I am a gay Indian-Amerin man and I want an arranged marriage

Contents:

• LOOK FOR A TERNATNAL SPOE. GETTG A GAY FOREIGN HBAND!
• THE LONELS OF BEG GAY A STRAIGHT MARRIAGE
• OLD CTOM, NEW UPL: GAY INDIANS ARE HAVG ARRANGED MARRIAG
• A GUI FOR GAY MEN ON BOTH OPEN AND MONOGAMO MARRIAGE
• TURKEY: PORTUGUE TOURIST SAYS HE WAS JAILED FOR LOOKG GAY
• "WE DO HAVE A VERY GOOD SEX LIFE": GAY MEN WH STRAIGHT WIV ARE G OUT -- AS HAPPILY MARRIED
• GAY MARRIAGE
• I AM A GAY INDIAN-AMERIN MAN AND I WANT AN ARRANGED MARRIAGE

LOOK FOR A TERNATNAL SPOE. GETTG A GAY FOREIGN HBAND!

Gettg a Gay Foreign Hband! To be a gay man a straight marriage is to be disnnected om self. Very few gay men seek out and then read articl about lonels unls they’ve e to the realisatn that they’re lonely.

~ Phil* * * * *How do I expla the lonels as a man, a gay man, a hetero relatnship – not even a relatnship, a marriage. Well, I, like any other gay guy knew I was gay om a young age, and like many other gay guys, felt pletely unable to e out and be hont wh myself and those around me. I didn’t want to have any attentn on me and have someone disver that I was gay.

THE LONELS OF BEG GAY A STRAIGHT MARRIAGE

In my md, I felt that I would be ‘outed’, and I always felt that people assumed that I was gay. The thought of havg someone ‘out’ me was terrifyg… all I uld do was remove any potential of this happeng, so I beme to now when I am 43, and I have been an open and hont gay man for nearly two years.

OLD CTOM, NEW UPL: GAY INDIANS ARE HAVG ARRANGED MARRIAG

Of urse, no one knew (which still surpris me to this day) that I was hidg myself as a gay man, but they knew that I was unhappy. Now I know my logil md that I’m not the first married gay man to e out, and I certaly won’t be the last – but my irratnal md, I felt like I was the only one.

As we sat and chatted, my mum ma ments about homosexualy and asked (I’ll never fet the words) “have you been dabblg the gay scene?

This mak me lgh still, but she ntued; “you know, if you are gay, I want you to know that I love you and always will”…This was credible. I was a gay man that jt me out and had no support work my small regnal muny. After que a while (and due to me not beg publicly out) I cid to jo the gay app ‘Scff’.

A GUI FOR GAY MEN ON BOTH OPEN AND MONOGAMO MARRIAGE

I n hontly say that I didn’t (and don’t) tly know what the gay scene n be like, but I joed this app the hope to make some lol iends.

Also, for a small monthly fee, you n jo the growg muny of other gay men who are all prrisg their nnectn acrdg to the three pillars of nnectn. Jo me and Andrew for a ffee and a chat the upg episo of my podst for gay men ‘Connectn over Coffee wh The Lonels Guy’ om Thursday 16 September 2021.

Subscribe to my webse through eher a basic subscriptn (ee) or premium subscriptn (monthly charge) and let’s stay nnected as we work to -stigmatise lonels and promote thentic nnectn for gay men. Sharg my work really helps reach more gay men and helps all to -stigmatise lonels and promote thentic nnectn for gay men may not feel lonely and have jt the right amount of thentic nnectn your life, but sharg this article uld really help a iend or relative who may be quietly stgglg wh the thoughts and feelgs of lonels and disnnectn.

TURKEY: PORTUGUE TOURIST SAYS HE WAS JAILED FOR LOOKG GAY

~ Thank you ~Important notice: All views exprsed above are my own and are tend to support, challenge and spire gay men to nsir the issue of lonels and crease awarens of the need for thentic nnectn wh themselv, wh others and their muni as an antidote to chronic lonels. “Matrimonial” ads — personal ads seekg bris and grooms — have been mon Indian newspapers for s, and the Inter age apps and webs have proliferated around the, an Indian-Amerin is brgg the nvenient matchmakg tools to gay men and women around the world — even if India won’t regnize their marriag yet. “The big step for was when the Uned Stat ma gay marriage legal, ” said Joshua Samson, the CEO of Arranged Gay Marriage.

“We knew there is a huge unrground gay and lbian muny India, and we thought why not spread some light out there, help people who feel like they n never be helped? ”Samson origally meant for the service, which is registered the US, to help gay Indian-Amerins fd Indian spo. India still upholds a lonial-era law that crimaliz all sexual terurse “agast the orr of nature, ” and gay sex therefore remas a crime.

Addnally, there are no clear laws crimalizg gay marriage the untry. He says the language his mother’s ad “was a joke on those steist ads, was to say that gay people have the same kd of preferenc and [flaws]” that straight people men and women urban India n often live whout persecutn if their fai are supportive, but may still face a lack of acknowledgement om iends and fay.

"WE DO HAVE A VERY GOOD SEX LIFE": GAY MEN WH STRAIGHT WIV ARE G OUT -- AS HAPPILY MARRIED

Talkg about gay relatnships g tradnal Indian terms and practic may actually help wh that. I had the opportuny to talk wh psychotherapist and thor Michael Dale Kimmel about his new book, The Gay Man's Gui to Open and Monogamo Marriage. MOC: Tell me about The Gay Man's Gui to Open and Monogamo Marriage.

MDK: I began offerg workshops for gay, bisexual, and transgenr men about eighteen years’ ago, and after a uple of years there were always a few guys who me up to me and said ( whispered ton), “You’ve got to put this stuff a book.

While there are lots of books about how to plan your gay weddg, there were virtually none that addrs what to do after the honeymoon is over (lerally and figuratively).

GAY MARRIAGE

” — regard to gay marriage — to be ntroversial. The Gay Man’s Gui to Open and Monogamo Marriage dar to ask the qutn: is monogamy or an open relatnship (or a batn of both) the bt way to stcture your marriage? Same-sex marriage has been a long time g – a few thoand years or so - and now that ’s fally here, many gay, bisexual and transgenr men may thk that ’s a bad ia to “rock the boat” by discsg the kds of ias that this book prents.

I believe that now is the perfect time to qutn what gay marriage n, should and will be, while is still relatively new, h and malleable.

MDK: I have been givg workshops on “monogamy or open relatnship” for many years, long before gay marriage was legal.

I AM A GAY INDIAN-AMERIN MAN AND I WANT AN ARRANGED MARRIAGE

While marriage wasn’t a possibily then, the qutns those workshops were basilly the same as those this book: as gay men, do we choose the monogamy of heterosexual marriage as our mol, or do we prefer an open marriage? And yet, most gay marriag emulate whout much thought, assumg that ’s the “right” way to be married. As a psychotherapist for gay upl for many years’ now, ’s been que clear to me that “handbooks” for heterosexual marriage don’t really apply to our marriag several signifint ways: our marriag are more “signed” than “assumed.

As gay men, we are ed to fg our own paths and fg our relatnships on our own terms. And yet, when I work wh young gay (and bi, straight and trans) men, I see a sea change ahead. I wrote the chapter about “refg genr rol, " bee we have an amazg opportuny as married gay men to terme who we are as two men, married to each other.

MDK: As gay people, we n create new stctur and paradigms that serve not only , but all people.