIL CHILD OF MY OWN. AS TIME WENT ON, I REALIZED THAT THE THREE CHILDREN WERE ENOUGH FOR ME. I DIDN’T NEED TO DO MYSELF ORR TO FEEL LIKE A MOTHER. I’VE BEEN ABLE TO UNRSTAND BON MOTHERHOOD MANY WAYS AS THE MOST SELFLS, LOVG EXPERIENCE OF MY LIFE. I’M MARRIED TO THE CHILDREN’S LIV. I DON’T HAVE ANY LEGAL BDG TO THEM, NO BLOOD RELATN. SO SOME WAYS, THEY HAVE TO CHOOSE IF THEY OPT TO THIS LOVE. I ASK GLENNON ALL THE TIME, “DO YOU FEEL JEALO THAT OUR KIDS CHOOSE TO LOVE ME AND THEY HAVE TO LOVE YOU?” [LGHS.]MOST POPULARAND JT LIKE THAT… PREPAR FOR ITS LAST SUPPERBY CHRIS MURPHYRILEY KEOUGH ON GROWG UP PRLEY, LOSG LISA MARIE, AND INHERG GRACELANDBY BRT HENNEMUTHTHE TV MOVIE IS MAKG A WEIRD, WONRFUL COMEBACKBY DAVID CANFIELDAND NOW THAT’S ANOTHER LAYER TO MOTHERHOOD THE NTEXT OF CHOICE, WHICH IS SO PERTENT—PECIALLY THIS WEEK.DOYLE: AND ALSO SUGGTS THIS IA: IS MOTHERHOOD WHOUT CHOICE EVEN MOTHERHOOD?YOU MENTNED HOW UNTAMED IS A QUEER LOVE STORY MANY WAYS—CLUDG QUEER FAH. THOSE TWO THGS HAVE HISTORILLY BEEN NFLICT WH ONE ANOTHER.DOYLE: WELL, AND THAT’S ON PURPOSE. WE KNOW THAT PRE–ROE V. WA, ABORTN AND GAY RIGHTS WERE NONISSU FOR EVANGELILS. THEN SEGREGATN HAPPENED, AND EVANGELILS LOST THEIR RIGHT TO HAVE TAX-EXEMPT PRIVATE SCHOOLS. THEY WERE VERY FIRED UP ABOUT THAT. BUT THEY KNEW THEY ULDN’T PUBLICLY GO AGAST CIVIL RIGHTS AS AN ISSUE. SO THEY LIBERATELY CHOSE TO BE ANTIABORTN AND GAY RIGHTS BEE THOSE ARE EASIER FOR RALLYG A VOTG BLOC. THIS MOVEMENT AGAST PROGRS—OR REALLY AGAST WHAT IS—AND THE BLOOD THAT IS PUMPG THROUGH THE VES OF ANTIABORTN, GAY-MARRIAGE RHETORIC, IS RACISM. THE FACT THAT ANY CHRISTIAN WOULD BE TOEG THIS LE WHOUT DOG THE REARCH NECSARY TO FIGURE OUT WHERE THIS ME OM IS UNNSCNABLE.WE DID THIS BETIFUL TERVIEW WH OCEAN VUONG RECENTLY, AND HE WAS TALKG ABOUT WANTG TO KEEP CLAIMG MASCULY, EVEN THE FACE OF WHAT MASCULY HAS E TO MEAN TO PEOPLE THIS UNTRY. HE SAID, “I DON’T WANT TO LEAVE . I WANT TO STAY AND PLITE.” AND I THK THAT’S ALWAYS HOW I’VE FELT ABOUT FAH. IN OUR FAY, THE CHRISTIAN MANDATE “DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU” MEANS THAT EVERY GOOD THG YOU WANT FOR YOURSELF, YOU MT FIGHT FOR OTHERS TO HAVE OUR UNTRY. THE ON WHO HAVE BEEN OTHERED ARE BROWN PEOPLE, BLACK PEOPLE, WOMEN PEOPLE, UNHOED PEOPLE, NRODIVERGENT PEOPLE, POOR PEOPLE. HEALTH RE, BODILY TONOMY—RIGHT NOW ANY CHRISTIAN MAN WHO WANTS TO HAVE BODILY TONOMY AND IS NOT OUT THERE FOR WOMEN…[SIGHS]. I HAVE HAD MANY MOMENTS WHERE I’VE BEEN LIKE, I NNOT TAKE THAT ASSOCIATN ANYMORE—MORE GUNS, LS GAYS. BUT THEN I ALSO THK, NO, I DON’T WANT TO BE HIJACKED FOR ME.BEFORE WE WRAP, LET’S TALK ABOUT THE UPG TV ADAPTATN OF UNTAMED. HOW DO FEEL TO MOVE TO A NEW MEDIUM OF STORYTELLG—ONE THAT CLUS SARAH PLSON PLAYG YOU, GLENNON?DOYLE: I THK I N SAY RIGHT NOW, I FEEL REALLY HOPEFUL ABOUT WHAT THE SHOW ULD BE BEE OF THE PEOPLE THAT WE HAVE VOLVED TELLG .WAMBACH: AND BEE HOLLYWOOD’S THE WILD WILD WT.DOYLE: RIGHT, NOT SAYG HASN’T BEEN WEIRD. BUT YOU KNOW, SOME MAGIL THGS HAVE HAPPENED. LIKE ONLY [DNG] ONE ACTOR [FOR ME]. IT WAS SRY FOR BEE I WAS LIKE, “OKAY, SO THE THG IS, HAS TO BE SARAH.” IT HAD TO BE SOMEBODY WHO IS A TRANSFORMATNAL ACTOR, WHO IS TOUCH WH THE WORLD AND VOLVED EVERYTHG WE RE ABOUT, AND WHO IS QUEER. SO YOU MAKE ME THAT LIST!MOST POPULARAND JT LIKE THAT… PREPAR FOR ITS LAST SUPPERBY CHRIS MURPHYRILEY KEOUGH ON GROWG UP PRLEY, LOSG LISA MARIE, AND INHERG GRACELANDBY BRT HENNEMUTHTHE TV MOVIE IS MAKG A WEIRD, WONRFUL COMEBACKBY DAVID CANFIELDTHE CENTER OF THAT VENN DIAGRAM IS SARAH.DOYLE: EXACTLY. I WAED FOR SO LONG TO ASK HER BEE I WAS SRED SHE WAS GONNA SAY NO. IT’S LIKE WHEN YOU DON’T LOOK FOR SOMETHG YOU LOST BEE YOU’RE AAID YOU ACTUALLY WON’T FD . I WROTE HER A LETTER AND TOLD HER WHY I WANTED TO BE HER. AND SHE WROTE ME BACK MUT SAYG THAT SHE ULD NOT BELIEVE THIS WAS HAPPENG BEE WHEN SHE READ UNTAMED THE YEAR PRR, SHE KNEW SHE WAS SUPPOSED TO PLAY ME. THE PERSON I’M WRG WH IS SARAH MCCARRON. SHE’S A YOUNG, QUEER, RADIL, BRILLIANT WOMAN BRGG THE NEW H IAS. JSIE NELSON IS A PRODUCER ON , AND SHE IS SO TOUCH WH THE MENTAL HEALTH AND MOTHER-DGHTER ASPECTS.AND THEN THERE’S THIS CRAZY THG THAT HAPPENED CREATIVELY. I’M WRG WH SARAH, AND THERE WAS THIS MOMENT WHERE I WAS WRG AND PROPOSG DIALOGUE. I WROTE THE WORDS AND SARAH—WHO HAS AN EXTREMELY POWERFUL BACKGROUND THEATER—SAID TO ME, “YEAH, BUT THE WORDS ARE LIKE THE LEAST TE THG THAT WE HAVE.” AND I WAS LIKE, “I’M SORRY?! I’VE BEEN WORKG FOR 15 YEARS WH WORDS.” AND BLEW MY MD BEE UNTAMED IS SO MUCH ABOUT OUR BODI—OUR BODI KNOW, OUR BODI TELL THE TTH; ALL OF THE HOMOPHOBIA, THE RACISM, THE NDNG IS OUR MDS. AND SO TO BE EXPLORG THAT—I DON’T THK THERE ARE MANY QUEER LOVE STORI THAT ARE TOLD BY QUEER PEOPLE FOR QUEER PEOPLE THAT ARE REAL LIKE THIS.MORE GREAT STORI FROM VANY FAIRHOW GREY’S ANATOMY WRER ELISABETH FCH USED LI TO CREATE MT-SEE TVTHE NORTHMAN: LET’S TALK ABOUT THAT BONKERS NILE KIDMAN SCENELRA DERN, SAM NEILL, AND JEFF GOLDBLUM’S JURASSIC PARK RNNREMEMBERG MARGARET CAMPBELL, THE “HOT MS” DUCHS AT THE CENTER OF ’60S SEX SNDALMELANIE LYNSKEY ON YELLOWJACKETS, CANDY, AND AN INCREDIBLE YEAREXCLIVE: OZARK’S ENDG, EXPLAEDWEWORK’S ADAM AND REBEKAH NMANN: WHERE ARE THEY NOW?WHY STREAMERS ARE PULLG BACK FROM EDGY CONTENTJOHNNY DEPP’S TARNISHED CAREER ENTERS THE AMBER HEARD DEFAMATN TRIALFROM THE ARCHIVE: THE TWS WHO FROLICKED WH JOHN PL GETTY IIISIGN UP FOR THE “HWD DAILY” NEWSLETTER FOR MT-READ DTRY AND AWARDS VERAGE—PL A SPECIAL WEEKLY EDN OF “AWARDS INSIR.”ABIGAIL GLASGOW

Frew is also offerg a workshop for people who have had a spoe e out as gay.

"In September, 2019, he told me he was gay. And there was a perd where we wonred if a mixed-orientatn marriage worked, where even though he was gay he wanted to rema married.

"On the flip si of that, the panmic has given me time and space to bee way more fortable my own gay sk. I anticipated the homophobia om certa people my life — I didn't realize how much homophobia I had my own self.

AUTHOR GLENNON DOYLE MELTON GAY RELATNSHIP

But Alan knew he was gay at a young age — knowledge that ntradicted his fah’s teachgs. ”Now, Alan says his ex-wife, fay members, and children love the more thentic, hont versn of himself more than the person he was when he wasn’t out as a gay man. Activists—I’m not gay enough for the gay muny.

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For the past forty days, she had led her 1.5 ln Instagram followers takg an actn each day to disempower Tmp: phone bankg, explorg the tails of absentee ballots, ntributg to progrsive ndidaci, discsg civics wh <a href=">Elizabeth Warren</a> (who told Doyle, “You, a time of plete sany, are a voice for remdg all we have a center, we have a heart”). But that’s not why she was tired. She hadn’t stopped cleang days. “I did the hoe, then I did the garage, and then yterday we moved on to the storage un,” she said. Doyle’s wife, the soccer legend <a href=">Abby Wambach</a>, who was stretched out next to her, add, “It sucks the moment. But now I don’t have to thk about that storage un ever aga. And we’re savg four hundred and thirty-three dollars and nety-ne cents a month.” Doyle nodd and said, “Anxiety has ge benefs.” The enzy of anizatnal activy had been a distractn om pre-electn dread. “This is one of those jt-keep-gog moments,” she ntued. “Like: We’re not gog to feel any of the feelgs. Let’s jt keep our ltle hearts <em>ozen</em>.”</p><p class="paywall">From Doyle, this is apostasy. She has a sticky note on her bathroom mirror that reads “Feel It All.” In her most recent memoir, “<a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">Untamed</a>,” she wr, “Every great spirual teacher tells the same story about humany and pa: Don’t avoid . You need to evolve, to bee.” Durg a Goop vio chat the early days of quarante, Doyle advised Gwyh Paltrow, “<em>All</em> feelgs are for feelg.”</p><p class="paywall">Doyle, who is forty-four, has always poed experiencg vividly all that is betiful and btal the world. “Life is <em>btiful</em>,” she wrote her first book, “<a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">Carry On, Warrr</a>,” 2013. At the time, she was married to a man, and “Christian mommy blogger”—her least favore sobriquet—was a pretty accurate scriptn of her job. Her blog, Momastery, offered rears a look at her life as a progrsive Christian raisg three children which was timate, unguard, self-revealg. “I found my thg: openns,” she wrote. “I cid that’s what God wanted me to do. . . . I was gog to make people feel better about their sis by showg them me.”</p><p class="paywall">God—at least, the versn she had md back then—is not much of a prence “Untamed,” but radil honty is still fol. The book begs wh the story of a trip to the zoo, durg which Doyle and her fay enunter a tamed cheetah named Tabha. She imag what the animal would tell her, if uld talk: “ ‘I feel rtls and trated. I have this hunch that everythg was supposed to be more betiful than this.’ . . . She’d sigh and say, ‘I should be grateful. I have a good enough life here. It’s crazy to long for what don’t even exist.’ I’d say: Tabha. You are not crazy. You are a goddam cheetah.”</p><p class="paywall">Each of Doyle’s books has reached the top of the bt-seller lists. “Untamed” has sold more than two ln pi. After readg , the sger Ale posted, “It’s as if I jt flew to my body for the very first time.” Oprah Wey lled Doyle one of the “awakened lears who are g their voic and talent to elevate humany.” The Bin mpaign sought Doyle’s help reachg suburban women: “Glennon is their knight shg armor,” a mpaign staffer said. Doyle’s books aren’t memoirs of extraordary experience—she is not a Kenyan-Amerin who go on to bee Print, or the dghter of a flamboyant n artist, or a survivor of a wrenchg immigratn. But Doyle, who sometim refers to herself as a “clilly prsed motivatnal speaker,” has a knack for distillg wisdom om seemgly patible sourc—radil femism, evangelil Christiany, twelve-step programs, Pema Chödrön—to an easy-drkg blend. Everythg will be better, she suggts, if you jt tell the tth about yourself.</p><p class="paywall">Between Doyle’s first book and her third, her tth has changed nsirably. “Carry On, Warrr” honors women mted to sloggg through the muck of domticy. “Untamed” argu that if women would jt gnaw their way out of the g of societal expectatn they’d be goddam cheetahs. “My world view is, <em>of urse</em> you should be changg, but ’s bee clear to me that that’s not everybody’s world view,” she told me. “Some of the cricism I’ve read about ‘Untamed’ is: Do the fact that she’s so different this book mean that her other books were li?” Not many wrers have more than one memoir them, but Doyle has had more than one life. “To wre a new book,” she told me, “I always feel like I have to bee a new person.”</p><p class="has-dropp has-dropp__lead-standard-headg paywall">Years ago, at one of Doyle’s readgs, a reporter approached her father and said, “You mt be so proud of your dghter.” Doyle’s father, a middle-school prcipal and football ach, replied, “Hontly, we’re jt happy she’s not jail.” Before she was a lbian or a Christian or an thor or an fluencer, Doyle had a different rnatn, one that is ccial to her non: the fuckup.</p><p class="paywall">Growg up Burke, Virgia, a suburb of Washgton, D.C., Doyle was admired for her looks. “<em>She is such a betiful child</em>, strangers say to my mother daily,” Doyle wrote “Love Warrr,” her send memoir. “I have to learn what to do bee bety is a rponsibily.” At ten years old, she started bgg and purgg: “Each night I brg two cups to bed wh me—one filled wh food and one to fill wh vom. I leave the cups unrneath my bed, and their stench is a nstant remr to all of that I’m not better.” Doyle was raised a Catholic fay that valued service and huy; a poster her father’s office said “<em class="small">Don</em>’<em class="small">t get too proud, the size of your funeral will likely pend on the weather</em>.” She scrib herself as loved and unhurt but still sperately out of place on pla Earth.</p><div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--article-mid-ntent" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--article-mid-ntent nsumer-marketg-un__slot---ntent"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><p class="paywall">After nearly a of battlg bulimia, she entered a psychiatric hospal durg her senr year of high school. “For the first time my life, I found myself a world that ma sense to me,” Doyle said at a <em class="small">TED</em> talk 2013. “In the mental hospal, there was no pretendg: the jig was up.” But the sufferg was not. While attendg Jam Madison Universy, Doyle found mararie her sickns. “There are so many openly bulimic women my sorory that there is an announcement one afternoon,” she wr. “ ‘When you throw up, please flh the toilets. It looks bad when people e to the hoe and there’s pe everywhere.’ ”</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-1 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">She began drkg ferocly, at at parti where there were signs on the wall that said “<em class="small">NO FAT CHICKS”</em>: “There I n drk myself to a stupor and be rried to bed to have sex that I will not remember.” When she was not attendg the ftivals of misogyny and dissipatn, she was preparg for them. “The procs begs at around four o’clock when I’m steady enough to get out of bed and beg drkg aga,” she wr. “Then I dry off and gather my tools—hair dryer, straightener, makp, stilettos, tube top, short skirts, more beer—and beg the hard work of transformg myself om a sick ms to my shy, betiful, bulletproof rep.” (She means this the sense of “sal rep.”)</p><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><p class="paywall">After Doyle graduated, she beme a third-gra teacher. She loved her stunts, but every day after class she drove to the store for “two huge bottl of we.” One weekend, at a bar crawl Washgton, D.C., Doyle was retroduced to Craig Melton, a high-school classmate. He was, she relled, “a star soccer player wh all the wholomens and golnns that soccer ach require or create.” (Doyle has a thg about soccer players.) He was also handsome enough to work as a mol. They beme drkg buddi and lovers, and, four months later, Doyle had an abortn. “After that night, I don’t stop drkg often enough to mata a life,” she wr. She missed work; she abandoned her r while on a benr; she was arrted—“only <em>five tim</em>.”</p><p class="paywall">On Mother’s Day, 2002, she disvered that she was pregnant aga, but this time she had a revelatn. “I am a dnk. I am a bulimic. I nnot love a child, bee all I do is hurt the people I love. I nnot teach someone else how to live bee I am only half alive. There is no one on earth, cludg me, who’d nsir me worthy of motherhood. And yet. As I stare at the ltle blue cross, is impossible for me to ny that someone cid I was worthy,” she wr. “I ci to believe a God who believ a girl like me.”</p><p class="paywall">This marked the emergence of Doyle’s send lerary eratn: the believer. She believed matrimony, and she believed motherhood; she and Melton got married and had a son, Chase. Two more children followed quickly, both of them girls (“until they tell me otherwise,” as Doyle puts the days). She believed a lovg, fivg, Mary-centered versn of Christiany, and her twelve-step program, both of which emphasized surrenr. 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It is this avatar of Doyle’s—the hoebound warrr, rryg on—who started regularly e-mailg iends her impassned, sayistic imprsns of life. “I was jt dyg for a place to tell the tth,” she said. “I would send them the e-mails, and then I would check up: ‘Did you have any time to thk about the thgs that I was talkg about?’ But they were at <em>work</em>.”</p><p class="paywall">Eventually, one of her iends rpond wh a lk to a tutorial on how to start a blog. Doyle began gettg up at four-thirty, to wre before her children were out of bed. She told stori om her darkt days, or ma extend metaphors out of the mundane experienc of motherhood. One of the first posts to go viral was “Don’t Carpe Diem,” about the impossibily of savorg every send of her children’s liv. “I’d be at Target, or wherever, and one of my kids would be breakg down, and some olr woman would e over and say, ‘Every prec mute go so fast!’ ” Doyle relled. “And I’d never had a moment feel longer.” Thread through her wrg were slogans and terms that she ed (and often palized) to soothe and spire her rears—a technique borrowed om her football-ach father which was later rerced by church and by A.A. 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built around her most popular blog posts, was a celebratn of persistence marriage, of the grace to be found domtic route. Jt as the galleys were gog to prs, Doyle learned that her hband had been havg one-night stands for more than a . “While I’ve been home changg diapers, dog dish, and feedg our children, he’s been sleepg wh other women,” she wrote later. “While I’ve been apologizg for my abily to nnect durg sex, he’s been nnectg wh strangers.”</p><p class="paywall">If this revelatn unrmed Doyle’s first book, provid the foundatn of her send. “<a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">Love Warrr</a>” is the story of how Doyle renfigured her maral crisis as an opportuny for transformatn. “The vatn this pa is the possibily of disverg who I really am,” she wrote. “Death and rurrectn—maybe that’s jt the way of life and love.”</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-2 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">Oprah Wey selected “Love Warrr” for her book club, and Doyle’s publisher braced for a marriage-remptn blockbter. Once aga, though, the release of a book cid wh a life-alterg experience: at a publishg event, she met Wambach, a two-time Olympic gold medallist and a World Cup champn, who was promotg her own memoir. “Sudnly, a woman is standg where nothgns ed to be. She tak up the entire doorway, the entire room, the entire universe,” Doyle wrote. “I stare at her and take ventory of my entire life. My whole beg says: <em>There She Is</em>.” And then they were stuck, feelg all the feelgs, om oppose asts, two separate marriag.</p><p class="has-dropp has-dropp__lead-standard-headg paywall">“It was absolutely btal,” Doyle said, one afternoon when she and Wambach were stg the bright livg room of their hoe, Napl, Florida. There were palm tre out by the pool; si, the furnure was morn and mostly whe, and on the wall were patgs by an artist om Wambach’s native Rochter—ritur of Bob Dylan and Philip Seymour Hoffman, two famo shape-shifters. “I thought, This is my one shot at happs,” Doyle ntued. “And I will never be able to take .”</p><p class="paywall">Their first e-mails were about revery; Wambach was one month sober, after a D.U.I. that ma headl. “My face was on the ESPN ticker for a whole week,” Wambach said, efully. “That public shamg jt knocked right out of me.” She was livg Portland, Oregon, and was the procs of separatg om her wife, Sarah Huffman, a former teammate on the WNY Flash. The two were celebrated for exchangg a passnate kiss the stands followg Wambach’s w at the Women’s World Cup 2015—a moment of public pri, jt a week after a Supreme Court lg effectively legalized marriage equaly. Doyle had never kissed a woman before.</p><p class="paywall">At first, Wambach said, “I was protectg myself, on a soul level. Bee they never leave the fay, straight women. They never leave the man—you know, like, for <em>me</em>.” But Doyle’s background turned out to be an advantage. “When Glennon started to talk J and Christiany to my mother,” Wambach ntued, “Mom was kd of taken aback that, Oh, this person knows more about this subject that I have basilly been g as the reason why my dghter should not be wh women.”</p><p class="paywall">Doyle do not like to label her sexualy. On Instagram this fall, she posted a photo of a new haircut and wrote, “I like short and unly and wild and not so straight—jt like me.” In her livg room, she asked, “Who’s the boss of what’s a lbian? And what’s bisexual? I do not feel like I was hidg somethg for my whole life. I really unrstand why the ‘born this way’ narrative is important to so many people, but to me smacks of guilt and shame. It’s, like, ‘Oh, I would be straight if I uld, but I n’t.’ Can you image if we had that the civil-rights movement? If Black people were, like, ‘I would be whe if I uld’?”</p><p class="paywall">Doyle wears a gold pendant of Mary on her neck, and she played wh wh her manicured fgers as she spoke. “I have been and out of Christian circl for so long that I know all of that culture, that language,” she said. “It’s all semantics. Abby talks about learship wh a team, and to me means the exact same thg as what I talk about terms of fah. When I say that I’m obssed about J, what I love so much is the ia of showg up for the world a way that is sacrificial.” Wambach was that kd of lear, Doyle said, much more than she was: “I am not my favore kd of person.”</p><p class="paywall">In Doyle’s fense, Wambach suggted that, effect, the polil is personal: “Bee of her size, bee of her genr, bee of her pretty face, orr to get her way she <em>has</em> to go to an alternative mo! Otherwise, she will be walked over and talked over and never get thgs done.”</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB jxBcTH sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="7ab9v"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa EOneK body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p class="paywall">“Listen, ’s not like I’m walkg around shootg people,” Doyle said. “I’m a good and kd person. I don’t know if I’m <em>nice</em>. Would you say I’m nice?”</p><p class="paywall">“I thk you are your heart,” Wambach replied, which ma them both lgh. “I have to remember that you have clil anxiety, right? And ’s not fair for me to be, like, Why don’t you rpond nicer? So forc me to be emotnally telligent!”</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-3 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">“See?” Doyle said. “She’s my favore kd of person.”</p><p class="paywall">Doyle and Wambach are the embodiment of what straight women have md when they say that would be so much easier to be love wh another woman. They exist what Doyle lls a “forever nversatn—the way I always dreamed uld be.” At this pot, their relatnship provis as much fodr for Doyle’s work as motherhood and spirualy do. Whenever they fd themselv on the verge of a certa kd of teractn, one of them whips out a phone to rerd . “You know when you’re, like, ‘Oh, here we go aga’? Each of knows when ’s g, and this is part of our onle story.” They have been approached about dog a televisn seri. “Probably once a week for the last four years, some work has wrten to beggg for to do a realy show, and never, ever, a ln gazilln years would we,” Doyle said. “We do a slice of that, but all on our own terms.” Realy televisn reli on people actg out. Wambach and Doyle are done wh all that. They prefer Instagram, where people go to see somethg that they n aspire to.</p><p class="paywall">Inially, Doyle was told that admtg she’d fallen love wh Wambach—jt as she was about to go on tour promotg “Love Warrr”—would be reer suici. “There is fear and panic,” she posted on Momastery. “And the advice om many is: Wa, G. Jt wa till after the book has lnched to reveal this. This is a MARRIAGE book—you n’t break up before even out!” But, she explaed to her rears, “I was not lled to be succsful. I was lled to be fahful. I was lled to be fahful to tth and vulnerabily and to YOU.”</p><p class="has-dropp has-dropp__lead-standard-headg paywall">Every weekday morng at ne, Doyle has a Zoom meetg wh her team back Virgia: Dynna Cabana, who is charge of events and operatns; Allison Schott, who handl graphic sign; and Doyle’s sister, Amanda, whom she scrib as “the boss of me.” (“Glennon thks lors,” Amanda, a lawyer, said. “I thk spreadsheets.”) One morng, the four women were discsg Doyle’s recent appearance on Hillary Clton’s podst, which they tend to promote on her social-media platforms. “She said, I really need you to ll me Hillary, and I was, like, I really need you to have a different requt of me,” Doyle said. “I n’t even ll my eighth-gra civics teacher Ta.”</p><p class="paywall">“But she’s dog that for likabily, right?” Amanda asked.</p><p class="paywall">“No! We had a really betiful nversatn, and she was really vulnerable and prec, and was, like, a moment.”</p><p class="paywall">Doyle was ncerned about how her followers might rpond to Clton’s podst. “I was up at 2 <em class="small">A</em>.<em class="small">M</em>. thkg about this,” she said. “When we post , I want this to be a pletely safe space for her. Like, if one person says one eakg thg . . . ”</p><p class="paywall">“That will one hundred per cent happen,” Amanda said, noddg vigoroly. “Ls so on Instagram, but on Facebook you might want to nsir jt turng off the ments.”</p><p class="paywall">This would be a big step the Doylphere; she nsirs the back-and-forth wh her rears sacrosanct. “I’m always amazed by my iends who are wrers onle who say, ‘Why are you readg ments?’ ” she told me. “It’s, like, That is half the thg!” For Doyle—who has wrten, “I love people, but not <em> person</em>”—the Inter provis an ial medium. Onle, the exchang are immediate, and buildg fellowship n seem effortls. (Publishg, by ntrast, feels to her like “ia generatn molass.”) She munit wh her rears almost daily, ton as timate as if she were talkg to ar iends. She often begs vios by sayg, “Hello, lov.” A habual sign-off is “I love ,” or, if she’s rpondg to somethg bad, “We will get through this together, like we always have.”</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-4 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">“I jt feel so bted to them,” Doyle told me. “It feels like a very good e of my life and time to keep guidg my ltle muny, bee they actually n make change.” She and Amanda started the nonprof Together Risg 2012, and sce then have raised more than twenty-eight ln dollars for that have gripped Doyle’s followers: Syrian refuge, children separated om their parents at the borr, rcerated Black mothers who n’t afford to post bail, a sgle mom who needs breast-ncer treatment. A mantra of the anizatn is “Transform your heartache to actn.” In their livg room, Wambach suggted that this ia had a persistent place their liv. “You see somethg wrong, you <em>feel</em> ,” she told Doyle. “Like, you’re bed for two days when kids are gettg locked up g—and I’m, like, Where’s my wife? And then one day I wake up, and you’re out of bed, you’ve got an <em>easel</em>, and you’re ready to take down the whole system.”</p><p class="paywall">In addictn revery, the Sereny Prayer enurag people to change what they n and accept what they n’t; Doyle has reëvaluated where that le is. If you abi by her tchphrase and “feel everythg,” you may well fd yourself moved by the sufferg of others. Another of her tchphras might spire you to work agast : “We n do hard thgs.” Doyle me across the maxim when she tght third gra, noticg on a sign another teacher’s classroom. Sce she started g her wrg, has ronated broadly. After Bin won the Princy, his mpaign manager tweeted, “We n do hard thgs . . . and you jt did!” Addrsg Congrs after the siege of the Capol, Chuck Schumer said, “In Ameri, we do hard thgs.” A flurry of ments epted onle. An Instagram follower of Doyle’s mented, “Schumer is Untamed!” Another wrote, “I might have started cryg,” to which Doyle rpond, “me too :)” There were a great many cheetah emojis. As the nversatn ntued, Doyle offered a fortg wish: “Jt an ia for : maybe we all go to bed a ltle early . . . to extra prepare for whatever tomorrow? I love . We n do hard thgs.”</p><p class="paywall">Doyle’s good iend <a href=">Elizabeth Gilbert</a>—who also rose to fame wh a memoir about self-actualizatn, and who addrs her followers as “ar on” onle—explaed the nnectn. “I don’t want to pathologize, but we might have some teensy boundary issu, and some history of not beg able to tell where I end and the other person begs,” she said. Gilbert fend the relatnships as real, though: “People will say, ‘I feel like I <em>know</em> you,’ and what I tend to say to them is, ‘Well, you do—that’s not an sane thg for you to thk. I’ve que lerally told you everythg.’ ” She add, “If you’ve e this far wh me my—I hate the word—<em>journey</em>, and you’ve stuck wh me, then I kd of know <em>you</em>, too.”</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB jxBcTH sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--rail"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--rail" data-no-id="lv9e3"></div></div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--display-rail" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--display-rail"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="ht7n9n"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa EOneK body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p class="paywall">Doyle has, of urse, bee another kd of believer now: the social-jtice warrr. “Untamed” nsists of sixty-five chapters, each wh a stacto tle—“Racists,” “Girl Gods,” “Sandstl,” “Blow Jobs”—and each told swiftly enough to be shared on Facebook. “I thk one of the reasons ‘Untamed’ did so well is bee the chapters are short, and people uld handle wh their trmatized <em class="small">Covid</em> bras,” Doyle told me. Her stori functn as parabl, offerg reassurance and implic advice for a good life: fy the patriarchy, stand agast whe supremacy, honor your tun. If, like A.A. slogans or techism, Doyle’s shibboleths are simplistic, they are also a kd of lifele for many. “Somethg you always hear twelve-step rooms is that relign is for people who are aaid of gog to Hell, and spirualy is for people who have already been there,” Gilbert said. “Most of the people who follow both of have been to Hell—or are .”</p><p class="paywall">Adrienne Elrod, who was the Bin mpaign’s director of surrogate strategy and operatns, reached out to Doyle after takg an rmal poll of women she knew, askg whose endorsement would fluence them most. “It was md-blowg,” Elrod said. “Didn’t matter if you were a iend I went to high school wh Arkansas who never got a gree, or my sorory sister who’s a suburban mom livg outsi of Dallas. Glennon Doyle—they hang on her every word.” Many weren’t even Democrats, Elrod said; they jt tsted Doyle. “Most of them are polilly agnostic—maybe they even have Fox News on every eveng. They are their forti, the kids are about to go to llege, a lot of them are stay-at-home moms or are workg jobs they don’t love. And they feel like, We need someone to tell what the meang of life is and give reassurance that we’re more than jt moms.”</p><p class="paywall">Though Doyle se herself as a lear, she bristl at the term “gu,” which the media often apply to her. “I earn tst om the people hearg about their everyday needs, and I am endlsly fascated by that—how to al wh our emotns and relatnships, that’s my jam,” she said. “A gu is someone who’s gettg people to follow them. I’m tryg to get people to feel more activated their own liv.”</p><p class="paywall">After “Carry On, Warrr,” Doyle ntemplated a reer as a mister, and was accepted to Chigo Theologil Semary. “But I was talkg to my eighth-gra civics teacher, Mrs. Yalen, this ridiculoly fiery Jewish woman, who tght me everythg about beg volved wh mocracy,” she said. “And she was, like, You already have a church— jt don’t have walls.”</p><p class="paywall">Doyle isn’t even sure she intifi as a Christian anymore. “Sometim I look back on the Christian-e I ed to e, and I n’t even regnize ,” she said. “But there’s a lot about the actual, Biblil character J that I’m obssed wh.” She add, “If I were gog to wre a story now about what love would do if walked around on Earth, I would make a baby om the most opprsed, most margalized group. 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fected,” the thor and activist Luvvie Ajayi Jon said. She and Doyle beme iends about four years ago. “She still had this really big evangelil dience then—she reprented the woman who believed God a way that was palatable to them. But then she started speakg tth to power, and they’re, like, ‘Oh, shoot! I me here for one thg, but I’m gog to stay for this other thg.’ ” After the murr of <a href=">Gee Floyd</a>, Ajayi Jon and Doyle llaborated wh the Netflix executive Bozoma Sat John on an Instagram mpaign lled #ShareTheMicNow, which whe celebri hand their social-media acunts over to Black women.</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-5 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">Doyle thks that her muny is there to be cent together, the same place, at the same time. “It’s like what people like about church,” she said. Durg quarante, people have turned onle for nnectn, a sense of belongg. Doyle has been gettg those thgs out of a puter for years. At a time her life when she felt lonely and isolated, the people who mented on her blog posts gave her solace. She ntemplated this phenomenon “Love Warrr,” and nclud that she and her ex-hband had somethg mon—they were not so different, the blogger and the adulterer: “Through strangers on a screen, I’ve found the timacy I yearned for. We both have.”</p><p class="has-dropp has-dropp__lead-standard-headg paywall">Runng errands one afternoon, Wambach orred a strawberry kshake. Doyle did not. Back home, Doyle put the kshake the idge for Wambach, who returned to fd rced by a third. “I saw you grab , and I knew what was gog to happen,” Wambach told Doyle. “It jt settled,” Doyle replied unnvcgly, pacg their kchen. Wambach asked, “Do you thk that there will ever be a time when you n jt orr your own?” Doyle shook her head, then tried another tack: “That kshake was eakg thirteen dollars! Who orrs a thirteen-dollar kshake?” Wambach—who was filmg the teractn on her phone—was outraged. “I do,” she said. “Gus what? I get to do whatever I want. And you get to do whatever you want.” Doyle, gigglg, ma one last attempt: “That jt seems so dividualistic and mean.” Ultimately, she apologized. The women proffered their undyg love. Wambach posted the vio on Instagram, where was enjoyed by four hundred and eighty-four thoand people.</p><p class="paywall">Doyle said that they shared the vio as a kd of teachable moment. Like <a href=">Gloria Steem</a>, another femist whose bety ma her msage of liberatn om the patriarchy’s athetic more appealg to women who still wanted to embody , Doyle has stggled persistently wh eatg. “In my weird tim, a lot of my thoughts are about, What should I eat? What shouldn’t I? Is that too much? How much am I workg out?” she said. “Everythg me tellectually knows what a eakg opportuny st is—the thgs that I uld do wh that energy, that bra space! It’s, like, the one program I n’t get out of my floppy disk.”</p><p class="paywall">Until recently, Doyle dutifully dyed and straightened her long, blond hair and cultivated the plastic glamour of a Disney prcs. Potg at her ch-length, naturally curly hair, she said, “Even this is a big al for me.” She has given up Botox and sometim go on mera whout makp. “When someone says to me, ‘You’re pretty,’ the only thg that means to me is ‘Our culture has a list of thgs that ems people attractive, and you are really good at kickg your own ass to match those standards. Congratulatns,’ ” she said. “It’s the same way people will say, ‘There’s no way <em>you</em> n have an eatg disorr, look how th you are.’ Like, why do you thk I’m so th? Bee I have a ragg eatg disorr, you eakg asshole!” She shook her head. “I would not at all be surprised if I’m this nety-year-old badass woman who’s done a lot of good thgs and is still, like, I’ll jt have a quarter of a okie.”</p><p class="paywall">Doyle has always thought of herself as a femist, but she’s not sure ’s a club that wants her for a member. “I thk femism has a hard time beg clive of a lot of thgs that I am,” she said. “My femme prentatn. My high-pched voice.” Doyle fired an agent who sisted that she speak lower and slower terviews. “She kept sayg, ‘No one’s gog to take you serly.’ ” Doyle rerd the d versn of “Untamed,” and beme one of the year’s most download dbooks.</p><p class="paywall">“It’s not jt hard-re femists who I feel are begdggly allowg me a seat at the table,” she ntued. “Same thg wh L.G.B.T.Q. activists—I’m not gay enough for the gay muny.” Doyle has got blowback for refg to reame her story as a life spent the closet. “Also, you know who else won’t let me at any tabl? Christians!” The wrer Jen Pollock Michel argued <em>Christiany Today</em> that Doyle “sermoniz that God’s love is so boundls that her choic need no bounds.” Real Christiany, Michel wrote, do not entail “abandong the disfort of God’s revealed tth for self-soothg versns that plate the nscience and tickle our fancy.”</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB jxBcTH sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="eyo7zl"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa EOneK body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p class="paywall">Doyle, spe her huge followg, often feels displaced. “I’m not ed to belongg,” she told me. Even her neighborhood Florida seems hospable the days. Her hoe, which abuts a nal leadg to the Gulf of Mexi, is one of jt a few there whout a Tmp sign. “We look out at our back yard, and there’s boat after boat wh Tmp flags,” Doyle said. “It’s not <em>nservative</em>. It’s like we live si a rally.”</p><p class="paywall">“We n have good surface nversatns at soccer,” Wambach said, g to their kchen one eveng. “We love their kids, and they love ours. But I thk that, by necsy, ’s forced to jt kd of keep to ourselv.” They were gettg ready for an early dner before soccer practice. Both dghters, Amma and Tish, play. “But nobody lov soccer more than Craig,” Doyle said. “Includg this one,” she add, potg to Wambach.</p><p class="paywall">“He’s a <em>lover</em>,” Wambach agreed. “I was jt good at .”</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-6 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">Wambach, Doyle, and Craig Melton are good iends who “parent like a braid,” Doyle lik to say. The three of them, and their children, recently cid to move to Los Angel. The move is partly to do wh work. Wambach and Doyle are vtors the Angel Cy Football Club, a newly tablished team the Natnal Women’s Soccer League, and Doyle is llaboratg on a script for a televisn seri based on “Untamed,” which is beg veloped by J. J. Abrams’s productn pany. Perhaps most of all, they are tired of beg so isolated. Asked what she wouldn’t miss about Napl, Tish, who is fourteen, said immediately, “The Republins.”</p><p class="paywall">Doyle, who was wearg peach pants and a whe tank top, led the fay a rendn of “The Lord Is Good to Me,” and then distributed burgers, veggie for Chase and regular for everyone else. She asked, “What is the sgle thg that is not a person that you <em>will</em> miss about Napl?”</p><p class="paywall">“Do they have smoothi California?” Amma asked her.</p><p class="paywall">Doyle told her they fely did: “I don’t even thk they have solid food.”</p><p class="paywall">In Los Angel, Doyle may fally fd that she belongs. Her iend Chelsea Handler, the edian, told me, “All my iends Hollywood read ‘Love Warrr.’ And ‘Untamed’—this time, <em>everyone</em> knew about her.” In June, Wambach and Doyle were lookg at ho the L.A. suburbs, and, for the first time, Doyle enuntered “Untamed” “ the wild,” as she put . “We were wag for the realtor on this ty, prec tree-vered street,” she relled. “And this woman walks out of her hoe and says, ‘Are you Glennon? I’m lerally stg on my ont porch fishg “Untamed” right now, and I looked up and you’re standg the middle of my street.’ ” Doyle grned. “I said, ‘Y, I e to everybody’s hoe. 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