Can Someone Be Homosexual and Not Gay? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• PART TWO: WHY THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHG WRONG WH BEG GAY
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
• THERE IS NO ‘GAY GENE.’ THERE IS NO ‘STRAIGHT GENE.’ SEXUALY IS JT PLEX, STUDY NFIRMS
• WHAT’S WRONG WH BEG “GAY”? HERE’S WHAT THEY DON’T TELL YOU -- AND ’S REALLY DISTURBG.
• THERE IS NOTHG WRONG WH BEG GAY
• IS WRONG TO BE GAY?
• IT IS NOW 50 YEARS SCE GAY PEOPLE WERE “CURED"
• HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY
• GAY STEREOTYP: ARE THEY TE?
• CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?

PART TWO: WHY THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHG WRONG WH BEG GAY

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HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

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THERE IS NO ‘GAY GENE.’ THERE IS NO ‘STRAIGHT GENE.’ SEXUALY IS JT PLEX, STUDY NFIRMS

I then shifted my foc to why you shouldn't be ashamed to actually BE homosexual - beg gay no one else any harm whatsoever, is natural, normal and most certaly do not stop you om dog the same thgs as any other person on this pla. I challenge any homophobe to actually fd any tellectual, scientifilly-supported, jtified reason why society has the right to nmn or persecute those who are gay. Homosexualy is somethg natural and normal, not somethg to be repulsed by or ashamed ofI unrstand that many people our world will not be able to prehend or accept what I am sayg.

I started to see the negative power the word 'gay' had over me dimish, and began to feel ready to start thkg about my sexual inty a really open, hont, reflective able to see that homosexualy is somethg natural and normal, not somethg to be repulsed by or ashamed of, has allowed me to realise that those who had been and mocked me for how I walked and talked had no right to be treatg me that way and allowed me to feel much more acceptg of the ia that I uld be gay. I began to see that I wouldn't be 'nfsg' to beg gay like was some sort of crime, but that to accept I am gay would be about feelg empowered and openg myself up to relatnships and feelg thentic my everyday life.

I started to see the negative power the word 'gay' had over me dimish, and began to feel ready to start thkg about my sexual inty a really open, hont, reflective way. I knew I need to leave behd my irratnal fixatn on my fears and fally fd Up In Part Three: There are 3 Gay Children In Every School Class, and they Derve YOUR acceptance.

WHAT’S WRONG WH BEG “GAY”? HERE’S WHAT THEY DON’T TELL YOU -- AND ’S REALLY DISTURBG.

The Amerin Medil Associatn is agast therapy that is “based on the assumptn that homosexualy is a mental disorr or that the person should change their ’s important to know that there is nothg wrong wh lovg people of the same genr as you.

THERE IS NOTHG WRONG WH BEG GAY

Most people the LGBTQ+ muny know om experience that acceptg your sexualy will lead to your beg a happier, more open this gui, the term gay has been ed to clu all forms of non-heterosexual attractn, whether that be people who are lbian, gay, bisexual, queer, pansexual, or otherwise not straight.

IS WRONG TO BE GAY?

Beg gay do not necsarily make you any ls mascule or feme, and there is no need or prsure to nform to stereotyp that don't feel right to you - bee you are who you are. The laws the Bible were maly for health purpos - shunng homosexualy is right next to not gettg tattoos, not eatg pork, and not wearg mixed lens, but you n bet your bottom dollar all your neighbors do those thgs. If you are still beg supported by parents whom you are que sure would disown you for beg gay, may be pnt to wa to tell them until you are pennt.

IT IS NOW 50 YEARS SCE GAY PEOPLE WERE “CURED"

You may regret the acceptance of your orientatn the future, pecially if you're a part of the world where the gay muny is beg prosecuted by a specific culture.

Article SummaryXIf you stggle wh acceptg your attractn to the same sex, know that beg gay is pletely normal and you n be proud of who you are by fdg support and embracg your dividualy. It is worth keepg md that this study only vers some typ of sexualy — gay, lbian and cis-straight — but don’t offer many sights to genr inty.

Humans have tried to unrstand human sexualy for centuri — and geics rearchers joed the ay the early 1990s after a seri of studi on tws suggted homosexualy ran fai.

HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY

“As a teenager tryg to unrstand myself and unrstand my sexualy, I looked at the ter for “the gay gene” and obvly me across Xq28, ” said Fah Sathirapongsasuti, a study -thor and senr scientist at 23andMe, which he joked once led him to believe he hered his gayns om his mother. The rearchers had members of the same-sex muny review the study’s sign and language, and they adm that their termology and fns for gay, lbian and heterosexual do not reflect the full nature of the sexualy ntuum.

“[Our study] unrsr an important role for the environment shapg human sexual behavr and perhaps most importantly there is no sgle gay gene but rather the ntributn of many small geic effects sttered across the genome, ” Neale said. It has bee accepted wisdom most pole circl – as well as schools, ernment, rporate Ameri, and certaly the popular culture – that homosexual behavr is a normal and natural variatn of life.

She wr, “In the 1970s, physicians were treatg the large number of ndns affectg the lower ttal tract of MSM unr the classifitn ‘gay bowel syndrome.

GAY STEREOTYP: ARE THEY TE?

As Gabriel Rotello—thor of Sexual Elogy: AIDS and the Dty of Gay Men and founr of OutWeek Magaze—wrote, “sexual brotherhood of promiscuy … any abandonment of that promiscuy would amount to a munal betrayal of gargantuan proportns. Rotello also said, “A stranger to gay culture, unaware of the realy of AIDS, might believe om much of the gay prs that HIV fectn was a sort of elixir that produced high self-teem, solved long-standg psychologil and substance abe problems, and enhanced physil appearance … creatg the subnsc imprsn that fectn—the ‘penalty’ of unsafe sex—is really not so bad after all. O’Leary wr, “Gay bars, gay bookstor, theaters, certa rort muni, and circu parti have tradnally provid venu where MSM uld engage var forms of sexual activy wh numero partners.

I know this is probably a really dumb qutn but a few days ago someone told me that was wrong to be gay sce I uldn’t produce children, this has ma me feel weird and prsed lately I really love spirualy but most religns I see have one or two thgs agast queer people and I’ve been hatg myself and my sexualy lately.

CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?

Furthermore, homosexuals nnot atta the kgdom of is astoundg how many Evangelils Ameri still ce the five “clobber passag” as proof that God hat realy, each of those five Bible passag refers to horrible homosexual practic that were mon the Middle East before and durg the era of J. They prumed that a closeted gay man uld be faced wh a suatn which he eher shared top secret or would be, for s gays were not allowed to be the ary or ernment realy, no se existed where a gay man gave away natnal secrets to keep himself om beg outed.