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Contents:

• SHOULD CHRISTIANS “DISOWN” GAY SONS AND DGHTERS?
• FATHER'S LETTER DISOWNG GAY SON JAM AFTER COMG OUT GO VIRAL
• 'GOODBYE, DAD': FATHER DISOWNS GAY SON WH SHOCKGLY HEARTLS LETTER
• I'M 57 YEARS OLD AND MY FATHER JT DISOWNED ME FOR BEG GAY
• SAVAGE LOVE LETTER OF THE DAY: MY PARENTS MIGHT DISOWN ME FOR BEG GAY
• OLD KEV HART 'JOKE' ABOUT NOT WANTG A GAY SON RECIRCULAT AFTER HE'S NAMED 2019 OSRS HOST
• 'RETURN THE KEY': THE PARENTS WHO REJECT THEIR GAY CHILDREN
• HOMOSEXUALY: 'YOU MA YOUR CHOICE THOUGH WRONG MAY BE': FATHER'S LETTER THAT DISOWNS HIS GAY SON
• LOSG MY GAY SON TO SUICI CHANGED THE WAY I VIEW MY CHRISTIAN FAH
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR SON IS GAY
• GRANDPA WR LETTER DISOWNG DGHTER AFTER SHE DISOWNS GAY SON

SHOULD CHRISTIANS “DISOWN” GAY SONS AND DGHTERS?

From time to time I hear about Christian parents disowng, cuttg off, or permanently shunng a son or dghter who adopts a gay liftyle. To be clear, I believe the Bible teach that homosexualy is a s.

FATHER'S LETTER DISOWNG GAY SON JAM AFTER COMG OUT GO VIRAL

And a person who choos to pursue homosexual activy nnot rema good standg a lol church, as wh anyone livg any signifint and unrepentant s. Whether or not a gay son, dghter, or other fay member lls him or herself a Christian, Christians should love them as fay members, even as we lovgly ny them membership a church, should they want . It is this same assignment that belongs to Christian parents wh a son or dghter who adopts a gay or other forms of an immoral liftyle.

No doubt, there will be many specific moral dilemmas that the parent of a gay dividual will have to wrtle through. Do you let the gay son brg his partner home om Christmas? Generally speakg, however, a parent faced wh any host of suatnal dilemmas surroundg homosexualy mt work to fulfill the two prcipl at once: affirm that that son or dghter is loved and don’t do anythg to support or affirm the s.

” I’m not equatg homosexualy wh pedophilia or abe; I’m illtratg the pot that unndnal love do not mean unndnal moral acceptance. It’s particularly immature and manipulative, then, when so many progrsive wrers—both those who do and don’t reprent themselv as Christians—acce Christian parents of beg rponsible for prsn and patterns of self-harm that velop gay children. It’s not like an eleven-year old who feels pletely nfint mom and dad’s love turns twelve or thirteen, tells mom and dad he’s gay, listens to them object morally but experienc their ntued affirmatn of him otherwise, will then ci that they don’t fact love him and try to hurt himself.

'GOODBYE, DAD': FATHER DISOWNS GAY SON WH SHOCKGLY HEARTLS LETTER

So, love your gay child as your child—unndnally. A heartbreakg letter, allegedly penned by an unsupportive father to his gay son, has gone viral the blogosphere.

I'M 57 YEARS OLD AND MY FATHER JT DISOWNED ME FOR BEG GAY

Origally upload to Redd and posted by Athlete Ally founr (and HuffPost Gay Voic blogger) Hudson Taylor on his Facebook profile, the letter is addrsed simply to "Jam, " and reads as follows: "I hope your telephone ll was not to receive my blsg for the gradg of your liftyle.

"View an image of the letter below, then scroll down to keep readg: Redd er RegBarc, who upload the image of the letter, says the letter was wrten five years ago after he me out as gay to his father.

'" Watch the vio above to see a HuffPost Live segment featurg muny members, bloggers and HuffPost Gay Voic Edor Noah Michelson discsg the letter and the difficulti of g out to fay You GoHorrific Anti-Gay StatementsPopular the CommunyYou May Like. We are watchg Barbara Walters terview Ana Bryant, a proment anti-gay activist. Walters asks Bryant what she would do if her child me out as gay.

SAVAGE LOVE LETTER OF THE DAY: MY PARENTS MIGHT DISOWN ME FOR BEG GAY

”But I unrstood: My parents would disown their son if he was gay. My parents would disown me if they knew I was gay.

They preached that God loved everyone ― except homosexuals. Gay men and lbians were irreemable.

I was gay and always had been! For the past 19 years, I never thought my dad didn’t know I was gay. From there, was only a matter of time before he joed Facebook and, I’m assumg, disvered my profile, which shows me as an out and proud gay Jan.

OLD KEV HART 'JOKE' ABOUT NOT WANTG A GAY SON RECIRCULAT AFTER HE'S NAMED 2019 OSRS HOST

When I answered, he told me, “It’s about this homosexualy.

There I was ― disowned at the age of 56 bee I’m gay. Many of the straight parents I terviewed for When Your Child Is Gay: What You Need To Know exprsed havg felt disappotment learng that their child was LGBT.

Would he be fired at his job if his supervisors found out that he were gay? Would he have to live a gay-iendly neighborhood?

'RETURN THE KEY': THE PARENTS WHO REJECT THEIR GAY CHILDREN

Natalie, 63, a mother om Long Island, found out that two of her three children were gay. " Natalie felt that was a loss to the fay geic pool and kept wonrg if beg gay was a choice. Richard Ogawa of Seattle figured out he was gay llege.

Richard told me, "Perhaps if every parent toyed wh the possibily that any of their children uld be gay, would change the way they raise their children.

Gay children are no different—so ltle of their sexual orientatn has to do wh who they are as a whole. "It is rare to work wh parents of a gay child who have not stggled wh the feelg of loss at some pot the procs of acceptg their child as gay, " my -thor, Jonathan Tobk, M.

HOMOSEXUALY: 'YOU MA YOUR CHOICE THOUGH WRONG MAY BE': FATHER'S LETTER THAT DISOWNS HIS GAY SON

Parents feel sad that their gay child has lost the possibily of havg a life whout signifint difficulty. " Yet Tobk has found that "gay people tell you they are happy wh who they are and feel that they have emerged on the other si of g out as strong, sensive, and rilient dividuals.

Havg a gay child is not a loss of a child altogether. And I overheard my father sayg, “If any one of my kids was gay, I’d disown them.

LOSG MY GAY SON TO SUICI CHANGED THE WAY I VIEW MY CHRISTIAN FAH

And he asks, “Are you gay? I thk my parents might disown me for beg gay, and I don't know what to do.

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR SON IS GAY

While not all Che people are homophobic, and many young people are very acceptg of LGBT people nowadays, many people om my parents generatn and olr are very nservative on gay issu.

Personally, I uld re ls what my lleagu and "iends" thk, but unfortunately my parents, pecially my father, are eply nservative, and refe to be "huiated" by havg a gay son.

I sat him down, cried, liberated, cried aga and fally uttered the words "Dad, I'm gay. I'm aaid that they will disown me if I sist on a homosexual "liftyle.

GRANDPA WR LETTER DISOWNG DGHTER AFTER SHE DISOWNS GAY SON

And thank you, for all the work that you've done for gay people, pecially the "It Gets Better" project which is the light that I hold on to the difficult moments. I thk you should read some books that pture what was like for gay men who were g out the 1950s and 1960s and to the 1970s. ) I thk you’ll relate to what the gay character, Moe, go through when he me out to his parents.

It’ll be sad if to that—but remember: homophobic parents are rponsible for their trangement om their adult gay children. There’s been a lot of reportg here about the nascent gay rights movement Cha.

The problem is that they jt don't know any gay people. They don't know anyone who is gay and is leadg a happy, succsful life, and so they only perceive homosexualy as a viant liftyle, like a dg addictn or a mental health problem.