How to Cope When Your Spoe Is Gay

Contents:

• WHAT CAN YOU DO IF YOU THK YOUR WIFE IS GAY?
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
• SCIENTISTS MAY HAVE FALLY UNLOCKED PUZZLE OF WHY PEOPLE ARE GAY
• IS YOUR HBAND GAY? 6 SIGNS THAT COULD BE A CSE FOR CONCERN
• FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY
• YEP, HE’S GAY
• STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
• I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY

WHAT CAN YOU DO IF YOU THK YOUR WIFE IS GAY?

Every year, lbians and gay men fd the urage to e out as homosexual, often to the shame and srn of fay and iends. Sometim lost the mix, though, are the women who realize, wh a marriage, that they are gay. Whether you realize you are a gay man a marriage or you thk your wife may be a lbian, plenty of support is out there to help you parse through everythg you’re feelg.

The general mechanics of maral timacy are, for a lbian, vastly easier than for a gay man. Were you a gay man, at some pot the matter of rponsivens sex may betray your ner nflict.

Rather than fake your happs your own marriage, experts say, alg wh your spicns and your wife’s possible homosexualy is a better path forward. Jack Drcher, a well-known psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, thor, and edor, wr extensively about psychoanalytic therapy for gay, lbian bisexual and transgenred patients. 20 percent of gay men Ameri are a heterosexual marriage.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

Heterosexual marriage mak many issu easier for lbians and gay men hopg to navigate Virgia society while stayg unr the radar. The goal, disverg or nfirmg your wife may be gay, is to disturb as ltle as possible: psyche, children, property, liv.

We have worked through the ial steps of spicn, discsn, and nfirmatn that your wife is gay.

Many lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr people e out years after they have been married to an oppose-sex heterosexual wife or hband. She’s always thought she was gay and is only now ready to regnize .

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY

Much of what the future holds pends on whether she’s always believed she’s gay and simply not acknowledged , or whether this has been a recent change sire.

There are few thgs more jarrg and hurtful than fdg out your spoe is gay. Blogist and sexologist Aled Ksey’s Ksey sle explas that sexualy is not black or whe (heterosexual and homosexual) but a ntuum between the two, meang mov ltle by ltle om heterosexualy to the Ksey sle, 0 is someone who is only heterosexual, 6 is homosexual and 3 dit someone who is both homosexual and heterosexual (bisexual) (1) a world, which subscrib to the dichotomyiXA ntrast between two fundamentally oppose thgs, such as a ncept or ia of sexual orientatn, n be difficult for people who fall near the gray spectm that is the center of the Ksey sle. The bisexuals are part of the LGBT (lbian, gay, bisexual and transgenr) muny, and intify themselv as bisexual, pansexual or fluid.

SCIENTISTS MAY HAVE FALLY UNLOCKED PUZZLE OF WHY PEOPLE ARE GAY

That’s the nversatn you need to have—not “Are you sure you’re not gay?

IS YOUR HBAND GAY? 6 SIGNS THAT COULD BE A CSE FOR CONCERN

“Kchen Stk: The rtrant staff thk I n’t unrstand when they ll me anti-gay slurs Spanish. Sometim a woman may have been a heterosexual relatnship for years and yet feel somethg is somehow "off;" and she may fd herself askg, "Is my hband gay? " Many women fd this qutn unthkable but acrdg to Bonnie Kaye,, an expert women married to gay men, is timated that 4 ln women have been, or are, married to gay men.

If a hband is gay, n vastate not only the relatnship but the straight wife as well. The cleart way to know if your hband is gay is if he tells you. If the hband is hont wh both you and wh himself (read: How Do I Know If I Am Gay?

Signs You Are Gay), that is when you n tly know that he is gay.

FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY

Unfortunately, is timated that 50% of gay hbands hi their homosexualy om their wiv and don't reach this place of honty on their own. In many s, is the wife, who after spectg that somethg is wrong, mt nont the gay hband wh the evince, and only then n hontly be achieved.

YEP, HE’S GAY

But if you're wonrg, "Is my man gay, " might be helpful to know that there are signs to look for, acrdg to Kaye. Kaye has veloped the Official Gay Hband Checklist to help women know if their hbands are gay. You fd pop-ups of gay pornography on the puter while he claims they are not his.

He viss gay bars claimg he's there only to hang out wh his gay iend(s).

He mak ntual homophobic ments or he mak too many gay ments nversatns. His ego appears to be boosted by pliments om gay men.

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

A hband may be gay and display none of those signs or a hband may display the signs and not be gay. Kaye advis that women "follow their stcts" when cidg whether their hband may be gay.

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY

If turns out that a hband is, fact, gay, the fallout n be difficult to al wh, particularly for the straight partner.

(If you're thkg that you n cure the gay by havg your hband go to gay nversn therapy, read this.

I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY

What's important to remember is that the hband's homosexualy is entirely his rponsibily and has nothg to do wh the wife. The wife has not been aquate any way and likely the gay hband married her bee he tly red about her. Some gay men believe that beg married n rid them of their homosexualy.

Beg bisexual only means that your partner has wir sexual preferenc than a straight or a homosexual person. Then you disver that your spoe or partner is, fact, gay. Unls your spoe shar their sexual orientatn wh you, there is no way to know for sure if they are gay.