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Contents:

• GAY MARRIAGE
• I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY
• THE INTIMATE STORY OF A GAY-MARRIAGE PNEER
• GAYMARRIAGE STORI
• GAY PEOPLE WHO WERE IN HETEROSEXUAL MARRIAG ARE SHARG THEIR STORI, AND THEY WERE INCREDIBLY HONT
• YOUR STORI: GAY MARRIAGE CALIFORNIA
• WHY THE BATTLE FOR GAY MARRIAGE WAS WON SO EASILY
• CELEBRATG MY (GAY) DIVORCE
• GAY MARRIAGE - SHORT STORY
• CALIFORNIA STILL HAS AN ANTI-GAY MARRIAGE LAW ON THE BOOKS. VOTERS ULD REMOVE NEXT YEAR
• TEXAS JUDGE WHO DON’T WANT TO PERFORM GAY MARRIAGE CEREMONI HOP WEB SIGNER’S SUPREME COURT SE HELPS HER FIGHT
• BOOK TELLS THE LOVE STORY BEHD AMERI’S FIRST GAY MARRIAGE
• CALIFORNIA VOTERS WILL BE ASKED TO REAFFIRM GAY MARRIAGE PROTECTNS ON 2024 BALLOT

GAY MARRIAGE

Love is the most important part of what means to be LGBT, and Out brgs rears the latt heartwarmg and heartbreakg stori on gay love. Fd out how gay love n fluence law Supreme Court cisns that have shaped the liv of gay, lbian, bisexual, and transgenr like Wdsor v. Early Years: Same-Sex Marriage Bans In 1970, jt one year after the historic Stonewall Rts that galvanized the gay rights movement, law stunt Richard Baker and librarian Jam McConnell applied for a marriage license Gerald Nelson rejected their applitn bee they were a same-sex uple, and a trial urt upheld his cisn.

” This lg effectively blocked feral urts om lg on same-sex marriage for s, leavg the cisn solely the hands of stat, which alt blow after blow to those hopg to see gay marriage beg 1973, for stance, Maryland beme the first state to create a law that explicly f marriage as a unn between a man and woman, a belief held by many nservative relig groups. Though the gay rights movement saw some advancements the 1970s and 1980s—such as Harvey Milk beg the first openly gay man elected to public office the untry 1977—the fight for gay marriage ma ltle headway for many years. In 1989, the San Francis Board of Supervisors passed an ordance that allowed homosexual upl and unmarried heterosexual upl to register for domtic partnerships, which granted hospal visatn rights and other years later, the District of Columbia siarly passed a new law that allowed same-sex upl to register as domtic partners.

C., 1993, the hight urt Hawaii led that a ban on same-sex marriage may vlate that state nstutn’s Equal Protectn Clse—the first time a state urt has ever ched toward makg gay marriage Hawaii Supreme Court sent the se—brought by a gay male uple and two lbian upl who were nied marriage licens 1990—back for further review to the lower First Circu Court, which 1991 origally dismissed the the state tried to prove that there was “pellg state tert” jtifyg the ban, the se would be tied up ligatn for the next three Defense of Marriage Act Opponents of gay marriage, however, did not s on their hnch. Congrs 1996 passed the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which Print Bill Clton signed to didn’t ban gay marriage outright but specified that only heterosexual upl uld be granted feral marriage benefs.

I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY

That is, even if a state ma gay marriage legal, same-sex upl still wouldn’t be able to file e tax jotly, sponsor spo for immigratn benefs or receive spoal Social Secury payments, among many other act was a huge setback for the marriage equaly movement, but transient good news arose three months later: Hawaii Judge Kev S. Phg for Change: Civil Unns The next saw a whirlwd of activy on the gay marriage ont, begng wh the year 2000 when Vermont beme the first state to legalize civil unns, a legal stat that provis most of the state-level benefs of years later, Massachetts beme the first state to legalize gay marriage when the Massachetts Supreme Court led that same-sex upl had the right to marry Goodridge v.

The state fally troduced the untry to gay marriage (m the feral benefs) when began issug same-sex marriage licens on May 17, that year, the U. 2004 was notable for upl many other stat as well, though for the oppose reason: Ten typilly nservative stat, along wh Oregon, enacted state-level bans on gay marriage.

Kansas and Texas were next 2005, and 2006 saw seven more stat passg Constutnal amendments agast gay towards the end of the , gay marriage beme legal var stat, cludg Connecticut, Iowa, Vermont (the first state to approve by legislative means) and New Hampshire.

THE INTIMATE STORY OF A GAY-MARRIAGE PNEER

Domtic Partnerships Throughout the and the begng of the next, California equently ma headl for seawg on the gay marriage state was the first to pass a domtic partnership statute 1999, and legislators tried to pass a same-sex marriage bill 2005 and 2007.

Perry legalized same-sex marriage early 2010s ntued the state-level battl over gay marriage that fed the precedg , wh at least one notable event. For the first time the untry’s history, voters (rather than judg or legislators) Mae, Maryland, and Washgton approved Constutnal amendments permtg same-sex marriage marriage also beme a feral issue 2010, Massachetts, the first state to legalize gay marriage, found Sectn 3 of DOMA—the part of the 1996 law that fed marriage as a unn between one man and one woman—to be unnstutnal.

GAYMARRIAGE STORI

Wdsor, nservative Jtice Anthony Kennedy sid wh Jtic Ruth Bar Gsburg, Stephen Breyer, Sonia Sotomayor and Elena Kagan favor of same-sex marriage rights, ultimately makg gay marriage legal across the natn June this time, was still outlawed only 13 stat, and more than 20 other untri had already legalized gay marriage, startg wh the Netherlands December 2000. "After the Supreme Court lg on Friday that legalized same-sex marriage natnwi, Obergefell told Crawford about his reactn to the historic victory for gay equaly.

Vic Holm and Mark Phariss were so certa the Supreme Court would legalize same-sex marriage natnwi, they booked a facily for their weddg November Fris, Texas - spe the fact that Texas did not yet perm gay upl to wed. When gay rights activist Tracy Hollister heard that the Supreme Court clared that marriage is a nstutnal right for all upl, gay or straight, she was "overwhelmed and overe wh emotn.

GAY PEOPLE WHO WERE IN HETEROSEXUAL MARRIAG ARE SHARG THEIR STORI, AND THEY WERE INCREDIBLY HONT

For 62-year-old Lda Robette, who was stutnalized the 1960s Texas for beg gay, 's been a long, hard road to marriage equaly. I was nsumed by the p my stomach – the shame of endg my marriage bee I was gay was like luggg a sandbag over my shoulrs and havg a rock my stomach at the same time. I wasn’t sure how to tell my nservative, Geia-born and bred parents that their former pageant queen dghter was endg her marriage bee she is gay.

I wasn’t brave enough to actually say the words – the label of beg gay or a lbian was too much for my soul to bear at the time – so I sent her a text msage, “I am not straight. Democratic printial ndidate Pete Buttigieg – who, like me, is his late 30s and, like me, me out publicly jt a few years ago – put this way: “It’s hard to face the tth that there were tim my life when, if you had shown me exactly what was si me that ma me gay, I would have cut out wh a knife.

YOUR STORI: GAY MARRIAGE CALIFORNIA

CATHERINE: Hi, I am the mother of a betiful gay woman, and I'm ashamed to adm that for seven years I refed to acknowledge her suatn. They thk more posively about them, and they often change their views towards gay marriage or other And that's not the only reason people have changed their mds on gay marriage, but 's the biggt one.

WHY THE BATTLE FOR GAY MARRIAGE WAS WON SO EASILY

BAUNACH: Well, to be hont I don't know if is the biggt, but is an important one, and I don't thk we'd be where we are right now if we didn't have so many gay men and lbians and bisexuals and everybody else out of the closet who are makg themselv known to the people that they've always known, to their fay, their iends, their -workers. BAUNACH: Correct, there is more acceptabily, generally, for gay men and lbians and other sexualy groups the Northeast and the Wt. BAUNACH: For example the people who live urban areas, people who have more tn, people who are Democrats, people who are not Evangelil Prottants, they tend to be more supportive of gay And are there racial divisns?

Ain-Amerins are ls supportive of gay marriage, although like most groups their support has grown over time, jt not as much as many other And as you look at the charts, and the are provid by the Pew people, the people who survey public opn, seems to be right. In my rearch I found that 1988, approval for gay marriage was lolized to certa groups: people who live urban areas, who were secular, highly ted and lived the Northeast.

CELEBRATG MY (GAY) DIVORCE

We see this every day that people are sayg, well, gee, once I got to know so-and-so, or once I had a gay son or a lbian dghter or once I jt thought more about I changed my And thought more about . BAUNACH: It do, and that's part of the succs of the gay rights movement is that the gay rights movement has been able to ame this issue terms of a civil right, and when people start thkg about that way, when they don't thk about on a moral issue, but they thk about on an equaly issue, a civil rights issue, they tend to agree wh this And where do you see this gog?

GAY MARRIAGE - SHORT STORY

There are some gay rights issu that regularly pull the high 80 to 90 percent, such as employment discrimatn kd of issu or, you know, servg the ary tend to get even wir support. At the time, I did know he was homosexual, but he me out to me after a while, after I had been workg there for a few months.

It Jt bee you were workg at a florist shop, everybody assumed you were Well, actually turned out - I found out a ltle b later that he had a b of a reputatn around town as a homosexual.

CALIFORNIA STILL HAS AN ANTI-GAY MARRIAGE LAW ON THE BOOKS. VOTERS ULD REMOVE NEXT YEAR

Maybe he was wonrg how I felt about and didn't know if would be fortable to be workg wh somebody who had a problem wh his homosexualy or, you know, of urse I didn't bee jt really opened my ey to this ia. (LAUGHTER)KYLE: You know, he really let me know that he is jt like anyone else, and beg a homosexual man mak no difference on the type of person that you are.

I have many, many gay iends, and 's jt - 's really opened my ey to a muny of people that are jt a lot of fun to be OK, thanks very much Thank you, go OK. Here's an email that we have om Tera(ph): I would be a hypocre if I changed my opn of gay marriage jt bee my dghter or son were gay. It may be very important to their polil inty as a nservative, or may be very important to them a relig inty, if they're an evangelil prottant, or if they belong to another group, another relig affiliatn that disapprov of gay marriage.

TEXAS JUDGE WHO DON’T WANT TO PERFORM GAY MARRIAGE CEREMONI HOP WEB SIGNER’S SUPREME COURT SE HELPS HER FIGHT

My bt iend sce childhood me out to me when we were high school, and fundamentally changed my view of gay and lbian llege, I have met several people the gay muny and have e to embrace marriage equaly as a ccial part of equal treatment for all people. GREGORY: We jt went to a nonnomatnal church, a church that don't really talk about the whole gay issue, you And so they still don't talk about , but they don't monize , eher.

We n look at other survey data, not specifilly on same-sex marriage, but we n look at a qutn that asks people about what they thk the moraly of homosexualy is. And people thk - seeg homosexualy as beg immoral has also gone way down, that more and more people see homosexualy as a gay rights issue, like we talked about prevly, but also not as a moraly issue.

BOOK TELLS THE LOVE STORY BEHD AMERI’S FIRST GAY MARRIAGE

She has a partner and two children, and I realized the prsure she was always unr to be a perfect employee so that she wouldn't get fired for beg gay.

CALIFORNIA VOTERS WILL BE ASKED TO REAFFIRM GAY MARRIAGE PROTECTNS ON 2024 BALLOT

And last year, I volunteered wh Add the Words, Idaho to crease protectn to my gay iends and neighbors there the state of Idaho. WEDDING HEARD ‘ROUND THE WORLD: AMERICA’S FIRST GAY MARRIAGE by Michael McConnell wh Jack Baker as told to Gail Langer KarwoskiUniversy Of Mnota Prs, 200 pp., $22. "In Obergefell, the urt said, 'No, we know better than you guys do, and now every state mt, mt sanctn and perm gay marriage.

We recently asked the gay members of the BuzzFeed Communy to share their stori about g out after they'd been a heterosexual marriage. "I knew I was gay, but where I grew up was not OK to be gay, so I hid my imagary closet too sred to e out for fear that I would be beaten up and rejected. My two children om my first marriage, who happened to be gay, were both very supportive and are thrilled that I’m fally happy.

I got sober and started EMDR therapy and eventually me to terms that my sexualy was the reason for a lot of drkg, anger, and ternalized homophobia. I ed to try and hi as a kid bee I didn’t know anyone else who had a gay parent, but now I see how fortunate I am to have divorced parents who lgh and joke and enjoy each other's pany whout any bterns or jealoy. If you me out as gay durg or after you were a heterosexual marriage, tell your story (or e this Google Form if you want to be anonymo).