'Did I ever really know him?': the women who married gay men | LGBTQ+ rights | The Guardian

Contents:

• ASK JOHN: 'I'VE HAD A GAY AFFAIR ON MY WIFE'
• BROADWAY LEGEND JOEL GREY MEMOIR REVEALS SECRET GAY AFFAIR WH HIS TEMPLE'S NTOR, SEX PLAY AS A CHILD WH
• OH MAN MURRS BT FRIEND TO COVER UP THEIR GAY AFFAIR
• I'M MARRIED BUT I KEEP HAVG GAY SEX WH MY BT MATE: WHAT SHOULD I DO?
• JOHN TRAVOLTA HAD SIX-YEAR GAY AFFAIR WH ME, CALIFORNIA PILOT DOUG GOTTERBA ALLEG REPORT THAT ACTOR'S MP LLS 'RIDICULO'
• TODD CHRISLEY’S EX-BS PARTNER: WE HAD GAY AFFAIR, PAID OFF BLACKMAILER
• 'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
• THE DOUBLE LIFE OF A GAY MAN MARRIED FOR 20 YEARS

ASK JOHN: 'I'VE HAD A GAY AFFAIR ON MY WIFE'

Was she accg me of turng her hband gay?

Like the time he told me he had gone on a porn se to see how gay men “do .

BROADWAY LEGEND JOEL GREY MEMOIR REVEALS SECRET GAY AFFAIR WH HIS TEMPLE'S NTOR, SEX PLAY AS A CHILD WH

I’ve known upl, gay and straight, who were open relatnships. The steam room and sna at my lol Y served as a kd of after-work social club for men who were gay ― and for those who had wiv and kids. I knew a gay imprar when I lived San Francis the 1980s.

One night he threw a dner party for his gay circle of iends at Trar Vic’s. Thgs sudnly shifted si my head, and I went om thkg I was straight to knowg I am gay. She found his onle er name and password for a gay chat room.

OH MAN MURRS BT FRIEND TO COVER UP THEIR GAY AFFAIR

One gay man nonted his partner, sayg, "Do you have a boyiend? Some men who have sex wh men (MSM) thk they are too straight to be gay, but others see them as too gay to be straight. Acrdg to the Centers for Disease Control, about 7 percent of men have sex wh men, but gay men are timated at about 4 percent of the populatn.

The figur suggt that about 3 percent of MSM do not intify themselv as gay. Lisa Diamond has wrten that the genr of women's sexual sire may be fluid, but rearchers generally agree that for men homosexual attractns never reverse.

Some gay activists cricize MSM as not beg "actualized. MSM may say they are engaged homosexual behavr but rist assumg a gay inty bee they don't intify wh the stereotype. Beg gay and dog gay is not the same thg.

I'M MARRIED BUT I KEEP HAVG GAY SEX WH MY BT MATE: WHAT SHOULD I DO?

One Mlim om the Middle East said, "This isn't about beg gay; 's only about pleasure.

" Future efforts to supprs homosexual attractn may e MSM to experience sadns; prsn and thoughts of suici; dg and alhol abe; and other self-stctive behavrs. For MSM, the first qutn they mt answer is, "How would you tend to live your life if the homosexual attractns never go away? Are you prepared for the huiatn of public exposure of your spoe's illic homosexual activy?

JOHN TRAVOLTA HAD SIX-YEAR GAY AFFAIR WH ME, CALIFORNIA PILOT DOUG GOTTERBA ALLEG REPORT THAT ACTOR'S MP LLS 'RIDICULO'

Coupl mt addrs the primary issue: Should they rema married given the permanency of his stggle agast homosexual attractn? Was this some kd of trap to see if I was gay? I know homosexualy is a s.

What you need, above all, is to accept the fact that you’re gay or I thk you knew I was gog to tell you that.

TODD CHRISLEY’S EX-BS PARTNER: WE HAD GAY AFFAIR, PAID OFF BLACKMAILER

I thk that’s why you wrote me, so that I would affirm what you already let’s affirm: As surely as birds fly and be buzz, you, my iend, are gay or bi.

What nature wants, nature, one way or another, ’t be awome if you had never your life believed that beg gay is a s?

Maybe I’m gay or bi. ”Then, if turned out you WERE gay or bi, you uld have jt...

'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN

Been gay or bi. Bee somewhere along the le of your life, someone, ncert wh a whole bunch of other people, nvced you that the Prottant Christian God whom you believe fds homosexualy so offensive that he punish anyone who di unrepentedly gay by roastg them alive Bee (as John wr his first epistle) God is love? Contue stroyg your life, and the life of the woman whom you vowed before God and man you would serve well — or let go of the maniftly o and screamgly immature teachg that God favors straight people over gay people.

Bee there was so much to disver and try to unrstand, we cid he need space to date, to fd out if he was gay or some other orientatn, and to learn exactly what this meant for him ― and for . “I cid that if he was gay, I uld be his bt iend ex-wife and we uld have this big gay fay. I helped create his onle datg profile, took sexy pictur of him to upload, and sent him advice articl on gay relatnships.

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY

”In between bouts of cryg the shower, sleepls nights and readg every self-help book sold on Amazon, I cid that if Stuart was gay, I uld be his bt iend ex-wife and we uld have this big gay fay.

THE DOUBLE LIFE OF A GAY MAN MARRIED FOR 20 YEARS

16 — the 83-year-old actor chronicl what was like to hi his homosexualy durg the '40s, '50s and '60s when beg gay uld get you one of many revealg anecdot, Grey scrib how at the tenr age of jt 10 years old he had his first sexual enunter wh his siarly aged Burton and soon after enjoyed a relatnship wh Jerry, the 16-year-old elevator operator who worked his apartment, as teen Los Angel, Grey had sex wh his girliend's mother and embarked on an affair wh a ntor named Pl at his parent's temple.

'CABARET' ACTOR JOEL GREY, 82, COMES OUT AS GAY MANJoel Grey attends the New York Stage and Film 2014 Wter Gala at The Plaza Hotel New York Cy.

But maybe, if your hband had been born another world—well, this world—and regnized he was gay, he might have cid to live his life as an openly gay man, and then you two would not have married. I uld blame alhol, but I wanted to happen as I’ve always had a ‘gay streak’. I’d have the same advice for anyone – whether they were gay or straight: you’re married and you’re beg unfahful and ’s wrong.