My ex is gay. How do I not take personally?

Contents:

• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
• 17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• MY EX IS GAY. HOW DO I NOT TAKE PERSONALLY?
• HOW TO DISCREETLY FD OUT IF SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS GAY
• IS YOUR HBAND GAY? 6 SIGNS THAT COULD BE A CSE FOR CONCERN
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
• IS MY BOYIEND GAY? 10 SIGNS TO HELP YOU TELL FOR SURE
• FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY
• 9 SIGNS TO WATCH OUT FOR IF YOU THK YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
• I THK HE MAY BE GAY
• I FELT MY BOYIEND WAS GAY OR BI IMMEDIATELY, BUT HE FLATLY DENIED IT
• 'I THK MY BOYIEND IS GAY, HOW DO I ASK HIM?' - TIPS ON TALKG ABOUT SEXUALY WH YOUR PARTNER

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY

Unls your spoe shar their sexual orientatn wh you, there is no way to know for sure if they are gay.

17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)

Among the upl, when the gay, lbian, or bisexual partner out, a third of the upl break up immediately; another third stay together for one to two years and then spl; the remag third try to make their marriag work.

There's no qutn that learng your partner is gay when you believed them to be straight n be extremely difficult. People do not choose who they are attracted to, so make sure to not direct homophobic backlash towards your partner. He watch gay pornIf your boyiend watch a lot of gay porn, there’s a good chance he’s sexually terted men.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

After all, most heterosexual guys have no tert watchg any porn unls there’s a woman your boyiend is tryg to hi his sexualy om you, ’s doubtful that he’ll openly watch gay porn while you’re around. The only way you’ll know is to look at his search history, which is a pretty big vasn of his do he react if you offer to watch gay porn wh him? He’s been wh men beforeIf he’s been relatnships or hooked up wh men the past, ’s a pretty big ditor that he’s gay or bisexual.

”If you hear this kd of ment a lot, he might be attemptg to normalize his homosexual thoughts by makg them seem like nothg more than a joke. He’s homophobicIt sounds untertuive, but some gay or bisexual men will exprs homophobic sentiments.

MY EX IS GAY. HOW DO I NOT TAKE PERSONALLY?

It’s a way of flectg spicn off of themselv and makg seem like they uld never be terted other to the way your boyiend talks about homosexualy. If so, might be bee he’s secretly stgglg wh his own urse, there are plenty of heterosexual guys who e homophobic language as well.

HOW TO DISCREETLY FD OUT IF SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS GAY

He’s not terted sleepg wh youThere are lots of reasons why your boyiend might not want to have sex that don’t volve him beg secretly gay. His fantasi volve menA of heterosexual men have sexual fantasi volvg other men, and don’t mean they are gay.

So if your boyiend has a lot of gay iends, uld be bee he’s subnscly tryg to surround himself wh people like urse, plenty of straight guys have gay iends as well. But if seems like the majory of his social circle is gay, uld be a sign that he’s stgglg wh his own sexualy. He has a gay datg app on his phoneEven if he hasn’t actually ed the app to hook up wh guys, he’s obvly cur and may be thkg about dog so the future.

Keep md that havg a datg app on his phone don’t mean he’s cheatg on you, but you serve to know if he’s actively lookg for other signs your boyiend is gayIt’s jt as important to unrstand all the signals that uld mistakenly lead you to believe your boyiend is gay. He r about his appearance & groomgThe stereotype of the neat, well-drsed gay man is ridiculo at this pot.

IS YOUR HBAND GAY? 6 SIGNS THAT COULD BE A CSE FOR CONCERN

He sounds gayYou might have heard that gay men often speak wh a lisp, but this stereotype is pletely unte.

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY

If your boyiend cri durg sad movi or gets upset about issu that are important to him, don’t mean he’s gay. He uld jt be touch wh his to do if you thk your boyiend is gayOkay, so you’ve noticed some of the signs that your boyiend might be gay.

IS MY BOYIEND GAY? 10 SIGNS TO HELP YOU TELL FOR SURE

It’s possible he’s been wantg to have this nversatn wh you but hasn’t had the urage to brg though you may have seen many of the behavrs on this list, don’t throw them his face as a list of ‘evince’ that he’s secretly gay.

Don’t prsure himWhether your boyiend is gay, straight, or somethg between, he’ll need time to procs his feelgs. If your boyiend adms he’s gay, will be a difficult time for both of you and there’s no gettg past the fact that your relatnship is over.

FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY

Don’t try to change himThe worst thg you n do is try to change him or ‘cure’ him of his homosexualy.

Some people even fall to the trap of thkg they were such a bad partner they somehow ‘turned’ their partner gay. Move on wh your lifeBreakups are always tough, but fdg out your boyiend is gay is a particularly difficult suatn.

9 SIGNS TO WATCH OUT FOR IF YOU THK YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY

It’s really no different om a heterosexual guy havg a preference for blons over big mistake you need to avoid is thkg that he’s still nfed or explorg his sexualy and will eventually e out as beg gay.

It's very cliché but he wasn't very fond of gay men, he isn't agast but he uld say unreasonable thgs which might be a way to hi how he tly feels. In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializ Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relatnship Therapy, often treatg men who are qutng their sexual orientatn.

I THK HE MAY BE GAY

Number one is the high cince of male-female upl enterg my office bee the woman thks her man might be gay. He’s actually straight, but for whatever reason, he’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been havg sex wh men. A lot of the time the men e on their own and they’re holdg my book about g out as gay, and they want to know, “Is this me?

And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay.

I FELT MY BOYIEND WAS GAY OR BI IMMEDIATELY, BUT HE FLATLY DENIED IT

That’s unual, bee most gay men, even most gay therapists, believe that if a guy is havg gay sex, he’s gay. ” I always joke wh clients that for me, as a gay man, when I’m walkg on the beach and checkg people out, the women are the way.

Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women.

When a man is a long-term relatnship wh a woman but beg sexual wh men, eher lookg at porn or havg actual sex, he eher will or won’t be homophobic. The straight men have no homophobia at all—to the pot where they’re willg to seek unselg om me, an openly gay therapist. A lot of tim the gay men never even make to me (whout promptg om their wife, anyway) bee they’re riddled wh homophobia and I’m too gay for them.

'I THK MY BOYIEND IS GAY, HOW DO I ASK HIM?' - TIPS ON TALKG ABOUT SEXUALY WH YOUR PARTNER

So if a client is stgglg wh his sexual orientatn and he’s got a lot of homophobia, he’s probably gay. A gay guy wants to do all of that wh a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be wh a woman that way.

Even if he’s nfed and don’t want to e out as gay, this is who he is and over time that will e out. So this is a way of bondg wh men—ironilly, through sex—and happens not bee the man is gay but bee he don’t know any other way to get this need met. Eher they’re worried that their man will eventually ci he’s gay and end the relatnship, or they want monogamy, and his cheatg is a threat to the marriage regardls of who he’s dog wh.

And I should pot out here that the men when they’re engagg this behavr (regardls of whether they’re gay, straight or bi) nearly always tell themselv that what they’re dog is not cheatg bee they’re dog wh a guy. It may not help you, but certaly helped me to take the mimosa-half-full outlook: Losg a lover bee he was gay (or straight, my se) absolv you of any of the blame. If you have had any notn at all that this is a possibily, might help you to know the 6 signs that may suggt that your hband is gay.