What’s the right way to ask whether someone is gay? - Columbia Journalism Review

Contents:

• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• IS THERE A 'GAY GENE'? THE PROBLEM WH STUDI NNECTG GEICS AND LGBTQ INTY
• THERE IS NO ‘GAY GENE.’ THERE IS NO ‘STRAIGHT GENE.’ SEXUALY IS JT PLEX, STUDY NFIRMS
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY
• WHAT’S THE RIGHT WAY TO ASK WHETHER SOMEONE IS GAY?
• AM I GAY?

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

I Experimented Wh A GuyIf you are a guy that experimented wh a guy, you are not alone, and is not somethg that you should be bothered about, bee is pletely normal to want to explore one’s sexualy and there’s no reason guys shouldn’t do parts of society own upon guys experimentg wh other guys, which is not somethg that tends to affect women as much, and fact, women beg bicur or bisexual is much more mon than guys experimentg wh each possible reason for this may be that the manls or genr inty of men is often associated, unfortunately, wh their sexual orientatn, and they are often tght that if they experiment wh other guys, means that they are lser somehow, or not “man enough” is extremely unfortunate bee one needs to be able to experiment wh and explore their sexualy whout any worri of what that means for their genr inty, and this is not somethg that one should be prived has also been extensive rearch on guys experimentg wh other guys, and one such survey was found that the stigma agast men experimentg wh other men is so harsh that about 63% of women say that they wouldn’t even date a man who had sex wh another man, while the oppose is not te, and most men said that they would gladly date a woman who had experimented wh other women, which shows how accepted female homosexualy and sexual fluidy are.

IS THERE A 'GAY GENE'? THE PROBLEM WH STUDI NNECTG GEICS AND LGBTQ INTY

Savs Williams, who wrote the book Mostly Straight, says, “I know of no evince that shows that men are ls likely than women to have an ‘experimental phase, I do believe men are ls likely to report to rearchers, on surveys, or to their iends and fai due, part, to the ‘homohysteria’ that pervas our culture. If your partner is havg trouble alg wh the ia of you experimentg wh another guy, the healthy thg to do is also to clarify wh her exactly what’s behd her ncern bee sometim the partner may be ncerned that you may leave her for a man or they may feel disfort wh a certa sexual act, but most s may be a batn of the factors, the important thg to work through this is to talk to your you have heard her ncerns you n tailor your approach to the nversatn ways that bt addrs them like if she is ncerned about you beg gay and possibly leavg her for another man eventually, you n tell her that was jt a phase and that you don’t feel the same kd of attractn towards men as you do may also help to alleviate her fears about you leavg her by showg her rearch of how mon is for men to seek sexual timacy wh other men but not be attracted to them, and this may help her feel better, pecially if she is someone who rponds to facts and figur or ratnal may fd that when you give your partner an aquate explanatn of sexual orientatn, your inty, and your behavr, may often help her accept your past, but if she is stnchly agast on moral grounds or a way that spells that she is perhaps a ltle homophobic, then you might want to nsir lookg for a different partner.

THERE IS NO ‘GAY GENE.’ THERE IS NO ‘STRAIGHT GENE.’ SEXUALY IS JT PLEX, STUDY NFIRMS

ConclnIn this brief gui, we discsed the statement “I experimented wh a guy”, and shared some experienc of people who have experimented wh other guys and how they felt about is very mon and much more acceptable for girls to experiment wh their sexualy, and is even somethg of a trope many TV shows and movi, n be very taboo for guys to do the same thg, and bisexualy men is nmned much more than is reason for this is probably bee same-sex relatnships of any kd, even if they are merely experimentatn or exploratn of one’s sexualy, are immediately nnected wh how manly the guy is or how macho he is, and some people the society ci that he is not worthy of rpect or do not have the same value as iology is what mak so many men homophobic to beg wh, and n be extremely problematic for any guy that is even slightly bicur, bee they may not be able to explore that aspect of themselv, leavg them que unfulfilled you have any more qutns or ments or if you relate to the statement “I experimented wh a guy”, please feel ee to reach out to .

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

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HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY

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WHAT’S THE RIGHT WAY TO ASK WHETHER SOMEONE IS GAY?

No, all boys don’t experiment wh homosexualy, but often that is a functn of the way society tends to thk of homosexualy boys and the fact that exerimentatn of a homosexual nature boys is stigmatized much more than that girls. If you have had romantic experienc or fantasi volvg people who are the same genr as you, then there is a good chance you are gay or bisexual, but 's okay if you're a ltle nfed. The largt study to date on geics and same-sex sexual behavr was published last week, and nclud somethg many queer people have been sayg for a long time: Sexual orientatn is plited and n’t be explaed away by a sgle “gay gene.

And helps clarify where the prri of LGBTQ people should be fightg for civil rights the polil and legal orientatn is plited and n’t be explaed away by a sgle “gay gene. ” The problem wh studi rearchg the geics of LGBTQ inty is that, no matter the ncln, they n be ed by bigots and bad actors to ntue homophobic attacks fueled by relig dogma.

AM I GAY?

The problem is the hate and bigotry that has led to discrimatn, vlence and ath for queer dividuals for won’t fix the problems — which are ongog — wh the disvery of a gay gene, and there are pellg reasons why we shouldn’t even try. Michelangelo SignorileMichelangelo Signorile is the host of “The Michelangelo Signorile Show” on SiriXM Progrs, and the thor of “It’s Not Over: Gettg Beyond Tolerance, Defeatg Homophobia and Wng Te Equaly.

Humans have tried to unrstand human sexualy for centuri — and geics rearchers joed the ay the early 1990s after a seri of studi on tws suggted homosexualy ran fai. “As a teenager tryg to unrstand myself and unrstand my sexualy, I looked at the ter for “the gay gene” and obvly me across Xq28, ” said Fah Sathirapongsasuti, a study -thor and senr scientist at 23andMe, which he joked once led him to believe he hered his gayns om his mother.

The rearchers had members of the same-sex muny review the study’s sign and language, and they adm that their termology and fns for gay, lbian and heterosexual do not reflect the full nature of the sexualy ntuum.