Contug our discsn about the closet let's look at closeted gay men. Why we hi the closet and what to do about .
Contents:
- SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND BY DEBRA SUTTON
- CLOSETED GAY MEN – WHY ARE THEY STILL THERE?
- PHYSIL, BEHAVRAL, AND PSYCHOLOGIL TRAS OF GAY MEN INTIFYG AS BEARS
- SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND: INTIFYG CLOSETED GAY HBAND BEHAVRS
SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND BY DEBRA SUTTON
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I never thought my lifetime that I would ever be accepted for beg an out gay man nor be able to legally marry my hband of 28 years. While acceptance of LGBTQ folks have risen, I’ve been surprised at how people who are perceived to be closeted gays are beg attacked for beg closeted! I was surprised by all the ments I’m still gettg om people who saw the vio and assumed that I was eher a closeted gay or bisexual man.
Of urse, none of the menters bothered to do their “homowork” by Googlg my name and fdg out that I’ve been out of the closet as a gay male sce I was 14 years old, am a certified sex therapist, and have been for 36 years. I remember the ’90s when the LGBTQ muny knew that Ellen DeGener, Rosie O’Donnell, and Sean Hay (Jack om the NBC s Will and Grace) were lbian and gay but wouldn’t e out publicly and say so. It’s okay that you’re gay, ” when they thk the person is lyg to themselv and judge that they need to e out, I hear sarsm, not good tentns.
They are ntributg to the homophobia by shunng a person who is alg wh their sexualy their own time and serv the space to do so. I have ma a list of mon gay behavrs hop that will help other women who may be gog through the same thg. My gay ex broke an anniversary dner wh me and plans for New Year tellg me that he knew the guys a lot longer than he knew me.
CLOSETED GAY MEN – WHY ARE THEY STILL THERE?
Author Debra Sutton discs her book Signs of Gay Hband: Intifyg Closeted Gay Hband Behavrs wh host Kim Saeed. The book n be purchased on Amazon. This book intifi closeted gay hband behavrs. The stori are based on real-life events alg wh anger, ceptn, and abe. Debra was unknowgly married to a gay man for 22 years. She wr short stori about her life experienc wh her closeted gay ex-hband. The purpose of Signs of a Gay Hband is to help women who are the same suatn regnize gay hband behavrs. Women the marriag are lookg for answers, and tryg to fix somethg that nnot be fixed. They have been ma to feel like everythg wrong their marriage is their flt. Debra wants them to know they are not alone and there is help and support. Want to be a gut on the Heal, Grow, Evolve podst? Click here to ask a qutn. Ready to start your journey of healg after narcissistic abe? Grab your Begner's Healg & Empowerment k here. * closet gay behavior *
) Hidg Behd Relign-Some gay hbands hi behd the church g and twistg scripture as a form of domance, ntrol, and obedience.
PHYSIL, BEHAVRAL, AND PSYCHOLOGIL TRAS OF GAY MEN INTIFYG AS BEARS
Sadly, most married, closeted gay men are manipulative, narcissistic n artists who only thk about themselv wh only ocsnal feelgs of guilt and remorse.
Often is acpanied by doubt and self-blame, for example, "If I'd been enough of a woman (or man), he (or she) would not be gay. Sce all men and women have been raised siar cultur, they have rporated the “ials” of masculy whether they are gay, straight, bisexual, or other. But toxic masculy is not a uniquely heterosexual problem, and some straight women are or were married to very toxic gay men.
Projectn is fundamental to toxic masculy, and one of the characteristics is a disda for homosexualy which generat shame, self-hatred, and even gay bashg.
SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND: INTIFYG CLOSETED GAY HBAND BEHAVRS
Early theori about the velopment of homosexualy rerced this ia that to be “a well-veloped homosexual, ” startg adolcence, one begs to pass through stag of homosexual velopment a lear fashn.
My experienc nnot be ed to generalize about all gay men mixed-orientatn marriag, and I would not enurage anyone to seek rapprochement wh an abive man, but gay men are as different om each other as are heterosexual men.
Beg a Closeted Gay Man By the time you reached middle school or high school your hidg was probably full-blown.