The fact no one lik to adm: many gay men uld jt have easily been straight | The Spectator

Contents:

• WHEN STRAIGHT MEN ARE ADDICTED TO GAY SEX
• AM I GAY?
• CAN SCTN MAKE STRAIGHT MEN GAY?
• SOME GAYS CAN GO STRAIGHT, STUDY SAYS
• ARE YOU GAY OR STRAIGHT?
• THE FACT NO ONE LIK TO ADM: MANY GAY MEN ULD JT HAVE EASILY BEEN STRAIGHT
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• HOW TO LEAD A HETEROSEXUAL LIFTYLE IF YOU ARE GAY
• IS IT POSSIBLE TO SYSTEMATILLY TURN GAY PEOPLE STRAIGHT?

WHEN STRAIGHT MEN ARE ADDICTED TO GAY SEX

” Many people, cludg sex rearchers and scientists, believe that sexual orientatn is like a sle wh entirely gay on one end and entirely straight on the other.

Sexual inty is how you label yourself (for example, g labels such as queer, gay, lbian, straight, or bisexual). Some people may engage same genr sexual behavr but not intify themselv as bisexual, lbian, or gay.

' His buddi got all homophobic on him, so he asked, 'You guys have never msed around wh another guy? In the end, they're still straight, and I'm still gay and happily married to my hband of 12 years. If you’re a young man, you might assume that eher you’re straight or you’re not, meang you’re likely gay and maybe bisexual.

AM I GAY?

Yet the evince suggts that more young men intify or scribe themselv as mostly straight than intify as eher bisexual or gay bed. Yet when the men were forced to choose between straight, bisexual or gay, about three-quarters marked straight bee for them bisexual, even if is unrstood as “bisexual-leang straight, ” is too gay to accurately scribe their inty.

CAN SCTN MAKE STRAIGHT MEN GAY?

Tradnally, our unrstandg has been that if you’re male and have even a slight attractn to the same sex, then you mt be gay. He’s not a closeted gay man who fears beg gay yet wants to keep a slight, perhaps secretive, gay si by danglg his potential for guy sex. He may retreat om a full intifitn wh heterosexualy, but rarely do he gravate toward bisexualy, and almost never do he move toward homosexualy of any sort.

• Could a straight guy get dnk enough to fool around wh another guy jt bee “felt good”, or is more likely that he has some gay/bi/cur feelgs that perhaps he’s been reprsg? Even acuntg for the fact that he might remember some of what happened, don't mean he's bisexual, secretly gay, or that you're his magil "exceptn. I don't know many gay men (myself clud) who hasn't veloped a csh or had feelgs for a straight guy - cludg straight iends.

I've seen other gay guys that fell for a straight guy (typilly a iend) and wanted to lu themselv to believg that a relatnship was possible.

SOME GAYS CAN GO STRAIGHT, STUDY SAYS

It don't bother me that I fooled around wh another guy (other than the fact I enabled him to cheat); I'm gay after all. Ok, you experienced your straight csh g te, so now back off and al wh the 100 percent gays or bis that are sgle. You know your iend is gay, so your bra now se that as an opportuny to have that physil need fulfilled.

I’ve told you that I don’t thk this mak you gay or even bi, but ’s not like you n jt prt off this post and show to your girliend as proof.

So until they fd themselv a siar suatn, they don’t see how n be possible for a straight person to have a sexual experience wh a person of the same sex and not be gay or at least bisexual. I read this thread earlier and told one of my very few gay iends about and he said the same thg had happened to him.

ARE YOU GAY OR STRAIGHT?

Rearch nducted by found that 13% of straight men have had gay sexual experienc and another 5% have not but would like to. Their report maps out the ncentratns of gay cur men across the Uned Stat and Canada showg some tertg there are a number of ways clicians n thk about this type of believe that the fact that the man is havg sexual experienc wh men dit the possibily that he is vertly gay and is need of help to overe his shame and e I believe is impossible to nclu that a man is or is not gay or bisexual simply based on his actg out sexually wh men.

In such a se, the man may jt be sexually adventuro and terted any sirable sexual opportuny wherever prents some s the man qutn is very addicted to real or virtual experienc of gay sex. He uld be a gay or bisexual man who is a sex addict or he uld be a straight man whose actg out behavr scenar is wh gay sex addictn therapists we are often unable to answer the qutn of orientatn until the addictn has been addrsed. You uld say that some suatns addictn tmps orientatn, and is only after the person has worked through the unnsc issu drivg the addictn and e to some level of sobriety om the dg of his actg out behavr that we n beg to see whether he actually has a gay or bi or straight orientatn.

Gay - While this adjective has historilly scribed men who are attracted to other men, the term now is ed to refer to anyone who experienc romantic, emotnal, or physil attractn to people of the same genr. Sce genr inty and sexual orientatn are separate, transgenr people n intify as straight, gay, lbian, bisexual, etc. For starters, the ia fli the face of false narrativ that have been promulgated by gay activists sce the 1950s, which claim that sexual orientatn is geilly fixed and therefore unchangeable.

THE FACT NO ONE LIK TO ADM: MANY GAY MEN ULD JT HAVE EASILY BEEN STRAIGHT

The big secret that the public is not supposed to know is that gay people n fd healg for the of their homosexual nfn and velop some gree of heterosexual attractn. This is a well-tablished fact, proven study after study and the liv of untls former homosexuals. Sce young, attractive femal no longer found them attractive, they rorted to the only sexual activy left to them – young, homosexual boys.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

That is why activist attempts to get young people to experiment wh homosexual experienc should ighten all. A third group of formerly straight, now gay clients was men who had grown up as broken, suggtible adolcents wh ltle ego strength. Such men would enter to same-sex activi as a rponse to beg regularly approached by strong-willed homosexuals who uld nvce them that they were really gay.

In beg wanted so tensely and often by homosexuals, they uld receive a much-need ego boost while pg the dread rejectn of women. As such, is no small step for him to eventually move to homosexual experimentatn while searchg for his sexual Shangri-La. However, once they fd a safe, sensive male, (and once they have worked through their aversn to or fear of men), is much easier for them to rega their former heterosexual clatns - ergo, the unsurprisg movement om straight-to-gay-to-straight that was seen the Anne Heche/Ellen Degener saga.

HOW TO LEAD A HETEROSEXUAL LIFTYLE IF YOU ARE GAY

Of urse, some intify as straight but are realy closeted bisexuals or gays by sexual orientatn—perhaps likely to e out at a later age (if ever). The article rais the qutn of changg sexual preference: Can a man whose past sexual practice has been almost exclively heterosexual change his practice to homosexual after beg sced by another man?

To those who believe that homosexual preference is homosexual orientatn, an nate blogil predisposn, the answer is a roundg "no. " Contrary to this rponse, the thor prents three s which the men swch om heterosexual to homosexual relatnships (exclively two s) by means of a sexual enunter iated by another man. The thor creds part of the change to the gay liberatn movement which rcued homosexual sire om the hidn, forbidn, and shameful.

The evince that the men experienced a genue change sexual preference, shows that life-long, exclive homosexualy, as articulated by gay rhetoric, is more a statement about the culture which occurs than the "sence" of homosexualy. For example, when a “closeted” gay or bisexual man has sex wh another man, he views that sex as reflectg his secret gay/bisexual inty. A mory of the men I terviewed were homophobic and held prejudice agast LGBTQ2+ people and this prejudice mak the thought of an LGBTQ2+ inty unappealg to them.

IS IT POSSIBLE TO SYSTEMATILLY TURN GAY PEOPLE STRAIGHT?

Crics, though, say the study's subjects may be ludg themselv and that the subject group was scientifilly valid bee many of them were referred by anti-gay relig Robert Spzer, a psychiatry profsor at Columbia Universy, said he began his study as a skeptic — believg, as major mental health anizatns do, that sexual orientatn nnot be changed, and attempts to do so n even e Spzer's study, which has not yet been published or reviewed, seems to dite otherwise. Spzer says he spoke to 143 men and 57 women who say they changed their orientatn om gay to straight, and nclud that 66 percent of the men and 44 percent of women reached what he lled good heterosexual functng — a staed, lovg heterosexual relatnship wh the past year and gettg enough emotnal satisfactn to rate at least a seven on a 10-pot said those who changed their orientatn had satisfyg heterosexual sex at least monthly and never or rarely thought of someone of the same sex durg also found that 89 percent of men and 95 percent of women were bothered not at all or only slightly by unwanted homosexual feelgs.