Could gay guys be the ultimate wg men for their straight, male iends?
Contents:
- THE CURSE OF AN ATTRACTN TO OLR GAY MEN
- THE ASSOCIATNS OF SEXUAL SIRE, DAILY STRS, AND TIMACY GAY MEN LONG-TERM RELATNSHIPS
THE CURSE OF AN ATTRACTN TO OLR GAY MEN
* gay sexual tension *
For a long time, iendships between gay men and straight men – what some now ll “bromosexual” iendships – were unmon. Homophobia was likely one reason; another was that straight men probably assumed they didn’t have much mon wh gay men. Specifilly, we’re terted lookg at the reasons gay men and straight men bee iends (or rema iends after the gay iend out).
We currently have a survey vtigatn unrway that explor some of the posive out of “bromosexual” iendships, cludg our theory that gay men and straight men n be optimal wg men for one another. Many straight men hated to beiend gay men, fearg harassment, rejectn om their straight iends or beg lled gay.
Gay men – particularly those nservative and ral environments – rema wary about tryg to beiend straight men, fearg prejudice-fueled rejectn. At the same time, many straight men still doubt that they’ll be able to relate to gay men any meangful way and, for this reason, may not try to iate a iendship.
THE ASSOCIATNS OF SEXUAL SIRE, DAILY STRS, AND TIMACY GAY MEN LONG-TERM RELATNSHIPS
We vtigated the associatns between daily strs, sexual sire and timacy gay men long-term relatnships. A daily diary method of data llectn was ed. Twenty-two adult participants pleted brief qutnnair ten tim per day durg seven nsecutive days. Multilevel regrsn analys revealed signifint negative associatns of daily strs wh sexual sire (p = 0.003); higher strs me wh lower levels of sexual sire, and vice versa. The hypothized moratn effect of the associatns of strs wh sexual sire by timacy was found signifint (p = 0.003). However, the effect was not as predicted: at higher levels of timacy the negative effect of strs on sexual sire was shown to be stronger than at lower levels. Most temporal associatns of strs and timacy wh sexual sire were not signifint. Neverthels, the prent fdgs implite that daily strs and timacy are important factors sexual functng of gay men long-term relatnships. * gay sexual tension *
Of urse, the tradnal notn that gay men and straight men nnot be close iends is herently homophobic and unte. We propose gay-straight male iendships are not only possible, but that they n grow to be extremely rewardg. If they’re open-md about beiendg gay men and make the effort to try to fe iendships based upon mon terts, gay men should feel more fortable reciprotg.
Gay men who disclose their sexual orientatn to their straight male iends earlier life may be able to build more open and hont iendships wh them to adulthood.
Send, recent rearch has argued that genr and sexual orientatn might not be as black and whe as prevly thought, which opens up new avenu for explorg how gay and straight men n relate to one another. If a straight guy and his gay male iend are ls rigid about their masculy and sexualy, they’ll probably be more likely to discs tails about their sexual and romantic liv openly wh one another. Recent rearch has suggted that advice sharg uld be a ccial reason that straight women seek out gay men as iends.