How do queer men navigate an stutn not signed for them? Therapist Michael Dale Kimmel offers clu his new book, The Gay Man's Gui to Open and Monogamo Marriage. Check out an exclive excerpt below.
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A study to be released next month is offerg a rare glimpse si gay relatnships and reveals that monogamy is not a central feature for many. * how to make a gay open relationship work *
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