Opn | I’m gay. And I want my kid to be gay, too. - The Washgton Post

Contents:

• I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?
• JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS' KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE COACH TO COME OUT AS GAY MAJOR U.S. SPORTS
• JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ASSISTANT COACH KEV MAXEN MAK HISTORY AFTER COMG OUT AS GAY
• LETTERS TO THE EDOR: I’M GAY AND DON’T WANT TO PATRONIZE BIGOTS. THANKS, SUPREME COURT
• CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
• JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ASSISTANT KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH MAJOR U.S. PRO LEAGUE TO E OUT AS GAY
• I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY…
• I’M MALE AND I AM AAID THAT I MIGHT BE GAY
• OPN I’M GAY. AND I WANT MY KID TO BE GAY, TOO.
• ‘EX-GAY’ MEN FIGHT BACK AGAST VIEW THAT HOMOSEXUALY CAN’T BE CHANGED
• I DON’T WANT TO BE GAYJONATHAN KGTRACK 2 ON HOOKED ON A FEELG - SGLE PRODUCED BYJONATHAN KGNOV. 19711 VIEWER2 CONTRIBUTORSI DON’T WANT TO BE GAY LYRICSBEGGED ME TO E TO YOUR PARTYBUT I DON'T HEAR A WORD THAT YOU SAYYOU N SQUEEZE ME AND TEASE MEAPPEASE ME AND PLEASE MEBUT I DON'T WANNA BE GAYYOU SAY I'LL BE GLAD WHEN I GET THERETHAT YOU'LL SHOW ME A NEW WAY TO PLAYYOU N HTLE ME, BTLE MEFS ME AND MCLE MEBUT I DON'T WANNA BE GAYYOU N TRY ANYTHG THAT YOU WANT WH MEBUT YOU'RE NOT GONNA CHANGE MY LIFTYLEYOU N FLUFF ME, REBUFF ME AND FFLE MEBUT YOU A'T GONNA [?] A SEYOU'RE TRYG TO GET WHAT YOU WANT OM MEBUT I'M JT GONNA DO MY WAYYOU N TUG ME AND BUG MEPLUG ME AND JUGGLE MEBUT I DON'T WANNA BE GAYYOU N TUG ME AND BUG MEPLUG ME AND JUGGLE MEBUT I DON'T WANNA BE GAYYOU MIGHT ALSO LIKEEMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUTTHIS SONG B IS UNREVIEWEDGENI ANNOTATN1 NTRIBUTORTHE B SI OF THE SGLE OF JONATHAN KG’S 1971 “HOOKED ON A FEELG”.EXPAND SHAREASK A QUTN ABOUT THIS SONGASK A QUTN *‌WHO PRODUCED “I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY” BY JONATHAN KG?WHEN DID JONATHAN KG RELEASE “I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY”?WHO WROTE “I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY” BY JONATHAN KG?HOOKED ON A FEELG - SGLE (1971)JONATHAN KG1. HOOKED ON A FEELG2. I DON’T WANT TO BE GAYCREDSPRODUCED BYJONATHAN KGWRTEN BYJONATHAN KGRELEASE DATENOVEMBER 1971TAGSPOPEXPAND COMMENTSADD A MENTSIGN UP AND DROP KNOWLEDGE ?GENI IS THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF MIC KNOWLEDGE, CREATED BY SCHOLARS LIKE YOU WHO SHARE FACTS AND SIGHT ABOUT THE SONGS AND ARTISTS THEY LOVE.SIGN UPGENI IS THE WORLD’S BIGGT LLECTN OF SONG LYRICS AND MIL KNOWLEDGE

I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

It is very homogeneo/ hetero-normative and beg a tholic stutn is not the easit environment for queer stunts. “I don’t want to feel like I have to lie about who I am seeg, or why I am livg wh someone else, " the Jaguars' strength ach said a recent terviewAPThe NFL’s Jacksonville Jaguars strength ach, Kev Maxen, has e out as gay — makg him the first male ach a U. Related: Bucneers&#39; Carl Nassib, First Openly Gay NFL Star, Says &#39;I&#39;m Not Hidg&#39;“You have other ach who have signifint others, and they’re talkg about their signifint others, ” Maxen said.

JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS' KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE COACH TO COME OUT AS GAY MAJOR U.S. SPORTS

”Related: 49ers&#39; Katie Sowers Will Be the First Female, Openly Gay Coach at the Super BowlThe ach, who primarily works wh the Jaguars’ offensive and fensive lemen to create a work out regime for the team, said a surge of recent support om those close to him gave him the urage he need to make the revelatn. "Never miss a story — sign up for PEOPLE's ee daily newsletter to stay up-to-date on the bt of what PEOPLE has to offer, om juicy celebry news to pellg human-tert Maxen is believed to be the first male ach to have e out publicly as gay, there have been a few female ach U.

This clus Katie Sowers, who had been an assistant wh the San Francis 49ers durg their 2020 n the Super to players, there have only been 16 the history of the NFL to e out as gay or bisexual as of September 2022, per Outsports. Maxen’s announcement two years after NFL star Carl Nassib beme the league’s first active openly gay player.

“I jt wanted to take a quick moment to say that I’m gay, ” the former Las Vegas Rairs player, 30, revealed a June 2021 Instagram vio. (Kent Nishimura / Los Angel Tim) To the edor: I wonr if the LGBTQ+ muny realiz that the Supreme Court lg favor of a webse signer who didn’t want to create weddg s for gay upl n work our favor as well.

JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ASSISTANT COACH KEV MAXEN MAK HISTORY AFTER COMG OUT AS GAY

(“How the ripple effect of the Supreme Court’s 303 Creative cisn uld swamp civil rights, ” Opn, July 12)As a gay man, I am always ncerned if the bs where I spend my money are supportive of my muny.

LETTERS TO THE EDOR: I’M GAY AND DON’T WANT TO PATRONIZE BIGOTS. THANKS, SUPREME COURT

I've always thought was wrong but I am gay i knew I always felt that way but I'm homophobic on the outsi and try to reprs beg gay through .

CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?

So when we therapists are nonted wh male clients, often married on, who e to wh ep nflicts about their sexual attractn to other men, we often fd that they are willg to e the word “homosexual, ” but chew the “gay” label. Bee “gay” impli an embracg of the gay liftyle — gay bars, gay pri paras, perhaps multiple sex partners, or even anonymo sex. Unfortunately, much of our natn’s polics have long exacerbated the problem as well, shamg and vilifyg homosexualy, leadg legns of men stgglg wh sexual inty to ternalize their homophobia.

I warned them of the pfalls of keepg their sexual orientatn secret: a life of creased prsn, pursug a secret life the gay unrground wh the danger of beg ught, how attemptg to supprs urg n often e them to bee even more obssed wh them.

I have treated many men who are of Mormon, Orthodox Jewish, Catholic, and other religns who thk of homosexualy as a pathology.

JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ASSISTANT KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH MAJOR U.S. PRO LEAGUE TO E OUT AS GAY

Their pa is excciatg, but I honor their bravery riskg losg everythg to ensure they have a qualy life as a gay man. They may need, om time to time, to seek further therapy, but wh the right therapist, one who has thoroughly unrstood the dangers of such practic of “reparative therapy” which the therapist seeks to change the client’s sexual inty om gay to straight. Bee the labels “homosexual” or “gay” rry such a stigma, some of the men seek help for their “sex addictn” and see their homosexualy as an actg out of same-sex urg.

Charl Barkley is not aaid to take a polil stance and he emphatilly clared his support for LGBTQ+ people, attackg the homophobic boytt of Bud Light. Your iends, who might already spect that you’re gay, will get to know you on a eper level and likely feel much closer to you.

There are many gay men who say "I'm not part of the scene" -- men who hate gay bars and, prumably, crowds of queer people general.

I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY…

Internalized homophobia -- self-shamg, self-hatred -- leads many gay men, and many queer people general, to recreate their closets long after they're "out" by shunng others, particularly those they nsir "flamboyant. But you mt spend time wh others, whether that means havg a group of gay movie iends or queer gamers or playg on a gay sports team.

This parable piece by lbian wrer Sarah Prager go through the lp of great gays who changed the world -- om ventor Alan Turg to Tchaikovsky, the poser, to the Renaissance pater and ventor Leonardo da Vci.

Read the numbers: In four years, more than 5, 596 people the Uned Stat had died of AIDS, many of them gay men and transgenr women. Fd a gay elr who's been where you are and r for your well-beg, someone who unrstands you and never pass judgment, someone who lets you make the mistak you need to make.

I’M MALE AND I AM AAID THAT I MIGHT BE GAY

Tmp has repeatedly attacked transgenr servicemembers, and gay men are still beg hunted and murred Chechnya.

OPN I’M GAY. AND I WANT MY KID TO BE GAY, TOO.

There would be no ternalized self-hatred if no one had ever told you that beg gay is wrong, or that gay sex is disgtg, or that gay men n't feel real love, or that beg transgenr is fake, or that beg nonbary is a mental illns or a ll for attentn. If you thk a word like "gay" or "queer" works for you right now (aga, don't have to work for you forever -- labels do not e wh lifetime ntracts) and you're not ready to tell everyone, simply say out loud to yourself. However, at the surface, I fantasise over homosexual sex and many people believe that I am gay, and exprs those opns – and have done for longer than I n remember.

‘EX-GAY’ MEN FIGHT BACK AGAST VIEW THAT HOMOSEXUALY CAN’T BE CHANGED

People fd me funny and ‘sweet’ and I n’t really thk of anyone who I don’t get on wh, however people still assume I’m gay even though I ask out many women, and show affectn to women.

I don’t want to be gay, as I said, ep down I am ashamed of the way I feel, I still feel as though is not normal, which may have origated om my parents views. I don’t know what to do, I’m ightened that I will be gay, and am tryg to fight off, as though were an chy jacket!

I DON’T WANT TO BE GAYJONATHAN KGTRACK 2 ON HOOKED ON A FEELG - SGLE PRODUCED BYJONATHAN KGNOV. 19711 VIEWER2 CONTRIBUTORSI DON’T WANT TO BE GAY LYRICSBEGGED ME TO E TO YOUR PARTYBUT I DON'T HEAR A WORD THAT YOU SAYYOU N SQUEEZE ME AND TEASE MEAPPEASE ME AND PLEASE MEBUT I DON'T WANNA BE GAYYOU SAY I'LL BE GLAD WHEN I GET THERETHAT YOU'LL SHOW ME A NEW WAY TO PLAYYOU N HTLE ME, BTLE MEFS ME AND MCLE MEBUT I DON'T WANNA BE GAYYOU N TRY ANYTHG THAT YOU WANT WH MEBUT YOU'RE NOT GONNA CHANGE MY LIFTYLEYOU N FLUFF ME, REBUFF ME AND FFLE MEBUT YOU A'T GONNA [?] A SEYOU'RE TRYG TO GET WHAT YOU WANT OM MEBUT I'M JT GONNA DO MY WAYYOU N TUG ME AND BUG MEPLUG ME AND JUGGLE MEBUT I DON'T WANNA BE GAYYOU N TUG ME AND BUG MEPLUG ME AND JUGGLE MEBUT I DON'T WANNA BE GAYYOU MIGHT ALSO LIKEEMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUTTHIS SONG B IS UNREVIEWEDGENI ANNOTATN1 NTRIBUTORTHE B SI OF THE SGLE OF JONATHAN KG’S 1971 “HOOKED ON A FEELG”.EXPAND SHAREASK A QUTN ABOUT THIS SONGASK A QUTN *‌WHO PRODUCED “I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY” BY JONATHAN KG?WHEN DID JONATHAN KG RELEASE “I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY”?WHO WROTE “I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY” BY JONATHAN KG?HOOKED ON A FEELG - SGLE (1971)JONATHAN KG1. HOOKED ON A FEELG2. I DON’T WANT TO BE GAYCREDSPRODUCED BYJONATHAN KGWRTEN BYJONATHAN KGRELEASE DATENOVEMBER 1971TAGSPOPEXPAND COMMENTSADD A MENTSIGN UP AND DROP KNOWLEDGE ?GENI IS THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF MIC KNOWLEDGE, CREATED BY SCHOLARS LIKE YOU WHO SHARE FACTS AND SIGHT ABOUT THE SONGS AND ARTISTS THEY LOVE.SIGN UPGENI IS THE WORLD’S BIGGT LLECTN OF SONG LYRICS AND MIL KNOWLEDGE

Whichever way thg turn out, please bear md that there are lns and lns of very happy gay people the world. The other thg to remember is that vast numbers of so lled heterosexual men and women have gay fantasi - but they choose never to do anythg about them. And then there are huge numbers of ostensibly heterosexual men this untry who marry happily and have children but who also like to fd exprsn gay love om time to time.