Dear Pnce: I’m a straight woman who married a gay man.

Contents:

• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• HETEROSEXUAL AND HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAG – ARE STRAIGHT AND GAY MARRIAG INTIL?
• MY HBAND IS GAY BUT WE’RE MARRIED WH TWO KIDS AND HAVE GREAT SEX
• WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY
• I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN
• THE LONELS OF BEG GAY A STRAIGHT MARRIAGE

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

• Could a straight guy get dnk enough to fool around wh another guy jt bee “felt good”, or is more likely that he has some gay/bi/cur feelgs that perhaps he’s been reprsg? Even acuntg for the fact that he might remember some of what happened, don't mean he's bisexual, secretly gay, or that you're his magil "exceptn.

HETEROSEXUAL AND HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAG – ARE STRAIGHT AND GAY MARRIAG INTIL?

I don't know many gay men (myself clud) who hasn't veloped a csh or had feelgs for a straight guy - cludg straight iends. They are not terted a romantic relatnship wh you; if they were they'd e out as bisexual or gay.

I've seen other gay guys that fell for a straight guy (typilly a iend) and wanted to lu themselv to believg that a relatnship was possible. It don't bother me that I fooled around wh another guy (other than the fact I enabled him to cheat); I'm gay after all.

MY HBAND IS GAY BUT WE’RE MARRIED WH TWO KIDS AND HAVE GREAT SEX

Ok, you experienced your straight csh g te, so now back off and al wh the 100 percent gays or bis that are sgle. If there weren't all the societal taboos aga homosexualy that would probably happen a lot. The guy happened wh is gay and is one of my clost iends and we have known each other for years.

You know your iend is gay, so your bra now se that as an opportuny to have that physil need fulfilled. I’ve told you that I don’t thk this mak you gay or even bi, but ’s not like you n jt prt off this post and show to your girliend as proof.

So until they fd themselv a siar suatn, they don’t see how n be possible for a straight person to have a sexual experience wh a person of the same sex and not be gay or at least bisexual. I read this thread earlier and told one of my very few gay iends about and he said the same thg had happened to him.

WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY

' His buddi got all homophobic on him, so he asked, 'You guys have never msed around wh another guy? In the end, they're still straight, and I'm still gay and happily married to my hband of 12 years. The steam room and sna at my lol Y served as a kd of after-work social club for men who were gay ― and for those who had wiv and kids.

I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN

Sometim a woman may have been a heterosexual relatnship for years and yet feel somethg is somehow "off;" and she may fd herself askg, "Is my hband gay? " Many women fd this qutn unthkable but acrdg to Bonnie Kaye,, an expert women married to gay men, is timated that 4 ln women have been, or are, married to gay men.

Unfortunately, is timated that 50% of gay hbands hi their homosexualy om their wiv and don't reach this place of honty on their own.

THE LONELS OF BEG GAY A STRAIGHT MARRIAGE

In many s, is the wife, who after spectg that somethg is wrong, mt nont the gay hband wh the evince, and only then n hontly be achieved. But if you're wonrg, "Is my man gay, " might be helpful to know that there are signs to look for, acrdg to Kaye. Kaye has veloped the Official Gay Hband Checklist to help women know if their hbands are gay.

A hband may be gay and display none of those signs or a hband may display the signs and not be gay. If turns out that a hband is, fact, gay, the fallout n be difficult to al wh, particularly for the straight partner. (If you're thkg that you n cure the gay by havg your hband go to gay nversn therapy, read this.