The Gay Berler: Actively passive - Exberler

Contents:

• WHO ARE GAYS - 10 MYTHS ABOUT HOMOSEXUALY
• THE GAY BERLER: ACTIVELY PASSIVE
• WHEN MIGHT HETEROSEXUAL MEN BE PASSIVE OR COMPASSNATE TOWARD GAY VICTIMS OF HATE CRIME? INTEGRATG THE BYSTANR AND SOCIAL LOAFG EXPLANATNS
• GAY MALE SEXUALY

WHO ARE GAYS - 10 MYTHS ABOUT HOMOSEXUALY

Although many gay men and lbians are aware of their orientatn om their earlit sexual thoughts, a sizeable mory do not disver their orientatn until later life, perhaps a failg marriage and wh the rponsibili of parenthood. Perhaps as many as a third of gay men choose not to practise perative anal sex on a regular basis, 1 and the tradnal divisn of gay men to “active” and “passive” is not born out by experience—most gay men who do have anal sex will play eher role. Counsellg gay men and womenBe hont wh yourself; if you are unfortable wh gay people refer the patient to someone elseIf an adolcent is nfed about his or her sexualy try to help the patient to adjtDo not have prenceived iasTake the opportuny to discs safe sex wh gay men A married man or woman might benef om upl unsellgSexual orientatn is not always fixed.

Gay men face practil problems, such as a future applitn for life surance, which mean that some patients will not wish to disclose their sexual orientatn to their general practner, no matter how sympathetic and activiIt is unclear what proportn of men and women have same sex experienc their liv.

It is therefore eful for a doctor to be forearmed wh a basic vobulary of gay sex, although many men and women who perform the activi will lack the words to scribe them, and few people of any orientatn are likely to have all the activi their personal behavural repertoire. This is the mont mo  of gay sexual exprsnWater sports—Uratn as a sexual pleasureThe terms “active” and “passive” are bt avoid if a doctor needs to terme the ntent of a sexual act, such as when nsirg the risks of sexually transmted disease. Facts and figurTwo thirds of gay men have anal sexTen per cent of heterosexual upl regularly have anal sexThe timate that 6% of the male populatn are gay may be an unrtimateNo one knows how mon sexual problems are this groupTheir prentatn vari wily om clic to clicErectile dysfunctn is creasgly seen men fected wh HIVRetard ejaculatn is monPil and anal fissur are no more mon gay men than the general populatnVagism, anasmia, and low sex drive occur lbians as heterosexual womenRetard ejaculatn is mon gay men and may be related to fears of ntagn duced by the “safer sex” ed by dilatn of an anal veno plex are no more mon those havg receptive anal sex, and are ually ed by strag at fissur ually arise om nstipatn rather than receptive anal sex.

THE GAY BERLER: ACTIVELY PASSIVE

Infectns associated wh homosexual activySexually transmted diseas are mon all gay people wh a high number of different partnersTheir management is the same as the heterosexual munyThe transmissn of fectn through vagal and anal terurse is no different, apart om HIVHepatis A and Giardia are spread through oro-anal ntactThe greater cince of hepatis B is an ditor of a large number of partners, not of specific sexual practicFae-oral spread of pathogens such as Giardia and hepatis A are well rerd om oro-anal sexual ntact. The orthodox sexually transmted diseas are managed as the heterosexual muny, although ntact tracg for gay men wh non-specific urethris is ls important given the rary (2%) of chlamydia as a ative agent gay men.

” om La Grenouillère (1907) by Franz von Bayros) Infectn wh Neisseria gonorrhoeae n occur through oral sex as well as vagal and anal sex In absolute numbers there are more heterosexuals havg anal sex Bra than there are gay men. (Illtratn (possibly by Pl-Ee Bét) for An Up-to-date Young Lady (1920s) by Helena Varley) A self retag “butt plug, ” which n be ed anal dilatatn exercis or simply as a sex toyAcknowledgmentsThe picture of the gay uple is by Fly Dign Consultants and reproduced wh permissn of the Terrence Higgs Tst. Attribute gayns to choice, acrdg to a 2015 Pew Rearch Center report (see also Sheldon, Pfeffer, Jayaratne, Feldbm, & Petty, 2007), we wonred how heterosexual men might rpond to dividuals who have been victimized on the basis of sexual preferenc that they may nsir dilemmas are possible here: heterosexual men might choose to librate their passn ways that align wh the prevailg heterosexual norm, for stance, by exprsg rced ncern (even passivy) toward gay victims of hate crime.

G., latent gayns) by exprsg hostily toward gay dividuals (Weste et al., 2012) suggts that, for heterosexual men, exprsg the oppose passnate feelgs for gay victims of a hate crime might ll their pliance to the heterosexual norm to qutn. Two classic psychologil mols offer petg explanatns on how bystanr reactns uld fluence heterosexual men’s passivy or passnate reactns toward gay victims of hate crime: the bystanr mol (Darley & Latané, 1968) and the social loafg mol (Rgelmann, 1913) Bystanr MolThere is by now a nsens that bystanrs’ reactn to an emergency n terme whether others are passive or passnate toward the victims (Fischer et al., 2011).

WHEN MIGHT HETEROSEXUAL MEN BE PASSIVE OR COMPASSNATE TOWARD GAY VICTIMS OF HATE CRIME? INTEGRATG THE BYSTANR AND SOCIAL LOAFG EXPLANATNS

Hence, heterosexual men should be motivated to avoid a nt to their social reputatn by beg passnate toward gay victims, pecially when bystanrs are siarly passnate (see Hopks et al., 2007 for a siar discsn on reputatn-duced helpg).

GAY MALE SEXUALY

After all, is difficult (although not impossible) to be mistaken for beg latently gay, if one’s behavr merely pi the way that others have rpond to the victimizatn of gay dividuals (cf.