What I Learned From Datg Olr Gay Men

Contents:

• AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL
• THE CURSE OF AN ATTRACTN TO OLR GAY MEN
• OLR 4 YOUNGER 4 OLR GAYS
• BT GAY DATG APPS FOR HOOKUPS, RELATNSHIPS, AND EVERYTHG BETWEEN
• THE TOP LGBTQ+ DATG S AND APPS: 14 BT GAY DATG S
• GROWG OLD AS A GAY MAN: HOW LIFE HAS CHANGED FOR THE GAY LIBERATN GENERATN
• THE OLR GENERATN TO YOUNG GAY MEN: "WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU COMPLAG?"
• I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN

AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL

Many quiri I have received over and over aga through the years beg somethg like this: “I've always liked olr men, but many gay iends close to my age are cril of me and spic of my motiv. ” One young man said to me, “If I see a handsome gay man my age, he might jt as well have a vaga.

THE CURSE OF AN ATTRACTN TO OLR GAY MEN

Var labels have been ascribed to tergeneratnal upl, whether straight, gay or bisexual: tergeneratnal, age-gap, age-discrepant, or, more often than not, “May-December” relatnships. Inially, I was unnvced the relatnships were ser, but that was bee I held stereotypil views: an olr gay man who was lookg for a trophy-mate and has the money to take re of his boy toy and a younger man who was lookg for a sugar daddy. I now regnize this as a hackneyed ia that furiat men age-gap gay relatnships.

Based on the number of tim this qutn drops to my mailbox, the reasons for the age-discrepant attractns nsum a great al of bandwidth the thoughts of a lot of young gay and bisexual men. Was pletg his doctoral dissertatn, “May-December: Navigatg Life as an Intergeneratnal Gay Couple, ” he thoroughly rearched what proved to be the limed available lerature on tergeneratnal upl.

Their work will fort men the double jeopardy of beg both gay and lovg someone much olr or younger.

OLR 4 YOUNGER 4 OLR GAYS

Gass is a gay man whose only sexual attractn is to men signifintly olr than he is. The younger men have more tert sports than their partners and their gay peers who are attracted to men their own age.

BT GAY DATG APPS FOR HOOKUPS, RELATNSHIPS, AND EVERYTHG BETWEEN

The younger men tend to be more mascule than their gay peers who are attracted to men their own age. He wrote, “I stggle more to expla my attractn to olr gay men to my gay iends than I do to my straight iends. ” No one has llected reliable statistics, but age dispary seems to occur more equently gay relatnships than heterosexual on.

But the se of a celebry, the tabloid headl the labels may be ed sensatnalistic ways, or even clu more vilently homophobic nam like pedophile and predatory pervert. ” I was once asked by a young gay man, “Why did you e out at 40? But the gay upl may be far more sexually active than many same-sex upl.

It has been suggted that satisfyg sex nnot occur whout wet kiss and swellg ans, which rc gay sexualy to nothg more than sex, and impli that olr men are pable of havg erectns. One recurrg qutn remas: “How n a man have a mutually satisfyg sex life wh a wife and then have a sudn revelatn that he’s gay?

THE TOP LGBTQ+ DATG S AND APPS: 14 BT GAY DATG S

Don’t this ntradict the ia that gay people are ‘born this way’? I don’t believe we have a choice about our sexual attractns, but gay men and women—jt as any heterosexual person—have a choice about how they rpond to sexual sire.

GROWG OLD AS A GAY MAN: HOW LIFE HAS CHANGED FOR THE GAY LIBERATN GENERATN

Sayg “I am gay” is a statement that our attractns, our behavr, and our self-inty are unison, and when that happens—if ever do— suggts a willgns to proclaim our sexualy regardls of the nsequenc. And dawned upon me: olr gay men may hold some of the answers. The are people whose sex liv pre-date apps like Grdr or Scff, and they may have even evad the wispread lennial mentaly of quickly fdg somethg fective wh a new lover, only to start bralsly swipg me, olr gay men me to symbolize the one thg more spirg than heartbreak: rebirth.

I need to know their back to perasty Ancient Greece, there has existed a scere social bond between olr gay men and male youth – perhaps the form of today’s “bears” and “twks” – where timacy was mgled wh the dispensg of emotnal tellect.

But today, relatnships between olr gay men and younger gay men are seemgly plagued by peer judgment over prumptive motivatns. Most of my gay hort, as well as prev partners, had exposed their +/- four-year le to me out of fear that they would be emed “sugar babi” for takg tert somebody markedly olr.

THE OLR GENERATN TO YOUNG GAY MEN: "WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU COMPLAG?"

A lot of gay men around my age assume that olr gay men, on the other hand, are maly to younger gay men for the sex, perhaps so the youth n somehow b off on them bed like some heavy logne. Today, onle datg apps have tersected many gay men of differg ag and backgrounds.

And though the apps may be seen as grassroots one-night stand livery servic, they also provi rich, rare ter-age experienc where younger and olr gay men, already fortable unr the veil of physil timacy, n munite and dispense sight to the mefield that is the morn gay datg I do often tend towards men my own age, I also love to reflect on the rhetoric I’ve heard om men who have been the bs a b longer. WE ARE A GROUP OF GAY MEN, more or ls fifty-five or olr, who have assembled to support each other beg gay elrs. We e om a wi range of backgrounds and are uned our primary purpose of beg eful to younger gay men and of service to the gay and larger muny.

I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN

The GAY ELDER CIRCLE is signed to assist gay men and others to make the transn om adult to elr, the procs nscly assumg a new role the muny—a life of ntug efulns to to others wh the ntext of group support, enuragement, and genue brotherhood. If you've been lookg for a way to meet other OlrGay members near you, you n now schle a meetup to get everyone together.