Is Your Man Gay, Straight, or Bisexual? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• IS YOUR HBAND GAY? 6 SIGNS THAT COULD BE A CSE FOR CONCERN
• STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• 7 SIGNS YOUR HBAND IS GAY, AND 5 WAYS YOU CAN HELP HIM
• IS MY HBAND GAY? 10 SIGNS THAT CAN HELP YOU FIGURE OUT
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
• QUIZ: IS MY HBAND GAY?
• 'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN
• YEP, HE’S GAY
• HELP! I THK MY HBAND IS GAY
• MY HBAND IS GAY BUT WE’RE MARRIED WH TWO KIDS AND HAVE GREAT SEX
• 5 SIGNS YOUR HBAND IS GAY
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR HBAND IS GAY
• HOW HELPG MY HBAND DISVER HE’S GAY HELPED ME LET GO

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializ Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relatnship Therapy, often treatg men who are qutng their sexual orientatn. A lot of the time the men e on their own and they’re holdg my book about g out as gay, and they want to know, “Is this me? And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay.

IS YOUR HBAND GAY? 6 SIGNS THAT COULD BE A CSE FOR CONCERN

” I always joke wh clients that for me, as a gay man, when I’m walkg on the beach and checkg people out, the women are the way.

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

When a man is a long-term relatnship wh a woman but beg sexual wh men, eher lookg at porn or havg actual sex, he eher will or won’t be homophobic. The straight men have no homophobia at all—to the pot where they’re willg to seek unselg om me, an openly gay therapist. A lot of tim the gay men never even make to me (whout promptg om their wife, anyway) bee they’re riddled wh homophobia and I’m too gay for them.

A gay guy wants to do all of that wh a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be wh a woman that way. So this is a way of bondg wh men—ironilly, through sex—and happens not bee the man is gay but bee he don’t know any other way to get this need met.

Eher they’re worried that their man will eventually ci he’s gay and end the relatnship, or they want monogamy, and his cheatg is a threat to the marriage regardls of who he’s dog wh. And I should pot out here that the men when they’re engagg this behavr (regardls of whether they’re gay, straight or bi) nearly always tell themselv that what they’re dog is not cheatg bee they’re dog wh a guy.

7 SIGNS YOUR HBAND IS GAY, AND 5 WAYS YOU CAN HELP HIM

If you have had any notn at all that this is a possibily, might help you to know the 6 signs that may suggt that your hband is gay.

Issu ncerng sexual sire alone are not a sure-fire sign your hband is gay, but women who report that their hbands turned out to be gay often say this was somethg they noticed first. But remember, there n be many reasons why sex a marriage is ls than satisfyg, other than the fact that your hband may be gay.

His social media ntacts are unual and full of people, or new iends that you don’t know how he knows them and many of which are gay. It’s highly unlikely that, if your partner is straight, he would want to put his picture and rmatn on a gay datg se. In most s, if your hband has been hidg gay tennci om you, ’s probably bee he is the closet and don’t know how to e out to you or anybody else his life.

IS MY HBAND GAY? 10 SIGNS THAT CAN HELP YOU FIGURE OUT

And, if you do fd out signs your hband is gay, then the first thg that you’ll need to do is to s down and talk to him.

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY

It is entirely possible that he might ny that he’s gay om the offset, whout givg you any satisfactory answers to your qutns. If you n live a marriage where you are sure that your hband might be gay, some personal unselg might help you work through this so that you n fd the right way forward for you. So, next time if you have siar doubts md, jt study your partner, check out his browsg histori and fd rmatn about his iends and you will e across signs your hband is gay.

QUIZ: IS MY HBAND GAY?

Fally, the relatnships suggt to some people “reparative therapy, ” the uhil and impossible claim that a person n be changed om gay to straight. The men this televisn program aren’t claimg to be ex-gay nor that they n change their sexual orientatn (at least not on the show).

'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN

They report they are attracted to men but choose not to live as a gay man and their straight wiv accept this.

YEP, HE’S GAY

There are plenty of wiv who choose to stay married even after fdg out later the marriage that their hband is gay and attracted to men. They make this choice wh open discsns, which are very paful and emotnal for both the gay man and the straight wife.

You might be able to claim your inty by meetg ocsnally wh gay men, stayg touch on Facebook, and lettg your gay iends know that you want to rema sexually fahful to your wife. I warn mixed-orientatn upl that he may feel differently later life and his gayns may surface more strongly and bee more of an inty for him and th bee an issue their marriage.

Both straight and gay muni put enormo prsure on the man and woman a mixed-orientatn marriage, and few marriag n stand up unr this social, fay, and relig prsure. Some upl try to “live straight” and image that they will be able to not acknowledge the hband’s gayns any way.

HELP! I THK MY HBAND IS GAY

Most of my male clients who are gay and married to women didn’t know that their inty was gay when they married. He most likely terpreted his gay terts as sexual “kks, ” and he nvced himself they would fa away after he married.

MY HBAND IS GAY BUT WE’RE MARRIED WH TWO KIDS AND HAVE GREAT SEX

A gay man n tly love a woman, have satisfyg and regular sex wh her, and want to stay married to her while beg unterted other women sexually.

5 SIGNS YOUR HBAND IS GAY

The big qutn is: How n a gay man affirm his inty wh other gay men and at the same time rema te to his wife? Matag a mixed-orientatn marriage requir endurg the strs of keepg the secrets that one of them is gay and beg discreet how they live their liv. Sometim a woman may have been a heterosexual relatnship for years and yet feel somethg is somehow "off;" and she may fd herself askg, "Is my hband gay?

" Many women fd this qutn unthkable but acrdg to Bonnie Kaye,, an expert women married to gay men, is timated that 4 ln women have been, or are, married to gay men.

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR HBAND IS GAY

Unfortunately, is timated that 50% of gay hbands hi their homosexualy om their wiv and don't reach this place of honty on their own.

In many s, is the wife, who after spectg that somethg is wrong, mt nont the gay hband wh the evince, and only then n hontly be achieved. But if you're wonrg, "Is my man gay, " might be helpful to know that there are signs to look for, acrdg to Kaye.

If turns out that a hband is, fact, gay, the fallout n be difficult to al wh, particularly for the straight partner.

HOW HELPG MY HBAND DISVER HE’S GAY HELPED ME LET GO

What's important to remember is that the hband's homosexualy is entirely his rponsibily and has nothg to do wh the wife.

” You may fd yourself nsumed by this qutn, as your panic-stricken md rac to make sense of the blow you’ve been do you fd a nclive answer to the “Is my hband gay? We’re here to help you figure out the answers nsultatn wh unselg psychologist and certified life-skills traer Deepak Kashyap (Masters Psychology of Edutn), who specializ a range of mental health issu, cludg LGBTQ and closeted My Hband Gay?