Gay Conversn: I Slept Wh Over 200 Men, Now I'm a Happily Married Heterosexual Dad

Contents:

• WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
• THE LONELS OF BEG GAY A STRAIGHT MARRIAGE
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
• GAY CONVERSN: I SLEPT WH OVER 200 MEN, NOW I'M A HAPPILY MARRIED HETEROSEXUAL DAD
• HETEROSEXUAL AND HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAG – ARE STRAIGHT AND GAY MARRIAG INTIL?
• I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN
• WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN, PART 2
• THE MOST DETAILED MAP OF GAY MARRIAGE AMERI
• "WE DO HAVE A VERY GOOD SEX LIFE": GAY MEN WH STRAIGHT WIV ARE G OUT -- AS HAPPILY MARRIED
• GAY PEOPLE WHO WERE IN HETEROSEXUAL MARRIAG ARE SHARG THEIR STORI, AND THEY WERE INCREDIBLY HONT

WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY

I recently spoke wh Bonnie Kaye, thor of Straight Wiv, Shattered Liv: Stori of Women wh Gay Hbands, among other books, and host of Bonnie Kaye’s Straight Wiv Talk Show on BlogTalkRad.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

Bonnie has spent much of her adult life first livg wh and attemptg to love a gay hband and then helpg other women the same mis-marriage suatn.

Bee I know untls gay men who were once married to straight women, wh varyg gre of short and longer-term happs and misery, I wanted to discs this topic, and I wanted to do so om the straight wiv’ perspective.

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

Our discsn was wi-rangg, begng wh her own marriage to a gay man and progrsg to how she was able to move on post-marriage, eventually beg a rock for other women siar suatns. So if somebody told me they’d tried somethg but they didn’t like , there would be no reason for me to thk that the person was gay. He was a karate teacher, martial arts, a strong guy, looked like Sylvter Stallone, and gay was not one of the issu I thought about wh him.

Then somebody who was part of my social work rmed me, a uple of weeks before we were supposed to get married, that he had spicns that Robert was gay. Sometim a woman may have been a heterosexual relatnship for years and yet feel somethg is somehow "off;" and she may fd herself askg, "Is my hband gay?

THE LONELS OF BEG GAY A STRAIGHT MARRIAGE

" Many women fd this qutn unthkable but acrdg to Bonnie Kaye,, an expert women married to gay men, is timated that 4 ln women have been, or are, married to gay men. Unfortunately, is timated that 50% of gay hbands hi their homosexualy om their wiv and don't reach this place of honty on their own. In many s, is the wife, who after spectg that somethg is wrong, mt nont the gay hband wh the evince, and only then n hontly be achieved.

Fally, the relatnships suggt to some people “reparative therapy, ” the uhil and impossible claim that a person n be changed om gay to straight. The men this televisn program aren’t claimg to be ex-gay nor that they n change their sexual orientatn (at least not on the show). There are plenty of wiv who choose to stay married even after fdg out later the marriage that their hband is gay and attracted to men.

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY

You might be able to claim your inty by meetg ocsnally wh gay men, stayg touch on Facebook, and lettg your gay iends know that you want to rema sexually fahful to your wife. I warn mixed-orientatn upl that he may feel differently later life and his gayns may surface more strongly and bee more of an inty for him and th bee an issue their marriage. Both straight and gay muni put enormo prsure on the man and woman a mixed-orientatn marriage, and few marriag n stand up unr this social, fay, and relig prsure.

A gay man n tly love a woman, have satisfyg and regular sex wh her, and want to stay married to her while beg unterted other women sexually.

Matag a mixed-orientatn marriage requir endurg the strs of keepg the secrets that one of them is gay and beg discreet how they live their liv. Well, I, like any other gay guy knew I was gay om a young age, and like many other gay guys, felt pletely unable to e out and be hont wh myself and those around me.

GAY CONVERSN: I SLEPT WH OVER 200 MEN, NOW I'M A HAPPILY MARRIED HETEROSEXUAL DAD

The thought of havg someone ‘out’ me was terrifyg… all I uld do was remove any potential of this happeng, so I beme to now when I am 43, and I have been an open and hont gay man for nearly two years.

HETEROSEXUAL AND HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAG – ARE STRAIGHT AND GAY MARRIAG INTIL?

Of urse, no one knew (which still surpris me to this day) that I was hidg myself as a gay man, but they knew that I was unhappy. Now I know my logil md that I’m not the first married gay man to e out, and I certaly won’t be the last – but my irratnal md, I felt like I was the only one.

As we sat and chatted, my mum ma ments about homosexualy and asked (I’ll never fet the words) “have you been dabblg the gay scene? This mak me lgh still, but she ntued; “you know, if you are gay, I want you to know that I love you and always will”…This was credible. I n hontly say that I didn’t (and don’t) tly know what the gay scene n be like, but I joed this app the hope to make some lol iends.

I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN

Also, for a small monthly fee, you n jo the growg muny of other gay men who are all prrisg their nnectn acrdg to the three pillars of nnectn. Jo me and Andrew for a ffee and a chat the upg episo of my podst for gay men ‘Connectn over Coffee wh The Lonels Guy’ om Thursday 16 September 2021.

Subscribe to my webse through eher a basic subscriptn (ee) or premium subscriptn (monthly charge) and let’s stay nnected as we work to -stigmatise lonels and promote thentic nnectn for gay men.

Sharg my work really helps reach more gay men and helps all to -stigmatise lonels and promote thentic nnectn for gay men may not feel lonely and have jt the right amount of thentic nnectn your life, but sharg this article uld really help a iend or relative who may be quietly stgglg wh the thoughts and feelgs of lonels and disnnectn.

WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN, PART 2

~ Thank you ~Important notice: All views exprsed above are my own and are tend to support, challenge and spire gay men to nsir the issue of lonels and crease awarens of the need for thentic nnectn wh themselv, wh others and their muni as an antidote to chronic lonels. Among the upl, when the gay, lbian, or bisexual partner out, a third of the upl break up immediately; another third stay together for one to two years and then spl; the remag third try to make their marriag work.

In an effort to prent both sis of the gay nversn bate, IBT ved a man whose sexualy changed through therapy to tell his story. But that's what happened – fact I changed had hundreds of homosexual partners, I eventually married a woman and had a child.

THE MOST DETAILED MAP OF GAY MARRIAGE AMERI

I beme the first person to live openly as a gay man the sectn of the universy I attend, and even tablished an LGBT group for other stunts, actively preachg agast those who suggted that beg gay was somehow a choice, or even wrong.

Even though I'd been raised a Christian and attend an LGBT Christian Movement London, I reveled the pal's gay scene and led a very promiscuo liftyle. I had an nate fear of men – not of their homophobia, but the real thg: a chasm between me and the normal heterosexual male (Ksey's so-lled number on).

There was nothg btal or harrowg about the help I received; the horror stori you hear om some of those gay-straight 'nversn' documentari don't apply here.

"WE DO HAVE A VERY GOOD SEX LIFE": GAY MEN WH STRAIGHT WIV ARE G OUT -- AS HAPPILY MARRIED

It was simply a mixture of gnive therapy, to challenge my re beliefs and root out one-sid thkg; behavural therapy, to change problematic actns traed through years of rercement; and EMDR, which rhythmic eye movements to dampen the power of trmatic therapist and I never foced solely on my beg sexually attracted to men, but my "beg gay" had to be part of the dialogue, otherwise I'd have been leavg a part of my life at the door. At the age of 46, I've never felt better my own ParkerI began to see that maybe, jt maybe, I was never tly gay and that there was a man as real and as noble as the men I had often admired, worshipped and yearned for hidn ep wh me, wag to be eed and released. I don't miss the gay liftyle I left behd –when I vised my ex-boyiend, five years after therapy, brought to home to me the drawbacks of that life.

Therapy n be dangero, and there's no reason why anyone should feel pelled to 'nvert' I now believe people aren't born gay, and anyone n velop the sort of hidn inty I've Parker is om the Journey Into Manhood trag programme which is anised by People Can Change, a non-prof tnal, support and outreach you are affected by any of the issu raised this article, send your feedback g the ment sectn below. Sadly, most married, closeted gay men are manipulative, narcissistic n artists who only thk about themselv wh only ocsnal feelgs of guilt and remorse. Often is acpanied by doubt and self-blame, for example, "If I'd been enough of a woman (or man), he (or she) would not be gay.

Sce all men and women have been raised siar cultur, they have rporated the “ials” of masculy whether they are gay, straight, bisexual, or other.

GAY PEOPLE WHO WERE IN HETEROSEXUAL MARRIAG ARE SHARG THEIR STORI, AND THEY WERE INCREDIBLY HONT

But toxic masculy is not a uniquely heterosexual problem, and some straight women are or were married to very toxic gay men. Projectn is fundamental to toxic masculy, and one of the characteristics is a disda for homosexualy which generat shame, self-hatred, and even gay bashg. Early theori about the velopment of homosexualy rerced this ia that to be “a well-veloped homosexual, ” startg adolcence, one begs to pass through stag of homosexual velopment a lear fashn.