Gay Support: Where to Fd LGBT Help and Support Groups | HealthyPlace

Contents:

• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
• GAY SUPPORT: WHERE TO FD LGBT HELP AND SUPPORT GROUPS
• LGBTQ+ SUPPORT, SUPPORT GROUPS, GAY SUPPORT ORGANIZATNS
• GAY AND LBIANS WHO HAVE LOST PARTNERS
• STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
• 'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY

Many lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr people e out years after they have been married to an oppose-sex heterosexual wife or hband. Unls your spoe shar their sexual orientatn wh you, there is no way to know for sure if they are gay. You notice them talkg more about gay people nversatn, eher a posive light or rogatory manner.

Among the upl, when the gay, lbian, or bisexual partner out, a third of the upl break up immediately; another third stay together for one to two years and then spl; the remag third try to make their marriag work. There's no qutn that learng your partner is gay when you believed them to be straight n be extremely difficult. People do not choose who they are attracted to, so make sure to not direct homophobic backlash towards your partner.

GAY SUPPORT: WHERE TO FD LGBT HELP AND SUPPORT GROUPS

Society's creasg acceptance of gays and lbians and the Supreme Court lg June that legalized same-sex marriage have foced attentn on sexual orientatn. "The gay or lbian, bisexual and transgenr people were told by their church or muni or parents or fai that the right thg to do is to marry someone of the oppose genr, and most of them love the people they marry, " she says. GAMMA is a peer support group for men who are gay, bisexual, qutng or don't intify themselv as any of the above, but who are attracted to men; and who are, or who were, married or otherwise volved wh a woman.

Sadly, most married, closeted gay men are manipulative, narcissistic n artists who only thk about themselv wh only ocsnal feelgs of guilt and remorse. Often is acpanied by doubt and self-blame, for example, "If I'd been enough of a woman (or man), he (or she) would not be gay. Sce all men and women have been raised siar cultur, they have rporated the “ials” of masculy whether they are gay, straight, bisexual, or other.

But toxic masculy is not a uniquely heterosexual problem, and some straight women are or were married to very toxic gay men.

LGBTQ+ SUPPORT, SUPPORT GROUPS, GAY SUPPORT ORGANIZATNS

My closeted gay hband looks at me wh rentment and disda, and he ab me physilly, emotnally, and verbally. Projectn is fundamental to toxic masculy, and one of the characteristics is a disda for homosexualy which generat shame, self-hatred, and even gay bashg. One woman wrote, Don't tell me they don't know they're gay by the time they're their teens.

Early theori about the velopment of homosexualy rerced this ia that to be “a well-veloped homosexual, ” startg adolcence, one begs to pass through stag of homosexual velopment a lear fashn.

GAY AND LBIANS WHO HAVE LOST PARTNERS

My experienc nnot be ed to generalize about all gay men mixed-orientatn marriag, and I would not enurage anyone to seek rapprochement wh an abive man, but gay men are as different om each other as are heterosexual men. (LGBTQIA+) support n be extremely helpful for people but only if gay people feel fortable enough to get . One of the challeng reachg out for support if you're gay is that you may feel that others who are not gay will not unrstand your particular suatn.

The gay support groups n help people through the challeng associated wh gay discrimatn and stigma. Gay support n help someone alg wh issu anywhere along a ntuum - om the pot where they are qutng their sexualy through alg wh the challeng of possibly g out at work or stgglg wh gay relatnship issu. Beg gay, of urse, is not a mental illns, but support groups n often benef om profsnal learship.

LGBT fay and iend support groups n be found through this Gay Parent magaze directory or through PFLAG – Parents, Fay and Friends of Lbians and Gays. LGBTQ+ support groups and gay support anizatns are cril, pecially for people who, ially, fd difficult to e out as gay and n benef om the support of others. Gay support groups and anizatns work to support people of mory sexualy such as gay, lbian, queer, transgenr, and bisexual.

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

Some gay support anizatns are specifilly dited to supportg dividuals while others foc on rights issu and gay polics as well. Some people feel very alone when they e to the realizatn that they are gay, but the fact is, they are not alone. In addn to puttg a person touch wh others like them, gay support groups also make people feel fortable knowg that when they share rmatn about themselv, they are tellg others who have lived the same experience.

For example, they are available any lotn, at any time of day and they n be the first step for those not prepared to talk face-to-face wh other gay dividuals yet. One place onle gay support groups n be found is through Thoands of people are members of the onle support groups which ver everythg om g out to parentg to beg transgenr. Another onle gay muny is at Here, there are gay support groups, as well as plac to socialize.

'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN

The GLBT Natnal Help Center is a gay support anizatn that ns gay support helpl, gay youth support as well as peer-support chat and ntas a database of gay rourc.

For years, she said, her hband had sought answers to the yearngs that filled his life — for a new job, a new hoe, a child — only four years ago g to terms wh his sexualy and nfsg to her that he was gay. In January, she disvered photos her hband had prepared for a personal ad which he scribed himself as gay. Men and women — straight spo of gays and lbians — are often a silent voice the creasgly loud bate over gay marriage.