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Contents:

• ASK POLLY: WHY DO PEOPLE ALWAYS THK I’M GAY?
• WHAT'S MEAN WHEN A GIRL ASKS IF YOU'RE GAY?
• AM I GAY?
• THIS ONE GIRL KEEPS ASKG ME IF I'M GAY.
• PEOPLE THK I'M GAY... BUT I'M NOT
• FUNNY/GOOD REPLI WHEN SOMEONE ASKS IF YOU'RE GAYFUNNY/GOOD REPLI WHEN SOMEONE ASKS IF YOU'RE GAY
• SCIENTISTS MAY HAVE FALLY UNLOCKED PUZZLE OF WHY PEOPLE ARE GAY
• WHY DO EVERYONE THK I'M GAY?!
• WHY ARE PEOPLE GAY? GAY BY CHOICE OR IS BEG GAY GEIC?
• CJR - THE EXPERIMENTWHAT’S THE RIGHT WAY TO ASK WHETHER SOMEONE IS GAY?
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY

ASK POLLY: WHY DO PEOPLE ALWAYS THK I’M GAY?

”Dear Polly, I fally garnered the urage to wre to you about my particular problem, and I hope you n shed some of your wisdom on the sce the 6th gra, people have been askg me if I’m gay.

WHAT'S MEAN WHEN A GIRL ASKS IF YOU'RE GAY?

Back then, the other kids thought any person who was any b different om them was gay, and attached a bad meang to the word.

I found a great girl sophomore year and we dated up until senr year, but the askg still ntued, some of which was g om my clost high school, I tried as hard as I uld to rid myself of the label people had given me.

AM I GAY?

It also didn’t really help my se that my bt iend me out that he was gay senr year. However, people I had barely e to ntact wh began walkg up to me and askg if I was gay. Some of the women are hopg you’ll be the gay nfidant of their dreams, or maybe they want to be the one who gracefully hers you out of the closet.

(Intertgly, if you’re a women, the same behavrs will make people thk you’re gay. You have to five yourself for not livg up to your ternal fantasy of what you “should” ask, “If there’s nothg I n do to nvce people I’m not gay, then am I really gay? You uld rent When I Knew, the documentary where gay men and women expla how they figured out they were or no duck, somethg feels unsettled to you about your inty right now.

THIS ONE GIRL KEEPS ASKG ME IF I'M GAY.

And sce jog the fandoms I’ve been exposed to some very explic smut, het and gay. ) It’s rarer than beg gay or trans, so I feel sort of alienated and like I’d be makg a fs over nothg.

I'm not gay, I have nothg agast gay guys or girls. A few tim lately, the last 2-3 months i've got out wh iends and talked up some girls and I've been asked if I was gay or even got a 'your not gay?

Jt when someone says im gay I feel like they're challengg my manhood or somethg. Bear md that lns of young women have been doctrated wh this belief that "all the good men are taken or gay. How many people have asked Peyton Manng if he's gay?

PEOPLE THK I'M GAY... BUT I'M NOT

Gay people often look better bee they n judge their own sex.

The type of gay boy that even gay men avoid.

I've been asked by a much younger chick that I know has a boyiend if I'm 'gay'. I thk chicks who fd you don't give a fvck and stroy all of their ltle tts thk you eher are secretly married, have a girliend, or are gay bee most dus are after them like h0rny poodl. For me, the biggt tipoff to gayns is a graceful, liltg and exprsive voice and movg and noddg the head while talkg.

FUNNY/GOOD REPLI WHEN SOMEONE ASKS IF YOU'RE GAYFUNNY/GOOD REPLI WHEN SOMEONE ASKS IF YOU'RE GAY

Gay - While this adjective has historilly scribed men who are attracted to other men, the term now is ed to refer to anyone who experienc romantic, emotnal, or physil attractn to people of the same genr.

Sce genr inty and sexual orientatn are separate, transgenr people n intify as straight, gay, lbian, bisexual, etc. 20-somethg straight male, mimal relatnship succs bee I thk people thk I'm gay... Ever sce I n remember people jokgly have lled me 'gay' (I should note that there's nothg wrong wh beg gay, and I'm not tryg to fuel the stereotype).

I have some of my personal quirks, but nothg overtly 'gay'.

SCIENTISTS MAY HAVE FALLY UNLOCKED PUZZLE OF WHY PEOPLE ARE GAY

I realize I haven't gone on THAT many dat, but there's this pervasive thought the back of my md that maybe I AM gay…I know that sounds stupid and I've never really thought about before. Have any women here ever gone on a date wh a guy they thought was gay? After we chatted for a while over lunch, I somehow jokgly said 'people always thk I'm gay…'s kda weird'…the rponse, 'oh yeah, i thought that at first…'.

In the moment, I jt lghed off bee she KNEW I wasn't gay, right?

WHY DO EVERYONE THK I'M GAY?!

Should I be totally upont about not beg gay?

This is odd to expla but for some reason anybody I meet their first thought is if I'm gay or not. Well, people are ever so bold and straight up ask if I'm gay on many ocsns.

WHY ARE PEOPLE GAY? GAY BY CHOICE OR IS BEG GAY GEIC?

One example is one of my straight nerd iends I started hangg out wh senr year (2011) ved me over and later asked if I was gay. Another was at work om a female, and we were both beg goofy towards each other and everyone, and she jt thought to yell ont of everyone if I was gay bee I somehow get the ias to people's heads. He's one of those people who thks he n make gay jok, but others or I n't bee 's weird if I do and he told me everyone jt thks I'm gay and his whole fay looks at me that way and he don't know why, that 's jt the way I am.

Also, now that I'm out I'm known as "The gay one".

CJR - THE EXPERIMENTWHAT’S THE RIGHT WAY TO ASK WHETHER SOMEONE IS GAY?

Anyway, she knows I've been datg other girls she knows I check out girls all the time at llege but she keeps askg me "jt tell me are you gay? I take that as a pliment, she thks of me a sexual way and sce i don't pay attentn to her she wonrs if I am gay (very self centered on her btw). The thg is that she is dog this ont of other girls (other girls i'm terted ) and I obvly reply wh "No, the fact that I'm not attracted to you don't mean I'm gay" but sometim I reply wh funny remarks like "Is that your way of htg on me?

I feel that this is good bee then you n drop at some pot to a hot girl, "do you thk that you n turn a gay guy straight.

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY

Girls always like the gay guy as theyn't get him ( your se you are attaable), as Pook said, "a girl sayg you are gay is the greatt pliment you n receive. Pook said, "a girl sayg you are gay is the greatt pliment you n receive. "If girls ask if you are gay, remember the important thg: they are thkg of you a sexual ntext.