By Gregory Col. Greg is a Senr Rearch Fellow at The Center and is the thor of Sgle, Gay, Christian and No Longer Strangers. “Should I e out to the world as a celibate gay Christian?” I get this qutn a lot—and to tell you the tth, I’m pretty leery of answerg . On the one hand, ’s temptg to say an immediate and hearty y. We have a tenncy as human
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- THE PROS AND CONS OF LIVG A GAY LIFE THE 21ST CENTURY.NAVIGATG LOVE, LOSS, AND EVERYTHG BETWEEN — A ONE-STOP SHOP FOR THE UPS AND DOWNS OF BEG FABULOLY GAY MORN TIM.NATHAN CHEN·FOLLOW5 M READ·APR 28--SHAREPHOTO BY SHIL NASH ON UNSPLASHHEY THERE, YOU BETIFUL UNIRN! YOU’RE ABOUT TO EMBARK ON A JOURNEY THAT’S AS LORFUL AS YOUR FAVORE PRI FLAG. WE’RE GOG TO DISH THE DIRT ON LIVG THE GAY LIFE THE 21ST CENTURY — THE GOOD, THE BAD, AND THE OH-SO FABULO. SO BUCKLE UP, BUTTERCUP, BEE WE’RE ABOUT TO SPILL SOME SER TEA.PROS:
- SHOULD GAY MARRIAGE BE LEGAL?
- PROS AND NS OF BEG GAY-IENDLY EMPLOYER
- 33 MAJOR PROS & CONS OF GAY MARRIAGE“GAY MARRIAGE ACCEPTANCE IS HAPPENG THE BLK OF AN EYE.”P. J. O’ROURKE, COMEDIANADVANTAG & DISADVANTAG OF GAY MARRIAGE
- NEGATIVE AND POSIVE FACTORS ASSOCIATED WH THE WELL-BEG OF LBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENR, QUEER, AND QUTNG (LGBTQ) YOUTH
- LBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, AND TRANSGENR PERSONS AND SOCENOMIC STAT
THE PROS AND CONS OF LIVG A GAY LIFE THE 21ST CENTURY.NAVIGATG LOVE, LOSS, AND EVERYTHG BETWEEN — A ONE-STOP SHOP FOR THE UPS AND DOWNS OF BEG FABULOLY GAY MORN TIM.NATHAN CHEN·FOLLOW5 M READ·APR 28--SHAREPHOTO BY SHIL NASH ON UNSPLASHHEY THERE, YOU BETIFUL UNIRN! YOU’RE ABOUT TO EMBARK ON A JOURNEY THAT’S AS LORFUL AS YOUR FAVORE PRI FLAG. WE’RE GOG TO DISH THE DIRT ON LIVG THE GAY LIFE THE 21ST CENTURY — THE GOOD, THE BAD, AND THE OH-SO FABULO. SO BUCKLE UP, BUTTERCUP, BEE WE’RE ABOUT TO SPILL SOME SER TEA.PROS:
Unrstand health ncerns for gay men and other men who have sex wh men, and learn how to promote good health. * cons of being gay *
On July 25, 2014 Miami-Da County Circu Court Judge Sarah Zabel led Florida’s gay marriage ban unnstutnal and stated that the ban “serv only to hurt, to discrimate, to prive same-sex upl and their fai of equal digny, to label and treat them as send-class cizens, and to em them unworthy of participatn one of the fundamental stutns of our society. 2016 printial ndidate and former Hewlett-Packard CEO Carly Fra stated that civil unns are aquate as an equivalent to marriage: “Benefs are beg btowed to gay upl [ civil unns]… I believe we need to rpect those who believe that the word marriage has a spirual foundatn… Why n’t we rpect and tolerate that while at the same time sayg ernment nnot btow benefs unequally. Court papers filed July 2014 by attorneys fendg Arizona’s gay marriage ban stated that “the State regulat marriage for the primary purpose of channelg potentially procreative sexual relatnships to endurg unns for the sake of jog children to both their mother and their father… Same-sex upl n never provi a child wh both her blogil mother and her blogil father.
Queer activist Anrs Zanichkowsky stated June 2013 that the then mpaign for gay marriage “tentnally and malicly eras and exclus so many queer people and cultur, particularly trans and genr non-nformg people, poor queer people, and queer people non-tradnal fai… marriage thks non-married people are viant and not tly servg of civil rights.
Supreme Court cisn favor of gay marriage, society at large still has a way to go to beg a tolerant natn — even though more than 60 percent of Fortune 500 pani offer domtic partner-benefs signed to support gay and lbian people do not realize that employers n discrimate agast gay and lbian dividuals by not hirg them or termatg their employment solely on the basis of their sexual orientatn. This is bee there is no feral legislatn that protects the rights of gay and lbian employe or job seekers such as Tle VII of the Civil Rights Act do for others based on race, genr, sex, relign or natnal lack of such human rights protectn likely ntribut to the stigmatizatn of Gay, Lbian, Bisexual and Transgenr (GLBT), hirg managers n learn om the rults bee they show how the promotn of pany polici may serve as a way to filter tolerant job seekers om their labor pool.
SHOULD GAY MARRIAGE BE LEGAL?
Hey there, you betiful unirn! You’re about to embark on a journey that’s as lorful as your favore pri flag. We’re gog to dish the dirt on livg the gay life the 21st century — the… * cons of being gay *
Siarly, recment ads that were perceived to target whe mal alienated racial mori and to rearch and learng om bt practic over time, anizatns now do a better job of puttg programs place to make sure that employe om all racial and ethnic backgrounds feel stctur mt be place to create an environment that is supportive of gay and lbian employe? Equal rights for everyoneProhibn of gay marriage as outdated historil nstctEqual benefs for all uplGay marriag are part of a morn and tolerant societyCultural valu changed a lot over timePosive health effects for gay uplLower strs levels for self-sex uplDifference between relig and legal marriage should be maCan also be jtified om a legal and nstutnal perspectiveMay be nsired as a human rightCan help that more orphans get adoptedStigmatizatn of adopted children om gay upl n be avoidPeople n live their life to s fulltProhibn of gay marriag would discrimate peoplePeople do no longer have to hi their te natureMany celebri embrace the ia of gay marriageIncreasg number of people nsir gay marriag as normalOne important argument for gay marriag is that everyone our society should have equal rights to do whatever they want to do as long as they do not harm others.
However, our nowadays society, there is far ls need for addnal children and same-sex marriage and therefore, the historil reasons why gay marriag had been prohibed the past may be missg our current long as gay upl are not allowed to marry, they will also not get the same benefs as married upl wh different sex. However, this n be nsired to be que unfair sce all marriag should be treated as equally important, which also impli that the benefs for all sorts of upl should be siar or even, allowg gay marriag n also help to improve the accs to benefs for gay general, we often claim to be so tolerant our society while fact, many people are not tolerant at are still many mori that are discrimated agast due to their race, genr and other herent should be handipped due to those herent characteristics and therefore, gay marriag are another step towards a more tolerant, morn and open society that embrac a variety of different liftyl and same-sex marriag would have been unthkable jt a few centuri ago, our cultural valu changed que a fact, people our nowadays society often try new thgs, want to expand their knowledge and their experience and try to really figure out what they want to do wh their, gay marriage would give those people an addnal tool to change the cultural valu our society even further. Allowg gay marriag would also greatly benef the overall health of gay fact, our current society, many people who have an tert the same sex have to hi their feelgs sce beg gay is still nsired to be tolerable by many people our n lead to ser emotnal nflicts, which may turn to severe mental issu the long n.
However, by allowg gay marriag, the overall level of tolerance our society would likely crease, which would lead to a state where gay upl uld eely live their liftyle whout havg to worry to get physilly or mentally turn, chanc are that this would also greatly improve their overall health gay upl do no longer have to fear gettg attacked by other people, chanc are that also their overall strs levels will drop turn, the people uld enjoy their liv much more whout havg to worry about the opns of others too much anymore. However, if we allow gay marriag those untri, chanc are that the overall acceptance society would crease and also the social stigma towards self-sex marriag uld be turn, also children who had been adopted by gay upl uld benef sce they would have an easier time school and life far as we know, we only have a sgle life and mak sense that we live our life to s fullt whenever we therefore mak sense to also allow gay marriag so that also gay people n do what they want life and are not rtricted by legal prohibn of gay marriag n also be nsired as a form of ser discrimatn.
PROS AND NS OF BEG GAY-IENDLY EMPLOYER
Proponents ntend that gay marriage bans are discrimatory and unnstutnal, opponents ague that marriage is primarily for procreatn. * cons of being gay *
However, if ernments those untri allow same-sex marriag, chanc are that the overall level of tolerance towards gay upl would crease turn, people uld show the world who they really are stead of havg to hi their te are also many celebri out there who embrace the ia of gay n be que important orr to improve tolerance towards gay marriage our who currently are agast gay marriage may change their mds if their idols speak up for the allowance of same-sex marriag and our society will bee more tolerant towards alternative liftyl people our current society also nsir gay marriag as part of the lol culture. Dependg on the regn, people do no longer differentiate between straight and gay upl and therefore, there may no longer be a reason to prohib gay marriage at marriage may nflict wh relig beliefsSelf-sex marriage may nflict wh cultural valuMany people still nsir as dodgyWe need children to sta our populatnTolerance towards gay upl is still missgOpponents claim that gay marriage is agast human natureGay marriage may vlate certa tradnsMarriage may lose s importance our societyOpponents of gay marriage claim that is immoralRaisg kids hoeholds wh mother and father works btMay only be the begng of the erosn of cultural nceptsMarriage should be lked to procreatnNot allowed many untri yetSome people rather claim to abandon the ncept of marriage generalSame-sex marriag n be expensive for the stateAcceptance towards gay upl may be lackg even if they are allowed to marryApart om the var advantag of allowg gay marriag, there are still some downsis related to this disadvantage of gay marriage is that this ncept may nflict wh relig beliefs of many sorts.
For stance, the bible, gay marriag are not nsired to be the right way to people all over the world are still que relig and take the words of the bible and other scriptur que, those regns, allowg gay marriag may be que problematic sce many people would simply not tolerate this ncept om a relig marriag may also not be le wh historil cultural valu.
In fact, gay marriage was never allowed the history of mankd and opponents of self-sex marriag often claim that we should therefore not allow cultur have not tolerated gay marriag for thoands of years, might make no sense to tolerate those social nstcts our current though the level of tolerance towards mori and also to self-sex marriag has creased que a lot over the past years some regns, there are still untri where the level of tolerance regardg gay marriage is still que low. Another problem of gay marriage is that the human populatn may drop signifintly over the actn of gay upl be too high, chanc are that fewer children will be though this uld be beneficial for our environment to a certa extent, uld also lead to ser problems if we don’t have sufficient children that are borne.
33 MAJOR PROS & CONS OF GAY MARRIAGE“GAY MARRIAGE ACCEPTANCE IS HAPPENG THE BLK OF AN EYE.”P. J. O’ROURKE, COMEDIANADVANTAG & DISADVANTAG OF GAY MARRIAGE
* cons of being gay *
Although we often claim that our society is que tolerant towards mori, the oppose is te for many untri all over the fact, everyone that viat om the mastream social norms and cultural valu is nsired to be dodgy many, also the overall tolerance towards gay upl is still rather limed many untri and therefore, gay upl will have to wa que a while until they will be allowed to marry, pecially more nservative parts of our marriag may also simply be agast nature.
Th, many people also claim that marriag of people of the same sex are agast nature and should be prohibed due to marriag are also a difficult topic om a tradnal are often que sensive regardg chang our society sce they fear that their tradnal valu and beliefs bee erod over, many people also do not want to accept gay marriag as part of their society sce they fear to lose their historic tradnal valu. Opponents of gay marriage also often have moral their opn, only the partnership between man and woman is an acceptable one while all other forms of partnerships should be nsired to be dodgy and not wele at, pecially regns where this thought procs is wispread, gay upl will have a que hard time and may be discrimated var parts of their studi have shown that children who grew up a hoehold wh a mother and a father have the bt chanc , also this regard, may seem qutnable whether gay marriag should be children suffer om gay marriag, may not make sense to allow this social nstct our people also fear that by allowg gay marriag, many other cultural valu may bee erod over time as people don’t like change at all and try to stick to their cultural attus que a people often stggle to accept new thgs sce they fear that their world view may be exposed as flawed and, orr to protect their cultural valu on which they have relied on their whole liv, those people may also not accept gay who are agast the ncept of gay marriage often also claim that marriage should be directly lked to gay upl will not be able to produce children, they should also not be allowed to though the ncept of gay marriage had been discsed many untri all over the world, is still not be accepted many of those untri, both om a social as well as om a legal, there will be a que long way to go until gay upl will get the opportuny to marry those untri.
NEGATIVE AND POSIVE FACTORS ASSOCIATED WH THE WELL-BEG OF LBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENR, QUEER, AND QUTNG (LGBTQ) YOUTH
There are mostly advantag to beg a gay-iendly employer, but there some downsis as well * cons of being gay *
Instead of prohibg gay marriag, some people even claim that we should abandon the ncept of marriage their opn, marriage n be nsired to be a rather outdated social nstct, which do not make too much sense fact, this is que an tertg ia which should be discsed much more our abandong all sorts of marriage, we uld also abandon many social stigmas and uld give people a higher level of eedom regardg how they want to live their om a fancial perspective, the ncept of allowg same-sex marriag n be nsired to be rather qutnable. Allowg gay marriag uld be que stly for stat sce they would have to spend plenty of addnal taxpayers’ money on benefs related to those turn, this money would be missg for other important proponents of gay marriag claim that allowg those marriag would crease the overall level of tolerance our society, opponents claim that jt allowg gay marriag would not change the general attu of the lol populatn towards gay marriag at fact, the general public may still not tolerate this ncept om a social perspective, even if was allowed om a legal Marriage ProsGay Marriage ConsGay marriage n lead to higher toleranceMany people are not yet ready for gay marriageAllowg gay marriage n remove prsureGay marriage may nflict wh relignGay marriage should be a human rightSame-sex marriage may nflict wh culturEqual rights for everyone through gay marriageMay ntradict wh certa tradnsSame-sex marriage n help adoptn quotasRight to marry lked to procreatnCan also help children om gay uplGay marriage may be agast human naturePeople n live their liv to their fulltMarriage may lose s importancePeople do not have to hi their te natureJt not allowed many untri yetMany celebri also enurage gay marriageGay marriag n be expensive for the statePosive health effects for gay peopleMay have negative effects on childrenThe ncept of gay marriage is a rather ntroversial topic that leads to plenty of discsns and disput on a regular we n see om the prev analysis, there are numero advantag and disadvantag of same-sex my opn, we should give people the eedom to do whatever they want to do wh their also clus marryg the person people want to marry, pennt of the sex or other characteristics of this person. In rponse to their activism, many jurisdictns enacted laws banng discrimatn agast homosexuals, and an creasg number of employers Ameri and European untri agreed to offer “domtic partner” benefs siar to the health re, life surance and, some s, pensn benefs available to heterosexual married upl.
However, most shared wh gay men the sire to have a secure place the world muny at large, unchallenged by the fear of vlence, the stggle for equal treatment unr the law, the attempt to silence, and any other form of civil behavur that impos send-class article was most recently revised and updated by Alison Eldridge. Keywords: gay, lbian, well-beg, youthLbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr, and queer/qutng (LGBTQ) youth have greater vulnerabily to a wi range of health, mental health, and social problems such as eatg disorrs, sexually transmted diseas, school difficulti, forced sex, homelsns, vlence and suici (At et al., 2009; Blake et al., 2001; Bontempo & D'Augelli, 2002; Cochran, Stewart, Gzler, & Cce, 2002; Garofalo, Wolf, Ksel, Paley, & Durant, 1998; Perdue, Hagan, Thie, & Valleroy, 2003; Rsell, Drisll, & Tong, 2001; Thie et al. A recent Oregon study found the risk of attemptg suici for lbian, gay, and bisexual youth was 20% greater social environments unsupportive of LGBTQ persons pared to LGBTQ-supportive environments (Hatzenbuehler, 2011) rearch scribed above has been valuable intifyg the difficulti experienced by sexual mory youth and the ntexts which the experienc take place (Birkett et al., 2009; D'Augelli, 2006; Floyd et al., 1999; Rostosky et al., 2007).
A handful of studi have begun to exame posive factors such as parental support (Ryan et al., 2010), affirmative school environments (Espelage, Aragon, & Birkett, 2008; Rsell, 2005), emotnal nnectedns to fay and school (Saewyc et al., 2009), emotnal riliency wh antigay environments (Surfield, Roen, & McDermott, 2008), and posive role mols and social support (Fenghty & Harre, 2003; Rsell, 2005). Of FG/IFeelg the need to hi a LGBTQ inty145Believg an LGBTQ inty is flexible2710Beg “outed”/given labels95Feelg ntrol of one's inty159Enunterg rigid genr rol66Beg visible as LGBTQ145Rpons to/Ways to pe wh a Stigmatized IntyIsolatg onelf or feelg isolated bee LGBTQ168Fightg back94Havg negative feelgs about self1310Advotg for LGBTQ persons/issu85Acceptg self74FayExperiencg/fearg rejectn by parents3711Beg accepted by parents/siblgs175Hidg LGBTQ inty199Beg supported by fay128Mentng or perceivg fay as homophobic109Beg able to talk openly to fay64Havg other difficult fay issu not related to beg LGBTQ (i.
LBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, AND TRANSGENR PERSONS AND SOCENOMIC STAT
E., alholic fay member)86Peer NetworksExperiencg difficult suatns when youth feel they nnot e out33Havg LGBTQ peers/iends who are supportive and n provi rmatn1710Feelg that peers are not supportive22Havg alli that n e om different parts of one's life87Havg tsted straight iends44SchoolBeg verbally & physilly harassed by other stunts299Havg supportive rpons om teachers and stunts218Enunterg homophobia and difference by school personnel247Havg GSAs available at school147Havg visibily of LGBTQ persons school (teachers, stunts)53Experiencg ristance to startg GSAs77Relig InstutnsBeg exposed to a fah muny that exprs homophobia239Belongg to an acceptg fah muny115Havg a fay who is tolerant based on relign189Embracg Wicn/spirual beliefs42Beg nonted by relig persons165Hearg posive relig msag43Hearg negative relig msag87Fdg other LGBTQ persons who are posive about relign42Beg physilly harassed muny2110Havg social acceptance om larger muny135Beg verbally harassed muny189Beg a diverse muny may be more acceptg of beg LGBTQ86Experiencg other kds of discrimatn that pound beg LGBTQ126Feelg the neighborhood/cy is safe for LGBTQ persons32Interactg wh ignorant/homophobic strangers104LGBT Communy InvolvementLack of rourc for LGBTQ s43LGBTQ anizatns provi safe place to meet people, learn134Lack of LGBTQ s many plac21LGBTQ adults provi mentorg and support135Staff at some plac fall short22Inter for support/nnectn105Place to fd people to talk to who unrstand64Table 2Exampl of Quot From LGBTQ Youth Reprentg Negative and Posive Factors by DomaDomaNegative FactorPosive FactorSexual and genr intyAnd I was like “Did you jt ll me a faggot? SchoolThe other big thg that I've heard a lot of people pla about and that I've alt wh personally a lot like the ls direct homophobia, like “oh that's so gay, that person's such a faggot, ” when 's like not even that they're talkg about someone who is actually homosexual, they're jt like, “oh, he's such a fag.
Like I walked all over the mall wh my boyiend, holdg hands and barely got any looks and no one said ex-girliend's ltle brother, he's gay and he lived [cy name], and now he's layg a a that he's been for the past six months bee some kids started beatg the sh out of him bee they knew he was munyI thk that you know eighteen through whatever,... When they hear about adult thgs 's people who are like forty and up, so like there's a pot that 's kd of like you're an adult, but you're such a young adult that you're not--there's nothg there for actually has been a safe haven g for myself bee if I have any like gay type or like qutns or stuff...