A Contract for the Gay Guy/Straight Girl Friendship

Contents:

• I AM A STRAIGHT GIRL, BUT WISH I ULD BE WH A GAY GUY.
• 5 DATG TIPS FOR STRAIGHT GIRLS FROM A GAY GUY
• A CONTRACT FOR THE GAY GUY/STRAIGHT GIRL FRIENDSHIP
• WHAT'S THE SCIENCE BEHD STRAIGHT WOMEN LIKG GAY MEN?
• I'M A STRAIGHT GIRL, BUT WISH I WERE A GAY GUY...
• ASK O'LEARY: I'M A GAY GIRL DATG A STRAIGHT GIRL!{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}CULTUREBY TIM O'LEARYFEBARY 6, 2014/1:05 PMBY TIM O'LEARYFEBARY 6, 2014 / 1:05 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"ASK O'LEARY: I'M A GAY GIRL DATG A STRAIGHT GIRL!","DATEPUBLISHED":"2014-02-06T18:05:14.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2014-02-06T18:05:14.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"TIM O'LEARY","KEYWORDS":"THE BACKLOT","ARTICLESECTN":"CULTURE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HI TIM,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}LOYAL LBIAN REAR HERE. I KNOW YOU UALLY AL WH GAY DUS AND THEIR PROBLEMS, BUT I WONR IF YOU ULD GIVE ME SOME PERSPECTIVE ON THIS PROBLEM I {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I WENT TO A PARTY RECENTLY THAT WAS MOSTLY GAY GIRLS, BUT ONE OF THE GIRLS THERE WAS STRAIGHT (SHE’D E WH HER ROOMMATE). STRAIGHT GIRL AND I GOT TO TALKG, AND WE H OFF SO WE AGREED TO MEET FOR DRKS THE FOLLOWG NIGHT. WE DID, AND SHE NFSED SHE’D NEVER BEEN WH A GIRL BEFORE BUT WAS ALWAYS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WE HOOKED UP THAT NIGHT, AND THERE WAS SO MUCH PH-AND-PULL OM HER, WHERE SHE WOULD STOP THE MIDDLE OF KISSG ME AND SAY THGS LIKE “THIS IS SO WEIRD!” BUT THEN GO BACK TO KISSG ME. I’VE BEEN DOWN THIS ROAD BEFORE WH OTHER “STRAIGHT” GIRLS, AND NEVER ENDS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I HAVE TWO QUTNS: 1) SHOULD I JT BACK AWAY NOW BEFORE I GET HURT AGA? 2) DO THIS HAVE ANY EQUIVALENT WH GUYS?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SGLE GAY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}LET’S AL WH QUTN #2 FIRST. DO EVER HAPPEN THAT BI-CUR GUYS WILL GO AFTER AN OUT GAY MAN, BUT THEN FEEL NFLICTED ABOUT THEIR FEELGS AND RETURN TO THE WARM, FAIAR BOSOM OF STRAIGHTDOM?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}Y, HAPPENS. BUT WH NOTHG EVEN APPROACHG THE EQUENCY THAT OCCURS AMONG WOMEN, ACRDG TO MY LBIAN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THERE’S AN ARTICLE ON THAT SUGGTS WOMEN MAY HAVE EVOLVED OVER TIME TO BE MORE OPEN TO BISEXUALY AS A MEANS OF OBTAG THE SECURY THAT THERE WILL ALWAYS BE ANOTHER PAIR OF HANDS FOR RAISG THEIR CHILDREN – IF A DU ISN’T AROUND, ANOTHER LADY WILL DO JT FE. HOWEVER, THE EVINCE PROVID BY PSYCHOLOGIST BARRY X. KUHLE, WHO POSS THIS THEORY, SEEMS PRETTY SLIGHT. OF URSE, I DON’T WRE FOR A WEBSE WH “SCIENCE” THE URL, SO WHAT THE HELL DO I KNOW?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE NVENTNAL WISDOM THE GAY BARS I TROLL, HOWEVER, IS THAT MEN ARE NATELY ATTRACTED TO THE POLE AND THE HOLE WH THE SAME EQUENCY AS WOMEN, BUT SOCIETY’S EXTRAORDARILY RIGID NF OF MALE SEXUALY PREVENT THEM OM EXPRSG THIS, AND SO THEY SUPPRS WHILE THEIR SISTERS ARE OUT THERE DO’ FOR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO WHO’S RIGHT? BEATS THE HELL OUT OF ME. BUT ONE THG’S FOR SURE – THIS PROBLEM DO SEEM TO ARISE MUCH MORE EQUENTLY FOR LBIANS THAN FOR GAY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOW TO QUTN #1. SHOULD YOU BACK AWAY BEFORE YOU GET HURT?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THAT’S A TOUGHIE, BEE THERE’S ALWAYS THE POSSIBILY THAT FOR THE GIRL QUTN, THIS IS A REAL MOMENT FOR HER WHERE SHE REALIZ THAT THERE MIGHT BE A LOT MORE TO HER SEXUALY THAN WHAT SHE HAD PRUMED, AND ’S POSSIBLE HER MD IS KD OF BLOWN RIGHT NOW. IF THAT’S THE SE, SHE’S PROBABLY FEELG A LTLE VULNERABLE, SO DCHG HER NOW SEEMS KD OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ON THE OTHER HAND, YOU WANT TO PROTECT YOURSELF, AND NOT SET YOURSELF UP TO GET HURT, {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I THK THE BT WAY TO GO ABOUT THIS IS TO MUNITE CLEARLY WHAT YOU’RE BOTH FEELG EVERY STEP OF THE WAY. IT’S TOTALLY OKAY – AND I ENURAGE YOU – TO LET HER KNOW THIS ISN’T YOUR FIRST TIME BEG “A FIRST TIME” FOR A GIRL WHO PREVLY INTIFIED AS STRAIGHT, AND THEREFORE THERE’S A LTLE EMOTNAL BAGGAGE FOR YOU. BOTH OF YOU SHOULD TREAD LIGHTLY, AND BE HONT WH EACH OTHER AT ALL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT AGA, WHAT THE HELL DO I KNOW? I'M A GAY DU WHO'S MOSTLY DATED OTHER ROLUTELY GAY DUS. MY IEND LIZ, A BRILLIANT FILMMAKER BASED LA WHO ALSO HAPPENS TO LOVE THE LADI, HAD THIS TO SAY:{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}"THIS A PRIME EXAMPLE OF SOME WOMEN'S FLUID SEXUALY. GIVEN THAT STRAIGHT GIRL DISPLAYED HATN DURG THE HOOKUP, 'S UNLIKELY (THOUGH NOT IMPOSSIBLE) FOR THIS TO VELOP FURTHER. AS SGF PUT , 'IT NEVER ENDS WELL.' MY ADVICE WOULD BE FOR SGF TO BACK AWAY, IF ONLY FOR SELF-PROTECTN. FROM WHAT SHE WROTE, SOUNDS LIKE SHE HAS A HISTORY DATG/HOOKG UP WH STRAIGHT-INTIFIED GIRLS WHO ARE CUR BUT ALSO A LTLE FLAKY. IF NEVER ENDS WELL, WHY START THIS ONE? THERE ARE EASIER WAYS TO FD AND DATE WOMEN WHO LIKE WOMEN (THE INTER? LBIAN BARS? THE US OPEN?){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IF SGF AND THIS GIRL ENJOY EACH OTHERS PANY, THEN OL, A NEW IENDSHIP ... BUT I WOULD HAVE SGF ASK HERSELF IF SHE ULD REALISTILLY BE IENDS WH SOMEONE SHE IS ATTRACTED TO, OR IF EVERY HANGOUT FILLED HER WH HOPE THAT SHE ULD CHANGE STRAIGHT GIRL TO BI GIRL. TO REERATE MY ADVICE? BYE, GIRL."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HEY TIM!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’D BEEN SEEG THIS GUY – WE’LL LL HIM GEE – FOR ABOUT THREE MONTHS. WE STARTED OUR RELATNSHIP VERY SUALLY, BUT AFTER A MONTH WE HAD “THE TALK,” AND BEME EXCLIVE. WE BOTH ME TO THE RELATNSHIP STATG OUR EXPECTATNS, WHICH IS TOTAL MONOGAMY. PERSONALLY, I’M TOTALLY SUPPORTIVE OF PEOPLE WHO HAVE OPEN RELATNSHIPS. IT’S JT NOT FOR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ANYWAY, TWO WEEKS AFTER WE MA OFFICIAL, GEE (WHO GETS A LTLE CRAZY WHEN HE’S BEEN DRKG) ACCINTALLY SLIPPED AND SLEPT WH HIS EX AFTER A NIGHT OUT WH IENDS. HE SAID HIS EX ME OVER OM OUT OF THE BLUE, THAT HE WASN’T EXPECTG , AND THGS JT GOT RRIED {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I FAVE HIM, WHICH WAS HARD FOR ME, BUT I WORKED THROUGH . HOWEVER, SIX WEEKS LATER, HAPPENED AGA. THIS TIME WASN’T WH HIS EX BUT SOMEONE HE KNEW OM WORK. AFTER THAT, I BROKE UP WH HIM FOR GOOD. BELIEVE OR NOT, THAT WAS REALLY TOUGH FOR ME, BEE SPE THE CHEATG, HE WAS PROBABLY THE SWEETT, MOST RG GUY I’VE EVER BEEN WH. NOW, I’M HAVG SEND THOUGHTS. DID I DO THE RIGHT THG BY BREAKG OFF?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WORRIED {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}Y. YOU DID THE RIGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}YOU TOTALLY DID THE RIGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THANKFULLY, YOUR QUTN WAS MUCH LS PLEX THAN THE CHEATG ISSUE WE TALKED ABOUT LAST WEEK. IF YOU’RE RELATNSHIP IS ONLY OFFICIAL FOR TWO MONTHS, AND THOSE TWO MONTHS HE CHEATS ON YOU TWICE, YOU N RT ASSURED HE’LL DO SO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ALSO, “HIS EX ME OVER OM OUT OF THE BLUE?”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}COME ON, WIW. HOW MANY TIM HAVE YOUR EX E OVER, UNVED, TO YOUR HOE WHOUT TELLG YOU?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’M SURE HE SEEMED LIKE A SWEET GUY WHEN YOU TWO WERE TOGETHER, BUT THIS DU SOUNDS LIKE A MAJOR DOG. AND WHAT DO WE DO WH DOGS? WE GET RID OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WA, NOT REAL DOGS, THOUGH! KEEP THY WRATH AWAY OM ME, PETA!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HEY TIM,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHAT I LOVE MOST ABOUT YOUR LUMN IS YOUR SCIFI/FANTASY NERDS. I, TOO, LIKE 98.3% OF YOUR REARS LOVE DOCTOR WHO, AND BUFFY, AND FIREFLY, AND A GOOD PORTN OF WHAT YOU TALK ABOUT, BUT MOST OF ALL, I LOVE THE CLASSIC FAIRYTALE PRCE/PRCS, GOOD VERS EVIL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MY QUTN IS WHETHER OR NOT YOU'VE EVER SEEN THE 10TH KGDOM, AND IF YOU HAVE, ANY THOUGHTS? IT'S ONE OF THOSE LET'S-TIE-ALL-THE-FAIRYTAL-TOGETHER GIMMICKS THAT ME OUT BACK 2000, SO LOOONG BEFORE THE OTHERS LIKE DISNEY'S ENCHANTED, OR KGDOM OF HEARTS, OR ONCE UPON A TIME. IT HAS ANN-MARGRET AS A 200 YEAR OLD CRELLA; CAMRYN MANHEIM AS AN OVERWEIGHT SNOW WHE; DIANNE WIT AS THE FIERCT EVIL QUEEN THIS SI OF MALEFICENT-----WHAT MORE N A GAY MAN ASK FOR A FAIRYTALE ST??!!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PLEASE TELL ME YOU'RE A FAN!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}--FAIRYTALE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOW THAT IS THE SOUND OF A PASSNATE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I NFS I HAVEN’T SEEN , BUT I’LL FELY HAVE TO CHECK OUT. THANKS FOR THE TIP, FF!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ANYONE OUT THERE SEEN AND FEEL AS STRONGLY AS FF?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MORE OF THE LUMN FORMERLY KNOWN AS ASK JT! HERE.  {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TO ASK TIM A QUTN, EMAIL HIM AT (AND TRY TO KEEP TO THREE PARAGRAPHS OR LS). OR YOU N BE SUPER TECH-SEXY AND ASK VIA {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS
• I'M A GAY GUY, BUT THERE'S THIS GIRL....
• A CONTRACT FOR THE GAY GUY/STRAIGHT GUY FRIENDSHIP
• WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN AND GAY MEN MAKE THE BT OF FRIENDS
• WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO GAY MEN
• SEX TIPS FOR STRAIGHT WOMEN OM A GAY MAN
• I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN

I AM A STRAIGHT GIRL, BUT WISH I ULD BE WH A GAY GUY.

Most of the gay porn I watch are ually the on where one of the guys iate first and the other is reluctant at first... As I stated before, I'm a girl and I like my body, even my genals, but when I watch gay porn, I touch myself and image I have a penis.

5 DATG TIPS FOR STRAIGHT GIRLS FROM A GAY GUY

Sexual attractn n feel really nfg, regardls of whether you intify as straight, gay, bisexual, queer, or anythg else.

It n also feel nfg if your attractn don't seem to match wh the "straight", "gay", or "bisexual" tegori, or the ways you might see those prented the media or onle. You exprsed that you are nfint that you are a girl and are fortable your body, but that your attractn to gay men is nfg.

An important thg to note is that both wh genr inty and sexual orientatn (as well as our blogil sex and the way that we exprs our genr) is not always black and whe, male and female, straight or gay. Someone might intify as 100% male or 100% gay, but many people fd they feel more like somethg between, or some variatn (for stance, beg attracted to a specific type of person, or personaly, or sexual orientatn, like gay men).

A CONTRACT FOR THE GAY GUY/STRAIGHT GIRL FRIENDSHIP

You might be surprised by how many women (gay or straight) enjoy watchg male gay porn, and how many men like watchg lbian porn. If you do fd yourself sexually attracted to gay men, that n be a ltle b trickier terms of meetg a partner, but we n talk a ltle more about that below.

It might also be worth rememberg, if you're feelg jealo of the physil enjoyment you're seeg gay porn, that porn is very often que different om real life sex.

You might fd that you like to keep your attractn to gay men as a fantasy, but are ultimately attracted to straight men when to beg a relatnship. In that se, watchg gay porn or readg gay eroti for pleasure might meet your needs explorg your sexual tert gay men. However, if you fd that beg sexually attracted to gay men is more than a fantasy, and is somethg that is important that you explore a sexual relatnship, is possible to meet partners that you are sexually attracted to and that are also sexually attracted to you.

WHAT'S THE SCIENCE BEHD STRAIGHT WOMEN LIKG GAY MEN?

Beg a romantic relatnship wh a 100% gay man is unlikely to make eher of you happy if he is not attracted to you, but many men who intify as queer or bisexual enjoy sex wh both men and women, or wh people of all different genr inti.

I'M A STRAIGHT GIRL, BUT WISH I WERE A GAY GUY...

For over a , I’ve had the privilege of playg the role of gay bt iend to many telligent, funny and geo women throughout my reer as a practicg homosexual. In fact, there are some l for the latt stance of this behavr to piss off is Wendy Atterberry pleadg for some gay attentn on The Frisky.

She needs a gay e she's married now and needs someone who n fix her bad-hair-day hair, make snarky ments about the Osrs, and enjoy long bnch wh plenty of gossip!

Sorry, but we are sick of straight girls to want to fd a "gay bt iend" is like a whe person tryg to get "down wh the blacks. " The ladi want to fall love wh some Platonic ial of gay iendship where they have some sexls beg who ters to their every whim, the urt jter to their prcs.

ASK O'LEARY: I'M A GAY GIRL DATG A STRAIGHT GIRL!{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}CULTUREBY TIM O'LEARYFEBARY 6, 2014/1:05 PMBY TIM O'LEARYFEBARY 6, 2014 / 1:05 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"ASK O'LEARY: I'M A GAY GIRL DATG A STRAIGHT GIRL!","DATEPUBLISHED":"2014-02-06T18:05:14.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2014-02-06T18:05:14.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"TIM O'LEARY","KEYWORDS":"THE BACKLOT","ARTICLESECTN":"CULTURE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HI TIM,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}LOYAL LBIAN REAR HERE. I KNOW YOU UALLY AL WH GAY DUS AND THEIR PROBLEMS, BUT I WONR IF YOU ULD GIVE ME SOME PERSPECTIVE ON THIS PROBLEM I {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I WENT TO A PARTY RECENTLY THAT WAS MOSTLY GAY GIRLS, BUT ONE OF THE GIRLS THERE WAS STRAIGHT (SHE’D E WH HER ROOMMATE). STRAIGHT GIRL AND I GOT TO TALKG, AND WE H OFF SO WE AGREED TO MEET FOR DRKS THE FOLLOWG NIGHT. WE DID, AND SHE NFSED SHE’D NEVER BEEN WH A GIRL BEFORE BUT WAS ALWAYS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WE HOOKED UP THAT NIGHT, AND THERE WAS SO MUCH PH-AND-PULL OM HER, WHERE SHE WOULD STOP THE MIDDLE OF KISSG ME AND SAY THGS LIKE “THIS IS SO WEIRD!” BUT THEN GO BACK TO KISSG ME. I’VE BEEN DOWN THIS ROAD BEFORE WH OTHER “STRAIGHT” GIRLS, AND NEVER ENDS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I HAVE TWO QUTNS: 1) SHOULD I JT BACK AWAY NOW BEFORE I GET HURT AGA? 2) DO THIS HAVE ANY EQUIVALENT WH GUYS?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SGLE GAY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}LET’S AL WH QUTN #2 FIRST. DO EVER HAPPEN THAT BI-CUR GUYS WILL GO AFTER AN OUT GAY MAN, BUT THEN FEEL NFLICTED ABOUT THEIR FEELGS AND RETURN TO THE WARM, FAIAR BOSOM OF STRAIGHTDOM?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}Y, HAPPENS. BUT WH NOTHG EVEN APPROACHG THE EQUENCY THAT OCCURS AMONG WOMEN, ACRDG TO MY LBIAN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THERE’S AN ARTICLE ON THAT SUGGTS WOMEN MAY HAVE EVOLVED OVER TIME TO BE MORE OPEN TO BISEXUALY AS A MEANS OF OBTAG THE SECURY THAT THERE WILL ALWAYS BE ANOTHER PAIR OF HANDS FOR RAISG THEIR CHILDREN – IF A DU ISN’T AROUND, ANOTHER LADY WILL DO JT FE. HOWEVER, THE EVINCE PROVID BY PSYCHOLOGIST BARRY X. KUHLE, WHO POSS THIS THEORY, SEEMS PRETTY SLIGHT. OF URSE, I DON’T WRE FOR A WEBSE WH “SCIENCE” THE URL, SO WHAT THE HELL DO I KNOW?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE NVENTNAL WISDOM THE GAY BARS I TROLL, HOWEVER, IS THAT MEN ARE NATELY ATTRACTED TO THE POLE AND THE HOLE WH THE SAME EQUENCY AS WOMEN, BUT SOCIETY’S EXTRAORDARILY RIGID NF OF MALE SEXUALY PREVENT THEM OM EXPRSG THIS, AND SO THEY SUPPRS WHILE THEIR SISTERS ARE OUT THERE DO’ FOR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO WHO’S RIGHT? BEATS THE HELL OUT OF ME. BUT ONE THG’S FOR SURE – THIS PROBLEM DO SEEM TO ARISE MUCH MORE EQUENTLY FOR LBIANS THAN FOR GAY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOW TO QUTN #1. SHOULD YOU BACK AWAY BEFORE YOU GET HURT?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THAT’S A TOUGHIE, BEE THERE’S ALWAYS THE POSSIBILY THAT FOR THE GIRL QUTN, THIS IS A REAL MOMENT FOR HER WHERE SHE REALIZ THAT THERE MIGHT BE A LOT MORE TO HER SEXUALY THAN WHAT SHE HAD PRUMED, AND ’S POSSIBLE HER MD IS KD OF BLOWN RIGHT NOW. IF THAT’S THE SE, SHE’S PROBABLY FEELG A LTLE VULNERABLE, SO DCHG HER NOW SEEMS KD OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ON THE OTHER HAND, YOU WANT TO PROTECT YOURSELF, AND NOT SET YOURSELF UP TO GET HURT, {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I THK THE BT WAY TO GO ABOUT THIS IS TO MUNITE CLEARLY WHAT YOU’RE BOTH FEELG EVERY STEP OF THE WAY. IT’S TOTALLY OKAY – AND I ENURAGE YOU – TO LET HER KNOW THIS ISN’T YOUR FIRST TIME BEG “A FIRST TIME” FOR A GIRL WHO PREVLY INTIFIED AS STRAIGHT, AND THEREFORE THERE’S A LTLE EMOTNAL BAGGAGE FOR YOU. BOTH OF YOU SHOULD TREAD LIGHTLY, AND BE HONT WH EACH OTHER AT ALL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT AGA, WHAT THE HELL DO I KNOW? I'M A GAY DU WHO'S MOSTLY DATED OTHER ROLUTELY GAY DUS. MY IEND LIZ, A BRILLIANT FILMMAKER BASED LA WHO ALSO HAPPENS TO LOVE THE LADI, HAD THIS TO SAY:{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}"THIS A PRIME EXAMPLE OF SOME WOMEN'S FLUID SEXUALY. GIVEN THAT STRAIGHT GIRL DISPLAYED HATN DURG THE HOOKUP, 'S UNLIKELY (THOUGH NOT IMPOSSIBLE) FOR THIS TO VELOP FURTHER. AS SGF PUT , 'IT NEVER ENDS WELL.' MY ADVICE WOULD BE FOR SGF TO BACK AWAY, IF ONLY FOR SELF-PROTECTN. FROM WHAT SHE WROTE, SOUNDS LIKE SHE HAS A HISTORY DATG/HOOKG UP WH STRAIGHT-INTIFIED GIRLS WHO ARE CUR BUT ALSO A LTLE FLAKY. IF NEVER ENDS WELL, WHY START THIS ONE? THERE ARE EASIER WAYS TO FD AND DATE WOMEN WHO LIKE WOMEN (THE INTER? LBIAN BARS? THE US OPEN?){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IF SGF AND THIS GIRL ENJOY EACH OTHERS PANY, THEN OL, A NEW IENDSHIP ... BUT I WOULD HAVE SGF ASK HERSELF IF SHE ULD REALISTILLY BE IENDS WH SOMEONE SHE IS ATTRACTED TO, OR IF EVERY HANGOUT FILLED HER WH HOPE THAT SHE ULD CHANGE STRAIGHT GIRL TO BI GIRL. TO REERATE MY ADVICE? BYE, GIRL."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HEY TIM!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’D BEEN SEEG THIS GUY – WE’LL LL HIM GEE – FOR ABOUT THREE MONTHS. WE STARTED OUR RELATNSHIP VERY SUALLY, BUT AFTER A MONTH WE HAD “THE TALK,” AND BEME EXCLIVE. WE BOTH ME TO THE RELATNSHIP STATG OUR EXPECTATNS, WHICH IS TOTAL MONOGAMY. PERSONALLY, I’M TOTALLY SUPPORTIVE OF PEOPLE WHO HAVE OPEN RELATNSHIPS. IT’S JT NOT FOR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ANYWAY, TWO WEEKS AFTER WE MA OFFICIAL, GEE (WHO GETS A LTLE CRAZY WHEN HE’S BEEN DRKG) ACCINTALLY SLIPPED AND SLEPT WH HIS EX AFTER A NIGHT OUT WH IENDS. HE SAID HIS EX ME OVER OM OUT OF THE BLUE, THAT HE WASN’T EXPECTG , AND THGS JT GOT RRIED {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I FAVE HIM, WHICH WAS HARD FOR ME, BUT I WORKED THROUGH . HOWEVER, SIX WEEKS LATER, HAPPENED AGA. THIS TIME WASN’T WH HIS EX BUT SOMEONE HE KNEW OM WORK. AFTER THAT, I BROKE UP WH HIM FOR GOOD. BELIEVE OR NOT, THAT WAS REALLY TOUGH FOR ME, BEE SPE THE CHEATG, HE WAS PROBABLY THE SWEETT, MOST RG GUY I’VE EVER BEEN WH. NOW, I’M HAVG SEND THOUGHTS. DID I DO THE RIGHT THG BY BREAKG OFF?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WORRIED {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}Y. YOU DID THE RIGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}YOU TOTALLY DID THE RIGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THANKFULLY, YOUR QUTN WAS MUCH LS PLEX THAN THE CHEATG ISSUE WE TALKED ABOUT LAST WEEK. IF YOU’RE RELATNSHIP IS ONLY OFFICIAL FOR TWO MONTHS, AND THOSE TWO MONTHS HE CHEATS ON YOU TWICE, YOU N RT ASSURED HE’LL DO SO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ALSO, “HIS EX ME OVER OM OUT OF THE BLUE?”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}COME ON, WIW. HOW MANY TIM HAVE YOUR EX E OVER, UNVED, TO YOUR HOE WHOUT TELLG YOU?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’M SURE HE SEEMED LIKE A SWEET GUY WHEN YOU TWO WERE TOGETHER, BUT THIS DU SOUNDS LIKE A MAJOR DOG. AND WHAT DO WE DO WH DOGS? WE GET RID OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WA, NOT REAL DOGS, THOUGH! KEEP THY WRATH AWAY OM ME, PETA!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HEY TIM,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHAT I LOVE MOST ABOUT YOUR LUMN IS YOUR SCIFI/FANTASY NERDS. I, TOO, LIKE 98.3% OF YOUR REARS LOVE DOCTOR WHO, AND BUFFY, AND FIREFLY, AND A GOOD PORTN OF WHAT YOU TALK ABOUT, BUT MOST OF ALL, I LOVE THE CLASSIC FAIRYTALE PRCE/PRCS, GOOD VERS EVIL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MY QUTN IS WHETHER OR NOT YOU'VE EVER SEEN THE 10TH KGDOM, AND IF YOU HAVE, ANY THOUGHTS? IT'S ONE OF THOSE LET'S-TIE-ALL-THE-FAIRYTAL-TOGETHER GIMMICKS THAT ME OUT BACK 2000, SO LOOONG BEFORE THE OTHERS LIKE DISNEY'S ENCHANTED, OR KGDOM OF HEARTS, OR ONCE UPON A TIME. IT HAS ANN-MARGRET AS A 200 YEAR OLD CRELLA; CAMRYN MANHEIM AS AN OVERWEIGHT SNOW WHE; DIANNE WIT AS THE FIERCT EVIL QUEEN THIS SI OF MALEFICENT-----WHAT MORE N A GAY MAN ASK FOR A FAIRYTALE ST??!!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PLEASE TELL ME YOU'RE A FAN!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}--FAIRYTALE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOW THAT IS THE SOUND OF A PASSNATE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I NFS I HAVEN’T SEEN , BUT I’LL FELY HAVE TO CHECK OUT. THANKS FOR THE TIP, FF!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ANYONE OUT THERE SEEN AND FEEL AS STRONGLY AS FF?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MORE OF THE LUMN FORMERLY KNOWN AS ASK JT! HERE.  {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TO ASK TIM A QUTN, EMAIL HIM AT (AND TRY TO KEEP TO THREE PARAGRAPHS OR LS). OR YOU N BE SUPER TECH-SEXY AND ASK VIA {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS

They fetishize our sexualy and don't see that gay people are actually real, hont dividuals, not a set of Madonna-lovg stereotyp (though we do love some Madge).

On the flip si there is the "fag hag, " a needy-drama lan women who llect gay men and lose themselv their drama so they don't have to face their sad, lonely liv. We know that you jt want to be happy and a relatnship and want to show how ol you are that you know other gays, but we're not terted.

I'M A GAY GUY, BUT THERE'S THIS GIRL....

If we meet at your birthday party and h off, great, but please don't arrange for an awkward ffee Don't Want to Go Shoppg: Y, plenty of gay men sign women's cloth and many like watchg them on the nway (and on Runway) but gog wh you to a store that has a ty men's sectn or no men's cloth at all for the exprs purpose of tellg you if your ass looks fat is not our ia of a good time.

And if you tst your gay iends to do your shoppg, you're gog to be miskirts and hooker heels every day, and that is jt not practil unls you are a Real Hoewife or a 'll Give You Sex Tips, but No Lady Bs: No one knows how to please a man like another man, and we don't md sharg you all the thgs we learned that hot tub P-Town, but, please, leave your vaga out of .

We'll help you fd Won't H on Your Boyiend In Front of You: If your gay iend helped you land a boyiend he is probably attractive, well-employed, and very nice.

A CONTRACT FOR THE GAY GUY/STRAIGHT GUY FRIENDSHIP

Out of nsiratn, we will not do this ont of you, but when you leave talkg to him at a party or go to the bathroom at bnch, 's Not Come to Our Clubs: A gay bar wh too many women—pecially the kd of club where isky thgs are gog on—mak everyone unfortable. We're gog to The Cock, let's get you a Are Not a Gay Man Trapped a Woman's Body: You may be fierce, sassy, sleep around, wear crazy outfs, and know the good l om Pk Flamgos, but you are not a gay man.

This article first appeared on The years, iendships between straight women and gay men have been a subject of pop culture fascatn. Books, televisn shows and feature-length films have all highlighted this unique relatnship, noted for s closens and wh society's attus toward gays and lbians changg, 's bee all the more important to build a holistic unrstandg of the relatnships between gay and straight a rearcher social psychology, I've often wonred: Why do straight female-gay male relatnships work so well?

WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN AND GAY MEN MAKE THE BT OF FRIENDS

Specifilly, I believe evolutnary psychology and human matg n help expla why relatnships between straight women and gay men tend to flourish.

Bee gay men don't mate wh women—or pete wh them for mat—women feel a certa level of fort wh gay men, and the procs of formg a close iendship n occur relatively heterosexual men (who, by fn, are sexually attracted to women), the procs is longer—and potentially more ght—bee men may be grapplg wh their own sexual other words, bee gay men are attracted to their own genr, they're a "safe bet" for women—at least, om a socblogil three years ago, I ially tted this theory a seri of experiments that have served as the foundatn of my rearch program on gay-straight the experiments, straight female participants were shown fict Facebook profil pictg eher a straight woman, straight man or gay man.

WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO GAY MEN

I also reced gay male participants, and had them plete the same task (wh the gay men viewg Facebook profil pictg a straight female, gay male or lbian female) experiments, published the journal Evolutnary Psychology, monstrated that straight women and gay men perceived one another to be tstworthy sourc of relatnship and datg advice. Crackg the why and whenRecently, my lleagu and I at the Universy of Texas at Arlgton veloped a seri of four related tled the four studi "Why (and When) Straight Women Tst Gay Men: Ulterr Matg Motiv and Female Competn, " wh the hope of better tablishg why straight women tst gay men and when straight women would be most likely to seek out gay men for iendship and the first study, I wanted to replite the fdg that women tst gay men more than straight men or straight women.

SEX TIPS FOR STRAIGHT WOMEN OM A GAY MAN

This time, however, I wanted to see if women would only tst gay men's datg-related advice as opposed to other typ of turns out straight women only tsted a gay man's advice about a potential boyiend more than the same advice om, say, a straight man or another straight woman. It really only had to do wh one thg: datg and further exame why this might be the se, we had women image receivg rmatn om eher a straight woman, straight man, or a gay man about their physil appearance and the dateabily of potential boyiends. We then asked the women how scere they felt the rpons expected, the female subjects seemed to perceive the judgments g om the gay man to be more scere bee they knew that he wouldn't have any ulterr motiv—whether that meant woog the subject (which they might spect of straight men) or petg for the same romantic partner (straight women) the fal two studi, we wanted to figure out when women were most likely to beiend and place their tst gay men.

I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN

We predicted that this would most often occur highly petive datg environments, where a tstworthy source like a gay iend would be valued by women jockeyg wh one another for a tt this, we created a fake news article that tailed extremely skewed sex rats, ditg that women llege were petg over a very small pool of men. We had women read this news article and then dite how much they would tst a straight woman or a gay man var datg-related women read the news article about the creased petn, their tst gay men was amplified.

Not only were women more apt to tst gay men unr this ndn, but we also found that they beme more willg to make gay male datg adviceThe downsi is that if a straight woman valu her gay male iends only for datg advice, the relatnship uld bee que superficial (see Chris Rtta's say "I'm Gay, Not Your Accsory"). However, the strong tst that women ially form wh gay men n serve as a primer; eventually, this tst uld extend to other areas, wh the iendship blossomg over fdgs—bed wh our own—show that there seems to be an extremely strong psychologil unrpng for why women are so drawn to gay stance, a recent study the Journal of Bs and Psychology revealed that straight women tend to hire gay men over other heterosexual dividuals bee they perceive gay men to be more petent and warmer.