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1. Introductn The vibrant Red Light District Amsterdam is one of the most important, but also one of the most ntroversial tourist attractns the Netherlands. On all but two small streets, women sell their bodi for sex. In the Barnsteeg and the Bloedstraat, one n fd transgenr or transsexual prostut. Men are nowhere to be found behd wdows. Instead, they operate parks, gay bars, gay clubs, chat rooms and illegal brothels. Male prostutn is hardly discsed the Netherlands, but is out there – every provce, regn and cy. It is therefore important to raise awarens about the existence of the boys and men. Durg our qut to pat a picture of male prostutn the untry, we were often surprised by the helpfulns of the muny even while beg shocked about some of the tails of the bs. Male prostutn is characterized by three major taboos. First, receivg money for sex is not generally accepted (om eher male or female clients). Send, homosexualy is still stigmatized. And third, men are not “supposed” to be the victims of prostutn or sexual abe, which often leads to their not seekg profsnal help when they need (Repetur, 2011). Telephone lls, emails, face-to-face terviews, and viss to gay bars and datg s such as  provid wh the rmatn for this report. Here, we will discs two s which reprent the extreme ends of the spectm for male prostutn the Netherlands. On webs like , , , one n easily fd men who want to have a “paydate”. The majory of this group work voluntarily, and are not solely pennt on e om the practic. It is very easy to get a paydate through one of the webs. Chapter 2 will elaborate more about the phenomenon of paydat and chat rooms. Unfortunately, illegal brothels also exist. Ltle is known about the private ho, where predomantly foreign boys are forced to work as  prostut. Chapter 3 will scribe how the Utrecht police al wh male traffickg and illegal prostutn. [perfectpullquote align="left" borrtop="false" ce="" lk="" lor="" class="" size=""]Male prostutn is hardly discsed the Netherlands, but is out there – every provce, regn and cy. [/perfectpullquote] We have found that the majory of male prostutn is voluntary. Most of the sex workers are not pennt upon the money that they earn by performg sexual acts. Even those forced to work illegal brothels began on a voluntary basis. One of our most valuable fdgs was is that the ter plays an important stctural role the broang the range of male prostutn the Netherlands. Chapter 4 summariz s ccial impact. Whereas a small group of men offer their servic (gay) bars and clubs, the vast majory seek ctomers through the ter, cludg men who work illegal brothels. We only exposed the tip of the iceberg when to male prostutn the Netherlands; there is much more rearch to be nducted on the topic. This is an unrground world, and gag accs to some parts of the muny is a challengg and often risky practice. [perfectpullquote align="right" borrtop="false" ce="" lk="" lor="" class="" size=""]Male prostutn is characterized by three major taboos. First, receivg money for sex is not generally accepted (om eher male or female clients). Send, homosexualy is still stigmatized. And third, men are not “supposed” to be the victims of prostutn or sexual abe, which often leads to their not seekg profsnal help when they need .[/perfectpullquote] 2. Paydat On a Friday afternoon, we talked wh five men a gay bar about male prostutn. Their surprised reactns pot to the unrexposure of this dtry. Whout beatg about the bh, the men we met here troduced to the phenomenon of ´paydat´. Paydat are sex dat, anized via different webs such as  and  On the webs, men n easily make an appotment to have sex for money or other rewards, such as gifts or dners.  In this way, prospective clients and male prostut n directly arrange -person appotments whout needg to rely on a brothel or club. Consequently, the ter allows for a greater variety of choice and nvenience for both sex worker and client. However, the men who go on paydat would not intify themselv as prostut. This term is probably rerved for femal the Red Light District or to people who nsir sex work their full time job. The term "paydate" also dit the voluntary – and perhaps more pleasurable – characteristic of the meetgs. One of the men the fé told that he himself had had paydat the past, as both a client and provir. The reason for prostutg himself was that he uld e the money, and he also found pleasurable. His clients, he explas, tsted him wh their fantasi. Of urse, there were men whom he did not fd attractive, but he had var tricks to overe that problem. [perfectpullquote align="right" borrtop="false" ce="" lk="" lor="" class="" size=""]Most prostut e for the ee STD tts that are offered. Acrdg to the GGD, 20%-25% of the mal who prostute themselv have STDs, parison to 5% of the female prostut.[/perfectpullquote] Jacqu van r Kolk of the Prostutn and Health Center of the Public Health Care (GGD) scribed most clients and provirs as intifyg as bi- or homosexual.  One example of men who voluntarily prostute themselv through paydat is stunts. Unr ver of anonymy, ter chat rooms crease accs to male prostut by removg the stigma associated wh visg a physil meetg place (such as an bar, club, or park). They also crease accs for those who wish to bee a male sex worker, want to to do so whout a pimp, rt service, club, or brothel. The sex workers are able. The pennce provid by the ter for sex work allows the men to mata ntrol over the money received for their servic, and to bee entreprenrs wh ntrol over wh whom, when, and how much they work. Part of van r Kolk’s work wh the GGD is to e the paydate webs to rm ers of the rourc that exist at the health center for help. The rourc clu STD tts, legal advice, psychosocial aid, and assistance qug prostutn. Most prostut e for the ee STD tts that are offered. Acrdg to the GGD, 20%-25% of the mal who prostute themselv have STDs, parison to 5% of the female prostut. The statistics uld be explaed by the fact that unsafe sex is generally more accepted the gay muny, wh some male prostut willg to have unsafe sex durg a paydate for an extra fee. Although the male prostut who vis the health center ually work voluntarily, they neverthels have var physil and psychologil problems. While is equent, the GGD do ocsnally e across signs of forced  prosecutn when a male prostute , for example, for an STD tt. In such a se, the social workers will help the person and enurage him to go to the police. In the se of mors, the social workers have a legal obligatn to report the spicn of abe. The followg chapter will elaborate on the procs of notifyg the police of forced male prosecutn. Even though the gay muny is open about the existence of paydat, this remas largely unr the surface. Reasons for the signifint attentn and rearch given to the topic of male prostutn have been postulated, and generally volve the three taboos agast prostutn , homosexualy and weak masculy set out the troductn. Wh the gay muny self, payg for sex, or beg paid for sex, is not at all a big al. If you feel like , you go on one of the webs and arrange a (sex)date. It is as simple as that. Paydat illtrate a major difference between female and male prostutn. Whereas female prostutn is visible on the streets (for example, the Red Light District), and there has been much discsn about the forced prosecutn of women, paydat are generally voluntary and anized through the ter, and th much ls visible. However, there are exceptns to this voluntary nature. While the paydat may beg voluntarily they n still sli to forced prostutn, which mak e of the same webs to offer sexual servic. The followg chapter will report on exampl of sexdat ma via the ter that are not of a te voluntary nature, and discs the enablg role of the ter the s. 3. Forced male prostutn the Netherlands [perfectpullquote align="left" borrtop="false" ce="" lk="" lor="" class="" size=""]Physil vlence is not often ed as a method to erce the young men to prostutn; non-vlent measur are ed stead. [/perfectpullquote] Illegal male prostutn the Netherlands n be roughly divid to three tegori. First, there are unr-aged boys and men who offer their servic (gay) bars and clubs, such as a group of Romanian men Amsterdam whom we studied (Kooistra, 2011). The men operate bars around the Rembrandple. Men who offer their servic through gay webs on the ter form the send group. In ntrast to the first and send tegori, the third group of men do not work voluntarily; they are erced to work as prostut. While the police close down several brothels each year, they fd very difficult to timate the total number of illegal male brothels the Netherlands. There is currently only one legal male brothel the untry, Club 21  Amsterdam. In Febary 2010, a middle-aged man was arrted on spicn of nng an illegal brothel the cy of Amersfoort. In this brothel, which was loted the hoe of the spect, between 10 and 20 young men of Eastern European and South Amerin orig were found. Their passports had been taken om them, and they had been told that they had huge bts for travellg sts which they would have to pay back by workg the brothel (Police Utrecht, 2011). [perfectpullquote align="right" borrtop="false" ce="" lk="" lor="" class="" size=""]The methods of ercn ed by the brothel owners clu seizg passports or threateng to expose the men their fai.[/perfectpullquote] Physil vlence is not often ed as a method to erce the young men to prostutn; non-vlent measur are ed stead. Most men enter the prostutn bs voluntarily, primarily to earn money. When offered a job over the ter, some of them already know that they will be workg as a homosexual prostute. The promise of a better future the Wt draws the men, who will often take on a loan wh an exorbantly high tert rate. Upon their arrival, they are required to work for a low wage which mak nearly impossible for them to pay back the loan. The methods of ercn ed by the brothel owners clu seizg passports or threateng to expose the men their fai. Many of the prostut are om nservative untri Eastern Europe or South Ameri, where such work rri an enormo amount of stigma. They are told that prostutn is illegal the Netherlands, and that the police will be unable to help them if they report themselv. Many men are given dgs, and e Viagra and Poppers (mcle relaxers to facilate anal peratn) orr to perform better. In addn, many of them do not e ndoms, as this enabl them to make more money. In one se, nearly 70% of the boys the brothel were fected wh sexually transmted diseas, pared to an average of 20-25% other branch of male prostutn (Van r Kolk, 2011).[perfectpullquote align="left" borrtop="false" ce="" lk="" lor="" class="" size=""] Whenever the police have a strong reason to believe that they have enuntered a se of human traffickg or illegal prostutn, they are legally obligated to tervene immediately.[/perfectpullquote] The police has limed rourc to fd illegal brothels, sce they are not legally permted to filtrate the plac. Instead, they rely on clients, the prostut themselv, and neighbors who report spic activi to the police. Often, prostut are sred to go to the police, and are not nvced that the police n help them pe their miserable suatn. Even s of personal ntact between the police and the prostut, the men often are too aaid of reprisals om their pimps and/or traffickers. Whenever the police have a strong reason to believe that they have enuntered a se of human traffickg or illegal prostutn, they are legally obligated to tervene immediately. This is bee of the Absoluut Doorlaatverbod, a law troduced by former Mister Rouvoet which requir immediate terventn s of spected human traffickg or illegal prostutn. This n have the effect of ultimately rtrictg police om vtigatg further and buildg a stronger se agast the perpetrator(s) of the crim. This sectn has offered a picture of forced male prostutn as currently occurs the Netherlands. As mentned earlier, even the police nnot precisely timate the number of illegal brothels the untry. They simply lack the rourc to more eply vtigate the te extent of the brothels.; such a lack of rourc, turn, is partly a functn of the taboos agast male prostutn wh the Dutch polil sphere. 4. The role of the ter The two groups of male prostut scribed above monstrate how fluid the inty of the male prostute n be.  The general acceptance of promiscuy  wh the gay muny distguish male prostut om female and transgenr prostut. As a rult, a man exchangg sexual servic for moary reward is not always fed as a prostute. Pay dat monstrate the gray area when to the acceptabily of any male to receive payment for sexual servic. Acrdg to Jacqu van r Kolk of the GGD, another source of ambiguy when tryg to  fe male prostutn is the different rol that prostut n assume when engagg male-to-male sex. A signifint portn of sex workers who intify as heterosexual jtify this signatn by the fact that they only take the active role durg anal sex (peratn) and passive role durg oral sex (receivg). For the heterosexual male prostut engagg sex wh other mal, to nduct sexual acts any other role (eher the passive role anal sex, or active role oral sex) cross the le to homosexualy. [perfectpullquote align="right" borrtop="false" ce="" lk="" lor="" class="" size=""]The ter has emerged as the primary fom for fdg and arrangg meet-ups for sex and moary.[/perfectpullquote] The ease of accs and anonymy the world of prostutn further enurag such a fluid inty on the part of the male prostute. The extensive reliance on ter chat foms means that both clients and prostut n slip and out of solicg and buyg sexual servic attheir own nvenience. In ntrast to heterosexual prostutn (which nsists primarily of female and transgenr sex workers), here, the fnal creria of exchangg sex for moary reward n differ wh the type of payment, equency of occurrence, and most importantly, the attu held toward the transactn. As our exploratn to the world of male sex servic monstrat, clients may fd the sex workers a variety of areas. Esrt servic, clubs, private hom, parks, and ter chat rooms all serve as plac to meet and negotiate a transactn. Physil lotns like clubs, brothels, rt servic, and parks still facilate a signifint portn of the meetgs. prostutn. However, the ter has emerged as the primary fom for fdg and arrangg meet-ups for sex and moary. As a virtual meetg place, the ter provis two ccial elements: anonymy and ease of accs. Prospective clients n easily transcend physil nstrats, and arrange meet-ups wh male sex workers across cy or even natnal boundari. Inter chat rooms allow for anonymy through ernam and masked IP addrs. Wh this anonymy, ter chat rooms crease accs to male prostut by removg the stigma associated wh visg a physil meetg place (such as an bar, club, or park). It also creas accs for those wishg to bee male sex workers whout the help of a pimp, rt service, club, or brothel. Consequently, the workers are able to mata ntrol over the money they receive for their servic. [perfectpullquote align="left" borrtop="false" ce="" lk="" lor="" class="" size=""]The average time spent by full-time workers each cy is around 21 days.[/perfectpullquote] In addn, male sex workers have greater mobily. In an terview wh the Utrecht Police Department, we were told that one distguishg feature of male prostutn is the nstant prsure to move om cy to cy. The average time spent by full-time workers each cy is around 21 days. Clients often prefer male prostut to be young or “h” to the lol scene. GGD, Amsterdam’s Municipal Public Health Service, scribed how the sprklg of Pri Paras throughout Europe is one distguishable pattern of male prostute migratn. The Paras provi a steady clientele and adapt well to the mand for young and h fac. Bee of this mobily, the Utrecht Police poted out, male prostut often have a lack of legal unrstandg. Specifilly the Netherlands, they are unaware of the legaly of prostutn and may end up the burecratic nightmare of beg unregistered. The relative qutn of what exactly nstut a male prostute also mak prostutn difficult to regulate even wh the legalized Dutch system. A large portn of sexual activi (such as “pay dat”) volve moary pensatn but would not be fed, by eher the client or sex worker, as prostutn. [perfectpullquote align="right" borrtop="false" ce="" lk="" lor="" class="" size=""]The creased accs to the sex tra afford by the ter has generated a wi supply of men – greater, Kooistra ntend, than the mand.[/perfectpullquote] The extensive e of the ter to fd and arrange meet-ups wh male sex workers also plit any ernment efforts at regulatn or vtigatn to s of abe or traffickg. Kooistra scribed how ernment shutdowns of chat foms ed for fdg and meetg male prostut would simply sprout up wh a few hours at another se. The digally nnected gay muny is able to adapt quickly, drawg ers to the new se. However, male prostut n no longer pend on simply beg a young, h face o the lol scene. Kooistra scrib a  new trend among clients towards an creased preference for male sex workers wh more sexual experience. The creased accs to the sex tra afford by the ter has generated a wi supply of men – greater, Kooistra ntend, than the mand – wh the rult that experience now signifintly matters selectg a prostute. The extensive reliance of male prostutn on the ter monstrat the central role of adaptabily wh this muny. Kooistra explaed that the anonymy and mobily of the gay muny was the origal reason for s gravatg toward g the ter. In turn, the ter is what allows the male prostutn to rema anonymo and mobile. What the trends dite, Kooistra ntends, is creased entreprenrship wh the world of male sex work. Technologil advancements – pecially through smart phon and applitns – allow male sex workers to fd and arrange meet-ups wh clients and most importantly, allow them to reta agency over profs pennt of pimps or rt servic. Wh the barriers to  sex work only creasg, the rapid evolutn of the ter—and s ers—will be followed by an equally rapid evolutn of the male prostutn muny. [perfectpullquote align="right" borrtop="false" ce="" lk="" lor="" class="" size=""]Perhaps one of the most important nclns we n draw is about the impact that the taboo on homosexualy and prostutn has on the male prostutn scene.[/perfectpullquote] 5. Concln & Remendatns The world of male prostutn was more accsible than we ially thought would be. After only a few days, we planned terviews wh social workers, the Utrecht police partment and even talked to former sex workers. Whereas the female prostutn scene is very visible big ci the Netherlands, male prostutn remas unrground. Whout the ter, male prostutn would be stctured pletely different.  Men who ocsnally engage male prostutn, and those who are erced to work illegal brothels fd their clients on the ter. A fg characteristic of male prostutn is the dispary between the overwhelmg majory of sex workers who operate voluntarily on the ter, and the much smaller mory who are erced to . Compared to female prostutn, the gap between the groups appears to be larger. There seems to be only a small group of men who are pennt on the e but engage the work voluntarily. Perhaps one of the most important nclns we n draw is about the impact that the taboo on homosexualy and prostutn has on the male prostutn scene. Not only do this taboo exist society at large, but also among social workers, profsnals and policians. Public mpaigns to crease awarens of homosexualy and male prostutn n crease their stigma, and eventually crease the mand for illegal prostutn (Police Utrecht, 2011). In addn, more rourc need to be ma available to effectively bat male traffickg and illegal prostutn. 6. Epilogue Monday, 9 AM: one week before the adle of our report. We meet at the public library to discs how we plan to approach the topic that we have been alloted. Thanks to IHLIA, some creativy, Google and mobile phon, a vague picture begs to emerge of the full spectm of male prostutn the Netherlands. A manager of a gay rt pany Amsterdam tells about his boys, and tells that all of them scerely like the work they are dog. In the afternoon, we ci to go to the Ro Draad, an anizatn that fights for the terts of male prostut. The office is empty, and we ci to talk to some of the transssexual and transgenred prostut the Bloedstraat and Barnteeg. When we fally nquer our fears, the three of realize that the are iendly people wh emotns and ee will. They tell they work penntly, but swiftly close their door when a Lato man a black su appears behd . When takg a break at a market square, we are approached by a man who wants to sell his CD to . We get to a  nversatn and tell him that we are dog a project on male prostutn. He rponds wh: “a iend of me is one!”, and  giv his iend's ntact rmatn. We arrange a meetg. We kick off Friday wh an terview at the Utrecht Police Statn. Their work to unter human traffickg and illegal prostutn spir . We sh back to Amsterdam for a meetg wh public health workers the municipaly of Amsterdam. On our way to the library, we ci to have a drk a gay bar at the Zeedijk, where we have an illumatg nversatn wh the men prent. There, we also n to Oebele Kooistra, the former head of the Ro Draad and a former male rt. Havg gathered so much rmatn such a small time ame is tirg, but rewardg. Every one of has gaed very valuable sights the shady world of male prostutn. 7. Acknowledgements We would like to thank all the people who have provid wh rmatn on male prostutn the Netherlands: Utrecht Police Department Oebele Kooistra Jacqu van r Kolk Lou Repetur Tania Barkhuis The men at the gay bar 8. Interviews Annex I Summary of telephone terview wh Lou Repetur (Comensha, thor of the book Vrijbuers ugebu: mrjarige jongens prostutie Many boys ially prostute themselv voluntarily, eher beg unrage (<18 years old) or adults. By law, prostutn unr the age of 18 is illegal, regardls of whether the  prostute has nsented. There are three taboos surroundg male prostutn: Prostutn Homosexualy Victimizatn: male-female sex, the male is acctomed to checkg wh the female about her lims. In male-male sex, “martg” lims is often not done, which n rult one person beg hurt om of a specific sexual act that is too much for him. The taboo on homosexual(y) and prostutn is also visible (mental) public health re. Health workers are often not ed to alg wh male prostut. The distctn between forced male prostutn and voluntary prostutn is greater than wh female prostutn. A vast group of men prostute themselv voluntarily, only a small group bee pennt on the money, and yet a smaller group are forced to be prostut. Annex II In-person terview summary wh Tania Barkhuis (Director of COC Amsterdam) There is a mand for new, young and exotic boys wh the male prostutn muny. This mak male traffickg to prostutn a lucrative bs. Traffickers often tell young men seekg asylum the Netherlands that they are unlikely to receive a Dutch visa. As a rult, the men are persuad by traffickers to go stead to the UK, where they disver that to pay their bt for travel, they mt enter prostutn the UK. This group therefore be vulnerable to male prostutn and the practic of pimps, such as fancial exploatn and traffickg between European ci. Boys often travel between ci and regns by themselv, g public transport. Annex III Summary of Conversatn wh Oebele Kooistra Kooistra is the former director of Ro Draad, an anizatn for sex workers Amsterdam. He also recently fished nductg a year of field work vtigatg the world of male sex workers he Netherlands. In this terview, Kooistra strsed the bs nature of male sex work. Most men, pecially ncerng paydat, voluntarily choose to do sex work. It’s more about the money and the sex than about ercn. Kooistra emphasized the ccial role of the ter, through chat rooms such as Bullchat, facilatg easy and quick meet-ups between sex workers and clients. I The evolutn of the smartphone and iPhone applitns, like Grr Guy and Male Force,  has further creased the e of the ter to arrange clients wh sex workers.  Kooistra argued that the ter has creased exposure to a wir range of sexual activi, to the extent that even heterosexual boys are cur about engagg male-to-male sex. There is a risg trend favor of experience over simply beg young and “h”. Kooistra characteriz the male sex worker muny overall as adaptive and able to effectively utilize the ter for their work. This has allowed the mal to sentially bee entreprenrs of their own sex work bs, arrangg their own appotments and clients. Kooistra predicts that the ter will ntue to take over the prostutn bs, renrg the tradnal brothel, and even the famo wdows, obsolete he Netherlands. Annex IV Interview at Department X (anonymo) of the Utrecht Police Department X of the Utrecht police als wh human traffickg and illegal prostutn the area around Utrecht, about 40 kilometers southeast of Amsterdam. There is no strict divisn between male and gay prostutn; most men work the bs voluntarily. In the gay scene, prostutn (payg for sex) is more mon and accepted than is the se for female prostutn. Forced male prostutn also occurs, and predomantly volv foreign boys. In one current urt se, a middle-aged man om place Y is charged wh nng an illegal brothel his own hoe. Many of the boys who worked the hoe were om South Ameri or Eastern Europe. As many as 14 boys (all above 18) were forced to work prostutn. Vlence is not often ed as a way of ercg young men. Many of the men have been saddled wh bts, which they mt work to pay back. Passports have also been taken om the young men, who work and live miserable circumstanc. They have to fd clients through the ter, and are given Viagra and Poppers (mcle relaxers that make anal peratn easier) to perform. Salari range om 50 ros for oral sex, to 100 ro for anal sex. Sex whout a ndom is more expensive, as well as a nightly stay-over. The police have limed rourc to fd brothels whout perms. Officers nnot go unrver, but n only rely on reports of spicns on the part of ctomers or neighbors. Former Mister Andre Rouvoet troduced the Absoluut Doorlaatverbod, a law that requir police officers to act immediately when there are signs of human traffickg and/or illegal prostutn. While this law is helpful for victims of the crim, often prevents the police om havg enough time to gather sufficient evince and build a thorough se agast the perpetrator, who will nsequently face ls charg and be able to mence his activi once more. The taboo on homosexualy is a ccial aspect of male prostutn. Especially the Bible Belt, homosexualy often rults expulsn om one's muny. Often, the boys and men end up prostutn. Annex V Summary of Interview at Sjaak van r Kolk Jaqu van r Kolk wanrs the gay bars and webs where mal offer sexual servic, such as , wh the objective of rmg the mal of the existence of the GGD, where they n ter alia obta a ee HIV tt. While is difficult to make an accurate timatn, van r Kolk has unted 650 profil of male prostut on the known webs like Amsterdam, and about 6000 the Netherlands. About 50% of the sex workers are Dutch, and the other half are foreign. There are two groups of prostut and siarly, two groups of clients: those who are homosexual, and those who nsir themselv straight, but like to have sex wh men. Van r Kolk says that a male who to the clic for a STD tt will never adm that he se male prostut, whereas mal who go to female prostut do e forward. This, once aga, illtrat the taboo on male prostutn. The GGD tri to have the men who e for the tt to m to g to the center once every 3 months. The GGD self holds nsultatns wh the police, youth re officials and lawyers every three weeks wh regard to problems that they – and pecially male prostut – enunter. Annex VI Summary of terview wh former male prostut and men a bar Amsterdam A man of approximately 40 years old is troduced to by a fellow ctomer of the bar, who stat, when he walks , ‘Mar, didn’t you play the prostute when you were younger?’. ‘Yeah, sure’ Mar rponds wh a gr on his face. Mar tells that he prostuted himself when he was around 20 years old. He also has paid men to have sex. It was all que easy, excg, and provid a nice extra e. Mar has had sex wh men whom he did not fd attractive. ‘For a man, that is a problem’, he explas, ‘bee you have to get up, and ejaculate, right?’. Mar’s solutn to this problem is to bee overly self-placent and nceed. And to jt close your ey. Sex between men is jt different than between a man and a woman. While femal ually set the boundari,  men ually only want more wh regard to sex. Therefore, when men have sex there often are no boundari at all. Mar is very open wh , and tells about his HIV seroposivy, which is already a ls taboo subject among gays than the straight world. He has been HIV seroposive sce over 10 years. He knows who fected him wh HIV, but do not hold this person rponsible. ‘It is your own rponsibily to have safe sex, as was me’ he stated.   Catn Cheng, Lily, Leenrt Die, and Eefje Kroon. "Jt bs? The unknown world of male prostutn the Netherlands." Humany Actn’s webse, nd http://www. humanyactn. /knowledgebase/369-jt-bs-the-unknown-world-of-maleprostutn--the-herlands (2011).